My Fave Self-Love Ritual – Happy International Self-Love Day!
Happy International Self-Love Day (Feb 13!)!
Did you know that in numerology, the number 13 actually represents magic and alchemy? It’s a vibration that can help you transform any beliefs and ways of being that you know are standing in your way, especially around love!
One of my fave things to do on this day and actually this week especially is to block off time to do a self-love experience.
Regardless of your relationship ‘status’ creating a 5-star self love experience, even if it’s just for 15 minutes can have a really positive impact on your mental and emotional health, which impact the quality of your relationships and also level of self-confidence!
In this week’s short (but super powerful) audio, you’ll learn:
- top 3 elements you’ll want to include when designing a 5-star self-love experience (whether it’s the whole day or 15 minutes!)
- the difference between being self-ish and self-love (this is often misunderstood, esp if you’re an empath like me!)
- the benefits of a self-love experience that go way beyond the in-the-moment enjoyment and more!
Listen below:
Q: What are you going to do for your self-love day/hour/experience? Hit reply and let me know!
This Will Make You Laugh (True Story)
Hi Goddess!
Happy Tuesday!
Have you ever had an unmistakable sign from the Universe? When it comes to love, I felt like a good chunk of my dating life, I was “spinning” and trying to make things happen. I was very much in my masculine energy.
This was helpful when it came to work and being productive, but when it came to attracting partners that really appreciated and loved me…. not just for what I did for them but for who I was, I kept striking out.
In the early 2000’s, I was also dating this hot Navy lieutenant long-distance who was exciting but I never knew where I stood with him.
Around the same time, I was first introduced to Angels and intuition and all that “woo-woo” stuff by a good friend named Zack. (Zack if you’re reading this, I know you will smile!)
I thought it was super silly but one night really reminded me of the power of surrendering, especially in love.
If you’ve been in my world awhile, you may have heard this story before but it’s a great one to remember if you’ve forgotten how loved you are, have been trying to do it all yourself and need a little nudge to reconnect.
Full disclosure: I haven’t shared this video in a long time. My hair is well, different than it is now. It is from a submission video I made to Hay House way back in 2010 about the power of intuition, trusting and asking for Divine assistance in dating. Since that time, I’ve spoken on numerous stages where I look wayyy more polished, and “together” but my heart and intuition said to share this raw one with you today.
After you watch it, I’m super curious:
Q: have you had a similar experience that required you to trust and question your own beliefs around love and being supported?
Hit reply or leave a comment underneath the blog. I’d love to hear from you!
Watch the video below:
Don’t Give Up – Go For 80, Yo!
Happy Tuesday!
Today’s Q+A: “What advice do you have for those times when dating feels like a full-time job? I feel like I’m losing steam and getting so discouraged but I don’t want to give up on love. Help!”
I love this question…and before we dive in, I have a question: Have you heard of the 80/20 rule?
It’s true in business.
It’s true in real estate.
And it’s also true in dating.
It goes like this, using the business example:
80% of sales are made from 20% of the customers.
Those 20% are die-hard fans and they make up 80% of a store/product’s revenue.
That means that more than half of the people that enter a store on any given day will never, ever buy.
Or buy sporadically when there’s a sale or something.
But I digress.
If we apply this to dating, it’s so easy to focus on the 80% of dates that suck, that leave you mystified with why there wasn’t a follow-up date or text or call.
It’s easy to beat yourself up and want to throw in the towel, when really, if you reframe it-20% of those date will most likely be amazing.
And…if we take it a step further, if you’re wanting to stay open to wonderful potential partners, what if you look for the 80% of what you love and admire in someone? No one, I repeat, no one is perfect and expecting 100% perfection will yield disappointment.
Even if the date goes nowhere, putting your focus and lens on looking for what is interesting about someone, or what they are brining out in you is sending positive energy out towards them and yourself.
And you’re more likely to notice when someone really is a great match for you.
So…in a nutshell:
- When you feel low, remember the stats: Not every date will be a winner. In fact, 80% may suck. But 20% will be interesting and get you closer to who you’re meant to be with.
- Stay open + focus on finding something interesting with every date you go on. You’ll have a lot more fun and who knows what magical opportunities could arise when you stay out of judgement and put away your long-ass requirements.
Q: What do you think about this 80/20 rule? How has it showed up in your life?
Leave a comment – I’d love to hear from you!