this is embarassing… but i want to share it with you

Have you ever noticed something about yourself that you were embarrassed to see or admit?

Yea…that happened to me this past weekend and I’d love to share my story with you with the intent that it helps you see where you could be tripping yourself up in your own relationships.

You’ll also get 3 spiritual gems to help you navigate your own shifts right now and rock it out!

Sound good?

It’s about love, seeing how your thoughts create your reality and being bold (even when you’re uncomfortable as hell!).

My Story: Out of Towners

My man let me know that he’d be leading this big convention all weekend which was fine with me, since I was going to be out of town too.

He let me know ahead of time that he probably wouldn’t have time to talk much, but that he’d text me to say hi everyday.

Well, that was all well and good…until what I call my NeedyNelly-Diana showed up.

It started bothering me that I just got a text here and a text there from him (even though he already told me this would be the case!).

They were sweet ones-I miss you, I love you, I had so much fun today with the convention but I miss you…

But in my head, I created a whole other backstory to those messages.

Have you ever done that?

Instead of framing it as “Wow, that’s awesome I heard from him. I love that he took the time out a very busy weekend to think about me” my mind translated it to:

“I’m just an afterthought. He’s just doing this out of obligation. He doesn’t care about me. I am not important. I am not special. I’m so mad at him! How could he do this to me?”

So I snipped back with passive aggressive responses about not being sure I “had time” to see him when we got back on Monday as we had planned…and on and on it went until it took on a life of its own.

The poor man was so confused. I just stewed.

Yea…not my finest moment, but that’s where my mind was at.

And I literally made myself sick and mentally/emotionally drained with these thoughts for the next few days!

Why do we do this to ourselves?!

I woke up with a crick in my neck and I couldn’t turn my head one way or the other without howling in pain (the neck represents flexibility…..that was a no-brainer to figure out!)

My chest and heart area was incredibly heavy and I found it hard to breathe deeply (heartache).

And my sleep patterns were way off, making me cranky and confused.

The solution was right in my hands, it’s always in our hands.

But I couldn’t see it : admit the truth….first to myself. Then to him.

Some of my truths:

:: It was bringing up some deep seated fears around not being important or seen. Those felt super uncomfortable…

:: I was feeling lonely and needy and envious of the convention and the time it took away from us being able to see each other. 

:: I was having a hard time being at peace with just myself..

and the core of it all was…

missed him.

And I couldn’t deal with the emotions it brought up within me…without making it all about him and why he was to blame for what I felt…

That was embarrassing.

You can be strong and vulnerable. That is the Goddess way. It’s not an either/or proposition. TWEET THAT!

After all, I pride myself on being an independent, strong woman who genuinely enjoys my own company.

I’m not used to “missing my man” after being apart for just a few days…maybe because I was just never with the right one before!

And even when we talked and he came over on Monday all mature and ready to “resolve what came up this weekend” (That pissed me off too! I was supposed to be the ‘together’ one!) I was still holding onto a lot of my internal walls.

And he called me on it.

With love, but he did.

I started to cry.

Once the ice melted, I shared with him exactly what I just shared with you above and all was well.

We smoothed out a lot of miscommunications.

We came up with a game plan of “out-of-town” etiquette that made sense and I even gave him permission to tell me that I was about to board “crazy needy Train” before it derailed us.

The best part? My breathing calmed. And my neck felt way better.

In short: 3 GEMS

  1. Tell the truth, even when it is embarrassing, weird or scary. The truth will set you (and your body free!)
  2. Your relationships will be stronger when you let yourself be vulnerable. It’s okay…really it is.
  3. You are fabulous…and not perfect. And that’s exactly what life is about. Navigating through the imperfections and loving yourself anyway….

Over to YOU: Which one of the 3 gems above sound like you this week? Post it in the comments below! 

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Ready for a big leap? 3 steps to get you movin!

unnamedI was talking with a client the other day about feeling like she’d outgrown the skin she’d been living in.

