a self-love ritual you can actually stick to

Self-love is a term that gets thrown around in the self-help fields like confetti.

I’m here to make it super simple.

When you love and appreciate yourself, your outer world reflects that feeling.

You feel happier, more confident and yes, more in control of your life.

But it requires practice and consistency.

And let’s face it, you may not always have a free hour or two in your day to dedicate to yourself (it’s something to build towards for sure!).

But we all have the same 24 hours in a day.

The question is: How dedicated are you to up-leveling your inner world?

Here are 4 steps to make it super easy!

Step 1: (Prep) Write down all the things that you know bring you closer to your Spirit.

journaling, pulling Angel cards, going for a walk, dancing in your bedroom, meditating, doing a few yoga poses, petting the dog. you get it. dump it out on a list.

Step 2: Pick one ritual every morning when you first open your eyes. Just one. Make it digestible so you can actually be consistent. Anywhere from 5 minutes to 30 minutes I find is ideal for busy bees!

Say aloud, “Today, the ritual that would most nurture my Spirit is….”

Close your eyes if you like and swirl your finger around. If you aren’t sure, ask the Angels to pick for you. Open your eyes and the ritual that’s closest to your finger is the one you do that morning.

Step 3: Actually do the ritual and celebrate!

That’s it! You’re done!

Want an extra boost?

Say this mantra:

When I am consistent, I am clear.

When I am clear, I create space.

When I create space, I come back to myself.

And anything is possible.

This week’s Soul question: What is an activity that you have been putting off that you know would bring you closer to your Spirit? Share with us in the comments below! Nothing like accountability to get your bootie in gear!

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want to sharpen your psychic abilities? keep one of these in your purse!

When I first started learning about intuition and psychic hits, it was really hard for me to bypass that logical side of my brain that said, “If you can’t see it, if you don’t have evidence, it’s not real.”

Maybe some of you left-brainers can relate!

And one little tip from a mentor helped me actually use that doubt as fuel for my intuition.

It’s called simply the “I’m-not-crazy” journal.

Seriously.

What is it?

It literally is a little notepad you can keep in your purse or desk and at the top you write “I’m not Crazy” evidence.

What do you do with it?

Every time you get an intuitive “nudge” or feeling about a certain situation in your life,  you write it down.

Then you put an actual date on it.

After following your guidance (or sometimes just letting time pass naturally), you will start to notice that the thing you were actually feeling not only happened, but was right on the money!

You can put a sticker or a check mark. Anything to “reward” yourself for being right on track (and not crazy!). The logical side loves rewards and checking things off!

At first it could be silly stuff like, “Feeling like if you made a right turn in the parking lot, a spot would open up…and then it does.”

What’s the benefit?

But the more you do it, the more you’ll find that logical, skeptical part of you quieting down and submitting to your intuitive, non-linear part.

The sweet sauce happens when you marry the two.

Intuitive nudge, followed by inspired action from your fabulous logical brain.

BAM!

That is what the self-help gurus call the “flow.”

And you can start to tap into it right now, today.

All you need is a pen and paper.

Ready? Set….GO!

This week’s soul question: What is one intuitive nudge or gut feeling you got that ended up being spot on? Share with us in the comments below!

Out of your comfort zone? Remember these lessons!

Have you ever been asked to do something you know you suck at?

Maybe it’s to lead a presentation on a topic you know very little about.

Or to talk to a bunch of people when you’d rather be behind your laptop.

Or to go on a blind date with someone your friend set you up with.

The Universe is sneaky sometimes, but always brilliant.

In order to get to the next level of your Soul’s journey (and being the person you’ve always dreamed of being, living the way you’ve always dreamed of living), you are usually asked to exit your comfort zone.

In a major way. Not just once. But over and over and over again.

And when that happens, you either step up to meet and be-friend that part of you that is scared or you thrash about and sabotage your success.

This could be in business, in love, heck, even in exercise habits!

Can I share a true story with you about moving out of your comfort zone + the intuitive guidance that came out from it?

My intention is that it helps you feel less alone during all the changes that you may be navigating right now in your life.

There’s also a short 3-part phrase that you can say aloud to yourself or silently whenever you are faced with a new situation. (I’m all about practical action!)

ps:…you’ll get to see a picture of me in a princess tiara…you’ll understand once you read the short story!

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The Story:

One day, at dance camp….

This summer, I’ve been blissing out, teaching dance in a summer camp here in the desert and lo and behold I apparently volunteered to help decorate the center for the theme of the week: fairy tales.

I should preface this post by saying that glue guns scare me, anything involving fabric or loops or putting intricate pieces of cloth together with a needle just send me into irrational, helpless, frustrated Goddess land.

Give me the mic at karaoke and I’ll do it.

Want me to give a speech on the spot to 1000 people?

I’ll rock it out.

But anything involving the words ‘arts and crafts?’

