feeling ungrounded? use these 5 household items to feel emotionally supported ASAP

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It’s Super Full Moon day!

If you’ve part of my online family, you know the drill on full moons.

In general, they are a time of intense release, cathartic ah-has and self-reflection.

This one happens to touch upon the following themes in your life:

Security/Freedom, Secrets/Revealing Truths, Reality/Dreams

When it comes to your most important relationships, this can show up as:

  • power struggles
  • emotional reveals that surprise you or another  (I thought you were over that already?! hmmm…maybe not)
  • and a deep need to feel rooted, comfortable and safe with another and really, yourself. 

Do you trust yourself?

Can you trust another?

Are you willing to be vulnerable? Are you too open or do you tend to hold all your cards tightly to your chest?

How’s that working for you?

Again, this is about releasing self-judgement and simply observing yourself and what the present you needs and wants in relationship.

It may be up for negotiation and it could be super uncomfortable but also incredibly relieving once you get to the bottom of what’s truly eating at you.

But in order to truly listen to what your intuition is trying to tell you, you need to get grounded.

I like tangible, simple things you can do that are already within your reach to help you do this. So….

Here are 5 of my favorite household items that you can use to anchor in, manage anxiety and make the most of this week’s Super Moon.

Pick your favorite or do them all if you truly need a boost!

#1  Salt

Take a sea-salt or epsom salt bath at the end of your day . Stay in there at least 15 minutes to soak up all the healing properties and clean off negative sludge from the day.

#2 Orange or lemon

Both of these have so many wonderful benefits, but during a full moon, energy tends to get stuck in our homes. One fun tip I learned from space clearing is to slice up either fruit, squeeze the juice into a bowl of water and go around the corners of your home and literally “flick the orange water” with your fingers to open up the energy. You can also use an empty spray bottle if that’s easier. I notice a difference right away after I do this!

#3 Something red

Red represents the root chakra which has to do with security, feeling safe, basic needs and survival. When you’re feeling a bit ungrounded, wearing red not only says, “powerful person” to others. It actually helps you anchor into your basic needs and desires. Try it for yourself!

#4 Pen and pad

There’s no secret that writing down your feelings helps reveal things that you may not be aware of when you’re in your head. Carve out some quiet time to just write down or draw out what you’re feeling. It’s a great way to move the energy out so you can be fully present with what’s in front of you.

#5 Vacuum cleaner

This one is a bit symbolic as well as just practical de-cluttering your space, which you’ll want to do during a Full Moon week. Literally pick a room to vacuum and if you don’t have carpeting, I recommend you get one of those hand-held mini vacuum for the trunk of your car. Believe it or not, the trunk of our cars represent our past. (Anyone cringing?) So…clean out the junk in your trunk and notice how much lighter you feel!

Now, over to you.

Q: Which one of the 5 items will you use this week to ground yourself?

Tell me in the comments!

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ps: Is this you?

Do you want to:

:: attract a soul mate and tired of being single?

:: create your signature talk for your business and book speaking gigs but struggle with “being seen?”

or 

:: master your emotions so you stop making decisions from your head that don’t serve you?

If you said YES to any of the questions above and are serious about making significant changes in your life and massive up-levels, I would love for you to apply for a 15-minute complimentary consult with me so we can chat about how I can help you kick major you-know-what in 2016! 

My sweet spots include:

Relationships

Communication Clarity + Confidence

Healing + Mastering Decision-Making 

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is he ready to commit? what to ask him to find out (it’s not the obvious)

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Today’s blog comes from a question I get asked quite a bit in my private practice as an intuitive coach and healer.

“How do I know if the guy I’m seeing is ever going to commit to me or if it’s just a casual thing?”

It’s an important question, especially if your intent is marriage or a long-term soul mate partnership.

The last thing you want to do is waste your time with someone who is clearly not ready but what about that in-between phase where you aren’t really getting a clear sign one way or another?

