How to decipher the “I love you but I’m not IN love with you” line

“I love you, but I’m just not “in love” with you anymore.”


It’s the most frustrating thing to hear and let’s face it, in our head it basically translates to “OMG he doesn’t love me anymore! What’s wrong with ME?”Been there.And today I’d like to reveal the truth behind that commonly used line. First, it has nothing to do with you. This is not a ploy to make him/her the bad guy. It’s just the truth.It’s not even really about the relationship itself.(What? you may think. Diana has lost it! Stay with me…)


I’ve worked with many many singles and also couples, both happily married and not so happily married. And from all the happily married and long-term loves I’ve had the pleasure of connecting with over the years, including couple that has been together over 43 years!  the verdict is the same.

In this video you will learn:

  • the real meaning behind the “I love you but I’m not IN love with you” line
  • the one thing all happily married couples have that separates them from the unhappy ones
  • the truth behind what happens after the honeymoon phase that makes or break your relationship 

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So now you know. And now I’d love to hear from you!



Have you ever had someone say that they loved you but they weren’t “in love” with you? Have you been the one to say it? What was that like and what insights did you learn about yourself? Share your stories and tips with us! Love hearing from you!


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Use this Sanskrit mantra to help you open to love with ease

Do you desire more love? You must shed the belief that attracting love is the result of struggle. First we must practice acceptance of the present moment and the easier your life becomes. -paraphrased from Deepak Chopra


Wow. So simple, but true isn’t? The Buddhists believe that our suffering comes from the pain of our attachments to anything and the addiction to struggle.Let’s face it. When it comes to matters of the heart, it can be incredibly difficult to buy into the idea that we deserve for love to come easily and with very little effort. We are almost programmed to feed into the belief that there is something wrong with us if we just show up as we are naturally, the way we look, talk, etc. Why didn’t he call? What was the subliminal message behind that text? What does it say about me that he/she didn’t reply to my email?


Stru…ggle.It’s exhausting. I’m so done. I’m going on a struggle strike.Want to join me? I’ll bring brownies (gluten-free of course) and sangria. Just kidding. Although that would be fun.There is hope! I recently learned a powerful Sanskrit mantra from Deepak Chopra specifically designed to help you open to receive more and create more (of anything not just romantic love) with zero struggle and minimal effort.


Now, I want to be clear. Effort and taking action is required. Discomfort may happen when you venture outside those safe little bubbles you’re used to operating in. No one gets a free pass on that highway. But using this mantra is intended to help you step into the flow of your heart and be inspired to receive, listen to your intuitive nudges and then take natural actions vs. struggling internally and pushing through with actions that leave you feeling more needy and exhausted. Capiche?


SANSKRIT MANTRA: Law of Least Effort

“OM -DAKSHUM- NAMAH” (written as it’s pronounced)


Translation: “My actions achieve maximum benefit with minimal effort”


Directions for using the mantra:

1. Get centered and take a few deep breaths. It’s best to be in a place where you will undisturbed for at least 5-10 minutes.


2. Close your eyes and focus on your breath. With every inhalation, visualize yourself receiving love or whatever it is you want to call in. On every exhalation, visualize yourself letting go of the need to control the outcome, to force or to struggle. Do this at least 3X or until you feel completely present.


3. With your eyes closed, repeat the mantra, OM DAKSHUM NAMAH. You can set a timer if you like for 2-3 minutes. Repeat this with intention to let go of struggle and call forth your heart’s desires with grace and ease. You can do this aloud or mentally silently if you are in a public place.


4. Close by slowing bringing yourself into the room, taking one final deep breath and opening your eyes. Bring your hands together at heart center or prayer position, which is a symbol of acknowledgement and connection to your Higher Self. You’re all done! Repeat as often as you like!


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Your Intuitive Relationship Coach, Diana Dorell

Your Intuitive Relationship Coach, Diana Dorell

Why you’re not getting what you want (a simple but powerful shift you can make to change this)

Declaring what you want can be one of the most powerful things you ever do.It takes a certain conviction and trust to really step up to yourself and say, “This is exactly what I want.” It puts you in the drivers’ seat of your life and then Spirit can support you, sending you people, creative ideas and unexpected delays and opportunities to bring it to you.So often we water our original desires down because of reasons like…


—how could that ever happen? it’s never happened to me before

—I asked for what I wanted before and I got hurt or I didn’t get it so why even bother?

—that’s for ‘other people’, more spiritual, wealthy, beautiful, etc than I am


So we ask for something smaller. Something more comfortable. Or something super ambiguous, like, “I want to be more happy. I want more love. I want more money.” It’s general enough that we believe we’re being clear, but the reason you may ask for things like that and not see them in your life is 

that the underlying subconscious feeling behind your request is not truly aligned to what you really, really desire.So, why do we water down our desires, especially when it comes to love and relationships?