It was as if her new self was dying to emerge but the old self kept trying to rein her back in, with repeating old ways of reacting to the people around her, feeling less than and not using her voice to speak up for herself!

She was sooooo ready to graduate from that.

And the metaphor that came up was a pot.

The pot is your creative expression, your true essence, the breeding ground for you to bloom and be the person you came here to be.

To give you an example, in my kitchen, I have a little basil plant.

I’ve been pretty lazy about moving it to a real pot, so it’s been sitting in that little plastic container it came in from Trader Joes.

I water it.

I talk to it when I remember to.

I do all the things you’re supposed to do with plants.

But it’s getting rather big for its pot.

It reminds me every week of this fact but I haven’t done it yet.

It’s died nearly ten times but it’s hung in there, as if to say, “Diana, can’t you see I need to move outta here?!”

I’m transferring it to its bigger pot today. And I know it will be happy.

It’s the same thing with a certain area or areas in your life.

Why we hold ourselves back:

We know we’ve graduated or outgrown a certain way of be-ing but the future seems uncertain. New soil seems scary.

We know the old soil.

Even if it’s moldy, crusty and dries up two seconds after you water it.

And what the heck are we going to do with all that extra space?!

Better to stay put where you know what’s expected of you.

You know what to expect.

But it’s getting uncomfortable in that little pot.

You’re a bit restless.

And you look across at the bigger pot in your mind and it seems so far away, even though it’s not.

What it takes: 3 steps

Whether it’s a relationship that’s gone stale and past repair, a job you hate that you’re just in because it pays you well, or a way of thinking that is just well….not something you’re proud to BE anymore, the first step is to

:: give yourself permission to want out.

You’d be surprised how much we can hem and haw, dancing around growth and making changes because it’s easier to do that than actually say that you want something different.

How dare you? Your subconscious may shout! It’s okay. Just ignore that voice. It just wants to protect you but it’s not helping your cause.

:: identify what’s on the other side of the pot.

What does a bigger pot or version of yourself or your life area look like? What would you be doing? Who would you be doing it with? What do you feel like in that new pot? You may even bust out the paintbrush or journal and start giving it some life. To make significant changes like skipping into a different pot, you’ve got to give your subconscious something positive to latch onto!

:: take a baby step today

What’s one thing you could do to move you closer to the bigger pot? Maybe it’s to try on speaking up for yourself instead of being quiet the next time you feel a boundary has been crossed. Even if you feel like you’re going to die or hurt someone’s feelings. Maybe it’s to pick up the phone and apologize. Or write that email you’ve been putting off. Change comes with action.

Is being in a bigger pot scary?

It can be.

But it can also be super exciting because the sooner you step into who you really are, the less likely you are to give in to fears that stop you in your tracks.

The more people will respect you because you respect yourself.

And the better you’ll feel about yourself because nothing says confidence like hoppin out of the small pot.

You’ve got this Goddess!

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Are you feeling exhausted, emotional or empty? open up!

I spent a good part of Saturday in my bed cocooning with books, staring into space, and writing in my journal. Oh..and eating.

And giving myself permission to do so.

It’s not always easy.

Our logical mind says, “You should be doing something more productive!”

Screw that.

Productivity comes from a peaceful center. And sometimes that requires a slow-down or a stop. Click here to Tweet that.

It’s the Goddess way.

It’s not all about driving or pushing yourself hard.

And if you’re feeling depleted in any way, it’s a good sign that you’ve ignored your feminine energy.

Feminine energy goes inward and its symbol is a spiral.

If you look at a spiral, it feels like you’re just going around and around or nowhere but nothing could be further from the truth.

You gather layer upon layer of information and energy and retreat into a space in the center or the top (depending on how you draw it!) to sort it all out and see what’s there waiting for you.

Very different than pushing and shoving your way to the top, worrying about what everyone else is doing or if you got their first? (distorted masculine energy that our society loooves so much!)

Free Goodie for you.but first, will you Stop Doing it All Yourself?

One of the Goddess principles I teach my clients (male or female!) is to encourage them to stop doing it all alone and to notice what arises in their body when they think about that.

