don’t cheat yourself, you’re worth it (true story inside)

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I’m going a bit off-the-cuff for this week’s blog and share a true story about not listening to your intuition and the results of that.

Are you game?

Have you ever been so set on changing a pattern that isn’t serving you that you decided to do something a little ballsy to mix it up, without any idea of what you were getting yourself into?

Yea…that’s what happened to me this past weekend.

I want to share this story with you with the intent that it serves you in listening to your own internal nudges, being vulnerable and valuing yourself in all areas of your life.

I’ve noticed with dancing that I am really great at solo dancing that requires technical and emotional skill. As a musical theatre actress-singer-dancer-turned-intuitive, I am well versed in ballet, jazz, hip hop and other highly technical dances. I know them. They are a part of my bones and I can do them in my sleep. I can hold my space and own it pretty easily.

Partner dancing where I have to totally surrender and let go? Not so much.

So, in an effort to dive into uncharted territory,  I signed up for tango.

And the day came (Saturday at 2:15pm to be exact) and it was 2:05 and I was literally thinking of things I had to do so I could justify not going to the class.

I had to eat.

I had to do laundry.

I was already late.

Well, the studio was literally a 2 minute drive from my home and something told me to just freakin go.

I got there late and everyone was already dancing in neat circles. (great! Maybe I should go! Don’t want to mess up their rhythm and what not…”My inner saboteur thought)

The moment I turned to leave, the instructor (husband of a husband/wife team) asks me to be his partner to demonstrate a step.

Does he know this is my first class?

He said, “Not to worry-just let me lead you. All you need to do is follow and trust.”

Sometimes the Divine speaks through people. Loud and freakin clear.

I started tearing up and my throat got really tight. Great…

Before I put my hands on his in position,I blurted out to him, “I’m here because I know how to lead…really really well. I suck at following and I don’t know how to let go in partner dancing, so that’s why I’m here. I have no idea what I’m doing.”

He just gazed at me, smiled and without another word, started leading me and the group to some Argentine guitar.

He could feel my arm get tense as I tried to push back and control when we took the next step.

He firmly and gently stopped me…and redirected me which pissed my inner leader off at first.

But after a tug of war that went on for a few more minutes, at some point, my inner leader just gave up. She was exhausted.

I let myself go.

And I felt as light as a feather so much so that I didn’t realize that the music had stopped.

He just looked up at me again and said, “It’s nice isn’t it? Being led. You move very well.” And then he went off to watch the others.

I didn’t have a response.

It. was. A-m-a-z-i-n-g. I signed up for four more classes. Baby.steps.

Spiritual takeaways:

Our Ego mind is terrified of following.

Of letting go of control.

Of sitting with the unknown, uncertainty, and land of no guarantees or immediate validation.

But the Soul isn’t afraid.

It knows that what you need is always provided for.

That when you show up for yourself even when you’re scared, you will always be supported.

What I’ve discovered is that it takes tremendous courage to surrender.

To let go of thinking you have it all figured out or that you have a set way of being or doing things.

Because the truth is you are always evolving.

You’re always changing.

And you can hold onto control or let go and let yourself be surprised at how Spirit catches you.

Q: So, what is one area where you have been afraid to let go of control? What would letting go of control look like in this area, feel like, smell like?

Can you commit to play with that feeling this week?

Love, Diana

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3 ways to unwind and get in your Yin energy in relationships

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3 Ways to Cultivate Yin energy and get what you want most in relationships: tenderness, understanding and compassion

  • Have a transition between your work day and personal life.

Preferably one that gets you into your body or in a space of receptivity. Some of my fav’s? Listening to music. Reading a fiction book for 10 minutes. Changing my clothes slowly and mindfully.

  • Ask someone for their recommendation on something.

You don’t have to do that but it’s a practice to just think a bit more spherically and staying open to possibilities beyond your own head.

  • Indulge your senses (smell especially)

Put lotion on your body or hands (without multi-tasking). Smell candles (I do this at stores just for fun!). Use a new shower gel or perfume. When you indulge your senses, you naturally calm your nervous system and are more likely to hear the voice of your intuition because you aren’t striving for a solution. You are present.

Q: Which one of these 3 tips will you try this week? Share in the comments below!

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are you making a decision from fear or inspiration? 3 signs to tell.

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When you have to make a decision, it can be really hard to tell whether it’s the right one. Especially if there is a lot riding on the decision, we can easily downshift into fear because well, we need to make some decision, don’t we?10371443_10152110639312361_7115493803932630590_n.jpg

But there’s a huge difference between making a decision from fear and making one from inspiration.

Here are some clues to tell:

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Fear looks like:

-feels heavy in your body, and you tend to be in your head trying to figure out all the reasons it can’t come together or that it will be hard.

-the decision moves you away from something you don’t want

-making a move to defend against an outcome that hasn’t happened yet (based on the past usually)

Inspiration looks like:

-feels light in your body, even if you’re not sure how it will all come together

-the decision moves you towards something you want

-making a move from a desire or curiosity based on who you want to be (not who you were or what current circumstances show you are possible). There’s still a desired outcome (we are human!) but you trust that whatever happens after taking this inspired action will be in service to your growth and your Path.

An example of this when it comes to relationships and taking care of yourself:

Fear:

You have a date with someone and text them to confirm the night before.

You haven’t heard back from them within the hour, so you cancel the date before they do.

(because that’s what always happens before, so why not beat them to it?)

