you have to let go of good if you want great

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Have you ever known that it was TIME to let go of something that was “just okay” so you could make space for something amazing?

I recently had a session with someone who was letting go of a man who she’d had an on and off again relationship with.

They had both been playing cat and mouse for over 3 years and when we went to do the karmic cord cutting (a powerful energy release I do with my private clients), tears rolled down her face as she felt his presence in the room. “My whole body is vibrating!” she said, looking at me with wide eyes.

She got to share with him all the things she’d been too proud to say when they were face to face. To start the letting go process…for real.

And the next day (full moon) she texted me to let me know that she just wanted to go to a park and just be with herself…and sift through all the emotions that came up instead of going to a party.

“I never do that!” she laughed.

She cried. She laughed. She raged. But she had freed herself. She was starting to accept that she had always held the keys to her freedom. It wasn’t with this guy. That’s real power.

But her take-away? She was done settling for just okay. She was ready for great.

And in order for great to arrive, we have to be willing to let go of the crumbs. To let go of just “good enough.”

It’s not gonna cut it anymore Goddess!

The real secret: shhhh

And to be open to GREAT, you have to learn to tolerate and accept the space. The void. The discomfort.

You have to be strong.

It’s so easy to try and fill that space that that person, job, or habit left, but you want exceptional right?

Mindblowing, OMG-this-is-my-life amazing, right?

Then you’re going to have to be able to sit with yourself in the discomfort for awhile without rushing to replace it.

Does it hurt or suck sometimes?

Yes.

Is it easy?

Hell no!

But it’s what it takes.

A firm will to say “I will only accept the best. I’m done with crumbs.”

The Universe will test you.

You may think you’ve screwed up when that person comes back or you encounter a similar situation as before.

No no no sister.

It’s just the Universe testing your resolve to GREAT.

Be strong.

You’ve got this.

Q: Where have you been settling for “just okay or good? What does AMAZING or great look like? Brave souls, share with us in the comments! There is power in your words. Just by sharing it you are already putting it out there that you deserve more. Because you do.

credit: peek-photography.nyc

credit: peek-photography.nyc

 

ps: Curious about CORD CUTTING and karmic release sessions?

These are a specialty of mine and I’d love to help you! Click here and put in the email “cord cutting” and I’ll get you all the info for these special sessions!

he kept pulling me in emotionally

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Have you ever had something just take you way off your center?

It’s New Moon week and with New fabulous beginnings also comes those moments where life tests you to see how far you’ve really come.

Old people from the past show up and you get to resolve something.

Old issues resurface and you get to make a different choice than you would have before and it all turns out awesome, even though it scares you.

Old ways of responding are up for debate and you can surprise yourself!

Can I share something super personal with you today?

True confession.

I’ve been healing from a major breakup.

All the emotional ups and downs that come with it.

And recently, the ex contacted me via text to tell me he loved me.

That he was sorry for bothering me.

(I asked that he limit contact so we can both heal and move on)

When he did this in the past, I always got pulled into an emotional drama and would be a total mess.

So when I saw the number pop up on my phone my initial response was, ugh!!!

And at first, my guard was totally up and I just said something curt like, “That’s nice.Take care.” (Take THAT annoying man who can’t make up his mind Ego-induced victory!)

But because this is New Moon week and I’m a big fan of fresh starts and Soul growth, I decided to do something different.

But the truth was my heart hurt.

Like physically hurt.

I could barely breathe. My throat closed up and I just felt a mix of churning in my stomach.

This is what a broken heart feels like, but more than that, it’s what a closed heart feels like.

In my efforts to guard my emotions, I had left out the most important ingredient: the Truth.

So I did something I never do in a break up.

I stopped pretending that I felt strong and ‘together’ and ‘over it.’

I broke all the ‘rules’ that say you should just block their calls, etc.

Somehow this moment felt like it warranted something different.

I texted him back and said something to the effect of: “I know this is hard. I love you too. I feel a wall around my heart and it hurts but I’m just doing the best I can to move on. I’ll let down the wall again when I’m ready and I want to but for now, it’s shut. Goodnight.”

His reply? 

“I love you so much. I’m so sorry. Goodnight.”

We had a beautiful exchange.

And the best part? I didn’t leave in a heap of tears like I usually would have.

Why?

I do my best to practice what I preach. 

I had made sure that before I replied to that text, I was out of my heart space and I took myself down the energetic elevator to my Knowing. My intuitive center. Where my Spirit was in control, not my head or my Ego.

