it’s time to wrap it up…the top 9 list

The Top 9 List (Goddess-style) of 2016

  1. Movie (Joy) starring Jennifer Lawrence, about the founder of the Miracle Mop and skinny velvet hanger, among other things. (The only movie I’ve ever watched and then immediately replayed)

Lesson: No matter how many setbacks life throws at you, your conviction for sharing your gift with the world wins out. Never give up.

  1. Sacred Success by Barbara Stanny

Lesson: When you make your decisions based on what supports your deepest, truest values, that is true success.

 

  1. Don’t Let Anything Dull your Sparkle by Doreen Virtue

Lesson: It’s safe to step away from anything that drains you-this is a loving act and it doesn’t mean you don’t care. Quite the opposite.

 

  1. Song (Rise) by Katy Perry

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdw1uKiTI5c

(I ended up dancing to this song over and over again in my living room!)

Lesson: It’s safe for you to be powerful and THRIVE, not just survive.

 

  1. Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver

(This is one that I read all the time, and will flip to a page when I need a message from Spirit!)

Lesson: Life flows better when you get out of your own way.

 

  1. Song (Love on the Brain) by Rhianna (sooo beautiful, although to be honest, I wasn’t paying too much attention to the lyrics as much as the Motown vibe)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZQc5WGjUJU

Lesson: Love will make you do crazy things and is the most powerful force in the Universe.

 

  1. I am not your Guru (Netflix documentary) of Tony Robbins’ weekend seminar

(I watched this twice with my man!)

Lesson: Change can happen in an instant when you speak your Truth. Believing it has to take forever is an illusion to justify not being ready to take full responsibility for your life.

  1. Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix

Lesson: We attract a partner who perfectly mirrors our unresolved childhood agendas and wounds so we can heal them and love from a fuller place.

 

  1. You are a Badass by Jen Sincero

Lesson: Loving yourself is always the answer. (I’d like to take her out to coffee in 2017 as I feel we would have much to discuss on this topic!)

 

Your turn:

1) Which of the 9 lessons speaks to you right now?
2) What is one of your own top movies, books or songs that influenced 2016? Share with us in the comments!

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the 3-word phrase for overcoming perfectionitis

It’s almost the Winter Solstice here in the States (Dec 21/22), the longest night of the year and for some of you across the pond, it is the Summer Solstice.

Darkness. Light. Can’t have one without the other!

It is a powerful time of percolating, going deep within and unearthing one final upheaval of “stuff”, you know the stuff that’s outdated, in your way and slowin’ your roll.

And one of those pesky behaviors that can stop you from making major waves towards your dreams is perfectionism.

Waiting until something is “just right” before you pitch your idea, write that book you keep saying you’re going to write, start dating again, you get the idea.

You may say things to yourself like..

“Yea, I so want that but I have to get XYZ figured out first in my life until I can have (insert fervent Soul desire).”

“I’m just not ready yet…I need to get (more credentials/more money/more blah, blah, blah)”

All perfectly rational explanations from the logical mind to mask the truth-that you might just feel scared of going all in and failing. Or succeeding and having to be seen more!

So it’s easier to wait until everything appears to be “perfect” before making waves.

The Universe

Only perfect never really comes.

And the Universe doesn’t care about perfect. 🙂

It just cares about supporting you in your predominant thoughts and deepest Truths.

It has no opinion either way and it’s not going to judge you.

So, instead of waiting for “perfect” to come, here’s a phrase I got from my friend and co-author of The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again, Maryellen Smith.

Go. For. Done.

It basically means, once you are clear what you want to do and have at least one action to take, just take it.

Give yourself permission to fu%* it up a little and also permission to course-correct if you’re going way off in the wrong direction.

But all that mental anxiety and low-level stress that is created from not taking action will give way to fresh ideas, inspiration and yes, self-confidence and self-trust.

You will figure it out in the act of doing it.

Making that call.

Writing that proposal.

Putting up that dating profile.

So, as we head into the darkest (or lightest) night of the year, I ask you this.

 

Q: Do you tend to get caught up in perfectionism? How does it show up for you….and if you’re brave, what is ONE action you are committed to taking before we ring the bell on Dec 31? Where will you “go for done?” I can’t wait to hear from you! Post your comment under here.

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when your head is at war with your heart, do this..

screen-shot-2016-12-13-at-7-39-04-amI should want this, I remember saying to myself after I got a job offer from a non-profit years ago.

It was everything I said I wanted. Steady pay, a heart-centered mission and would help kids indirectly. I would use my writing skills, my organizational skills…it was consistent.

But everything in my body just felt… tight.

You should want this, Diana. This is a good opportunity my mind kept chiming in.

Have you ever had this happen to you, where your head and your heart are at war?

For days, I tortured myself with sleepless, fitful nights where I battled out pros and cons in my head, tried to justify that I would still make time for the things that really made my heart sing; you know the drill, right?

But something deep deep inside me told me that if I took that job, I really wouldn’t make time for my dreams. I would be doing it because of fear and risk-avoidance. Not because it truly lit up my creative juices and felt expansive.

I should want it. But I just really didn’t.

In the end, I listened to my body, turned the offer down with bated breath …and my life took on a completely different trajectory. I ended up going back to school to get my yoga teacher certification and life coaching certification, living in the desert and reconnecting with my mother. Not exactly the plan, but I was so happy.

When I followed my intuition, everything inside me breathed a sigh of relief because I was aligned and centered with my Soul.

Was it a risk? Yes!

Was it worth it? Yes!

But every time you turn down a “should,” you train your subconscious mind to receive an absolute-OMG-I-couldn’t-have-imagined-this-YES! Tweet that!

The first weekend seminar of coaching school, I landed my very first coaching client!

Could I have seen that that would happen? No way Jose!

But that’s an example of how the Universe can surprise us and open you up to a world of possibilities you couldn’t even see before…when you choose your Truth over your insecurities or fears.

Soul Q: Have you ever experienced a war between your head and your heart? What was the situation and how did you move through it? Share! (I promise to read every single one, although I cannot guarantee a reply!)

That’s one of the things we are going to explore in Self Care for Your Soul in 2017.

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It requires learning how to make aligned decisions that bring you closer to your Purpose.

It’s about learning how to stop capping your own spiritual potential to receive.

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5 mantras to slow down and trust (even when you don’t want to!)

For this week’s intuitive message, I pulled “Goddess Oonagh” and the card says:

“There is no need to hurry or force things to happen. Everything is occurring in perfect timing.”

As we start to approach the end of the year, you may be feeling this internal pressure to speed up, get a ton done and be “productive.”

While there’s nothing wrong with that, if it’s at the expense of your self-care and goes against the grain of what your body is telling you it needs, that’s when there is a problem.

Anxiety creeps in about the future.. “What if XYZ happen? What if XYZ doesn’t happen?”

Depression can creep in about the past. “I tried that before and look what it got me…I opened my heart and he/she broke it….I took a big risk in my business and it didn’t pan out…” etc

But the real power is when we can stay in the eye of the energetic hurricane.

Your emotions may be up and down.

But this week’s message is a reminder that you are more than your emotions.

You are more than your fears.

And you do have a choice to realign back to the present moment.

Here are 5 of my favorite mantras to help you get back in the here and manage your mind when when life starts to speed up or slow down. Say them aloud with feeling or write them in your journal to anchor it into your subconscious. Pick the one that resonates with you the most on each day or try using the same one for a week to see how it feels!

#1 Life loves me and I love life back!

#2 My needs are always met and the Universe has my back.

#3 I AM abundantly supported!

#4 It is safe for me to BE. I am enough.

#5 All is well in my world.

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