i have a weird issue (Q+A time!)

It’s Q+A week, where I take questions that come up in our fabulous community.

Do you have a question you’d like me to answer on a future blog? Go here to share it!

Today’s is about self-sabotage…and too many dates.

Q: Diana, I have a weird issue. I have more than 4 dates booked this week and I know I should feel really excited but all I want to do is have some alone time with myself. I’ve been saying I want more dates and now I have them and I feel like I’m sabotaging. What should I do? 

Even if you are not currently dating, this applies to all commitments you are making to yourself and others, so check out the advice in this week’s video! 

Prefer to read? I also include my written answer below

A: This is not a weird issue-thank you for asking and sharing this!

First off, just want to acknowledge you for creating what you said you wanted-4 dates in a week is amazing! And I also hear a lot of self-judgement-whenever we use the word “should” that’s a cue to look at-what could be happening and what can easily happen when we get flooded with awesome invitations, but we haven’t made self-care a priority is this low-level feeling of resentment, which may be what you are experiencing. It’s less about the guys you’re booking dates with and more highlighting that you need to carve out alone/recharge time before you agree to dates. We only have a finite amount of energy in any given day or week, so making sure you are filling your own energetic bucket first is key! My recommendation is to look at your calendar and block off 1-2 days or even half days that are just for you. I call these Flow Days but basically that is your sacred time. No dates or other appointments get scheduled during those times unless you have the energy and want to. This will protect your energy, fill up your tank and make it much easier to say yes to those awesome dates!

Much love,

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wait ’till the pan is hot…

Happy Wednesday!

Did you feel anything coming off the heels of the Pisces Full Moon last Friday/weekend? 

Full Moons are times of illumination and insight- where do you want to go? What needs to be eliminated or invited into your life?

Often times, we finally see the clouds part and get some clarity around what we want, and then are in such a damn hurry to get there.

Case in point: The other day, I was making myself pancakes (I loooove Kodak cakes, but I digress…). 

And I remember having an ex tell me that I had to wait until the pan was actually hot before pouring the batter on the skillet.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve just been so darn eager to get that first pancake out there that I sometimes even forget to turn on the stove!

And it got me thinking- relationships are kind of like that.

When we rush to “get him/her to like us” “snag a date” or “get the proposal, etc” before the proverbial pan is hot, good and ready, it can leave you feeling like I was waiting for that perfect pancake to cook …ASAP.

Confused. (Did I turn it on? Is the stove even working?! Piece of crap.)

Annoyed. (My stomach is rumbling-maybe I should have just bought those really crappy pre-made microwavable ones. They are good enough…not really.)

Frustrated. (Maybe I’m not supposed to have pancakes…cue dramatic music as I pretend I actually prefer a grapefruit and toast…not.)

I just had to wait until the stove was hot.

And chill out while I waited.

Instead of worrying or obsessing about why it was taking so long, I could have listened to Lewis Howes “School of Greatness” podcast. 


Heck, maybe even snuck in a plank or two.

So..yea, that’s your message this week.

Q: Where in your life do you feel in a hurry? Will you do us both (and the Universe) a favor and experiment with waiting until the pan is hot before freaking out?

Want what you want.

Take inspired actions as shown.

And then chill the F–out, ok?

My stomach really is rumbling as I type this sentence, so I’ll sign off for now.

Have an amazing week!

ps: Are you wanting some extra support to break through old patterns that you know are not helping you call in that amazing relationship? 

A big part of self care is loving yourself enough to stop going at it alone.

This is HUGE and if you are ready to get the ball rolling and explore, let’s hop on a consult call (complimentary and no strings attached) so I can learn more about you, what you want to create and how I can help. Go here

do this breath to let go of anxiety

Happy Wednesday!

This week, I’d love to share with you a very simple exercise to release anxiety and get out of your head.

As you know, when you find yourself up there, the energy constricts and it’s easy to think that you are not supported and block the flow of love.

In those moments when your mind is running away, obsessing about why something isn’t happening…or you find yourself beating yourself up for not doing this or that…it’s a wonderful remedy.

I call it the Heart-Womb Breath.

Clients have been using it all month with great success and reporting:

  • better sleep
  • improved mental clarity
  • feeling of calm amidst challenges and changes
  • lightness and more energy!

Check it out below (it takes literally 10 seconds and you can do it as long as you want).

sensational september! your message inside

Hi Goddess!

Happy September-can you believe we have 4 months left in 2019?

Seriously…where has it gone?!

If you are new to my world, welcome! Every first week of the month, I love pulling Goddess oracle cards for the entire month to share what you can expect on an energetic level.

As you watch, I encourage you to get out a sheet of paper and pause the video after each card, asking, “What could this mean for me?”

Pay attention to the symbols you are drawn to and write down what you feel.

September is a fabulous month for manifesting with grace and also coming at life from your heart space vs your head space. 