Want to learn how to do that? I’m sharing it all with brave souls next week…if you feel guided to dive in with me.

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

There was no expectation for anything other than acknowledging a moment of Truth.

I love you.

I’m hurting.

I feel this.

That’s it.

And in that moment, I felt free.

Free from the mental prison and the energy it takes to sustain a facade of the heart.

Is it the end of the story?

I don’t know yet. It’s the end of a chapter.

But I know that moving on comes in phases.

And to authentically move on, it requires that we let go of our Ego’s need to control our heart.

It’s about integration.

It’s about self-love and self-trust and certainly, self-worth.

It’s never about knowing the full story. Or having a guarantee. Life just isn’t set up that way in my humble opinion.

But it doesn’t have to be so freakin hard.

For those of you who know you have a hard time staying out of your heart space or getting tangled up in other peoples’ crap, I’d love to invite you to my upcoming intuition course: 

Intuition 101: Mastering the Art of Decision-Making and More!

It starts next week and you will leave the 5 weeks armed with intuitive tools you can use for a lifetime.

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

I know what it feels like to live out of integrity with your intuition.

To live from just your head (everything feels HARD!)

To operate just from your heart (everything feels OVERWHELMING and CONFUSING!)

And most of all, I know that there is another way that combines the best of your brilliant logic, your huge heart space and your intuition. 

If you want to learn, I’m here to show you and take you deeper into my world!

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

It all goes down April 27!

And if you got nothing else out of this email, remember this:

Life isn’t about escaping pain. It’s about letting it take you deeper into yourself so you can show up as the authentic, amazing person that you know you are! <– CLICK TO TWEET

You are loved!

Q: Have you ever surprised yourself with how you handled a difficult exchange? What happened and what helped you get through it? Share in the comments below!

Thanks so much for reading this and have a fabulous New Moon week!

Love,

Diana

what’s your ‘magic’ number? my #1 tool to focus your energy

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Do you tend to get overwhelmed with too many things to do at once?

Does your To-Do list seem to run your life?

I’ve been there and if you’re anything like my awesome superwoman/superman-style clients, you (or someone you know)  probably have a tendency to overcommit yourself or to feel the need to always be productive, even to the detriment of your own energy level.

Am I ringing any bells?

If you are ready to

  • eliminate overwhelm
  • have more energy for the things that actually matter (hello Monday night dance class I keep saying I’ll get to!)
  • feel more in control and productive

I want to help!

This week’s tool is called “What’s Your Magic Number”

It’s a simple visualization technique that I use in my own life and suggest to my clients to help you prioritize.

Ready?

Close your eyes.

Imagine that you are at a gorgeous buffet table filled with a ton of small delicious plates.

You are given a tray so you can take as many plates as you want back to your table to enjoy.

And once you’re done you can always come back for more.

Going with your first gut-level answer, in your imagination, grab the plates you want on this first round.

How many did you grab?

Write down that number.

2? 6? 3?

That’s your “Magic Number!”

It is the number of items your subconscious can prioritize at once.

Any less than that and you’ll probably try and add something more to your plate or steal someone’s plate!

Any more than that and you end up picking at all the plates in an effort to finish but eat none of them entirely.

That’s it!

Easy right?

Let’s do an example.

Susie does the exercise and her number is “3 plates.”

What this could look like in her life:

  1. She picks the top 3 projects she’s going to give her energy to for the coming business quarter. She says no to any additional projects that try and pull her away from those top 3.
  2. She writes down 3 tasks at a time to tackle by the end of the day. If she gets through all of them, she can write down 3 more tasks or she can use that extra time to do something else without guilt.
  3. She schedules 3 dates for the week (if she’s single and wanting to be a relationship). She never schedules them on the same day and she makes sure that those 3 dates work around the activities that feed her soul.

Your Turn: What’s YOUR magic number? How will you use that number to streamline one area of your life? Declare it in the comments below!

Are you ready to take your intuition to the next level?

INTUITION-3

 Class starts April 27! 

Click here to learn more and join us for Intuition 101: How to Master the Art of Decision-Making!

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do you ever feel like you’re not heard? this could be why

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  • Do you wish you could feel more heard or appreciated?
  • Do you feel like you’re always the one giving in a relationship and never getting anything back?
  • Do you wonder what you’re doing wrong?

If you answered YES to any of those questions, you’re definitely not alone.