Sometimes it feels really really hard to ask for help or to just notice that two heads really can be better than one!

And so, to walk my own talk, I’ve asked my good friend, Mary Susan Gala, The Feminine Wisdom Genie, to teach us this week!

I interviewed her last week on my show and she shared an exercise with us to help you tap into your 2nd chakra (where we store a lot of shame and stories around receiving!)

#1 Listen to the Radio Interview

She’s helped so many women with their life challenges and have witnessed personal

transformations.

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in a transition? call on this ArchAngel!

Happy Tuesday!

Have you been feeling the energy shifts?

Feeling things come to a halt, or a slow crawl and feeling like you’re spinning your wheels?

If so, you’re not alone.

But it’s also a time of incredible transformation-coming on Thursday, you may start to be pulled into yourself.

What it can look like:

  • wanting to be alone more, isolating yourself to regroup
  • being extra sensitive to what people say (or don’t say…reading between the lines and the silence)
  • going back to the drawing board on something near and dear to your heart or re-working your original plan so it fits with who you are now.
  • thinking about old relationships (friendships, lovers, old clients, etc) and re-connecting or finding another layer you need to heal to move on for good

If you’ve been hanging out in my world for a bit, you know how much I love Angels.

I call on them for everything and it’s so easy to forget that you don’t have to do it all yourself!

If you’re going through any kind of a life or professional transition right now, there is an Archangel that you can call on to help you through it.

His name is Azrael.

Check out this short video about him + how you can call on him to help you navigate tricky emotional waters during a transition + rock your shift!

PS: I’ve been asked if I am still doing Angel readings and the answer is yes! The Angels are always a part of my work with my clients and one of my absolute favorite things is to tune into the Angels around you and channel specific messages to help you move forward and trust that you’re on the right path. They are also a huge part of the energy work that I do with clients to help you release blocks that are keeping you stuck in love and life. If you feel guided to get some clarity, I’d love to be of assistance!

Click here to book a reading or energy healing session.

is your ‘wisdom corner’ set up for success? find out!

Are you feeling the winds of change coming? 

They may already be here for you-the themes of relationship restructuring, boundaries and creating a bigger, newer vision for your life are all present in the Universal energies right now.

There is so much happening and you may be asked to step up and face some uncomfortable but necessary-for-your-spiritual-growth stuff!

And this week I am hooking you up!

#1: Thursday:

I am so so excited to be interviewing Theresa Reed, known internationally as “The Tarot Lady” on my radio show this Thursday. She’s amazing and hilarious. Mark Thursday @5pm Pacific on your calendar and for call-in-deets go here:

#2  

Have you signed up for my Angel Reiki I certification class yet (online?) Registration closes Sunday! Click here:

#3 Today:

Can I invite you inside my home? (check out this week’s video below!)

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Your Spiritual Nugget

How did you spend your Labor Day?

I had every intention on plopping myself on the couch and watching movies but instead, I was called by Spirit at the crack of dawn to start space clearing and re-vamping my space.

I find that each time I do it, it brings up something new for me that I couldn’t have seen otherwise.

And right in line with the Universal energies, I decided to try something new.

Have you heard of Periscope?

It’s a new app that lets you tune in in real-time videos/lessons/musing with people anywhere in the world.

*If you’re on it, please add me: @dancinggoddess (Periscope)

Yesterday, impromptu I shot my first video for it (which you get to see right here! Yay!)

If you’re not manifesting as consistently as you like, look at your Wisdom corner!

The space I re-vamped was the “Wisdom” corner of my home and even if you don’t know a thing about space-clearing or Feng-Shui, this week I want to show you and offer some tangible tips to help you

  • locate your Wisdom corner + change its vibration so it helps you
  • help you hold onto the awesome things you create (more money, a solid relationship,a new exercise routine, etc)
  • stop reverting back to your old pattern Ex: money comes in, money goes right back out. 
  • increase your self-confidence in building a strong foundation for what it is you want

Sound good? Click here to check out my Periscope video!