Want to Make Heads Turn? Try This! (Space Clearing Tool!)

Happy Tuesday!

Today’s question: “Diana, is there anything I can do to get guys to notice me more? I know that it’s important to come off as confident and I’m a bit shy. Do you have any spiritual tips that I can try to support me in this?”

A: Love this question! And yes. I’m a huge fan of integrating intuition with space clearing as I’ve found that sometimes shifting our outer world can trigger our subconscious/inner worlds. When the two worlds are in harmony, you experience manifestation and flow. And when it comes to confidence and getting noticed, the Fame corner’s where it’s at!

By the way, you can use these tips to get notice in ay area where you need to toot your own horn and feel bit self conscious! 

Listen below to the audio tips!

When You’re Out of Your Comfort Zone…

So, the words just fell out of my mouth. 

“We’ll host Thanksgiving this year!” 

I’ve never hosted holidays I’m mum entire life and I’m excited and also like…omg, what did we just agree to???! Can I just close my eyes, hide under the covers and come out on November 25th and have someone feed me leftovers? 

But…life would be super boring if it was a straight line and we never did anything out of the ordinary.

For me, being outside my comfort zone this year looks like hosting Thanksgiving. 

For you, it may look like getting on dating app when you swore you were never doing the app thing.

Or telling someone how you actually feel about them, thus opening yourself up emotionally.

No matter what it is, that underlying combination of anxiety and excitement is the same. 

And when you’re face with a situation you’ve never been in, or one that creates that energy, it’s key to keep the following in mind: 

  1. Each time you do something outside your comfort zone, you build your self-trust muscles. 
    • The more you trust that you can do something that scares you, the more confident you will feel when life throws you for a loop (and it will!). You’ll be more resilient and capable of moving through both the highs and the lows. 
  2. On the other side of your fear is your power. 
    • Fear may always be there to a certain degree and the ,more afraid you are, the more power is available to you on the other side of doing the scary, uncomfortable thing. Who doesn’t want to feel their full power? Move with the fear and let yourself be surprised!
  3. You’re making space for your next-level self to show up.
    • The most empowered, fabulous version of you is already inside of you. When you do the things that push you outside your norm, it forces you to tap into new thought patterns, resources and ways of being. Instead of saying, “Oh, I never (fill in the blank),” try saying “I used to never (fill in the blank)…but now…” Give yourself permission to write yourself a new narrative! 

Now, I’ll keep you posted next week on how Thanksgiving rolls out (ooo Hawaiian rolls-couldst’ resist, had to go there!). 

I’ll be taking the principles I shared with you above to heart myself. 

Q: Which one of the 3 speaks to ou the most? Leave me a comment and let me know!

Have a magical week wherever you are in the world!

Sometimes All You Need is a Break in the Pattern

Happy Tuesday! 

Before we dive into this week’s offering…I’d like to check in. 

How are you feeling post eclipse and 11:11 vibes? Did you notice anything coming up or weird dreams?

<We had an amazing turnout for the 11:11 Activation Night and the connection, downloads and energy were super powerful! We are still in the 11:11 energy corridor for about 24-48 more hours-if you’ve been wanting to get more clarity, you can still get the 11:11 Activation Night messages and Meditation journey, along with the Deep Journaling and Ritual ideas that you can use for any New or Full Moon. Go here (scroll down once you click and you can purchase Part 1-recording).>

This week’s question from the community: 

Q: I really want to start dating again, but every time I get to the point of possibly having a date, I come up with all kinds of excuses why this guy isn’t up to par and just sabotage it before it begins. I feel so tired after work and I don’t want to engage in a date so I default to watching TV and cancelling. I know it’s not getting me closer to being in a relationship but I can’t seem to stop this. What is wrong with me? What can I do to stop getting in my own way? Help! 

