do you resist receiving? fun tale from Oakland!

It’s no wonder you can sometimes feel resistant to step up into your full authentic, empowered Goddess self, the self that is easily adept at asking for what she wants, fully expecting to receive it and then actually…receiving the thing without putting up a fight…

Or only receiving it when you feel like you’ve “earned” it.

But if you are to open to her, that true Goddess self that is magnetic and powerful and deliciously happy, learning the art of receiving is key.

And we sometimes get hit over the proverbial head to learn this!

I’d love to share a funny story about this that happened to me last week in Oakland.

Would that be okay?

It’s a prime example of how the lone wolf warrior Goddesses had to surrender to the more balanced, open-to-receiving self-loving Goddess.

The Story

I was just visiting the Bay Area to teach at a performing arts camp that I look forward to every year.

I stayed in a few places throughout the week and at one point, I booked a last minute AirBnB without reading the fine print.

But the day before I was scheduled to go to that place, I got this really strong feeling that I shouldn’t stay at that AirBnB. 

Looking closer at the place, I realized I thought it was a private space only to find it was a shared space. Red flag #1. 

I tried to edit my reservation to only stay there one night (again, I really wanted to cancel but I was trying to override my own wisdom and maybe it wouldn’t be so bad)…only to receive a text from the owner that she doesn’t do cancellations for any part of the stay. Red flag #2.

I Lyft over to the place, which is in a nice, safe neighborhood.

It looked pretty from the outside.

Maybe my intuition was off? 

The place

I see a man coming down the steps with headphones on and no shoes. I get the same funny feeling and I am told by the host who lived above to take off my shoes and keep my feet on the outside mat (and apparently I did this wrong as she mumbled something under her breath!). Oh dear, Diana, what have we gotten ourselves into?

To make a long story longer, it was not just a shared space with one other person. It was a crazy set-up of two rooms lined with bunk beds and a mat on the floor…and one bathroom that she said we were only allowed to be in for 15 minutes. No locks on the sliding doors and no food allowed in the space, not to mention I’d be bunking with three other men in the same room? No no no thank you Goddess! 

Get out of there

At that point, I was literally speechless and I had no idea what else she said to me, but I ended up just going outside on the porch with all my stuff and texted my boyfriend, who of course was horrified that I was staying there.

I waited hours and hours to even tell him because I knew he would be worried and I kept trying to justify why it wasn’t so bad…and all my intuitive alarms were firing SO freakin loud to call my friend Shannon and go back to her place, or get a hotel, anything but I couldn’t stay there.

My Goddess, I waited until the lovely hour of 11:15pm to finally do something about the situation and really, it was my boyfriend who finally snapped me out of it.

His text was brief: here’s a hotel. I’ve booked it already. Get in a Lyft and get out of there. Let me know when you’re inside safely. 


And you know what? I resisted it! 

I was actually annoyed at him. 

I resisted and hemmed and hawed. 

I didn’t want him to spend so much money on a room I’d be in for five hours. 

I didn’t want to lose the money I’d already spent. 

I felt bad. 

I was pissed at myself for not reading the fine print. 

Annoyed at myself for not feeling strong enough to listen to my gut the first time and stay with Shannon and forfeit the reservation altogether or to admit that yes, I got myself into a predicament but I could make another choice, a better choice at anytime. 

I was at cause here, never a victim to circumstance. It wasn’t ever too late and nothing was worth forfeiting a good night’s sleep and being well rested for choreography the next day.

Once I made the decision, I felt a huge wave of relief and I watched in amusement as more and more random people kept coming into the home. Pretty soon, 9 people were in the two rooms and I was seriously laughing at myself by then.


Once I got into the hotel room (near midnight), and I lay in the huge king size bed about to pass out, I realized how unnecessarily difficult I had made this!

My friend in the morning was like…”Girl, why didn’t you just call me the second it was weird?”

And my answer to her? “I didn’t want to disturb you. It was late.”


We’ve all had some version of this right? The part of us that doesn’t want anyone to be burdened by assisting us or being there for us. 

I could feel her rolling her eyes at me. I would have!

My boyfriend’s response was similar: “Why are you making this so hard? You’re feeling uncomfortable. That should be a big enough sign. No explanation needed. Get out of there.”

Again, my answer? “Maybe it won’t be so bad.”


Why do we have to wait until something is “bad” before we make a choice that honors us? 

I realized how my dogged determination to “tough it out and make do with a sub-par situation” clearly didn’t serve me or anyone else. 

It was just my own stubbornness in not wanting to change gears because it would “inconvenience” so many people. (made up, crappy thought lie!)

The Lessons:

I learned so much from that one evening. 

I realized that I am not perfect. No one is. It’s okay to make mistakes (like not reading all the details before booking something!)

And no one is to “blame.” It just is what it is and you can redirect as needed. 

It’s okay to change directions, as often as necessary to honor your Spirit. 

It’s okay to ask for help and admit that you are uncomfortable. 

