Have you ever known that it was TIME to let go of something that was “just okay” so you could make space for something amazing?

I recently had a session with someone who was letting go of a man who she’d had an on and off again relationship with.

They had both been playing cat and mouse for over 3 years and when we went to do the karmic cord cutting (a powerful energy release I do with my private clients), tears rolled down her face as she felt his presence in the room. “My whole body is vibrating!” she said, looking at me with wide eyes.

She got to share with him all the things she’d been too proud to say when they were face to face. To start the letting go process…for real.

And the next day (full moon) she texted me to let me know that she just wanted to go to a park and just be with herself…and sift through all the emotions that came up instead of going to a party.

“I never do that!” she laughed.

She cried. She laughed. She raged. But she had freed herself. She was starting to accept that she had always held the keys to her freedom. It wasn’t with this guy. That’s real power.

But her take-away? She was done settling for just okay. She was ready for great.

And in order for great to arrive, we have to be willing to let go of the crumbs. To let go of just “good enough.”

It’s not gonna cut it anymore Goddess!

The real secret: shhhh

And to be open to GREAT, you have to learn to tolerate and accept the space. The void. The discomfort.

You have to be strong.

It’s so easy to try and fill that space that that person, job, or habit left, but you want exceptional right?

Mindblowing, OMG-this-is-my-life amazing, right?

Then you’re going to have to be able to sit with yourself in the discomfort for awhile without rushing to replace it.

Does it hurt or suck sometimes?

Yes.

Is it easy?

Hell no!

But it’s what it takes.

A firm will to say “I will only accept the best. I’m done with crumbs.”

The Universe will test you.

You may think you’ve screwed up when that person comes back or you encounter a similar situation as before.

No no no sister.

It’s just the Universe testing your resolve to GREAT.

Be strong.

You’ve got this.

Q: Where have you been settling for “just okay or good? What does AMAZING or great look like? Brave souls, share with us in the comments! There is power in your words. Just by sharing it you are already putting it out there that you deserve more. Because you do.

 

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Are you going through a shift?

Are emotions coming up that you weren’t expecting?

Do you wish you could just skip all that and go to the breakthrough, fun stage?!

It’s only natural to want to move on as quickly as possible from a situation that makes us feel sad, scared or just well…not awesome, right?

It could be you’re going through the break-up of a relationship, the dissolving of a friendship or family connection, shifting gears in a job or business or having to move when you really weren’t ready to.

These are just some of the major emotional transitions that I see with my clients.

And let’s face it. 

Transitions are messy.

They aren’t linear and there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution to navigate them!

I hear things like, “I just want to move on! I am fine…I’m filled with love and light and I am a powerful being…” “I’m pouring my energy into work…it’s how I deal.”

I get it.

When there’s a gap, our Ego can’t wait to fill it with something. Anything to avoid the pain or discomfort, right?

It’s so natural to do that, but when we fill the blank space, you rob yourself of a beautiful opportunity to transition even quicker.

On the other side of a break-down is a breakthrough, provided you take these 2 crucial steps…

But to get to the breakthrough, most people try and skip over these 2 crucial steps…grieving …followed by an honoring.

What Grieving Looks Like:

• giving yourself permission to cry, scream, laugh and yell without justifying why you’re feeling that way or worrying about “how long it’s supposed to take” 

hint: grieving takes as long as it takes….

• creating space in your day to let it out + do the things above…
• putting people on standby in your life that you trust for those moments when you just need to talk something through or hear that it’s going to be okay

It does not look like:

• avoiding what you are feeling (that will eventually come back to bite you in the you know what…)
• isolating yourself to the point where you are not taking proper care of yourself + upholding your responsiblities
• doing affirmations to avoid feeling something you don’t want to feel or putting on a “spiritual happy mask.”  Affirmations are awesome when coupled with authentic, raw “this is how I feel right now” feelings.

While and after you go through the grieving stage of the situation that has changed in your life (which, again may take 1 hour or 1 month depending on how fast your energy moves and how much you allow yourself to feel it all), honoring comes next.

To honor something says to your Soul, “This event/person/situation brought value to my life/my growth and so I choose to honor that value, even if it’s hard for me to see in this moment.”

What Honoring Looks Like (A few examples for you!):

• Having a “funeral” for a situation where you literally get dressed in black and light a candle and say aloud all the things you learned about yourself + how it offered value to your life. 
• Make a list of all your past relationships + write down at least 1 quality from each person you dated that you really admired and brought something to your life
• Go through your old home or your old desk, etc and carefully and lovingly call out the different items that really helped you in your journey up to this point. 

When you do these last 2 steps, Grieving and Honoring a loss or change, you create an energetic space for the Universe to rush in with new things that are truly aligned with you.

A new partner

A new client

A new home

A new job

So, in closing, do what 90% of people won’t allow themselves to do.

Feel your shit

Allow yourself to be vulnerable and raw for awhile 

and honor honor honor what it brought to your life

You’ll feel lighter and brighter in less time…and you deserve it!

Q: Which step do feel is more challenging? Grieving or Honoring? Why? What step could you take this week to move through a transition you are going through? Share with us!

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