How to decipher the “I love you but I’m not IN love with you” line

“I love you, but I’m just not “in love” with you anymore.”


It’s the most frustrating thing to hear and let’s face it, in our head it basically translates to “OMG he doesn’t love me anymore! What’s wrong with ME?”Been there.And today I’d like to reveal the truth behind that commonly used line. First, it has nothing to do with you. This is not a ploy to make him/her the bad guy. It’s just the truth.It’s not even really about the relationship itself.(What? you may think. Diana has lost it! Stay with me…)


I’ve worked with many many singles and also couples, both happily married and not so happily married. And from all the happily married and long-term loves I’ve had the pleasure of connecting with over the years, including couple that has been together over 43 years!  the verdict is the same.

In this video you will learn:

  • the real meaning behind the “I love you but I’m not IN love with you” line
  • the one thing all happily married couples have that separates them from the unhappy ones
  • the truth behind what happens after the honeymoon phase that makes or break your relationship 

After you watch, be sure to answer the Soul Love question below!


So now you know. And now I’d love to hear from you!



Have you ever had someone say that they loved you but they weren’t “in love” with you? Have you been the one to say it? What was that like and what insights did you learn about yourself? Share your stories and tips with us! Love hearing from you!


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4 replies
  1. Michelle
    Michelle says:

    Thank you Diana!
    I needed that this morning!
    I was on the receiving end of this just 4 days ago and have been in deep grief but also reflecting…… the one thing I am sure of is that my soul is ready to grow (alone for now and eventually with a soulmate…..)

    • dianadorell
      dianadorell says:

      My pleasure Michelle! Sending you tons of Angels and love. It’s never easy to be on the receiving end and so awesome that you have clarity about being committed to grow. You will attract a soulmate. I have zero doubt about that for you Goddess! And if I can help in any way, please let me know. Love, Diana

  2. Tabitha
    Tabitha says:

    Wow! I heard these words a little over a month ago and I was devastated. I was scared to ask the question “are you in love with me anymore”, but I did and after a long pause he said “I was.” Absolute heartbreak! I yelled, we cried and both retreated to our corners for what we thought was a doomed relationship. Somewhere in all the grief I was feeling my intuition kicked in and suddenly I knew the relationship was not over and that in order to save it we had to be radically honest. I called him and we had another calmer conversation about the things I had been holding back and a couple days later we started over again. As you said, we had reached the end of the honeymoon phase and some major freaking out was happening on both sides. The word “love” means something different to us both, so until we are clear we’ve taken the words “I love you” off the table. I can’t speak for him, but for me I’m highly emotional and passionate (hello Scorpio!) so I am waaaaaaay challenged by not hearing those words. Something very cool is happening though-I get to see his love in action. That is allowing me to grow more than I have in other relationships.

    Thank you for this post and helping me find even more peace around this. When my situation happened I knew it was all part of our soul experience; however besides the 2 friends I told I kept his words a secret. I felt ashamed and took it so personal. A month and a half later I am happy that I stuck it out and even happier that I allowed my intuition to keep me grounded and not be the “runner” that I have been in relationship for the past 10 years.

    • dianadorell
      dianadorell says:

      Thank you so much for sharing your story Tabitha! Love that you were able to find some more peace around what sounds like a very powerful experience. Cheering you on Goddess!


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