That’s where this one little question can give you way more insight than any traditional dating advice book will say.

I first heard it discussed on a local radio station and I even ran it past my own man.

He was expecting a cliche answer…”Well, have you just simply asked him?”

But when he heard it, his response was silence followed by a slow to fast head nodding and a “Whoa…now that is good advice…it’s true and I have never heard it said like that before…pretty spot-on.”

So, without keeping you in any more suspense, are you ready to know the magic commitment question/topic to bring up?

It’s this: “So, how is your career going right now?”

Generally speaking, before being ready for a solid committed partnership with a woman that may lead to marriage, most men are hard-wired to want to provide.

And to be in that position means having a solid financial foundation and having achieved a certain level of professional success.

Without that, what tends to happen (and ladies, what you may have noticed in the dating scene) is a guy may commit to you for a few months or even a year, but there’s always this constant striving and focus on career happening in the background and you may never feel like a priority.

Because quite frankly, you’re not.

Now, does that mean that just because the man you’re seeing is in school getting a degree or certification or maybe climbing up the corporate ladder working crazy hours that he’s never going to commit to you?

No.

Nothing is that black and white.

What I’m saying is it may be awhile longer before he does.

And you have to be okay not being the priority until that shift happens. Or come up with a timeline of how long you want to wait it out. It always circles back to being true and authentic to yourself.

So, in short, if you want to assess his commitment potential, ask him about his career and how he thinks it’s going. You’ll get valuable insight into where he’s at and also feel calmer knowing what you know!

Over to you: What’s one experience you had dating a man who was really ready or who couldn’t (or wouldn’t )commit? What were some of the signs your intuition gave you to clue you in on this? Share with us in the comments!

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Your #1 Antidote to Nipping Negative Self Talk in the Bud

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Have you ever had a shitty day where you get super down on yourself for something?

Something you said.

Didn’t say.

Something you didn’t do. Or did do.

Or didn’t say or do well enough. Yada yada.

I was listening to a podcast with the amazing Brene Brown and Elizabeth Gilbert and they were talking about this and how on Day 2 of our lives, we beat ourselves up for what did or didn’t happen from Day 1. 

And it creates a downward spiral of self-loathing, self-doubt and well, crappy shame feelings about ourselves.

Ever been there? 

This crappy feeling can mess with your love mojo, your money mojo and yes, even your spiritual mojo.

The antidote to this?

(Want to take a guess?)

It’s not self-worth. 

Or even self-confidence.

Ready to find out what it is + one important way to tap into it?

Click here to watch this short video (2:13)

?***Come this Thursday (Oct 15):

LIVE! Group New Moon Meditation + Healing Circle with the Angels

There is so much power that happens when people of like-mind come together to ask for spiritual assistance and to surrender.

I’m excited to be hosting a New Moon Guided Meditation + Angelic Prayer Healing experience to help you do just that.

·      Raise your energy from all the crap that may have gotten stirred up in your aura from Mercury Retrograde

·      Connect with like-minded folks in a safe, supportive community (yay Angel sparkles!)

·      Let go of control + find peace of mind and inner calm (you’ll need both to navigate and birth the new things that are sure to be created during the New Moon!)

·      Open to receive: This is the #1 block I see people dealing with when they are learning how to manifest love + miracles. When we are open to letting the Angels help, you can actually quiet your mind to hear your own intuitive guidance

Click here to REGISTER

How it works:

Before the call, you can submit requests for healing or specific support around a situation in your life from the Angels in a short form that we’ll be sending to you the day before our call. I will use all of these for the Angel Prayer Healing.

You’ll hop on the call (phone, Skype or on your computer) and I will be sharing a channeled Angel message for our group for the New Moon to set us off right.

We’ll go through a short grounding experience to help you relax into the moment.

Then, I’ll guide you through a powerful group meditation with the Angels (about 10-15 minutes).

