Happy Winter Solstice!

I’ve been loving wearing layers and fuzzy slippers, spacing out looking at all theXmas lights and lighting candles are the home. 

How about you?

As we draw close to the end of 2021, a lot of the conversations I’ve had with friends and clients and colleagues have all kinda circled around the same thing-law of attraction!

And when it comes to relationships, I feel strongly called to explore a different perspective with you because I feel like there’s a lot of negative self-talk and self-blame around it!

Here’s my feeling on the Law of Attraction: as always, follow your own intuition-I’m just sharing my two cents.

Sometimes, yes, we attract people are in our lives that ‘match’ us energetically nd it can e uncomfortable to see that if you keep attracting people you don’t want, you may need to look at where you yourself are exhibiting the same pattern (perhaps in another area of your life.) When you clean that up, you may find you attract this pattern less. 

And… I always want to throw out there that sometimes people are in your space simply to show you how committed (or uncommitted) you are to what you desire. 

It’s a really delicate line but it’s so easy to go into a downward spiral thinking, “What’s wrong with me that I attracted ANOTHER emotionally unavailable guy?”

Instead, you can choose to see it as an opportunity to say, “Wow-thank you for the reminder that I no longer am available for unavailable men. I am more clean than ever before on this!”

Then, the next time your body sends you those clean, unmistakable red flags that you are about to fall into an all-familiar pattern, you just won’t engage with it or let it go further than it should. 

And with that newly strengthened commitment to YOU, it may feel less scary to take the actions that you know would support you.

Examples: 

If he isn’t calling or responding to you, instead of going into overdrive and texting, emailing and leaving voicemails for him, you back off and go about your day. 

If you’re always the friend who is reaching out to make plans, stop making plans and see if your friend steps up (or have that conversation about how you’d love to shift the dynamic!) 

If you keep getting passed over for promotion at work, instead of your old pattern of holding it all in, you make a list of all the contributions you’ve made to the company over the past sex months and schedule a time to meet with your boss. 

Q: Now I ask you. What is one brae action you have already taken or will take in service to your dreams? 

Any thoughts on Law of Attraction to share? 

I’d love to hear from you!

Have an amazing Xmas if you celebrate it and rest of your week.