Embrace the Paradox of Multiple Truths
Happy Tuesday!
Let’s cut right to the chase, shall we?
As humans, we like neat little boxes.
Our brains like definitive answers ad structure and compartments.
Not just for paper, but also for thoughts… and personal truths.
And when it comes to our most important relationships, sometimes, the reality is that there are multiple truths that occur simultaneously that seem to contradict each other.
He’s a great guy…and I’m not attracted to him.
I know this could be a great opportunity…and I know I can’t do the job for what they will pay.
I want to go out on this date…and my body is telling me I need to rest.
So often, we rationalize or fight with ourselves how this could possibly be.
And you end up doubting yourself, thinking the Universe isn’t listening and it can create a whole lotta unnecessary self-talk that is unsupportive of you calling in the love that you seek.
So…what to do?
Plain and simple, when you can honor all your Truths, even the inconvenient ones, and all the fun emotions that accompany those, it creates space for more aligned options to present themselves!
And each time you honor and express your Truth (into no one but your beautiful self!), you build up that self-trust muscle and self-confidence that makes you so damn attractive to everything your soul really really desires.
So, that’s your invitation this week gorgeous:
Q: What are 3 of your personal truths that want to be seen and expressed? You can think of a particular situation you’ve been wrestling with this week or just do general heart dump. Let it all come out-and you’ll be sure to find some interesting gems in there. BONUS points if you share a comment on the blog with one your truths!
ps: Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Want to turn that ship around now?
No Power, Getting Married in a Storm + a Reminder
Happy Tuesday!
How are you?
Wanted to share something with you today that I hope will invite you to open your heart.
In light of the recent events in Texas, appreciation for what I have in my life came up so strongly.
My father lives in Houston and he had no power or running water-and for the brief moments when I did get to speak with I’m on the phone before it went out again, he shared how the neighbors were all banding together to help each other with resources.
I reconnected with a childhood friend whose parents are also there and she shared how their local church was supplying water for others.
And finally, one of my fellow Goddesses actually had eloped and planned to be on the beach for her ceremony and got stuck in the storm-her best friend was flown in for the ceremony and because conditions were what they were, all three of them had to stay in one hotel room during her honeymoon!
Talk about an opportunity to get closer! What could have been a disastrous time ended up being a time to laugh, connect and enjoy an unconventional experience together.
But it brings me to this point: In any moment, we can choose something to appreciate or we can choose something to complain about.
And when it comes to love, when you are truly appreciative of the relationships that uplift you in your life NOW (friendships, family, work associates, clients, etc) you signal the Universe to send you more people that match that frequency!
It’s a great week to do an Energetic Inventory.
Here are two questions to journal on as we come to the finish line of February:
Q: Which relationships drain you and feel like you are compromising your authentic self?
Q: Which ones do you need to honor more? These are the ones where you feel like you are accepted and loved for who you are.
Have a blessed week and if you struggle with maintaining a positive mindset during challenging times, click here.
Have you ever felt like you weren’t good enough when it comes to dating?
Anxiety that comes up after you don’t hear from a really great second date where you though for sure things went well?
Or how about when you have this awesome day and then one thing happens that completely derails your mood and you wonder WTF you can do to climb out of it?
No one teaches us how to love ourselves in these moments.
Self-love isn’t some luxury thing we only do when there is “enough money,” “enough time” or “enough (insert whatever you want).”
It’s right up there with physical health and maintenance – it’s emotional maintenance!
If you struggle with that (I certainly did!), I have found that it’s often the small, bite-sized things that we do consistently that really make a difference.
And self love is no different.
You have to learn to crawl before you can walk!
If you’d like to learn how to pull yourself out of a funk, support your emotional heart and feel more love for yourself so you can be there for the people you love, check this out: www.dianadorell.com/60sec
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How to Handle Rejection in Dating with Grace
Happy Wednesday!
Have you ever felt rejected when it comes to relationships?
Today, I’m taking a question from our Goddess community:
“Diana, how can I handle rejection in dating better so that I stay hopeful about future love?”
Let’s unpack this with 3 very simple but powerful shifts you can make when this happens.
ps: They work even if the ‘rejection’ you’ve experienced is in another area of your life too!
Watch here:
Q: Have you ever been rejected? What has helped you to move on? Share by adding a comment!
Sometimes You Have to Fall on Your Butt
Happy Wednesday!
So, in the spirit of doing fun, new things for exercise, I decided to get myself some rollerblades.
Yup-cue 80’s music and air that smells like sweat and microwaved nacho cheese and the Hokey Pokey (or was that just my childhood?)
In any case, despite feeling like a complete dork, I also donned a bunch of protective gear to take my 5 minute spin around the block.
I mean, who knows what could happen?
It’s only been a decade or more since I did this.
Long story short, the first five minutes were amazing-I found my balance, I was listening to a podcast and feeling on top of the world…I let go of those fearful thoughts and the judge thoughts (what is she WEARING?)
And just had fun.
And then…I fell on my ass. Hard.
Right smack in the middle of someone’s newly planted flower bed on the front lawn…and she was outside to watch the whole thing go down, as was a little kid who smirked by on his bike.
Wonderful.
I didn’t really even get how in the world I was supposed to get up with all this plastic gear and stiff, tight skates that I had made so tight they cut off any circulation around my ankles.
I met the lady’s eyes and she said, “Honestly, I’m impressed you are even out here on those things! I could not do that!” And we had a good laugh and I ended up skating for like 30 minutes ore!
The point:
And as I skated home, I realized that the experience is a lot like dating, or doing anything new or different for that matter.
Sure we’d rather look like we have our shiz together-we’d like to just whiz by and do fancy turns and stop without giving it another thought.
But the reality is, anything new is going to require patience.
Self-compassion.
Persistance.
And laughing at oneself.
It’s like beating up a kindergartener for not knowing Calculus.
That would be ridiculous, right?
So…in short, start where you are.
It’s perfect.
Imperfectly perfect.
Say nice things to yourself for even getting out there and doing the thing.
You’ll have a lot more fun, be a lot less stressed and a whole lot more attractive to be around.
Q: What is something new you’re doing this year? Let me know in the comments below!