People actually really do want to be there for you and it takes more strength to ask for help than it does to tough it out and be miserable in your own pride.

So that night, I retired the slave girl, lone warrior-tough-it-out Goddess aspect of myself.

I seriously thought I was done with her, but that one night showed me she was still there to make one final appearance so we could break up for good and go our separate ways.

In her place?

Increased self love.

Appreciation for my partner more than ever before.


Reminder of my innate worthiness for everything I desire and require.

In short, The Queen Goddess, who is anchored in strong self-acceptance, open to receiving and giving from a place of authenticity and Truth,  is out to play.

And here to stay.

And it feels damn good.

Q: Have you ever resisted asking for help? What is one thing you are willing to receive this week? Share with us in the comments!

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how to deflect negativity (this works!)

Hello from the SF Bay Area!

I’m here choreographing for a childrens’ music camp in Berkeley and having so much fun. Just in the 48 hours I’ve been here, it’s been night and day from the quiet desert in terms of noise, people and a much faster pace. 

Have you ever been in an environment where you felt like you were picking up everyone’s vibes or a city’s vibe, from the super creative vibes to the stressful vibes of other people’s anxiety, ambition, etc?

If you are also empathic, learning tools to take care of and protect your sensitivity is vital!

Today I’m delighted to share with you another tool that you can use to deflect negativity.

It’s great to:

  • release weird vibes from your mental, physical and emotional/spiritual body
  • calm your monkey mind
  • reduce anxiety 
I call it the RTS.

Click here to listen and learn it!

Love and Blessings,

twin flame or soulmate?

Happy Wed and August!

It’s a brand-new month, filled with infinite possibilities and new beginnings.

With the aftermath of the lunar eclipse from last week, there may be some emotions that you’re still sorting through.

Eclipses bring up all sorts of unexpected pieces of information, something is revealed and things leave our lives as fast as new things enter!

But when the dust settles and it’s all said and done, everything that’s left standing is helping you grow into the best version of yourself and everything that’s not helps you make space for more aligned fabulous-ness!

Relationships may be on your mind and as we begin August, today’s Q+A is:

Q: What’s the difference between a twin flame and a soulmate?

They are so different but it’s easy to mix them up and I’m here to set the record straight!

If you’ve ever met someone and wondered…why is this connection so strong? 

Are they my forever person or am I just projecting spiritual twinflame/soulmate blah-blah-blah?

Click below to hear the answer! 

ps: Do you have a question you would like me to answer on the weekly blog? You can totally ask anonymously right here. I LOVE taking your questions as they benefit the entire Goddess community!Have a fabulous week and remember: you are loved.

are other people’s opinions of you clouding your intuition? Q+A time!

Happy Wed!

Have you ever felt like your intuition was ‘blocked’ because of crappy things people told you was true about yourself?

Can I share a quick story with you before we dive into today’s Q+A question?

I remember walking off stage after I’d just spoken at my first live-streamed to thousands conference, so nervous that I ended my speech 3 minutes early.

I walked to the dressing room, super proud of myself (and shaking!) and took deep breaths only for the organizer to basically corner me and tell me how I was super vulnerable and too innocent for this industry and would be taken advantage of…(he said more but that’s the gist!)

It made me doubt everything that was great about my speech and although I teach intuition and live it everyday, that really hit a nerve and it made me question whether I was doing the right thing. Was it all in my head? Was there Truth to what he was saying and should I just forget the whole thing and get a “regular” job and close all my social media accounts, email list and abandon my mission to help millions love and trust themselves? Was my intuition faulty for taking me on this path and on this stage?Dramatic but that’s what shitty thoughts can do if you let them!

Luckily I didn’t let it stop me but it totally could have!

Now onto this week’s question:

Today’s Q+A comes from anonymous:
I’m claircognizant so I just “know” things but have always just been told I’m opinionated, stubborn and a know it all so I think that caused some blocks for me and now I don’t “hear” guidance at all. What should I do?”

Click below to listen to my A to this Q 🙂

Have an amazing week and keep shining your Light. The world needs you Goddess.

ps: I still have two Eclipse energy clearing sessions available! Would you like to grab one for yourself? Click here.

my favorite detox exercise!

With so many planets in retrograde you may be feeling a bit all over the place or just feel like things are moving through molasses.

But there is a silver lining.

It’s the perfect time to forgive yourself and others and also to energetically off load heavy old emotions, patterns and beliefs that have put a haze over you taking full action in the direction of your dreams.

One of my favorite tools is the forgiveness letter. It’s got two super simple parts and I’ve made a short audio for you!

Check it out here: 

Ps: feeling like you would like to release some old gunk like ASAP? I have 5 spots for Eclipse energy healing sessions over the next 2 weeks only. These are not your average healing sessions. We go deep and you’ll leave with an action step and plan from your guides to help you stay on track and avoid slipping into old patterns. Interested in learning more or booking one? Hit reply and we will share more details!