The #1 excuse I hear that keeps you stuck + 3 signs to know you are in resistance

What you resists, persists.

You may have heard that before.

It’s true. Quick story for you!

I was speaking with a woman who is extremely intuitive. She’s smart. Funny. Beautiful. And on more than one occasion, she’s said, “I really want to find a man who gets me. I wonder if that’s ever going to happen.” So, I reply with, “Well, what have you done so far to put yourself out there so he can find you?” Her reply? I could feel the energy shift immediately and her tone even changed and I knew what was coming next because I’d said it a thousand times to myself before too. “Oh, I mean, of course I want a relationship, but right now, I’m focusing on building my business. Right now, I’m <launches into endless tirade of important business goals, etc” Hmmmm…..

One word folks: RESISTANCE

Now, as a fellow entrepreneur, I am all too familiar with the whole, “I’m too busy for love…I’m building my business mantra” but I’m here to call B.S on the whole thing.

The truth is you may really scared to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. Maybe you got hurt when you did before and you’re afraid it will happen again. I so get that. And building your business IS important. It’s when you’re using it as a shield to not risk opening your heart to intimacy and the possibility of something new that it becomes a block.

To find the love you are truly seeking, the spiritual, sexy, soul-riveting man you want, you are going to have to get past that Egoic resistance in your head that keeps you safe, emotionally-closed off and conveniently too “busy” to make space for love to come into your fabulous sphere! And….the good news is that….

“The more resistance you have, the greater potential you have for love to come in when you break through it!” CLICK HERE TO TWEET THAT!


Just when you’re on the brink of going after what you really want in love, you’re feeling warm and excited with the possibility of your desire ….and then these signs may pop up to let you know you’re in resistance.

3 Signs to Know You May Be in Resistance:

1. Your breath becomes more shallow (you’re breathing from your upper chest) and you may find it hard to take a full breath. (You’re about to go into your head/logical mind)

2. You rationalize away. You go into your head and tick off all the reasons why something else is more important, why it can’t happen now or why you aren’t “ready” yet. It will seem so real and you may find that your heart rate actually slows down after you rationalize.  (Ego wanting to be safe at any cost)

3. You find yourself judging others who are going for what they want or judging yourself for not being X enough at X. (It’s easier to compare ourselves or berate ourselves for not being perfect than actually take a risk and possibly look ridiculous). 

The good news is that once you catch yourself doing any of the three things above, you have an awesome opportunity to close your eyes, breathe deeply, stop and make a new choice to take a step closer to what you want, even if it’s scary!

I Believe in YOU. 

Now I want to hear from YOU: Have you ever used “I’m too busy” or work as an excuse to not put yourself out there? Have you ever found yourself in any of the 3 signs of resistance? What are the other ways that we tend to sabotage having awesome relationships? Post your insights! 

Sending you so much love! HAPPY HALLOWEEN!


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Me as Ava Gardner, official man magnet of the ’40s.

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Divine Timing vs. Body Timing in love and life (essential if you want to manifest BIG!)

Have you ever been in this situation?

You just created this MASSIVE manifestation: an influx of new clients, more money, a new relationship, a new home or you successfully launched a new product and…your body goes into SHOCK MODE.

Maybe you get the flu, need to sleep more than normal or you get injured.

 And you wonder, “What’s the deal?”

Is it REALLY Divine Timing that your body would give out just as soon after you manifested this awesome thing? Why does that keep happening?

In this video you will learn:

  • A true story about up-leveling my life when my body just couldn’t seem to keep up

  • The difference between Divine Timing and Body Timing

  • What you can do to not beat yourself up for being “unproductive” when your body goes out after manifesting like a mo’fo!


After you watch it, I want to hear YOUR stories! Post them using the Leave a Comment button below!



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Have you ever felt like your body can’t keep up with your manifestations? Share your insights!


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afraid of losing your freedom in a relationship? this could be why!

Do you want to be an awesome relationship but wonder, “What if I lose myself and my freedom if I actually were to go for it?”


This video is for you!


You will learn:

(4:06 min)

  • how to stop letting the fear of losing your freedom interfere with your ability to find true love (I’m going to teach you how to channel it so it works FOR you not against you!)


  • the block that keeps most intuitive singles from being able to REALLY go for the long-term relationship they keep saying they want (this may surprise you!)


  • 2 soul-level questions you can ask yourself to get unstuck and free up Ego mind chatter


Watch it below! And be sure to post your insights and thoughts by using the Leave a Comment button below the video!


Take Action: YOUR TURN—> How do YOU define FREEDOM? What words are relationship triggers for you? What are your relationship alignment words?


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should you take your ex back or let him go?

 I LOVE this question and I have a true story from my own dating life that I’d like to share with you today.

But before I go there, my good friend, Love Coach, Kavita J. Patel has a FREE video series for those of you who are done being single and today, her video is all about the question: Should You Take Your Ex Back or Let Him Go?

If you’re not already enrolled in this free awesome training of hers, please click here. I promise it will be well worth your time! And my story below is the background for why I feel Kavita’s videos are so relevant if you’re going through something similar right now.