A: Thank you for reaching out! This is a very common scenario, and there are a few layers to unpack here. But the first thing I’ll say is there is nothing wrong with you. When I read the energy behind your question, the word ‘tired’ pops out. When we are tired (mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually), anything that our subconscious perceives is going to require MORE energy can be seen as a threat. An energy depletion. So it’s natural that if you are tired, having to be “on” with someone you aren’t comfortable with seems unnecessary. It’s self-protection but at the core of your question may be a combination of:

  1. Energetic Management: 
    • Find out what small tweaks you may be willing to make to your schedule so that you are energised by what you’re doing vs depleting at the end of the day. This will make it easier to have the bandwidth to actually discern whether a particular date is in fact your intuition telling you, Don’t bother. Or…just a not today because I’m exhausted but I’d meet this guy for a date tomorrow-kinda scenario. 
  2. Let Someone Else Play Bad Cop: 
    • To break the pattern requires doing different things. If it helps, have a friend on call the day you know you have a date. You can instruct them to call or text you before to remind you to check in with yourself and to get out of your house in service to your bigger why-which is to be in a relationship! Even if it turns out that you aren’t attracted to the guy or vice versa, you never know who that person knows and they may introduce you to your future husband. But you’ll never know if you don’t leave the couch. 

The more you can call back your energy and re-assess what is actually draining you, and the more open you are to receiving support, the easier it will be to silence that self-protective, well meaning saboteur and get out there to meet your Mr. Right. 

Q: If you’re reading this and you’ve been through something similar, what have you found helped you? What advice would you give the woman above? Share your comments on the blog and as always, know that you are beautiful, worthy and deserving of amazing love NOW! 

Have a great week!

The Old Adage Really is True (Dating Advice)

Happy Aries Full Moon week!

The airwaves are powerful. 

Communications can be fiery, direct and full of passion. 

You may find you get a burst of energy from out of nowhere…or feel like you want to punch a wall.

It’s a great week to shore up your inner courage, channel your bold, bad-ass alter ego, and behave in ways that make you feel proud and may even shock you.

Today, I am answering a dating question about mixed signals:

“Diana, I’ve bee on 4 dates with this guy. All was going well (I thought) and we even talked casually about the next date. It’s been over a week and I don’t know where it’s going. I’ve been texting him and he does respond to me – and they are sweet, but he has yet to book the next date or initiate a text or conversation. I’m trying to stay in my ‘feminine’ but I feel so frustrated. What am I missing?”

A: Ah, yes the mystery of the great post-4th date. Often times in the first few dates, men (and women) are on their best behaviour and are often presenting their best sides. But by the4th or 5th dates, generally speaking, true colours may start to emerge and people’s natural way of being becomes more apparent. 

So, in the spirit of being bold and direct with the Aries Full Moon, it boils down to the old adage “Actions speak louder than words.” Yup-if you have not received a message from this man and he’s not trying to book the next date and nail dow a time with you, he’s either a). primarily a feminine-energy centred man (in which case, he will happily respond to your texts ad initiated conversations and invitations) or b). it’s simply not a priority for him.

If you are a feminine-energy centred woman naturally, then it may feel a bit weird to always be initiating conversation. If imitating feels easy and natural and you are more comfortable in your masculine energy, then you can be cold and ask this guy out to the farmers market! But if not…then giving him space t have to make a move is key. And if he doesn’t…well, then take that as a clear sign through in-action that the is not interested and move on goddess!

Q: Have you had an experience where the communication/attention wanes after the first few dates? What happened and how did you navigate that? Share with us below!

Is Ego bad? (Q+A time!)

Happy Tuesday! 

How was your Equinox?

Thank you so much to everyone who signed up for the Autumn Healing Meditation!

If you’d lie to get a copy of the recording to listen to and gain the energy benefits, you can go here and we will send it to you!

Today, I’m answering a question from our Goddess community.

Q: “Diana, I’ve been really working on my spiritual practice and trying to not take things personally in relationships. It’s not easy! One thing I wondered about – Ego bad? Where is the line between having a healthy Ego and an unhealthy one?

I love this question! Ego gets a really bad rap but really it has a very important purpose in our Lives!

Understanding this purpose can help you in all relationships. 

After you listen: 

Q: Do you listen to your Ego? Share with us in the comments!