I was so afraid of being hurt again…

Opening your heart again after being betrayed or hurt can feel really scary.

There is this transformative energy in the air, especially with this past weekend’s Harvest Moon/lunar eclipse.

Can you feel it?

There is tremendous opportunity right now to let go of the heavy shackles that have kept you stuck from the past.

A time when karmic debts can be paid.

And a lightness into the new is inevitable.

But sometimes we can get in our own way from allowing these opportunities in.

I was speaking with a woman awhile back who shared how uncomfortable it felt to even think about opening up to a new relationship.

Even though she really was yearning for a life partner.

For the sake of privacy, let’s call her *Ann.

Ann had been taken advantage of several times before and she felt this push-pull between wanting to leap into the dating scene again after years…and just focusing on her career and not bothering.

When she asked my advice on what she could do to open her heart if she entertained the first option, here’s what I shared…

What to believe to open your heart…

It boils down to this: know + believe that you are safe.

When we don’t feel safe, we hide ourselves.

We give from a protective, limited space that says, “I don’t want to give too much in case you try to take too much or hurt me.”

It is based in a scarcity, not-enough energy and it repels the very thing you seek: love.

What can you do if you realize you’ve been operating from this space?

It basically comes down to reminding our inner Child that the grown up Goddess within you is in charge.

It’s not that you never feel afraid.

It’s that your belief that you are accepted and safe even with those fears is stronger.

In that space, when you’ve been reassuring your inner Child that you are enough.

That there is always enough of anything to go around.

That it is safe to give and receive love, and that you’ll know quickly if there’s someone that isn’t helpful to engage in relationships with.

Magic opens.

When we don’t take care of the inner kid in us, that’s when it’s easy to sabotage.

To think the Universe is not on your side, and that you have to keep your guard up all the time.

To go out with inappropriate partners.

To close yourself off from opportunities to meet new people.

To over-indulge in distractions like TV, overeating or toxic thoughts that keep you from taking action you know you need to take.

It all starts with a decision: 1) Are you willing to reassure your inner child that you will take care of it? 2) Are you willing to open your heart, even when you don’t “do it perfectly?”

If so, say YES in the comments!

ps: If you are ready to release layers of energetic blockages so that you can learn how to love yourself, open your heart and call in a soul mate partner in 2020, I would love to work with you! I’ve helped hundreds of folks to let go of their blocks and increase their self-confidence and feminine attraction energy! Next step:Go here to book a time to connect with me for a 15-min intro consultation.

does the ‘one’ exist? Q+A time!

Happy Wednesday!

Today, I’d love to take a question from our Goddess community about this whole concept of The One.

Want to ask me something for a future month? Go here

Q:  “I’m confused. Can several people be “the one” for you and why or why not? I feel scared that I may have missed my chance as a man I thought was the love of my life chose to marry someone else. Is it too late for me?”

A: Check it out here

are they ready or are you wasting your time?

Today’s Q+A is about marriage/commitment.

Q: I’ve been burned a lot in the past by men who couldn’t commit. I feel cautious dating again and am wondering, are there signs I should look for that the person I’m seeing is open for marriage?

A: Oooo, I love this question. It can feel really scary to put yourself out there only to discover that the person you’re interested in isn’t on the same page-in this case, around commitment.

There are 3 common dating behaviors I see in my private practice. 

One of them is a sign you can tell before you are monogomous.

The other two are for when you’ve been with the person awhile and want to know if you’re on track for the M-word 🙂

Check out the full answer below in this video:

Q: Have another sign you’d like to add? Share in a comment below!

ps: Would you like more specific support around your relationship or dating life?
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how to handle a guy’s mixed signals

Happy Wed!

It’s Full Moon week (August 15) and one of the things that can come up especially around that time is dealing with mixed signals.

Emotions tend to heighten around full moons anyway, and if you’ve ever gone through that dance of having someone text you everyday…to hearing crickets, you know how frustrating it can be!

The advice I share in this week’s audio can be applied to any relationship in your life, not just romantic, so have a listen and allow yourself to feel everything that’s coming up to be released this week.

Listen to your inner guidance and know that it’s all going to be okay!

ps: I have a funny meme you’ll want to check out (check it out below)

pps: Have you ever wished you had a map for life? Something that helped guide you in making day-to-day decisions? Check out this (free) video workshop from my friend Colette Baron-Reid. It’s called Navigate Your Destiny with Oracle Cards and it gives you a step-by-step guide of how to use Oracle Cards to get guidance around your life questions and feel more confident about the choices you make each day.

can you be friends with an ex?

Is it possible to be friends with a ex?

It can definitely be a gray area but it’s not impossible.

How do you even make that transition without it feeling super weird and fake?

Is there anything you can do to lay the groundwork for a healthy friendship after a breakup?

I tackle all these questions in today’s Goddess audio!