the one reason most people don’t manifest what they want in life

A question I get asked a lot in media interviews is “what is the # tip you have to help people manifest the relationship and life they want?”

The answer (inspired by the scene in Crazy, Rich Asians movie) is found in observing the following question.

In any given situation, are you playing to win or are you playing not to lose?

If you’re playing to win, that looks like:
:: feeling scared but going all in anyway, knowing that everything worth going for is going to require some element of risk

:: clarity on what you desire but flexibility on how you get there
:: making mistakes but course-correcting along the way, focused.
:: this is the big one….being willing to be wrong, surprised and delighted, willing to leave blood on the stage with your efforts (yea, I know that’ kind of gross but it’s a theatre term I had to throw in there)
:: based on an abundance/more than enough mentality, let’s see what happens vibe that encourages exploration, creativity and curiosity

If you’re playing not to lose, that looks like:
:: feeling scared and not going in all the way, actually not really even going fully for it at all. 

::it’s an idea that lives in your head, but there’s no action behind it. it’s a fantasy.
:: doing the bare minimum to yield minimum results (a safer bet, but not really rewarding or satisfying).
:: based on a lack/scarcity mentality and encourages fear and defensiveness and not enough-energy

That’s it.

You want to manifest the exceptional relationship, career, house, etc?

Play to win.

If you don’t, you ‘ll always feel this restlessness knowing you could have gone further, gone for it, expressed how you felt, whatever the next right action is even if you’re not 100% sure it’s going to lead you to X result. 

The next right action is inspired by your gut.

If you want to play to win, you must learn how to get out of your head.

The head will cut you off at the knees before you’re even out of the starting gate.

The heart will let you know how you feel, which is important but can also slow you down when shit gets hard or you’re in uncharted, uncomfortable waters.

But the gut?

The gut is pure. It is emotionally neutral. 

Even when you’re taking scary actions and the mind won’t shut up, it’s there for you, that quiet whisper that says….keep going.

Q: Where are you intending to play to win in your life? Leave a comment and let us know!

how to push through resistance (one question)

Facing resistance?

Whenever you are taking action in the direction of your dream, whether that’s manifesting a great relationship or doing that thing you always wanted to do but were scared to, resistance will rear its lovely head.

Our primitive brains hate any kind of change and any suggestion outside the lines of our normal patterns will set off this alarm bell “Danger, danger, stay away!” and it can be so easy to just slip back into what’s comfortable.

But if you’re reading this, that tells me that “okay” is not good enough.

You want awesome!! And you want it like yesterday, right?

So, then resistance is something to make friends with.

Instead of running from it (which never works, been there, done it, got the T-shirt) you can ask yourself this one question to tame it.

Q: What would the version of me who already has the thing I want do/not do / say/not say / respond/choose right now?

It feels a bit like make-believe but who cares? I always say, do what works and heading into a space of possibility helps quiet that freaked out part of your brain that becomes hyper focused on keeping you safe and exactly where you are.

Play with the question above. Journal on it. See what comes up.

The more you can become emotionally neutral to the primitive brain and instead consciously redirect and co-create your next moves from your future self, the easier it will be to get there.

And also hold onto it once you manifest it!

Q: Are you willing to give the question above a shot this week? share with me in the comments!

ps: Want to come to Sedona this winter with a super intimate group of kick-ass Goddesses committed to releasing the old and resurrecting their inner bad-assery and personal power? 

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your 3-card message…ready goddess?

Happy Wed!

This week I pulled 3 cards for the community as we are coming off the heels of the New Moon in Virgo. 

If you’re new to my world, welcome! You’ll find a mix of spiritual wisdom, love/relationship + life advice + tools to help you trust your intuition.

Before I share the message, I want to encourage you to join me for the FREE Empowered Goddess-a-thon that starts…TODAY (it’s okay if you see this late-join us anyway!). It’s free and if you know you could benefit from boosting your self-confidence, you will love this! 

This week’s message: 

The storyteller: what stories are you telling yourself are true about your life and others? Are they supportive or destructive? A recent challenge can be smoothed over by simply a change in perspective.

Sacred mountain: a great week to observe and be quiet for in the silence you receive divine answers to your inquiry. Keep a journal!

Eagle medicine: by the end of the week you have the potential to blow your own mind with all the spiritual assistance you witness as you soar above so called problems and towards your most cherished dreams!

Q: Which card resonates with you and how you have been feeling the most? Hit reply and tell me! 

ps: Ready to release all that’s held you back from being your authentic self?

 If YES, have you applied to join us for the winter Sedona retreat, Way of the Wise Woman? 

If gathering with an intimate, high-vibe group (less than 6 Goddesses) November 2-5 in the breathtaking, world-renowned Red Rocks of Sedona sounds like how you’d like to wrap up your 2018 and usher in visioning for 2019, I encourage you to learn more + apply! 

Have an amazing week and I look forward to kicking off the Empowered Goddess-a-thon with those of you who feel guided to join us!

Love and Blessings,

need a confidence boost? I’m excited!

Happy Wed!

I am so excited because remember I told you that I had a special announcement?

So one of the things that keeps you from having amazing relationships is a lack of inner confidence.

Mental tapes like…

I’m not good enough.

I’m not attractive enough.

No one will understand my crazy schedule or life…

When you have inner confidence, you become a master of your emotions.

The world can get crazy, but you are so good at re-directing your mind when it starts to act like a crazy toddler on a rampage.

That’s inner confidence.

And I’m on a mission to help you tap into that!

So….<drumroll please!>

#1) I created a new gift for you called 7 Goddess Secrets to Up Your Confidence Now! (scroll down to get this)

In there, you’ll find the 7 secrets PLUS I’ve channeled 7 corresponding power affirmations you use to dial up that vibe in your daily life.

Click here to grab it.

Want to work with me for FREE for 7 weeks? You can!

Because I am in denial that summer is almost over, I am so excited to be hosting a 7-week Empowered Goddess Secrets-a-thon (what, Diana?) to dive deeper into each of these 7 secrets.

That’s right!

If you want to, you can work with me…for FREE…for 7 weeks starting September 12.

How it works:

 For those of you that want to really get the full experience, I’m going to post a specific Goddess video + exercise to help you really embody each confidence booster and we are also going to be doing mini-challenges + prizes when I feel like it over the 7 weeks! This will all happen in a 100% free, closed FB group (Empowered Goddess Secrets) where I will go in-depth into each of the 7 secrets and you can interact with the other ladies and myself!

Next steps:

1) Download your free gift: 7 Goddess Secrets to Up Your Confidence.

2) Request to join the new free, FB Goddess group
 (Empowered Goddess Secrets) right here. When we kick off next week, you’ll be in the right place to get maximum benefit!

Can’t wait!

Have a great week!

ps: Want to join me in the Red Rocks this November 2-5? The Way of the Wise Woman Retreat is happening! We have limited spots available for this all inclusive retreat.

Click here for more info <3