Have you ever had any of these lines running through your head when it came to receiving something you really wanted?
“If I didn’t ‘work for it’, I don’t really deserve it <insert awesome desire here>.”
“If it comes too easily, it’s probably a fluke.”
“If comes too easily, I won’t really value it. If it’s hard, I’ll know it was worth it.”
These are some of the stories you can tell yourself that keep you stuck from either
a) letting something or someone go who is taking up space in your life or
b) receiving at the Highest capacity in the most graceful and efficient way.
To give you a real-life example: Diana’s crazy as* dream
One of my craziest dreams: I was trudging up a crazy rock that turned into a gigantic slide (yea…it was pretty wild!). I was trudging up there to get my red suitcase that I had left at the top and everyone was waiting for me at the bottom of the scary rock to go to the airport.
My palms were sweating and my heart was beating so fast and I wanted to cry. What if I didn’t make it all the way up? What if I fell and died? And the most hilarious question: What if I take too long and people get pissed off that they miss their flight? (recovered people pleaser here!)
But I knew if I just stayed where I was, it was going to be a long, painful experience. So once I got to the top, I saw two red suitcases-one was mine and one…get this…was my ex boyfriend’s red suitcase with all his baggage in it! (Huge metaphor!)
And in that moment, I made the decision to just take my suitcase and leave his luggage behind!
I grabbed mine and slid down the slide with ease and I squealed like a little kid as I sped down the scary rock mountain. And I got a high five and waves on the way down.
Now let’s break that down.
My subconscious (like yours) works things out in dreamland and after talking it out with my good friend, she pointed out that perhaps mine was working overtime but had finally created space for me to stop the pattern.
The pattern of associating letting go of something that had long been kept past its expiration date with PAIN and scary up-hill struggle….and feeling like I was responsible for anyone’s baggage but my own (especially in romantic relationships!).
I had to trudge up the hill (my belief that it had to be hard) but once I made the call from my Soul vs. my old story to only take my baggage down, I was free.
And it was actually quite fun to let go and I was calm in the knowledge that if he wanted to trudge up the scary rock mountain slide to get his baggage, it was quietly waiting for him up there. But I had a plane to catch!
What it really takes to transform this belief that in order to receive something great, it must have to be a “hard” process:
- shift into seeing yourself as someone who is worthy of great things (without struggle as a requirement)
- be willing to let go of the commitment you made to struggle and…
- Make a decision and daily commitment to doing what is healthy and loving for yourself (even if it annoys other people)
Q: Have you ever struggled with the belief that things have to be hard? What has helped you or which of the 3 tips above will you implement this week? Share with us in the comments here!
Want to let go in a safe space with a community of like-minded peeps?
Join me for my FREE Community Group Energy Clearing Night: Heal Your Heart Space this Thursday, May 25 (new moon!) right here: https://dianadorell.lpages.co/hyh/