My Story About How I Got My Ex Back and Trusting Your Intuition: The Big Ben…


In my early 20’s, I was dating this amazing teacher named Ben who I met in the Teach for America corp. He was handsome, funny and super smart. I was instantly attracted to him and before long we were an item. We dated for about a year and a half when something in my belly told me something just wasn’t quite right. It had nothing to do with him and everything to do with me. I was exploring my sexuality and I felt torn between being his serious girlfriend (he was on the verge of proposing, wanting me to live with him, talking about babies, the whole nine yards) and I kept having this gnawing desire to explore my options. I didn’t feel ready for that kind of commitment as I still had something unresolved within myself about who I was.


So, after a lot of tears and 3 AM soul wake-up calls, I broke it off with him. He was heart-broken but he understood and said, “I can’t meet all your needs and I don’t want to hold you back. I love you.” It was so painful and I felt horribly guilty. But we were still in the same teaching circles, so I saw him all the time and each time, it was like someone was driving a knife into my heart and I couldn’t breathe. He was my best friend;  I was so devastated and I could barely get out of bed to go to the school to teach. Had I made the biggest mistake of my life?


After about three weeks, I couldn’t take it anymore. I called him and he answered. “Ben….it’s Diana.” He was quiet on the other end. “Is it too late?” I could feel him smile on the other end of the line and he said, “No! It’s not too late! I’m coming right over.” And I remember him opening up the door, tears streaming down my face and kissing him like we were in some rom-com where the music swells really big and they run the credits. “I missed you so much.” “Me too…” And we were like lovebirds again. All was well for about a month. Then, one evening, I woke up again at 3AM. Again that gnawing in my belly. A gentle but persistent voice said, “Diana, why did you really call him that night a month ago? What is this really about?” I wanted to drown it out so bad. But when I got quiet in that deafening silence, my intuition answered, “Because I felt so lonely without him and I wasn’t ready to honor my nudges about exploring. I was afraid if I didn’t call him, I would have lost the love of my life and I should want that life. I’m at the right age. He loves me. I love him. But if I don’t explore, I’ll hate myself and I’ll resent him.” There it truth. Naked, inconvenient and oh-so-annoying!



We broke up again and this time it was for good. I did a lot of soul-searching during that time with myself and I made a lot of mistakes, but part of my recovery was going to a personal development workshop downtown where we had to call anyone we ever hurt on the 30 minute break. Ben’s name was at the top of my list. A year after that final devastating call, my intuition told me to call him. To make amends (mostly for myself feeling so guilty that I took us both through not one but TWO soul-shattering break-ups.) I picked up the phone to dial his number and to my surprise, he answered! He said, “I wasn’t going to answer, but I thought your timing was too crazy. Do you know where I am?” “No,” I replied, feeling this huge knot in my throat. He said, “I just bought an engagement ring. I’m proposing to my girlfriend. I’m so grateful you came into my life but you don’t need to apologize for anything. I will always love you but you and I, it’s just too much. It’s like Romeo and Juliet. It’s so intense and I don’t want us to DIE like they did in order to be who we really are in this world. Thank you.” Wow. Full circle. We set each other free and the last time I heard, he is still happily married and has a beautiful baby boy.

The Point of the Story:

  • It can be really confusing to know whether you should try and get your ex back or let him/her go for good. It’s about honesty. (Kavita’s video today breaks down EXACTLY what you need to ask in order to know for sure!)
  • Your intuition knows the truth. Stop saying you “don’t know.” You do know. Listen. What is it telling you? Listen!
  • Everything is in perfect and Divine order. If you are meant to be back together,  you will be. And if not, it’s okay. If you are coming from a space of OVERFLOW and AUTHENTICITY vs. NEEDINESS (like I was in the  middle of my story!) you will always win. Even if it’s not with that person.

Take Action:

WATCH KAVITA’s VIDEO #2: Getting Your Ex Back or Letting Him Go For GOOD!









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Diana Dorell, Your Intuitive Relationship Coach

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should you text him? a spiritual insight from me + a sample script that works!

You want lasting love.

You want your soulmate.

Heck, at the very least, you want a guy who treats you with respect, who plans dates and makes you feel like a million bucks, right?

Listen up.

What I’m about to share may seem simple.

Maybe even obvious.

But a LOT of the highly intuitive, successful men and women that I’m called to work with are all making the same choice and overlooking this crucial dating nugget. And the best part? It’s all within your power and control!


 Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s video:

  To Text or Not To Text, That is the Question!

  • The truth about dating “rules” and when to text back or give up
  • The superpower you have that sets the tone for a successful relationship or a short-lived, unsatisfying one
  • A sample script of exactly what to say when you want to change communication styles without feeling needy or pushy



“It’s not about dating rules. It’s about energetic alignment!”  TWEET THIS! 





1) How do you feel about texting to set up dates? Like it? Hate it? Why?


2)  Do you have a story you can share about communication mishaps or things that helped you communicate BETTER with a date?


Post a comment!


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“Hi (their name). Thanks so much for your text message. I would love to go out with you and I just wanted to let you know that I prefer scheduling our dates over the phone vs. texting. Look forward to hearing from you and hope you are having a great day!”