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But It’s Chanel, Darling (A Tale of Self-Worth aka Paris Part 2)

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Can I ask you something? Where have you been feeling called to upgrade things in your life? Maybe it’s your wardrobe, your mindset, or something else.

A big part of manifesting like a Goddess, especially when it comes to relationships, has to do with believing at your core that you are worthy of the best. The best meaning, being treated well-with love, respect, kindness, etc.

So often we don’t feel worthy of the things we are asking for.

One day on my Paris trip, I got bored at the Louvre and left my friend to happily bemuse the floors of paintings and statues (I did make sure to whiz past the Nike goddess, Venus de Milo and the Mona Lisa-she was small!) and instead decided to find and visit the Chanel original store on 31 Rue Cambon. I’ve always been fascinated by her story and set about on my adventure.

I went in my sneakers, jeans and my hair was a mess as I tried to look inconspicuous holding up my phone and following Google map walk directions amidst all the locals.

I just meant to look at the building but I was itching to go in. There was a guard on the side door (I guess reserved for VIP’s with appointments). I just went ballsy New Yorker on him and asked point blank if I could go in and look. I think he was just amused or bored and to my delight, laughed and opened the door!

When I got through the secret door, I was greeted by three more miked and well dressed Chanel people. No, I did not have an appointment. Just looking. American. Petit, Frances. Sorry. They looked me up and down and left me alone!

As I walked around the beautiful space, and felt the gorgeous fabrics from the jackets and dresses, part of me felt soooo out of place. $16,000 for a jacket? I should just run out now. What the heck was I doing here? There were half-empty champagne flutes on silver trays on the coffee tables in each room set aside no doubt for the “appointment” people. Who was I to be in here? And yet, my inner voice told me-it’s all just a choice. You belong or don’t belong. Belong to yourself and you simply choose where you go and what you wish to experience.

Privet Rouge

I ended up somehow at the make up station.

I met a super good looking French salesperson called Bryan and it was as if some force took me over. I went into what I can only describe as the Chanel trance.

I was transported to another world. We started talking about the history of the brand, Boy Capel and the next thing I know I was consulting with him on the “perfect” red lipstick for my skin tone and he was giving me pointers and opinions and well, long story short, I ended up buying the most perfect, red, and expensive lipstick I’ve ever owned.

It comes in a glass case and is modeled after the original address (31 Rue Cambon) and of course I chose one called Privet Rouge (Private Red-very Goddess). He handed me a tiny Chanel bag (which he informed me was only given out at the original store here in Paris-everywhere else it’s black apparently), put the signature Chanel camelia flower on it.

Then, he whispered that if we were quick, he’d be happy to sneak me over to the original mirrored staircase where Chanel would sit during her shows watching the reactions of the audience members to determine whether or not she would come down. It was guarded but one nod from Bryan, and we went right through. OMG, I couldn’t believe my luck!

The Ghost of Chanel
I could feel decades of history and energy as I stood on that staircase and was overcome with emotion and this profound sense of her essence. She toiled and triumphed and failed on these steps. She faced criticism and praise. She wasn’t perfect but she demanded the best from herself and everyone who worked for her. It was such an interesting sensation that is hard to describe but I am so grateful I didn’t let my insecurities or feelings of being out of place stop me from getting to that moment.

A few lessons I gleaned:

  •  Trust your intuition and desire to lead to places that may seem “out of reach” or out of your comfort zone. If things trigger you while you are there, which they certainly did for me at Chanel, know that you can use it as opportunity to witness, love and honor the feelings that arise.
  • Belonging and feeling worthy are an inside job. No lipstick, jacket or VIP treatment makes me any more or less worthy than the next person. But how you feel about yourself, talk to yourself and carry yourself matters the most. Then, you can truly enjoy yourself in any environment.
  • Don’t cut yourself off before you consider. Yes, Bryan was an exceptional salesperson and I didn’t “need” a crazy red, expensive ass lipstick but I checked in with myself and I truly desired it, loved how it felt on my very sensitive lips and instead of shutting myself or him down or not even trying it on, I considered it. I gave myself the full experience, took pleasure in receiving the benefit of his expert eye, tried on a few different reds and made my own grounded decision to hand over my AMEX. I also knew deep down that if none of them were right for me, it was totally okay for me to thank him and leave the store. The old me would have run away from Bryan, or not even let myself look at the lipsticks, let alone sit in the chair to even consider. I would have gone into people pleasing and bought something just because I felt bad that he took so much time with me even if it wasn’t at all right for me. Not the new Diana. And it felt great.

