5 Common Mistakes You’re Making On Your Dating Profile (And How To Fix It)

Hi Goddess,

It’s Diana Dorell here, relationship coach and master healer.

Formerly single Goddess. Married in my 40’s. Passionate about helping you and hundreds find and keep love for the past 16 years. (wow that sounded like a commercial haha).

Can I give it to you New Yorker straight?

You don’t need a “perfect” dating profile.

You need one that actually feels like you.

If you’ve ever stared at your screen wondering:

“What do I even say?”
“Am I coming across as too much… or not enough?”
“Why am I attracting the wrong people over and over?”

You’re not alone.

And more importantly… you’re not doing it wrong.

You’ve just been taught to approach dating profiles like a résumé instead of an energetic invitation.

The Real Problem

Most smart, successful women 40+ approach dating profiles the same way they approach everything else:

They overthink.
They try to get it “right.”
They edit themselves into something more “acceptable”

And the result?

Profiles that sound fine on paper… but don’t feel like anything.

There is no spark. No pull to want to engage more, which= No real connection.

So you end up attracting:

People who don’t really see you
Conversations that go nowhere
Or worse… nothing at all

And it starts to feel frustrating, confusing, even a little defeating.

Sound familiar?

This is exactly what I see over and over again with the women I work with

Resistant to Online Dating?

I totally understand not wanting to put yourself out there online, especially if you’ve had less than stellar results…or worse, have felt taken advantage of, scammed, or just had messages that were pictures of..you know, the D.

It can be hard to give it another go. I get that…AND if you want to send the biggest signal to the Universe that you are available for love, it’s important to cast a varied, wide net.

Part of staying open to receiving the right relationship is releasing your resistance to past hurts or bracing for potential future disappointments.

Having an online dating profile from a new energy makes a big difference even if you end up meeting the One at Trader Joes.

💡 What Actually Works In a Profile

Here’s what no one tells you about creating a magnetic dating profile:

1. Emotional clarity beats clever wording.
If you don’t know how you want to feel in a relationship, no amount of witty bio lines will fix that.

2. Your non-negotiables matter more than a long wishlist.
Clarity creates alignment. Lists create confusion.

3. Your energy speaks louder than your profile ever will.
People feel you before they understand you.

And this is the piece most dating advice completely misses.

April 21 at 5:30pm Pacific. Replay available.

🌸 What This Class Is And What You’ll Learn

A: It is live workshop where we take the pressure off…and replace it with clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

This is never about gaming an algorithm or pretending to be someone you’re not.

By the end of this class, you’ll have:

Clarity on the top 5 mistakes I see women making over and over again that mean the difference between a profile that gets you dates and the ones that don’t
A clear understanding of what your profile actually needs (and what to stop overthinking)
Defined non-negotiables that guide who you allow in
The ability to trust yourself instead of second-guessing every word

And yes… there will be time for a few questions!

Who This Is For

This is for you if:

You’re a successful, self-aware woman 40+… but dating still feels confusing
You find yourself overthinking every message, bio, or interaction
You’re tired of attracting people who don’t match your level
You want real love, but you don’t want to lose yourself to get it

Details

Date: April 21
Format: Live online class (Zoom)
Time: 5:30 pm Pacific

Are you ready to attract high quality dates?

You just need to stop filtering yourself through fear.

If you’re ready to feel clear, grounded, and actually good about how you’re showing up…

👉 Join us here!

Meet Your Facilitator:

Hi Goddess!

I’m Diana- I know what it feels like to spend years wondering if it’s just never going to happen for you in love. I’ve been on countless dates and dated all kinds of different people only to have it end in heart-break. And in over a decade of holding space for both men and women in private coaching practice, I’ve truly seen it all. It’s easy to go into that space of self-doubt

and start thinking –

What’s wrong with me?
Why can’t I have the relationship I want?
Why is it easy for my friends to get married, have kids and at the very least, be in the relationship that doesn’t end in tears and frustrations?
Why is it soo hard for me to have love in my life?
Am I not lovable?? Am I unworthy of love??

