A Great Mantra to Banish Fear!

Happy Tuesday! 

I’m experimenting with sharing one of my favorite mantras with you each month to help you shift your energy in relationships.

Today, let’s talk about fear. 

Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for one, fear can rear its head and can be paralysing when you think about making any kind of change (even if the change serves you)!

What if I said the wrong thing?

What if I make the wrong decision? 

What if I’m just not good enough? 

A great mantra to help shift fear is: “Perfect Love Now Casts Out Fear.”

I first saw this in the great book by Catherine Ponder, The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity and fell in love with it. 

It’s anchored in the idea that Perfect Love (Divine Love) is stronger than Fear that is constructed from our human mind. 

Where there is Divine Love there cannot be Fear at the same time, so essentially, you are choosing to stay in the vibe of love. 

How to use it:

In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how your feel.

Will you play with this over th week and let me know how it goes? Hit reply or share a comment! 

The more you can acknowledge the fear and quietly affirm that is has niko power over you, the easier it is to take action in your love life because you know you are safe.

And you are. 

ps: Have you pick up your copy of the best selling book, The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again? If not, check it out right here: https://dianadorell.com/shop/

5 Signs to Leave a Relationship

Happy Tuesday! 

How was your weekend? 

Did you remember to do something special for yourself? 

It could be something simple like taking 10 min to just read a book you’ve been meaning to. Or to just breathe and bestill and stare at the ceiling fan to calm your brain!

It’s so important, Goddess.

Today’s Q+A circles around a breakup potential of a relationship: “Hey Diana, I’ve been in this relationship for not that long but all my friends tell me to break up with him. I feel like I’ve been in and out of so many relationships an I don’t want to throw in the towel, but things have felt so tough. How do you know for sure when it’s time to leave a relationship? Please help! Thank you in advance!”

This isn’t a black and white ind of answer, but if you’re in a situation where you’re not sure to consider leaving, here are 5 signs that it may bedtime to consider moving forward with the breakup.

It’s never easy to leave a relationship, even if you now in your heart it’s time. 

But watching out for these 5 signs can help you assess your situation to make the decision a bit more clear. 

Q: Which one of these signs sticks out to you the most? What advice would you give someone considering a breakup? 

Leave us a comment and let us know!

How to Have a Happy Relationship (5 Secrets from Happily Committed Couples!)

Happy Tuesday to you!

Can I share some exciting news before we get into today’s post? 

This weekend I am getting married to my love!

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know it hasn’t been an easy road to get to this point!

I’ve had my heart broken, more than a few times.

I’ve broken hearts without meaning to.

I’ve doubted that I could ever love again or that maybe I was just too much for someone. 

I’ve feared letting someone in-what if they saw something they didn’t like and leave? 

So many things, Goddess!

But what I do know (OMG I channeled Oprah just then!) is that a ‘happy relationship’ is something  that can be cultivated. 

Once your inner ‘house’ is ready to receive another person and they you, there are things you can do to maintain a level of balance and happiness in your partnership.

And by the way, what I’m about to share also applies to friendships and other relationships too!

Here are 5 secrets to a happy relationship:

For more secret nuggets, watch the video but here is the quick cliff-notes version:

  1. Calendar ‘couple time’
  2. Find something to appreciate about the other person daily-and express it.
  3. Maintain your personal joy (don’t stop doing the things that make you happy). Be responsible for your own happiness.
  4. Make each other a priority.
  5. Explore professional support to make the relationship stronger.

ps: Want more support? Schedule a private, complimentary Into To Love Consultation here!

Is it Too Late for You? (The Ex Files-True Story)

Happy Tuesday!

Have you ever had the thought, ‘it’s just too late for me?’

It’s too late to get married-there are no good men out there. 

It’s too late to follow my dreams-I’d have to go back to school.

It’s too late to (you fill in the blank!)

It’s so easy to listen to that comment in your head and put all these silly constraints on what’s possible for you to receive!

And really, what I have found in over a decade of this work, is that more often than not, anytime you begin sentence with it’s too late…it’s about control.

Not getting hurt.

Not feeling pain.

Not having to be rejected or judged.

It’s human nature.

I’ve been there too and today I wan to share a true story from my ex file about it. 

You ready? 

I had just turned 30 and had recently broken up with a guy we’ll call Mr. T.

