i started laughing when i saw this….

Have you ever had an awesome morning only to come home later and have life throw you a total curveball?

It could be small or large, but it almost feels like the Universe is out to get you because you had too good a time?

Funny story: I came home after a fun day of socializing with friends and acupuncture to find my puppy, Bella in a pile of torn up paper in the center of my living room.

She knew she was in a big trouble-ears back, tail between her legs and belly exposed as if to say, I surrender! I was bored! I’m sorry!

I gave her a stern look and headed over to see her handiwork.

What would it be?

What had I left out?

Praying it wasn’t something really important.

And then I gasped out loud when I saw what she had chewed up.

It was an old CD cover of a brain-wave meditation I had been looking for called “Attracting Love.”

There in the center of my living room was love in a sea of little red and white pieces strewn everywhere with Bella plopped on top.

I burst into laughter as I saw her butt warming and hiding the perfectly intact CD itself.

It got me thinking about mindset when it comes to love…and really anything else.

In any given moment, you have a choice of how to think about something that happens to you.

1. You can see it as the Universe conspiring against you and play the victim. Ex: Look at the symbolism-maybe the Universe is trying to tell me that there’s never enough love to go around. I can’t enjoy myself and have more. Who am I kidding?

Or…..

2. You can see it as the Universe conspiring for you and play the grateful receiver. Ex: Look at the symbolism-maybe the Universe is reminding me that no matter what happens, love is always present. It can change form, appear to be broken/taken away/scattered/gone, etc, but it’s all in the air and all around and within you.

So, are you going to choose lack and limitation, taking every single thing that happens as a personal sign against your desires OR are you going to choose lavish abundance and an attitude that everything that happens is a sign meant to help you grow, open your heart even more, love deeper and look deeper at the big lesson showing up?

Your choice.

Whatever you choose will inform what you see…what you recognize out in the world and how you perceive the messages your intuition is trying to send you.

And what you get more of.

Life will throw you curve balls.

Love won’t always look the way you expect it to.

Puppies will chew up your CD covers.

But love isn’t something for the chosen few.

It’s for you because you are love.

Q: So, whatever happens this week, will you remember to choose the mindset that moves
you in the directions of your desires?

That’s today’s little love nudge for you.

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is it fear or a red flag? 3 steps to tell

Have you ever been a situation where you aren’t sure if your intuition is telling you to move ahead and push past an old fear…or if you’re avoiding a bright red flag to stop and pay attention?

An awesome question came in from a woman who wrote:
“Diana, I’ve gone on a few dates with this guy and I’m not sure I should go out with him again. I really like him and I don’t know if I’m just being crazy and getting in my own way or if it’s my intuition warning me to stop dating him. How do I know for sure?”

Now, first off, no matter what the situation (relationship or otherwise), high fives for asking the question!

Really-our intuition is a muscle that can be accessed at any time and it can be really confusing when you are learning how to trust it again and know what it’s trying to tell you.

So to make it super easy, I’ve broken it down into three simple steps for you!

Click below to watch the video + know if it’s just resistance and old fears… or if you should walk!

And after you watch…
Q: Have you ever struggled with whether to proceed forward or not? What helped you trust your intuition? Share with us in the comments below!

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are you making a decision from fear or inspiration? 3 signs to tell.

When you have to make a decision, it can be really hard to tell whether it’s the right one. Especially if there is a lot riding on the decision, we can easily downshift into fear because well, we need to make some decision, don’t we?10371443_10152110639312361_7115493803932630590_n.jpg

But there’s a huge difference between making a decision from fear and making one from inspiration.

Here are some clues to tell:

Fear looks like:

-feels heavy in your body, and you tend to be in your head trying to figure out all the reasons it can’t come together or that it will be hard.

-the decision moves you away from something you don’t want

-making a move to defend against an outcome that hasn’t happened yet (based on the past usually)

Inspiration looks like:

-feels light in your body, even if you’re not sure how it will all come together

-the decision moves you towards something you want

-making a move from a desire or curiosity based on who you want to be (not who you were or what current circumstances show you are possible). There’s still a desired outcome (we are human!) but you trust that whatever happens after taking this inspired action will be in service to your growth and your Path.

An example of this when it comes to relationships and taking care of yourself:

Fear:

You have a date with someone and text them to confirm the night before.

You haven’t heard back from them within the hour, so you cancel the date before they do.

(because that’s what always happens before, so why not beat them to it?)

Inspiration:

You have a dinner date with someone and text them to confirm the night before.

You haven’t heard back from them within the hour, so you make a decision within yourself. You will reach out to them one last time in the morning and if you don’t hear back by 12noon, you will just make other plans. No biggie. Your time is valuable. There will be other dates with people who value it.

Do you see how one puts you in the victim role and one puts you in the driver’s seat?

It’s never about the other person, although that’s the easy thing to do!

The more you can check in with your own intuition before making a decision and ask, “Hmmmm, could this be coming from fear or inspiration?” you will save yourself a lot of time and energy!

Want more?

Stay tuned because next week I will be sharing more self-care and love tips to help you understand what you need as a unique Soul to stop sabotaging. I’m really excited to share this groundbreaking work with you.

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how to boost your intuition in under 10 seconds

I did a podcast interview a few years ago on self-care and trusting your intuition and the woman asked me

Q: “What is something super simple that we can all do no matter how busy life gets to start off our day right to hear our intuition?”

If you are like most people, you may feel like aren’t enough hours in the day to focus on intuitive-development or self care.

What typically happens is we go go go like little hamsters and then when we can’t take it anymore, we overindulge in food, drink, even spa services and vacations when if we just implemented some simple strategies into our daily life, we wouldn’t go into what I call, “self-pampering binges.”