Watch below to check out the September Goddess Guidance Oracle message!

3 tips to use your feminine and masculine energy to manifest effectively (true story)

Have you been driving yourself mad trying to do it all alone, wondering why you seem to be manifesting slowly or not at all and getting exhausted in the process?

 This is the negative aspect of masculine energy. The positive one is taking Action and being clear and responsible for that action.

Have you been so passive and stuck in your head or emotions that you feel paralyzed to take action for fear that it won’t work out or that you will be judged?

This is the negative aspect of the feminine. The positive one is tuning in and opening up your receptivity, connecting to your inner wisdom before you act. 

If you are too much in one energy, life feels really, really hard. 

But when you can tune in (your feminine), then the actions become simple. (your masculine). They work together in harmony and you feel calm inside, even when what you’re dealing with is really challenging. 

Learning how to dance between the two is what it takes to attract a high-caliber, high-vibe intimate partnership.

I got reminded of both energies at an event I attended years ago. 

#1- Know what you’re asking for

Looked like…

Before the event, I sat in Meditation and felt myself connecting to so many people. (Feminine).

I took the time to feel the energy of love coming out of my heart chakra to theirs and receiving love back if they were sending it to me. 

It made me giddy and excited and I felt lots of warm energy and Angels around. 

I would attract in people who were ready for the work and who were willing to invest in themselves/saw the value of the services I was offering. (The Masculine). 

I would stay open to who I was meant to serve and trusted that they would come (Feminine) and would remember to also clearly state my services and hand them a flier about my work and events (Masculine). With that, we packed up and went to the Fair.

#2:  Trust Your Feminine, Then Activate Your Masculine

I was at the event for many hours and there were inevitable slow periods so my friend and I would take turns being at the booth. 

(And you guys know I go a little stir crazy if I am asked to sit for too long) so I decided I’d walk around to see the other vendors, treat myself to a reading or a gift, explore, go get more water, walk out for a moment to feel the sun, etc. 

Well, whenever I’d come back, my friend (with a big smile on her face that said, “I’m trying to figure out how to say this nicely….”)said,

“Diana, every time you walk away and go explore, the people come and want to book a mini session with you but you aren’t here. 

One older woman came back twice. I wasn’t sure what to tell her.”

Ok. Pause.

A few years ago, I would have chained myself to that booth chair for fear that I would “not be available or miss out somehow.” 

I would have sacrificed my well being and done readings even when I had no water, had to pee or my stomach was growling because I had skipped lunch to help people.  

I went back to my original intention around trusting that the people I was meant to serve would be there.

 And I would also be pro-active in sharing what I could help them with if I felt that nudge within.

#3: Receive Divine Confirmation + Stop Questioning It (and yourself)

Ironically, this older woman came back (and my friend was the one wandering now.)

She was distraught, a little scattered but very happy to see me. She didn’t say anything except to ask timidly, “…Are YOU.Dianaaaaa Dorell.….?????”  

I just smiled and replied, “Yes I am. Nice to meet you!” 

She mentioned that she had been waiting for me. 

But then something unexpected came out of my mouth. 

Before I had her sit down, I (well, really the Angels/Spirit) started chatting about how I had just treated myself to a mini-reading with this woman on the other side of the room from me and how fabulous she was. 

The older woman’s eyes got wide and she said, “Oh, does she charge money?” I said, “I think it’s by donation but not required. 

And she said, “Well, I have to go see her then! I don’t have any money!” 

And off she went.

Now, I now some of you may be sitting there thinking, “Diana, that was so silly! You just turned away business!”

 But my intuition knew better. 

There was a reason why that came out of my mouth. 

I was not meant to serve her and she could be better served with this other woman. 

And it was no accident that each time she came by, I was unexpectedly “out of the office.” 

Not surprisingly, after I had my luxurious lunch, had received a mini reading for myself and replenished my water bottle, I attracted lotsof people, some of who did get a reading and others who I am considering partnering with to help other men and women!  

The best part? They got all of me. Not the overgiving Diana who was exhausted. 

The full, sparkly Goddess version of me, which is where I do my best work and have the most fun!

It all comes back to you:

I got exactly what I asked for.  And I truly believe that the reason why was that I didn’t let my mind, any fears or other people’s opinions or beliefs override my own inner wisdom.

I believe you can have the relationship you really want, especially if you are willing to commit 100% to this dance between these two energies. 

It takes trust, practice, faith, yes. 

But if you can stay in the middle, which is knowing when it’s time to activate (take action/masculine) and when you need to simply hold space and let it be (tune into your feminine), life can be pretty sweet!

Q: Have you struggled with being too much in your masculine or feminine? Share with us in the comments!

ps: If you are struggling with tuning into your feminine energy and want to learn how to trust it to attract great love and opportunities, let’s connect! This is what I love helping clients with!