Inspiration:

You have a dinner date with someone and text them to confirm the night before.

You haven’t heard back from them within the hour, so you make a decision within yourself. You will reach out to them one last time in the morning and if you don’t hear back by 12noon, you will just make other plans. No biggie. Your time is valuable. There will be other dates with people who value it.

Do you see how one puts you in the victim role and one puts you in the driver’s seat?

It’s never about the other person, although that’s the easy thing to do!

The more you can check in with your own intuition before making a decision and ask, “Hmmmm, could this be coming from fear or inspiration?” you will save yourself a lot of time and energy!

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3 rituals to free your mind and take back your energy

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When your mind is worried about something, it’s next to impossible to stay open to love, because part of you is already checked out of the present moment.

 

With so much happening in your daily world, it’s easy to get bogged down by details and forget to take care of your Spirit and own your time and energy.

 

Here are 3 of my favorite rituals to free your mind and help you reclaim your energy:

 

1.Start with “Thank you”.

This sounds so simple, but notice how you feel when you say Thank you  when you first wake up. Say Thank you when your feet hit the ground after you get out of bed. Say Thank you and take a deep breath. Before checking your Twitter feed, email pings or anything else outside of yourself in those first five minutes. It sets the tone for the rest of your day. If you don’t put yourself first, how do you expect others to? Thank you.

 

 

  1. The Nightly 3

Before you go to bed each night, write down the 3 most important things that you need to address for tomorrow. Nothing else gets added to your schedule until those top 3 are looked at. (That last step is key and you will be tempted to not do it!)

A mentor of mine gave me this exercise for my business and although I don’t always do it (I’m human!) I notice a huge boost in my productivity and energy level when I do. Being unfocused takes way more energy than taking a few minutes to prep before.

 

  1. Use the worry box.

I’ve written about the worry box before, but there’s a reason I keep sharing it with you. It really works! Get an empty tissue box, index cards or post-its. On the box, write a prayer that everything that goes in the box, you are giving to Spirit to transmute and deal with. It’s being handled as Olivia Pope would say.  Whenever you have something you keep worrying about, write it on the card and drop it in. Say your own version of the prayer, “Thank you Spirit for taking this off my heart and mind. Show me any right actions to take. I free and release these to you. Thank you! And so it is!” BOOM! Done. If you want to worry about the situation again, you have to go into the box and dig out the index card.

 

That’s it!

 

Which one of the 3 will you experiment with this week? Share with us in the comments!

 

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4 sabotaging behaviors that repel love and keep you stuck

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The Universe wants to support you 100%.

It has no agenda.

It has no opinion.

It merely matches your dominant vibration and says, “Okay-let’s give you more of that!”

It wants you to be as joyful, happy or miserable as your frequency emits.

It is always listening.

And when it comes to finding love and having harmonious relationships, there are 4 core sabotaging behaviors that repel love from staying and keep you stuck in all areas of your life.

For each I have given you a specific example of how this could play out in real-life and what the Universe really hears when you exhibit each behavior.

Heads up: Be gentle with yourself as you read this. If you recognize that you have been engaging in one or more of these behaviors, simply notice what comes up. Acknowledging it is the first step to changing it.

1) saying you want something and doing the exact opposite

Ex: Saying you want to be a committed relationship but having regular sex with your ex who has made it clear he is seeing other women.

Universe hears: “You value no-strings-attached relationships so we will send you more people who also value that.”

2) thinking thoughts and taking actions that are divided-some are in alignment with what you declare and others are aligned with the opposite (talk about mixed messages to the Universe!)

Ex: If you desire to have relationships that are a two-way street where you feel respected and cherished, maybe you have a difficult conversation with a good friend about feeling like you aren’t always able to vent to her but at the same time, you are tolerating less-than-respectful behavior from a co-worker and not saying anything about it.

Universe hears: “You like getting the short end of the stick and being disrespected. We will send you more of that.”

3) breaking your commitments (to yourself and to others)

Ex: You make an appointment (with anyone from your mother to a business associate to your dentist) and you either don’t show up at all or cancel at the last minute because something else better came along.

Universe hears: “Your word and other people’s time are not important, so we will send you people who also don’t value your time and word.”

4) Ghosting aka giving off “avoidant” vibes

Ex: This one is pretty self-explanatory, but this can look like anything saying yes to a date and never answering any texts or phone calls to confirm where you’re meeting to getting an email from your boss and being too chicken to say how you really feel, so you just send it to the trash, hoping the issue will just magically disappear. Only it comes up again and again, usually in another relationship.

Universe hears: “You like to play games and you like to be chased more than you want to have a real relationship. So we will send you people who play lots of games with you too!”

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Why we continue these sabotaging behaviors:

  1. Fear-that we are going to make the wrong decision. So we don’t make any, which is a decision in itself.
  2. Fear of taking full responsibility for creating our life. If we don’t decide, it’s “someone else’s fault.” And we are off the hook. Only you’re not, because you co-create your reality with the Universe 24/7 so this leads to feelings of helplessness and a lack of confidence, two energies that repel quality relationships.
  3. We are terrified of actually getting what we want! What would have to change if you welcomed in that soul mate today? Asked for that raise? Told your sister to take lay off you on X topic already? Change can feel scary, so we default to what keeps the very thing we want at bay.

Q: Which of the four behaviors speak to you to shift in order to have more of what you want-happiness, joy, inner confidence and love?

Share with us in the comments!

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