Fear of not being good enough.


Worthy enough.


Deserving enough.


That’s where we trip ourselves up all the time, isn’t it?


But if you want to prepare to meet a soulmate relationship or even to just feel more alive and beautifully aligned in your relationships with others, you have to do something differently than you’ve always done. Be in a different energy with yourself than you’ve always been. Believe that something other than the way it’s always been is actually possible and your Divine right.


So, this week, I dare you to be clear about your true desires.



1. Look at the reflection questions for this week. Pick one to focus on.


2.  Get grounded (take a few deep breaths, go for a walk, grab a cup of tea) and create a distraction-free zone for yourself for 5-10 minutes.

3. Write (hand-write vs typing) what flows naturally out of you. When we hand-write it is said to connect us with our subconscious mind, which is where the fears lie.


Crystal clear. Even if you’re afraid. And see what happens. Because love is who you are. The world needs you to be fully you and embrace the calling and stirrings of your heart. Let’s start a dialogue about it!


This week’s reflection questions:

  • What do you want more than anything right now in your life?
  • What would having this thing give you more of?
  • What fears come up when you think of having this in your life? Share your insights with me and our love community on the blog!


Your Intuitive Relationship Coach, Diana Dorell

Your Intuitive Relationship Coach, Diana Dorell


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Have a blessed week!



Is he emotionally unavailable for a long term relationship? 3 red flags to watch out for!

Claudia really liked this guy Tom. They had been dating a little under a month and met online. She was feeling pretty head over heels for him, but even though she was super attracted to to him, she was sticking to your own boundaries and hadn’t slept with him yet. He was sexy, mysterious and the typical strong, silent type. But he told her she was beautiful, they seemed to have a lot in common and he even offered to take down his online dating profile (Yes! she thought. We are finally getting somewhere!).  And then days went by and she didn’t hear from him. Then days became weeks and she never heard from Tom again. 

When we looked at the situation a little deeper, there were a few clear signs early in the dating stages that Tom, although being super attracted to Claudia, was emotionally unavailable for the long-term. She had felt these red flags, but because she really liked him, she decided to brush them off. 

It’s easy for us to get emotionally involved with and open our hearts to someone who quite simply, cannot for whatever reason, reciprocate that back to us. It does not mean there is something wrong with you or even them. It’s just where they are at in their emotional capacity to give and receive love. But if you can spot these 3 red flags early on, you will save yourself a lot of time and unnecessary heartache and move on to someone who is available and can’t wait to date your fine self!


  • Red Flag #1 -He talks about his ex constantly (in a negative or positive way) 

Now, it’s normal to have the “ex” talk at some point in your relationship, but it’s usually with the understanding of informing your current date that you are over them and ready for a new experience. If your date is constantly bringing up their ex in conversation, watch this because it could be that there is some unfinished business there and they may not be ready to fully move on. The last thing you want to be is the rebound.


  • Red Flag #2-When you ask him what he’s passionate about aka “What do you want to do when you grow up?” he has no answer or changes the subject quickly

Having a career/job/Life Purpose that they can be proud of is often a prerequisite to being able to completely give love to a woman in the way we want. If they are wavering on how they are contributing to society or feel lost in this area, most likely they will waver in their ability to commit fully to a partnership with you. Unless you want a casual connection, pay attention to what they say when you ask about this. Important: When you ask, make sure it’s coming from a place of genuine curiosity and wanting to know more about them about vs. sizing them up financially! Energy is super palpable!


  • Red Flag #3 He goes hot and cold a la Katy Perry style with plans (extremes of being super available to you and affectionate and then the next, cold, distant or doing the disappearing act)

You may have heard of the rubber band effect, where a man will pull back before he decides to get close again. That is very common but what distinguishes that from the red flag I mean here is that when it comes to setting a time to meet with you, an emotionally available man will let you know he’s running late. He will say something like, “I’m sorry but I need to work tonight later than I thought.” It may or may not be the rubber band thing happening, but he has the courtesy to let you know that plans have changed. The emotionally unavailable date rarely bothers to let you know. They are all about themselves and unless it’s convenient for them, you’re not getting a phone call. 

By following your intuition from the get-go and noticing when these red flags pop up early, you’ll be right on track to attracting another date who can’t wait to get to know you and who is ready for an amazing relationship!


Your Turn: Have you ever dated someone who was emotionally unavailable? Which one of the red flags or clues did you notice looking back? What helped you to move on? Please share your comment with us!


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