I had read about an earthquake hitting his home town overseas via my personal news anchor aka my dad who sends me critical news in the form of two line emails (I don’t watch TV or read the news a lot and he worries that I’ll miss something!)

I was still hurting from the break-up – (I was supposed to go visit him overseas and we broke up the week before my flight…I know great timing, right?)

Thoughts like ‘it’s too late’ for me to tell him how I really feel because then he’ll think I’m whiny and desperate. 

It’s too late to show him I still care for him, even though it didn’t work out. 

Anyhow, when I saw the news, I hadn’t talk to Mr. T in a few months and I’m kind of embarrassed to admit that it took catastrophic event for me to get out of my own way.

Divine intervention ensued.

I was awoken at 2:30AM with this pulsating in my gut. I had been crying and was prompted to go to Facebook and lo and behold, he was online. Before my logical mind and Ego feminine pride could kick in, I just sent him a message. Very simple. 

“I love you. I’m so glad you’re alive and you’re okay.”

Tummy happy.

His reply?

“I love you too. Thank. I okay.” (His English wasn’t perfect but it was brilliantly authentic).

So freakin simple.

There was no talk of reconciliation. No awkward so “how are you faring since we’re not you know, a couple?” and certainly no fishing for details of each other’s dating lives.

It was just human to human.

Or Spirit to Spirit.

Love.

Real LOVE.

Attachment-free.

Expectation-free.

And best of all, that one simple action to override my pride and follow my intuition/instinct to let him know I cared (without any agenda for myself) kicked the ‘it’s too late’ excuse in the ass. 

Here’s the deal: TRUTH TELLING TIME

It’s NEVER too late to trust your intuition and follow through on what it’s telling you.

It’s NEVER too late to surrender your Ego and pride in the name of authenticity.

It’s NEVER too late to SHOW UP FULLY. Bruises. War wounds and all.

So, I ask you:

  1. “Where have you believed that it’s TOO LATE in your life?” (Go with your first instinct here. Note: It’s usually the one you’ve been avoiding the most)
  2. “What action however small could you take RIGHT NOW to flip the script?”
  3. Go do that. (And get off Facebook already unless that’s your action and then by all means, rock it sister!)

ps: If you’re wanting to bring in love, need to forgive yourself/move on from a love or just need to feel HAPPY and LIGHT, check out this love meditation, “Journey to Love” in the Goddess shop that I actually created right after I had that conversation with said ex! 

How Past Lives Can Affect Your Love Life

Happy Tuesday! 

Have you ever taken a spontaneous road trip with a friend? 

I recently did to go see Tyler Henry, The Hollywood Medium, from the Netflix show, Life After Death. 

It was an incredible experience and we stayed in a gorgeous Old Hollywood hotel founded in 1957 by none other than Lucille all and Desi Arnez!

Pics below!

Super classy and definitely from another time. 

I felt so at home there and one of friends said, “It’s like you should have grown up during the ’40s and ’50s Diana!” 

I didn’t disagree! Ever since I ca remember, I’ve been obsessed with the clothes, the music, the vibe!

The whole trip felt like a bit of a time travel and it got me thinking about a conversation I had with a client about past lives and how they can affect our love life in the present. 

Have you ever felt there was an unconscious pattern that you keep playing out in relationships that isn’t seeing you but still feels like you can’t shake? 

It’s quite possible you could be reacting from a past life programming that is keeping you a bit stuck now. 

Signs unresolved past life issue could be at play: 

  • a feeling like you can’t move forward from an old relationship, despite every effort you make
  • repeating the pattern of dating the same guy with a different face (even though socially. you have done all the work to not do this!) 
  • feeling ‘stuck’ creatively, like you have hit some kind of invisible ceiling
  • and more! 

But how do you start to clear the past life issue? 

It all starts by identifying what keeps happening that you don’t want to repeat. 

And also asking – hey, what if any past lives do I need to be aware of that could be affecting this pattern? 

Journal on that for the next week – -nothing at al may come up at first, but be open to receiving nudges and signs and asking away!

And here’s the kicker – observing yourself without judgement. 

Getting a past life healing or reading can also be incredibly helpful!

This is something I dive into deeper with private clients if the energy calls for it – to help them get unstuck! 

Knowledge is power!

Q: What time periods are you naturally drawn to? Have you ever identified any patters that seem to connect to it?

I’d love to hear from you!

Have a blessed week!