he kept pulling me in emotionally

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Have you ever had something just take you way off your center?

It’s New Moon week and with New fabulous beginnings also comes those moments where life tests you to see how far you’ve really come.

Old people from the past show up and you get to resolve something.

Old issues resurface and you get to make a different choice than you would have before and it all turns out awesome, even though it scares you.

Old ways of responding are up for debate and you can surprise yourself!

Can I share something super personal with you today?

True confession.

I’ve been healing from a major breakup.

All the emotional ups and downs that come with it.

And recently, the ex contacted me via text to tell me he loved me.

That he was sorry for bothering me.

(I asked that he limit contact so we can both heal and move on)

When he did this in the past, I always got pulled into an emotional drama and would be a total mess.

So when I saw the number pop up on my phone my initial response was, ugh!!!

And at first, my guard was totally up and I just said something curt like, “That’s nice.Take care.” (Take THAT annoying man who can’t make up his mind Ego-induced victory!)

But because this is New Moon week and I’m a big fan of fresh starts and Soul growth, I decided to do something different.

But the truth was my heart hurt.

Like physically hurt.

I could barely breathe. My throat closed up and I just felt a mix of churning in my stomach.

This is what a broken heart feels like, but more than that, it’s what a closed heart feels like.

In my efforts to guard my emotions, I had left out the most important ingredient: the Truth.

So I did something I never do in a break up.

I stopped pretending that I felt strong and ‘together’ and ‘over it.’

I broke all the ‘rules’ that say you should just block their calls, etc.

Somehow this moment felt like it warranted something different.

I texted him back and said something to the effect of: “I know this is hard. I love you too. I feel a wall around my heart and it hurts but I’m just doing the best I can to move on. I’ll let down the wall again when I’m ready and I want to but for now, it’s shut. Goodnight.”

His reply? 

“I love you so much. I’m so sorry. Goodnight.”

We had a beautiful exchange.

And the best part? I didn’t leave in a heap of tears like I usually would have.

Why?

I do my best to practice what I preach. 

I had made sure that before I replied to that text, I was out of my heart space and I took myself down the energetic elevator to my Knowing. My intuitive center. Where my Spirit was in control, not my head or my Ego.

Want to learn how to do that? I’m sharing it all with brave souls next week…if you feel guided to dive in with me.

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

There was no expectation for anything other than acknowledging a moment of Truth.

I love you.

I’m hurting.

I feel this.

That’s it.

And in that moment, I felt free.

Free from the mental prison and the energy it takes to sustain a facade of the heart.

Is it the end of the story?

I don’t know yet. It’s the end of a chapter.

But I know that moving on comes in phases.

And to authentically move on, it requires that we let go of our Ego’s need to control our heart.

It’s about integration.

It’s about self-love and self-trust and certainly, self-worth.

It’s never about knowing the full story. Or having a guarantee. Life just isn’t set up that way in my humble opinion.

But it doesn’t have to be so freakin hard.

For those of you who know you have a hard time staying out of your heart space or getting tangled up in other peoples’ crap, I’d love to invite you to my upcoming intuition course: 

Intuition 101: Mastering the Art of Decision-Making and More!

It starts next week and you will leave the 5 weeks armed with intuitive tools you can use for a lifetime.

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

I know what it feels like to live out of integrity with your intuition.

To live from just your head (everything feels HARD!)

To operate just from your heart (everything feels OVERWHELMING and CONFUSING!)

And most of all, I know that there is another way that combines the best of your brilliant logic, your huge heart space and your intuition. 

If you want to learn, I’m here to show you and take you deeper into my world!

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

It all goes down April 27!

And if you got nothing else out of this email, remember this:

Life isn’t about escaping pain. It’s about letting it take you deeper into yourself so you can show up as the authentic, amazing person that you know you are! <– CLICK TO TWEET

You are loved!

Q: Have you ever surprised yourself with how you handled a difficult exchange? What happened and what helped you get through it? Share in the comments below!

Thanks so much for reading this and have a fabulous New Moon week!

Love,

Diana

do you ever feel like you’re not heard? this could be why

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  • Do you wish you could feel more heard or appreciated?
  • Do you feel like you’re always the one giving in a relationship and never getting anything back?
  • Do you wonder what you’re doing wrong?

If you answered YES to any of those questions, you’re definitely not alone.

And you’re not wrong for wanting to feel validated or heard.

Or to get as much as you’re putting out back from the people you care about.

This is something I used to struggle with a lot, especially in various jobs I held in the past.

It seemed like the more I gave, the more depleted I felt.

The more I tried to be compassionate and listen to other people’s issues, the more confused and tangled I felt at the end of the day, even if I started out feeling super bubbly and happy.

Which made me feel angry and resentful and confused because I didn’t want to stop being a “nice” person.

Why did this keep happening?

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credit: peek-photography.nyc

What I learned: 

I was/am empathic.

My sensitivity to the emotions and feelings of other people is a gift, but it’s a gift that is my job to MANAGE.

So that it doesn’t run me.

What was happening is that I was connecting with everyone I met from a heart space.