Q: Which one of these lessons did you need to hear this week? Hit reply or leave me a comment on the blog!

Have an amazing week!

Diana wearing a salmon shirt, taken 2022

It’s Safe For You To Receive The Best – Monthly Mantra

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Happy Tuesday!

A big block that stops you from attracting the type of relationship you want is a subconscious belief that you have to settle for less than you desire.

One of my clients struggled with accepting crumbs in her love life and we identified that this came from a childhood programming that it was not okay to express difficult emotions.

She had to people please in order to receive love and while this helped her achieve a certain status in her professional life, in her romantic life, this worked against her.

She was tired of attracting narcissists and men who needed mothering and financial rescuing.

The first step was to acknowledge the pattern and she also started working with mantras.

If there’s an area of your life where you aren’t receiving at the level you really desire, consider that your subconscious may just need to feel safe to receive at that new level.

This month’s mantra is “It is safe for me to receive the best.”

When you are open to seeing more than one possibility and receiving, you broaden your lens and potential for intimacy, connection and understanding can increase.

So, if you like journaling, before you use this mantra, I invite you to reflect on the following:
Where have I downplayed what I really want?
What could shift if I allowed myself to receive the best?
What have I been wanting to upgrade in my life?
Now it’s your turn (if you want to try this mantra!): “It is safe for me to receive the best.”

How to use it:
In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how you feel.

Have a beautiful week, Goddess!

ps: If you’re ready to break childhood patterns that are blocking you in your love life, go here to explore 1:1 coaching.

Don’t Believe Everything Your Mind Tells You (Tales From Paris-Part 1)

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Happy Tuesday!

So, have you ever been super excited about something to the point where you become obsessive and then anxious in anticipation of it coming?

You’re not alone! Whether it’s a date, an upcoming promotion or in my case, a dream trip, our minds can be our good friend or our foe.

As we prepare for the last lunar eclipse of 2023 on October 28, it’s the perfect time to release old fears, traumas and rest your mind.

I’d love to share a story with you from my travels-it relates to the power of the mind and what you can do if you find yourself in a tailspin! Sound good?

Paris, Paris…BB?!
You guys may know- I’ve recently returned from a dream trip to Paris. My friend planned an amazing, spacious itinerary and I’d literally been counting down the days, packing and repacking and with two days until go, I was finally starting to relax into the joy and excitement of it when I get a text from a friend that there was apparently an outbreak of bedbugs in Paris. Followed by well meaning messages from followers on social media to the same degree. I know it was to inform me but talk about throwing water on my blanket!

Now, I actually experienced this in one of the cities I used to live in and it was a nightmare and very traumatic for me so as much as I wanted to pretend like I was “all good” I wasn’t. I went down the rabbit hole of google and of course in my fearful state of mind, found plenty of articles to back up all my worries. There were bedbugs found in the airport, the trains, the buses, the movie theater – basically we were screwed.

I went into hyper protection mode and devised a plan of how to protect our clothes, packed my own pillowcase, bought expensive travel size bed bug spray, and generally felt paranoid which is so not Goddess.

Delirious D
The first 2 days into the trip, I didn’t sleep well at all and was scared of the pillows (or the bedbug phantoms on them.) And at the first little sight of a scratchy red mark on my ankle, I started crying,resprayed all the surfaces I could and freaked out that our apartment in Paris was infested. I was ready to board a plane and say screw you to the City of Lights. (Turns out- It was an ant bite from walking around for hours by the Eiffel Tower) After my husband and friend reassured me I was fine- bless them for dealing with me in my sleep deprived, delirious state, I finally got some shut eye, surrendered to the experience and started to relax.