And you’re not wrong for wanting to feel validated or heard.

Or to get as much as you’re putting out back from the people you care about.

This is something I used to struggle with a lot, especially in various jobs I held in the past.

It seemed like the more I gave, the more depleted I felt.

The more I tried to be compassionate and listen to other people’s issues, the more confused and tangled I felt at the end of the day, even if I started out feeling super bubbly and happy.

Which made me feel angry and resentful and confused because I didn’t want to stop being a “nice” person.

Why did this keep happening?

credit: peek-photography.nyc

credit: peek-photography.nyc

What I learned: 

I was/am empathic.

My sensitivity to the emotions and feelings of other people is a gift, but it’s a gift that is my job to MANAGE.

So that it doesn’t run me.

What was happening is that I was connecting with everyone I met from a heart space.

This did a few things:

  1. It made me very easy to talk to and I learned a lot about people in a short amount of time because they felt safe and heard around me.
  2. I didn’t yet understand that I could be compassionate and caring without always operating  from a heart-space. (what other space WAS there?)
  3. Being in my heart space all the time made it very easy for me to mesh emotional energies with whoever I was around. It was like our wires got crossed and the result was a crazy web of colors and strings that weren’t even mine, but that now were on my radar, coloring my thoughts, feelings and moods. I felt out of control and annoyed!

In a nutshell, what I had to learn to stop being the emotional doormat empath was to train myself to go in and out of my heart-space into other energetic spaces so that I could be there for myself and others without going into crazy mixing/matching/meshing land!

Q: Have you ever felt overrun by the emotions of other people? What has helped YOU to manage this? Share with us in the comments below!

 

ps: Would you like to learn how to get out of your heart space and into greater balance?

The Top 3 Pitfalls To Avoid in

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a simple spiritual clearing tool-to help you increase your energy + creativity!

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Have you ever felt weird or low energy in your space?

I was speaking to a good friend of mine who told me, “Diana, I’ve been having a really hard time sleeping. I keep waking up in the middle of the night and I feel this weird energy around my house, but I don’t know what to do.”

She was also feeling a bit low-energy during the day and when I asked if she had considered doing some energy clearing in her space, she said she kept getting the nudge to sage the place and throw away some old boxes in this one particular room.

This is totally common.

This feeling of stagnant energy in your space-it could be your bedroom, your office, heck, even your car if you’re in there a lot can zap your physical energy and make it really hard to focus or sleep but luckily I’ve got you covered!

No smoke or weird incense required.

A go-to remedy that costs almost nothing: The Power of the Bowl….

And one of my favorite suggestions to start getting that old gunk out is to use salt water bowls.

When used in your home, they can be used to clear stuck energy and raise the vibration of a space.

This can

  • increase your energy
  • lower your stress
  • sharpen your problem-solving abilities
  • help you feel lighter and happier, not to mention more productive and creative!

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How it works:

  1. You literally get bowls (any kind will do. Plastic, ceramic, it’s all good!)
  2.  Fill them with warm water and at least 1-1.5 cups of sea salt. If you don’t have sea salt, regular salt will do too.
  3. Place them in any space that feels stuck. Corners are great, so you will be less likely to trip over them! If it’s your bed that feels weird, underneath the bed is ideal.

Recommended additional step: Say aloud as you are placing the bowls around the space:

“Thank you for absorbing any energy that is keeping me from moving forward.”

Remember, like with anything, the most important thing is the intent behind it.

From a spiritual standpoint, sea salt helps to clear out toxins and impurities.

The water absorbs these negative or stuck vibrations and gathers it in one spot.

4.  Leave the bowls where they are for at least 24 hours.

5. In the morning, go outside (away from your house) and dump out the salt water, symbolizing a total release of that energy.

Note: Flushing it down your drain or toilet is still keeping the energy in your home, so you do need to go outside to do this for best results!

Here’s to a happier, healthier and more energized  space to help you thrive this month!

Q: Which room or space in your life feels stagnant? What’s one word that describes how you want it to feel after you apply the tool above?

Example: My bedroom feels stuck and I feel sad in there. I intend to clear it and have it feel light and inviting!

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INVITATION: Do you struggle with making decisions? Do you tend to second-guess yourself all the time and want to stop it? It’s zapping your energy and your self-esteem!

Take my free community class: “The Top 3 Pitfalls To Avoid in Decision-Making” coming up April 14!

Click here to register (it’s FREE!).