Has this ever happened to you?

You want a relationship.

Or a job.

Or a home.

You’ve gotten specific. You’ve checked to make sure it’s a true desire vs. a passing want. And you’re taking action and also waiting for signs to keep going and pass Go.

But nothing much seems to be happening.

You ask yourself, “What am I doing wrong?”

Sometimes it’s truly about Divine timing and we just have to be more patient and shift the focus to appreciating all the abundance, love, money, etc already present.

Other times, it’s that we need to tweak and be more clear on what we’re asking for.

Or we need to take different action.

But sometimes it’s something else that could be slowing your flow.

It’s subtle, but very very important.

It’s because we are emotionally attached and energetically hooked into that thing we want from a place of fear.

We’ve all done it (myself included!) and what it’s really saying to the Universe is “Please give me that thing. I need it. I need it so badly. I’m afraid I won’t get it. So I’m going to cling and focus so hard on it so you know that it’s really mine…. and could you please give it to me now so I can stop worrying about losing it?”

I liken it to a child squeezing their pet so hard that the thing literally yelps and trying to escape its grasp.

And most importantly, it needs to feel the energy of genuine joy and passion to be drawn to you. Very different than fear and anxiety.

Especially if what you are trying to call in is a relationship.

So…what can you do about it?

Here it is: Shift your perception from what you’re going to get to what you will bring to this this that you’re asking for.

Ask yourself: “What can I bring to this person/situation/etc?” It could be something simple like, laughter and fun.

In short: pour your passion into it vs. worrying about what you aren’t getting/are getting from it.

And here’s the cool part: Then…the Universe gives you more anyway. Way more. Like blow your mind, whoa-really-I-get-all-this more.

I’m not totally sure why it works that way, but it’s just been my personal experience.

Who would you rather date? The giver or the taker?

Which one are you drawn to?

Be the giver and you will get, naturally.

Capiche?

Now over to you beautiful Soul!

Q: What is one quality that you feel you bring to a relationship (or whatever it is that you are currently desiring)? Declare it in the comments below and let’s rev up your manifesting energy for the upcoming new Moon!

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Praise for The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again

“Since everything in life operates by Law, you are already attracting everything into your life. When you begin to follow the tools presented in this humorous and enlightening book, you’ll attract the mate of your dreams.”

-Bob Proctor, Author and Teacher from the movie, The Secret

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Confession: I’m writing this in my pajamas and fuzzy socks.

 

And my new soft hot pink hoodie.

 

It’s way overcast here in the desert and I finally surrendered to the quiet and darkness of winter here in the States.

 

I gave myself permission to meander through my morning with no set agenda.

 

To tune into what my body wanted and what pulls at my heart…and what doesn’t (even if it has been on my to-do list for the whole week).

 

It’s one of the first assignments I give my private VIP clients; we call it scheduling in non-negotiable “Goddess Flow” time.

 

It’s meant to restore your creative juices, rest your logical, overdriven brain and reconnect you to your spiritual center.

 

From that delicious space comes the feeling of what you want to create and pull in next to your life.

 

Your “vision.”

 

Most of us have been taught to do it backwards.

 

Write down to-do’s and tasks and goals….but the problem with that is that if it’s not connected to something you truly desire, like really really desire, it’s super easy to slack, come up with excuses to not stay the course when things get wobbly and basically, stay exactly where you are.

 

Reframe self-care:

 

Slowing down not just for indulgent pampering time, but reframing it to be a necessary preparation to birthing a desire is a totally different energy, isn’t it?

 

How would it feel to say, “I’m having Goddess flow time right now so that I can hear what steps I might take towards pulling in a new relationship….or a new client…or a new job, etc”

 

Suddenly that slow down time has a purpose, a bigger WHY.

 

It’s a powerful place to start manifesting and because the energy is so strong now, I don’t want you to wait until January to put this into place.

 

So I invite you to bring it into your life now.

 

This week’s Soul action: Take out your calendar. Pick one block of time each day (or each week, it’s up to you!) where you will have “Flow” time. Open space.

 

To let your Soul breathe.

 

To actually tune into what your desires are, so your brilliant mind can help fill in the blanks of what you can do to birth them.

 

It could be 10 minutes, 1 hour or the whole day. Choose a starting point that feels easy and then build up.

 

It’s so easy to say, “I don’t have time to do ‘nothing,’ Diana! I have responsibilities!”

 

I hear you Goddess.

 

But I don’t buy it.

 

We all have responsibilities and we all have 24 hours in a day.

 

It comes down to this.

 

Do you want life to lead you and have you be at the mercy of your circumstances?

 

OR

 

Do you want to be a Goddess and co-create a fabulous life with Spirit that honors you and supports your dreams?

 

The choice is yours!

 

I’d write more, but I’m signing off to go to the bookstore and read magazines.

 

After all, it’s my Goddess flow time 🙂

 

Have a fabulous holiday however you choose to celebrate and we will talk soon, okay?

 

Love and Blessings,

Diana

PS: Looking for clarity? Click here to book a Soul reading for yourself!