Then, I’ll invite you to write down the insights that came up for you during the experience and share if you wish with our group. 

To wrap our evening, I will open up the line for you to share your insights, ask for Angelic clarification of what came up for you during the meditation and for us to connect with each other!

Most importantly: BEFORE AND AFTER the event, I will be sitting with your requests and energetically putting them into a group “Angel pot” for prayer and healing.

When: This Thursday, October 15 @6pm Pacific/9pm Eastern

Investment: $25 per person.

You will receive the call details within 24 hours after you register via email.

Click here to REGISTER

?Early bird gift

The first 5 to register for this event will receive my brand-new meditation Heal Your Heart & Openunnamed 4.10.43 PM Your Soul with ArchAngel Raphael ($12 value). Great for daily clearing of negative energy.

Can’t attend live? Replay available 24 hours after the event. You can get all the energetic benefits as Spirit knows no constriction of time and space.

Click here to REGISTER 

Any questions?

Let me know!

Love and Happy New Moon!

this is embarassing… but i want to share it with you

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Have you ever noticed something about yourself that you were embarrassed to see or admit?

Yea…that happened to me this past weekend and I’d love to share my story with you with the intent that it helps you see where you could be tripping yourself up in your own relationships.

You’ll also get 3 spiritual gems to help you navigate your own shifts right now and rock it out!

Sound good?

It’s about love, seeing how your thoughts create your reality and being bold (even when you’re uncomfortable as hell!).

My Story: Out of Towners

My man let me know that he’d be leading this big convention all weekend which was fine with me, since I was going to be out of town too.

He let me know ahead of time that he probably wouldn’t have time to talk much, but that he’d text me to say hi everyday.

Well, that was all well and good…until what I call my NeedyNelly-Diana showed up.

It started bothering me that I just got a text here and a text there from him (even though he already told me this would be the case!).

They were sweet ones-I miss you, I love you, I had so much fun today with the convention but I miss you…

But in my head, I created a whole other backstory to those messages.

Have you ever done that?

Instead of framing it as “Wow, that’s awesome I heard from him. I love that he took the time out a very busy weekend to think about me” my mind translated it to:

“I’m just an afterthought. He’s just doing this out of obligation. He doesn’t care about me. I am not important. I am not special. I’m so mad at him! How could he do this to me?”

So I snipped back with passive aggressive responses about not being sure I “had time” to see him when we got back on Monday as we had planned…and on and on it went until it took on a life of its own.

The poor man was so confused. I just stewed.

Yea…not my finest moment, but that’s where my mind was at.

And I literally made myself sick and mentally/emotionally drained with these thoughts for the next few days!

Why do we do this to ourselves?!

I woke up with a crick in my neck and I couldn’t turn my head one way or the other without howling in pain (the neck represents flexibility…..that was a no-brainer to figure out!)

My chest and heart area was incredibly heavy and I found it hard to breathe deeply (heartache).

And my sleep patterns were way off, making me cranky and confused.

The solution was right in my hands, it’s always in our hands.

But I couldn’t see it : admit the truth….first to myself. Then to him.

Some of my truths:

:: It was bringing up some deep seated fears around not being important or seen. Those felt super uncomfortable…

:: I was feeling lonely and needy and envious of the convention and the time it took away from us being able to see each other. 

:: I was having a hard time being at peace with just myself..

and the core of it all was…

I missed him.

And I couldn’t deal with the emotions it brought up within me…without making it all about him and why he was to blame for what I felt…

That was embarrassing.

You can be strong and vulnerable. That is the Goddess way. It’s not an either/or proposition. TWEET THAT!

After all, I pride myself on being an independent, strong woman who genuinely enjoys my own company.

I’m not used to “missing my man” after being apart for just a few days…maybe because I was just never with the right one before!

And even when we talked and he came over on Monday all mature and ready to “resolve what came up this weekend” (That pissed me off too! I was supposed to be the ‘together’ one!) I was still holding onto a lot of my internal walls.