So I’m going to share the same simple but powerful offering you can do right when  you open your eyes to set yourself up to tune into your gut feelings throughout the day.

It takes less than 10 seconds once you get some practice.

I call it…The Soul Word.

Right when you open your eyes (before your monkey brain starts to take over), ask yourself, “What’s my Soul word today?”

Listen to the first things that come.

It could be thematic like “peace” or an adjective describing how you want to feel “centered,”

Just go with one.

And let that be the word that choose to embody for the next 24 hours.

Why this is so powerful:

When you embody that word, you get to make sure that your actions and choices throughout the day match that energy.

 It helps you ‘check’ yourself and you can more easily make decisions by asking, “Hmmmm, does this request/opportunity/invitation support my word?”

As you align your actions and choices and even your body posture (back straight!) with the energy of that Soul word, your monkey brain gets to relax…it feels safe because it doesn’t have to work so hard to sort through this and that.

The Soul word acts as an energetic guard-rail to allow you to feel more clear throughout the day and therefore, tune into the subtle nudgings of your intuition.

This week’s Soul Q: What is your “Soul word” today? How will you embody this throughout your day?

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Diana Dorell

your april message…this one hit me over the head!

Happy Tuesday and welcome to a brand-new month!

April is all about welcoming love, fresh starts and embracing your power from a loving, clear space.

Ahhhh…..

Let’s dive right in, shall we?

Part of being able to welcoming in more love and starting fresh is listening to the messages coming from your intuition. But…

You know how sometimes you wish you didn’t hear an intuitive message?

Or have you ever gotten one that you know hits home…but you really really wish it didn’t?

If you’re into oracle card decks at all like me, you may have even had the experience of asking a question and pulling cards around it only to be like…um, no…I don’t want that card. Let me shuffle again…only to have the same darn card come up again! And again!

So you go for a walk or put on a show to try to distract yourself from the message you just received, only it’s still in the back of your brain like this annoying little tapping you can’t quite drown out.

Until you face the music and listen to what’s coming up past the discomfort of the delivery.

It’s those times when you wish you weren’t so intuitive, you wish you could just go back to being unconscious and blissfully ignorant to a Soul Truth that rocks your whole belief system or your world view. Yes, I’m being dramatic, but hey, depends on the message right?

So here’s one that I heard a few years ago that I didn’t listen to for a long. Ass. time.

And if I had listened to it it would have saved me so much time. Energy. Yes even money.

Can I share the story with you with the intent that it supports you in your own journey to love and self-love?

Once upon a time…

I was in a series of relationship after relationship, all ending around the same 1 year mark.

It was usually around that time, that I would start to seriously give my power away unconsciously and the belief that I uncovered after a lot of work and money was this:

If you are powerful, a man won’t love you. If you don’t need him to take care of you in every single way, a man will leave.

O.M.G!

It was so so deeply ingrained in my cells that inevitably around that time when the relationship would deepen, it’s like I became this shrinked version of myself.

I would start to sabotage any success in my business or career.

I emotionally ate and gained weight.

I stopped doing the activities that I loved like dancing and singing. In short, I became like Cinderella, but BEFORE she met the Prince.

Putting the man and his needs above my own. Overgiving from a place of fear that if I really let my power pop out, he wouldn’t be able to handle it…and I’d be left alone.

I treated my body poorly and engaged in sex when I didn’t really feel like it…or over-did it to compensate for the fact that it was the only area I felt I had some control over my life.

And the weird part was that the more I did these things…the more success would show up in the man’s life so he thought things were going awesome! He was literally getting all of my energy! And there was nothing left for me because I gave it all away.

As my friend Heather would say, “No bueno, girl!”

And I remember the moment the tough love intuition hit me.

I had just gone to San Diego to visit a man I was in a “complicated” relationship with (all on my dime of course, and on all of his terms…).

And I remember leaving his apartment after a passionate but emotionally confusing weekend when a very loud (but kind) voice said..

“It’s time to give up the Cinderella story. You never needed to be rescued. And this man or any man will never be able to love you the way you deserve if you keep giving your power away.”

W-h-o-a!

That one stopped me in my tracks. I started to cry immediately (which of course he didn’t even notice).

It took me three more weeks of ignoring that message until I finally had the courage to end the relationship and do the work I needed to do on myself to reclaim my energy and my power. I was on the road to recovery…and it felt damn good.

Here are 3 truths I realized. Take if you need.

Truth 1:: To receive true love at the Highest Level, you must love yourself and treat your body, mind and money with the utmost kindness, respect and grace.

Truth 2::  It is safe for you to be a powerful person. You can be in your power and be kind. Never confuse being in your power with being “mean, selfish, overbearing or unloving.” People may not like you in your power. That’s ok. Let them stand aside. They weren’t really authentic friends, partners, etc if they can only be around you when you shrink.

Truth 3:: There is a difference than being in a co-dependent relationship and in an inter-dependent one. The first comes from a total giving away of your power and choices and will diminish you. The second says, “You are powerful and capable and worthy of love. I am powerful and capable and worthy of love.”

Which one of the 3 Truths resonate with you the most this week?

Leave a comment and share with us! There is power in community.

And before you dash, let me ask you this:

Are you ready to feel more powerful and receive true love?

Are you ready to move out of co-dependency, set healthy boundaries and feel amazing and happy?

My good friend and founder of Hair Chair Confessions, Karen Stevenson is hosting a free series to help you have more self-love and self-respect and I am honored to be one of her featured speakers along with my dear friend Marcy Neumann and other relationship experts on self love and codependency.

Want to join us?! We are going to make this heavy topic FUN and I’d love, love, love to have you be a part of it with me!

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Have a blessed week!

Love,

Diana

And remember…everything awesome happens on the other side of letting go of your Cinderella story…at least the rescuing part 😉