How to Gracefully Decline a Holiday Invitation (3 Tips)

2020 has been anything but predictable and the holiday season is no different. 

With COVID-19, and a bunch of other energetic factors, you’d think it would be super easy to bow out of *optional-but-let’s-be-honest-required* family functions you’d rather avoid. And while that’s the case for some, it’s still helpful to have some things in your back pocket if you’re just not feeling it. 

You can use these tips for things outside the holidays too. 

So…you don’t want to accept something…you may feel guilty.


But…in your heart of hearts, the idea of skipping out makes your heart skip a beat. 

What. To. Do…here are 3 tips for you: 

  1. Blame it on Coronavirus. Yea- I’m not breaking new ground here with this one, but I would be remiss to leave it off the list!
  2. Manage Expectations: The sooner you know you aren’t planning on going, set the expectation that you cannot go, but that if anything should change, they will be the first to know. Most people do the reverse and tease that they ‘might’ go when really they have zero intention of making an appearance. Don’t be that person. 
  3. Cite Personal Growth: This one is my favorite and of course, it works best like all of these when it’s true! You are deciding to bow out not due to anything on their end at all, but more because you’ve overcommitted. Example, “In my effects to take better care of myself, I realize that I have taken on too many things and need to bow out. I really appreciate the invitation though and thank you for thinking of me!” 

That’s it. Short and sweet this week.

Q: Which one are you going play with the next time you’re invited to something you don’t want to go to? 

Let me know by leaving a comment below!

i brought in the big guns for you…(boo!)

Happy Halloween!

As it is the “spookiest” night of the year here in the States, I thought it would be fun to mix things up on the blog.

Sometimes it’s the things we cannot see that can most significantly impact our minds, bodies and souls the most.

More specifically, energy!

We can’t see energy easily with the naked eye (unless you have developed your clairvoyance) but we know it’s there, affecting you, right?

And with cell phones, laptops, TV’s and other gadgets permeating our entire life, it’s important to know how you can work with technology instead of letting it drain your energy and wreck havoc on not just your health, but also your intuitive perception and mental clarity.

So…I brought in the big guns because I know nothing about EMF other than it stands for “Electro-Magnetic-Energy” so I am delighted to introduce you to Nicholas Pineault, my colleague and soon-to- be dad and bestselling author of “The Non-Tin Foil Guide to EMF’s” that comes out tomorrow! (November 1)

I’m so not sciency and techny, but I brought Nick on because he has a way of explaining scientific stuff and bringing it down to a practical, this-is- how-it-affects-us- in-everyday- life level…oh and he is totally Woo as well!

In this super fun Zoom video exclusive, you will learn:

  • What the heck are EMF’s and how do they affect our productivity, sleep, sex life and even fertility!
  • What you can do to make your cellphone isn’t draining your energy (without breaking the bank)
  • The one thing that interrupts sleep more than anything else (it’s not what you think)
  • Super effective EMF fixes you can buy on Amazon to increase productivity in your work space with your laptop (without letting it drain you).
  • And I even popped in and share my #1 tool to get out of your head and kick the worry habit (Because really, you can choose to be afraid of everything you can’t see…or you can do this!)

Watch it here.

Happy Halloween!

About Nick:
Nicolas Pineault is a health journalist who has published more than 1,500 online articles through a daily newsletter called Nick & Gen’s Healthy Life. In 2017, he authored The Non-Tinfoil Guide To EMFs — an unconventional book which combines common sense and humor to tackle the very serious topic of electromagnetic pollution and its effects on human health. You may learn more about Nick’s work at

funny v-day story + your love gift!

Flashback. Circa 2006/2007. San Francisco.

“Cecilia!!! He didn’t do anything!! Anything!!!”

I came out of dive bar with my friend, wailing because my boyfriend at the time hadn’t done anything romantic or grand for the big V-day (I had told him casually that I didn’t care for the holiday and well, being an engineer he took me literally-men, if you are reading this, never fall for this line…most of us DO care even though we pretend we don’t) but the icing on the cake was that his mother was driving up to see him from the suburbs and he had erased all evidence of my existence at his apartment. Today of all freakin days to visit her son. I mean, seriously? This was not okay!

As the terrible-no-good-very-bad-night wound down, I was so out of my head and enraged that I was convinced that my car had been stolen. We looked everywhere, up and down every street in the Mission and in my frantic state, I called the SF police and my boyfriend. Both were on their way and then my friend yells, “Diana, isn’t that your car right over there?” Gulp. It was right in front of us the whole time. I had to explain myself to the police, inform my boyfriend that no…I did not need him to come and well…let’s just say it wasn’t my finest moment.

