For this week’s intuitive message, I pulled “Goddess Oonagh” and the card says:

“There is no need to hurry or force things to happen. Everything is occurring in perfect timing.”

As we start to approach the end of the year, you may be feeling this internal pressure to speed up, get a ton done and be “productive.”

While there’s nothing wrong with that, if it’s at the expense of your self-care and goes against the grain of what your body is telling you it needs, that’s when there is a problem.

Anxiety creeps in about the future.. “What if XYZ happen? What if XYZ doesn’t happen?”

Depression can creep in about the past. “I tried that before and look what it got me…I opened my heart and he/she broke it….I took a big risk in my business and it didn’t pan out…” etc

But the real power is when we can stay in the eye of the energetic hurricane.

Your emotions may be up and down.

But this week’s message is a reminder that you are more than your emotions.

You are more than your fears.

And you do have a choice to realign back to the present moment.

Here are 5 of my favorite mantras to help you get back in the here and manage your mind when when life starts to speed up or slow down. Say them aloud with feeling or write them in your journal to anchor it into your subconscious. Pick the one that resonates with you the most on each day or try using the same one for a week to see how it feels!

#1 Life loves me and I love life back!

#2 My needs are always met and the Universe has my back.

#3 I AM abundantly supported!

#4 It is safe for me to BE. I am enough.

#5 All is well in my world.

Q: Which Self Care Mantra calls to you today? Share with us in the comments!

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Do you know one of those people who always seem to just attract positive attention wherever they go?

You may say to yourself, “They are so lucky! What do they have that I don’t?”

I call these people love magnets.

You see love is most magnetic force and these people are vibrating at such a high manifesting frequency not because of some mystical Knighting by the Universe.

They have chosen specific ways of Be-ing that draws people and love, money, miracles, etc in.

Not surprisingly the three love magnet behaviors I’m about to share with you are also the key behaviors demonstrated of some of the world’s most successful and fulfilled people (including the Divine Ms. O!)

And the best part is, you can learn them and incorporate them into your everyday life right now.

Here are the top 3:

1.  Keep your commitments

One of the marks of a truly lasting relationship is trust and trust comes from consistency.

We feel safer and more likely to open up and get emotionally intimate with someone who does that they say they will…when they say they will. Too often in dating, one person really wants to see the other and will attempt to convince the other person to change their plans. This is innocent enough and hey, it feels great to be wanted and missed. But the woman who says, “Hey, I love that you want to spend more time with me. I miss you too. However I’m unavailable tonight because I have a prior commitment” is the woman he wants. The one he’ll bend his plans for. The one that stands out above all the rest.  Even if there is temporary disappointment at not getting instant gratification the woman who keeps her commitments is extremely attractive. Self respect is sexy. Keep your commitments, even if that commitment is to wash your hair and do your overflowing pile of laundry.

2.  Be present with what’s in front of you

We’ve all been there. You’re in the middle of writing a really important email and suddenly your cell phone chimes that you got a new Facebook notification. You can’t resist, so you vow to quickly check your phone and as soon as you grab your phone, a friend sends you a personal message with a question. Before you know it, you’ve completely lost your train of thought for the important email and end up staring at a blank screen, feeling frustrated and annoyed (but quickly try to type back a reply on Facebook). A restless, easily distracted mind is not attractive. It’s at the mercy of everything and everyone around it. And when it comes to relationships, the more you can zero in on the conversation you’re having or the one task that’s at hand, the calmer your mind is, the more likely you are to hear your intuition and the more likely you are to actually tune into the subtle messages it gives you. You get closer to what you want, instead of being constantly pulled away from the power of the moment. And the person you are with feels like they are the most important thing in your world. Because they are. Making another feel heard and important is sexy. Be present.

3.  Know your deal breakers…and honor them.

There is a story I read somewhere about a Japanese business who made all his major business partnership decisions based on how well his lunch digested. If the meal went down smooth, he was in. If it didn’t go down well, the deal didn’t go down either.

Now, in relationships, it may not work as black and white as that, but in my book, The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again, there is a whole chapter on the importance of identifying your dealbreakers, the non-negotiable things that your Soul really needs to be able to relax and show up 100% in your relationships. These are things like knowing how you feel about having children, how important it is that the other person have the same spiritual beliefs as you, mindset on health and more. A love magnet is someone who has already done the legwork on identifying these and she makes decisions based on whether something aligns or misaligns to that list. And she’s comfortable saying no a lot because she knows that when she honors her dealbreakers, she makes choices that honor her most elevated, magnetic self. And when she honors herself, everybody around her benefits and gets the best of what she has to offer. Boundaries are sexy. Clarity is key. Know your deal breakers.

This week’s soul question: Which of the three love magnet behaviors will you commit to practice this week? Why did you choose that particular one? Tell me in the comments below!

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