This did a few things:

  1. It made me very easy to talk to and I learned a lot about people in a short amount of time because they felt safe and heard around me.
  2. I didn’t yet understand that I could be compassionate and caring without always operating  from a heart-space. (what other space WAS there?)
  3. Being in my heart space all the time made it very easy for me to mesh emotional energies with whoever I was around. It was like our wires got crossed and the result was a crazy web of colors and strings that weren’t even mine, but that now were on my radar, coloring my thoughts, feelings and moods. I felt out of control and annoyed!

In a nutshell, what I had to learn to stop being the emotional doormat empath was to train myself to go in and out of my heart-space into other energetic spaces so that I could be there for myself and others without going into crazy mixing/matching/meshing land!

Q: Have you ever felt overrun by the emotions of other people? What has helped YOU to manage this? Share with us in the comments below!

 

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need to forgive? my 4-sentence tool to clear your heart + usher in more love on this full moon!

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The fastest way to clear up your crap is to forgive. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Forgive it al.

Ah, forgiveness.

It’s a nice idea, isn’t it?

But how do you actually do it without feeling like a total phony?

Today, I’m spilling the beans on my #1 favorite forgiveness tool.

I actually did it myself this morning and it has helped my clients clear their heart in a way that traditional affirmations just well, don’t. And it’s easy.

In this week’s video, you’ll learn:

  • The skinny on what this full moon in LEO means for you
  • My 1 minute tool to forgive and let go of that person, situation, crap that you’re holding in your heart that isn’t serving you.
  • A powerful ritual and step that most people miss when they forgive that can help you move on quicker

Watch it here: 

This week: Who or what are you ready to let go of? Are you committed to trying out the technique above? What did you discover? Declare it in the comments below!

take this word out + watch what cool stuff happens

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Want to learn how to manifest quicker?

When I first started learning about manifesting, one of the things I found out super quick was that the words we speak have power.

They have energy behind them. And say them enough, and that energy becomes the norm and stuff starts showing up to back up what we keep telling ourselves.

And if you want to create better relationships, earn more money, call in a new home or anything else for that matter, you want to make sure your words align with your actions.

And if you want to create fabulous things in your life, you will want to stop saying one little word.

It trips everyone out including myself because we say it without even thinking about it and it blocks your progress and creates the opposite effect of what you want.

And last night, I forgot this golden word rule and had a crazy experience in my NYC hotel room that made so much sense now.

Want to know what that word/sound is?

Click below to watch my super ridiculously short video and stop saying THAT word!

After you watch, be sure to leave a comment on the blog to this week’s Soul question!

Q: What is one thing that you DO want to call in for yourself? Declare it in the comments below!

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4 simple steps to call in your desires….Goddess style

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1_20 blog - DDI just finished leading a movement workshop called “Dance Your Desires” at an event in New York this past weekend and I shared my 4-step system to call in your desires….Goddess style that I want to share with you!

I’ve used this ancient system to help my clients manifest:
:: a new job
:: more confidence in dating
:: the strength to leave a relationship they knew wasn’t right for them
:: an influx of cash at just the right time
:: attract more ideal clients into their business
:: the perfect new home 

It is based upon 4 ancient elements that we need to tap into to harness what we really want:
Earth
Water
Fire
Air 

Step 1: Earth
aka “Ground your energy!”
The first step of birthing your desires is to make sure that you are rooted in what you’re asking for. It involves getting clarity around what it is that you really want, starting with how you intend to feel when you receive that. Example: I would like to call in a new relationship where I feel deliciously adored. As you breathe into that specificity, you can ground your desire by writing it down or planting your feet into the earth (Goddess-style!) and envisioning it running up and down your body.

Step 2: Water
aka “Flow with the emotions that come up”
So often after we get clear on what you want, uncomfortable emotions and thoughts come up to the surface. Joy, sadness, fear, anger. They aren’t rational but if you flow with them and stay present with what you’re feeling, you move through to the next step. When you fight your feelings, you become their prisoner and our energy contracts, making it really hard to call forth your desire. 

Step 3: Fire
aka “Let your passion out and speak your truth!”
This step is about external energy. While the other two were more internal, once you’ve moved through any weird feelings, the next step is about letting that passion out. Making that phone call, signing up for that class, making the big ask. I call it your “Lady Gaga” because it’s about being unapologetically on fire about your desire and letting as many people know as possible who support your vision and can help you call it in. Asking for help. Pitching your ideas. Basically not giving a crap about what anyone thinks and letting out the vision you’ve been holding. Massive action! 

Step 4: Air
aka “Surrender and detach”
This last step can be the most challenging. It’s about letting go of control and trusting that you’ve done all you can do. It’s about letting go of the “how” and the “when” and mentally detaching from the outcome and emotionally surrendering to the space that the Universe will rush in to fill. Letting go of what form your desire comes to you in. Being wide open to receive. And being open to being surprised. This is the time to meditate, to light that candle and do a release ceremony. To create movement in your body that symbolizes your total detachment to what you’re asking for. To call a friend to help you let go of any grasping. Faith and open-ness.

That’s it!

With practicing those 4 elements and steps, you’ll be on your way to calling forth your desires in a way that is authentic to you and joyful!

Q: Which element feels easy for you? Which feels more challenging? Why? Share your comments with us below!

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