The lesson:

I share this story with you because no matter what your “relationship status” is, Valentine’s Day can bring up all sorts of weird insecurities and emotions that you didn’t even know you had in you. Back then, the only way I could validate being lovable was by a man going above and beyond to make sure the whole world knew I was. It was about Ego, not expressing. But there’s another way. Over the years, I’ve learned to have compassion for that wounded aspect within us that so badly wants validation and affirmation.

And what I’ve come to realize is that it’s far more empowering to see it as a reminder from the Divine, Spirit, God/Goddess that we are a vessel for love.

That our natural state is well…love. And what if instead of making it about personal love to one person, it became an opportunity to spread love everywhere you see it? How does that feel in your body? And most importantly, to the person staring you back in the mirror? Aren’t they worth it?

Here’s the rub: Our capacity to receive and recognize love= the capacity we have to love ourselves TWEET THAT.

Flawed, annoying, inconsistent, but incredibly fabulous whole. Self.

Easy to say. Harder to practice, right?

Will you join me?

I’m hosting a FREE 5-day Soul Love Challenge/e-course starting right now and I’d love for you to join me!

But when you truly love and accept yourself, the whole world opens up.

You are no longer a prisoner of your circumstances, of other people’s opinions.

You’re magnetic without trying to be. And then, shit comes to you that you didn’t even ask for that is better than you could have ever imagined.

Instead of scraping for crumbs, you’re given not one, but two cakes and they both have a ton of icing on it.

I call it the self-love Goddess way. Cheesy? Maybe. But don’t judge it until you try it.

This isn’t a do-it-once-get-a-result-quit-it-and-resume-your-old-way kind of shifting.

It’s about shifting into a way of Be-ing.

Want to get a taste of what that feels like?

Join me for the 5-day e-course and Soul LOVE Challenge!

Here’s to spreading love all around the world, starting with you dear Soul friend.

Happy Valentines’ Day week and excited to be a part of raising the energetic frequency starting NOW.

Love and Blessings,


when the other shoe drops…

Have you ever seen the movie, Bridget Jones’ Diary?

There’s a great line in there that goes something like this:

“Why is it that when one part of your life starts going brilliantly, another part always seems to fall spectacularly apart”

In the movie, she’s referring to being in a fun, exciting new relationship while her relationship with her mother starts to unravel. Fast.

Have you ever experienced that?

The Meltdown
There are all these fancy phrases to describe this phenomenon, but to make it fun, let’s call it the “Subconscious Meltdown.”

Basically it’s when you dramatically up-level one area in your life that has been a thorn in your side ….and your subconscious freaks out.

It is feeling unsafe, unsteady and in new territory and all those pesky little beliefs that go contrary to your new reality decide to make an appearance.

All with the sole purpose of helping you feel comfortable. Safe. Status quo.


You’ve been doing all this work on your money mindset.

You start upward momentum and land a huge raise or a new client.

The same day, your tires go flat and your computer craps out.


You’ve been going on dates, despite feeling scared.
You agree to a second date, things are going amazingly well…
You’re smiling, feeling sexy and desirable…AND
You have a meeting with your boss who says they no longer need you. And the date cancels.

It can feel like the Universe is playing this nasty trick on you.

And it’s so easy to go into victim-mode, curl up in a ball and think the whole world is against you.

It’s easy to just stop trying for what you want and justify that you really like where you are..really….it’s not so bad, right? LIE!

But the thing is, these events, as frustrating as they are, are essential to you getting to the next level. In love. In business. In life. They aren’t the verdict.

And it’s not the Universe saying you suck.

It’s part of the process of transforming your life from the inside out.

It’s a temporary side-effect on the way to creating what you desire.

It’s like popping the zit.

First all this crap comes to the surface, it pops and BAM! Clear skin.


A do-over.

Your face may be a little sore.

You may want to use some cover-up and hide out.

But all in all, it was just a zit.

In short: When you start taking massive action in the direction of your dreams, potholes can and do appear. But you don’t have to let it stop you. It can help you know that on the other side of pulling yourself out or asking for help out of the hole, is a new place.

One that is more like you.

More in alignment.

More fun and way more authentic.

So, the real question is:

Are you willing to keep going towards your deepest desires even when the other shoe you didn’t even know you had…drops?

 If so, in the comments below, post 1) what your big desire is and 2) one action you will take this week towards it!

That’s the path of the Spiritual Seeker and Master Manifestor!

PS: Ready to rock your love life? Great news!

My book, The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again is officially out on Amazon!

Click here to get it and start manifesting your great love!