Meet Your Facilitator:

Hi Goddess!

and start thinking –

What’s wrong with me?
Why can’t I have the relationship I want?
Why is it easy for my friends to get married, have kids and at the very least, be in the relationship that doesn’t end in tears and frustrations?
Why is it soo hard for me to have love in my life?
Am I not lovable?? Am I unworthy of love??

After a lot of soul searching and support on my own journey, I discovered that the common denominator in all these relationships was…me. I had to look deeply at old patterns and fears and really be honest with myself about what was important to me and how I had to do things differently and get on board with my own desires before expecting any person to fulfill them!

Today, I am in a healthy, happy and connected partnership with a man who loves me for who I am and we are now married. The road to get to this point hasn’t been easy and I think more than ever before, being true to yourself while you are in a relationship is just as important as it is when you are single and ready to receive a relationship! The learning never stops.

I never claim to have all the answers. Or to be a love guru. I am here to help you become your best self. And no matter where you find yourself on the journey, no matter what your ‘relationship status’ is, I am delighted and excited to share some of the tools and teachings that have helped hundreds of clients just like you to become more empowered versions of themselves.

Much love and blessings,
Diana

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Today, I am in a healthy, happy and connected partnership with a man who loves me for who I am and we are now engaged to be married. The road to get to this point hasn’t been easy and I think more than ever before, being true to yourself while you are in a relationship is just as important as it is when you are single and ready to receive a relationship! The learning never stops.

Much love and blessings,
Diana

Praise for Diana’s work

The Soul Love Method Signature 90-Day Experience (4)

“Working with Diana completely changed how I relate to myself and to dating.”

I learned how to stay present, follow my heart instead of overthinking, and feel good regardless of whether someone texts me back. That shift alone has been life-changing.

I built a deep sense of emotional safety within myself, learned to set clear boundaries without guilt, and stopped taking responsibility for other people’s emotions. I feel calmer, more grounded, and more confident than I’ve ever been.

I’ve come home to myself. I now trust my intuition, honor my needs, and move through life from a place of peace instead of pressure.

— Kate Mills

“I gained clarity around my gifts, created real shifts in my body and finances, and learned how to protect my energy.”

Working with Diana over these past months has been truly life-changing. I came into our container feeling stuck, uncertain, and disconnected from parts of myself that I knew were there but couldn’t fully access.

Through our work together, I learned how to trust my intuition again and, more importantly, how to listen to my body and inner voice with clarity and confidence. I released old beliefs and patterns around staying small, comparison, and self-doubt, and began stepping into a much stronger sense of who I am.

I gained clarity around my spiritual gifts—especially animal communication—and finally felt confident honoring the timing and direction that felt right for me instead of forcing myself into paths that weren’t aligned. I also created real, tangible shifts in my life: I became more consistent with caring for my body, organized my finances in a way that felt empowering instead of overwhelming, and established boundaries that helped me protect my energy.

Diana has a rare gift for holding space that is both deeply intuitive and grounded. She helped me see myself clearly, trust my own wisdom, and take aligned action without pressure or fear. I feel more confident, calm, and connected than I have in years.

This work didn’t just support me during our time together—it changed how I move through my life. I’m incredibly grateful for this journey and couldn’t recommend working with Diana more.

— Lesley M.

“From Self-Doubt to Project Runway—How I Reclaimed My Power with Diana”

I’ve stopped being my own worst critic. No more hiding, doubting my creativity, or thinking the Universe has it out for me.
Through Diana’s guidance, I was finally let go of an old disappointment that was running the show in the background, updated my dating profile with confidence, and started attracting masculine, emotionally available men! Oh, and the creative fire? Fully reignited. I got invited for another season of the reality TV show, Project Runway, and attracted enough abundance to create a new Fall collection for my fashion company! The best part is that I’m actually enjoying the process—no people-pleasing, just pure expression. The obsessive thoughts about my ex? Gone. Other people’s energy? Not mine to hold. I feel clear, confident, and totally in my power. Diana didn’t just help me shift—she helped me remember who I really am.”

— Caycee Black | IG @thecaycee_black| Designer, Actor and Writer

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