Long story short: we made it through the trip and back home bed bug free. I got to enjoy the city and had a wonderful time but man, how I let my beautiful mind take one text message and let it deregulate my nervous system and nearly highjack my entire vacation! Thank Goddess I didn’t listen to it and got to visit the beautiful Versailles (see pic below!)

Lessons (take if it’s helpful!)
1. When you get triggered by a text, stop. Breathe. Don’t immediately react. Get grounded before responding if at all.
2. Take action from a neutral state- yes there were precautions to take but it would have had such a different quality to it if I hadn’t been reliving an experience from years ago and attaching it to this one. Do some tapping when you realize you’re “taken back” to a triggering moment.
3. Get back in your body-walk, shake, run in place. If you’re in your body, your intuition can kick in and share messages that your monkey mind simply can’t. It just takes a few seconds to redirect yourself.
4. Recognize what you’re choosing to focus on- give airs to your fears but then you can choose to focus on what you do wish to create and experience.

Which one of the 4 lessons spoke to you?

Have a beautiful rest of your week, relax as we head into this last Eclipse and remember: you are loved. You are safe. You are powerful! And so it is!

Birthday Reflections

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Happy Tuesday Goddess!

Before we dive into today’s post, I just want to say Thank you to everyone for all the beautiful Birthday blessings, wishes and kind messages.

I feel so grateful and wanted to share some of the wisdom that came up in my birthday reflection this year that can help you with relationships and life.

3 Love Lessons (birthday reflections)

Lesson 1: Saying no from a space of genuine self-care is the greatest YES you can give to yourself (and others, even if you disappoint them first). I got invited to a karaoke night out with a few friends-I roped my husband to come out on a weekday and was so gun-ho about it…until the next day. I had had a sleepless night (my own fault: I had caffeine way too late the day before) and by 4pm, a few hours before we were meant to meet everyone, I knew it wasn’t happening. I tried-I rallied, but my body was screaming…noooooo. I let my friend know and I felt bad when she said she’d gotten me a birthday cake and everything (not expected, but super sweet). A part of me felt so guilty and wanted to just power through. But, I seriously didn’t have it in me. I had to disappoint them and stay home. So, I did. And the world didn’t fall apart and we are still friends.

Lesson 2: Leave room to be surprised! (aka, stop trying to control every dang thing!)
My husband made a dinner reservation to take me out Saturday-I could tell he was really concerned about me liking the place and instead of trying to control things and tell him exactly where I wanted to be taken to, I let him go through his own process to pick. He is amazing at picking delicious places to eat, knows me well and I totally trust him-and we had an amazing time! He took me to this 1930’s converted house downtown Phoenix in a super funky, cool area and the food was….delicious! Was I maybe slightly overdressed? Yep, but again, who cares? It was so awesome to be surprised and to receive. I realized all the places in my life where I could benefit from a little bit more, “let’s see what happens” and expect to be absolutely delighted instead of keeping a death grip on the details and outcome.

Lesson 3: Give yourself grace from the “shoulds”
I don’t know what it is about birthdays, but I have noticed, in the past, I’ve had a tendency to measure my life against the one I thought I “should” have by now. And I’d feel so bummed, depressed and generally crappy because most of the time, there was always some goal or benchmark that I felt I failed at or just didn’t even see as a tiny speck of possibility on the horizon. Cue Bridget Jones Diary and a large pizza. This year, there was none of that. Instead of “shoulding” all over myself, I gave myself some grace. I asked, “What are 3 highlights of this past year around the sun?” The first ones that came, I just let myself soak in, honor and fully remembered. I let my body feel the pride, or the joy, or even the delicious growth of the memory all over again. And that was it. No intense self-inquiry or judgement. Back to the present moment. I have shit to do, afterall!

That’s it!

That’s what I got for you this week, Goddess.

Apply the lessons to your own life if you wish-and if there’s one in particular that spoke to you more than the others, I’d love to hear about it!

Which one will you adopt this week? Lemme know and if you’re wanting an extra energy BOOST to make this last quarter of 2023 your absolute best, check out my Birthday Gold Treatment Bundle Special! It’s good until August 31 and you can use them anytime before the end of this glorious year!