And he called me on it.

With love, but he did.

I started to cry.

Once the ice melted, I shared with him exactly what I just shared with you above and all was well.

We smoothed out a lot of miscommunications.

We came up with a game plan of “out-of-town” etiquette that made sense and I even gave him permission to tell me that I was about to board “crazy needy Train” before it derailed us.

The best part? My breathing calmed. And my neck felt way better.

In short: 3 GEMS

  1. Tell the truth, even when it is embarrassing, weird or scary. The truth will set you (and your body free!)
  2. Your relationships will be stronger when you let yourself be vulnerable. It’s okay…really it is.
  3. You are fabulous…and not perfect. And that’s exactly what life is about. Navigating through the imperfections and loving yourself anyway….

Over to YOU: Which one of the 3 gems above sound like you this week? Post it in the comments below! 

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Ready for a big leap? 3 steps to get you movin!

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unnamedI was talking with a client the other day about feeling like she’d outgrown the skin she’d been living in.

It was as if her new self was dying to emerge but the old self kept trying to rein her back in, with repeating old ways of reacting to the people around her, feeling less than and not using her voice to speak up for herself!

She was sooooo ready to graduate from that.

And the metaphor that came up was a pot.

The pot is your creative expression, your true essence, the breeding ground for you to bloom and be the person you came here to be.

To give you an example, in my kitchen, I have a little basil plant.

I’ve been pretty lazy about moving it to a real pot, so it’s been sitting in that little plastic container it came in from Trader Joes.

I water it.

I talk to it when I remember to.

I do all the things you’re supposed to do with plants.

But it’s getting rather big for its pot.

It reminds me every week of this fact but I haven’t done it yet.

It’s died nearly ten times but it’s hung in there, as if to say, “Diana, can’t you see I need to move outta here?!”

I’m transferring it to its bigger pot today. And I know it will be happy.

It’s the same thing with a certain area or areas in your life.

Why we hold ourselves back:

We know we’ve graduated or outgrown a certain way of be-ing but the future seems uncertain. New soil seems scary.

We know the old soil.

Even if it’s moldy, crusty and dries up two seconds after you water it.

And what the heck are we going to do with all that extra space?!

Better to stay put where you know what’s expected of you.

You know what to expect.

But it’s getting uncomfortable in that little pot.

You’re a bit restless.

And you look across at the bigger pot in your mind and it seems so far away, even though it’s not.

What it takes: 3 steps

Whether it’s a relationship that’s gone stale and past repair, a job you hate that you’re just in because it pays you well, or a way of thinking that is just well….not something you’re proud to BE anymore, the first step is to

:: give yourself permission to want out.

You’d be surprised how much we can hem and haw, dancing around growth and making changes because it’s easier to do that than actually say that you want something different.

How dare you? Your subconscious may shout! It’s okay. Just ignore that voice. It just wants to protect you but it’s not helping your cause.

:: identify what’s on the other side of the pot.

What does a bigger pot or version of yourself or your life area look like? What would you be doing? Who would you be doing it with? What do you feel like in that new pot? You may even bust out the paintbrush or journal and start giving it some life. To make significant changes like skipping into a different pot, you’ve got to give your subconscious something positive to latch onto!

:: take a baby step today

What’s one thing you could do to move you closer to the bigger pot? Maybe it’s to try on speaking up for yourself instead of being quiet the next time you feel a boundary has been crossed. Even if you feel like you’re going to die or hurt someone’s feelings. Maybe it’s to pick up the phone and apologize. Or write that email you’ve been putting off. Change comes with action.

Is being in a bigger pot scary?

It can be.

But it can also be super exciting because the sooner you step into who you really are, the less likely you are to give in to fears that stop you in your tracks.

The more people will respect you because you respect yourself.

And the better you’ll feel about yourself because nothing says confidence like hoppin out of the small pot.

You’ve got this Goddess!

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