Eeek!! I get so nervous and look for the exit door.

Lesson #1: The Universe is sneaky but brilliant. You have to risk being a novice to eventually be a rock star in your life.

It knows our weak spots. The things we hate doing because we’d rather do only the things we are awesome at than risk looking like a novice or an idiot (or both).

So when it came to my attention that in fact my partner in crime heading up fairy tale week would be supervising a field trip and would not be there,  I froze.

WTF?

How was I supposed to transform the space without a plan or even the faintest idea of where to begin? Was this all a bad dream?

If this was in my business, I would just simply delegate the unhappy task to my assistant or seek out expert advice from my coach.

But this was not that situation.

And the kids were counting on me to wake up Monday morning to a fairy tale wonderland.

I had less than four hours.

GO.

First idea: Google Disney princesses and make paper cut outs. Yay technology!

The printer didn’t do color.

Next idea: Get large poster boards and draw castles and wands and stuff. An odd sort of spastic creative progress.

I could only use 2 poster boards because they were needed for the art lesson. (I didn’t know I was supposed to bring supplies too!) 

C.r.a.p

Lesson #2: There are no short-cuts when it comes to learning your Soul lessons. Get creative!

Despite my inner whining, I pulled out markers and crayons and watercolors.

Blank butcher paper stood before, looming and teasing me as if to say, “You are a dance teacher, do you even know what to do with me?”

I sat and taking a deep breath, I just kept saying, “Angels, help me now. I’m so scared. But, please, just help me do this.”

Long story short, I ended up using butcher paper and getting some assistance from a kind soul named *Annie and together we drew a massive dragon, Rapunzel and she had the brilliant idea to use crepe paper to drape down to be her “hair” to take up space on the sterile white walls.

By the end, there was a Princess Corner where I in fact, drew 3 of the Disney princesses (gulp!), a magic mirror and wand and also a life-size book of fairy tales, watercolored and covered in glitter for effect.

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Coming down to the wire, I also threw in Cinderella’s pumpkin, pulled a cut-out of an alligator (don’t ask me what that has to do with fairy tales) and pinned up a huge wad of sparkly blue fabric that the art teacher had kindly let me use to “billow” and make the walls pretty.

Umm, okay.

So I folded it as best I could, made it be water under the alligator and drew a sign that said, “Hey, what do you think happened to Captain Hook?”

I shocked myself and I had so much fun, despite groaning about how awful I thought everything looked.

Lesson #3: It’s never about ‘you.’ Offer it up!

When the executive director walked by, she said, “Love the colors!”

I said, “I have no idea what the heck I’m doing! I’m so sorry!” (Yet somehow I was doing it)

Painting. Drawing. Activating a part of me that I had not tapped into in a very very long time.

Her reply was brilliant.

She said, “You are using your creativity! If you’re being creative, the kids will feel that and want to be too. Just trust it and stop worrying already!”

Trust it.

My creativity.

What a heady concept.

And then it hit me.

I was focusing so much on how much more I had to do, on how much help I didn’t have, on all the negative things the kids would say about my fairy tale contribution that I forgot the whole point was to have fun! Once I did, it ended up getting done and I felt so much lighter and happier!

More lessons:

I learned that a huge part of being creative means we have to detach from it being about us.

All we have to do is simply show up as ourselves, contribute as best as we can and remember that it is truly not in our hands.

From the moment we create, we can offer it to an infinite Source.

Dedicate it to something bigger than ourselves.

Anything created from a pure heart has wings!

It’s not our job to focus on how it will be received.

That’s us trying to control and take ownership of something that simply wants to just flow through us.

Our job is simply to show up. To focus with a full heart and Soul. And to detach on some deeply cosmic level, trusting that what you put in will come back.

So the next time you end up in a situation where you feel like you’re a complete beginner or it’s out of your league, remember that all you have do is:

Let it go.

Trust yourself.

Stop worrying.

Just do the thing that you’re afraid of.

And repeat.

This week’s Soul Question: Have you ever done something that scared you? What was it and how did you get through it? Share with us in the comments below!

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3-step Relationship Ritual to Call in the New

You may have heard of “the list.”

Make a list of the things you want in a man/woman and go to town trying to manifest.

That doesn’t always work and I want to share why and what you can do to make a list that actually helps you call in the new!

Maybe it’s a new love interest.

Maybe it’s a new friend.

Maybe it’s a new business partnership.

Regardless of what type of relationship you’re wanting to improve, this ritual works.

In this video you will learn:

  • The real reason why traditional “lists” don’t work (and make you believe that Law of Attraction stuff is a bunch of crap-o-la)
  • How your exes actually help you call in the new (you’ll learn a tangible To-Do to tweak that list once and for all…and no it doesn’t involve calling them!)
  • How to ramp up your energy and learn of an opportunity to use this Full Moon to your advantage if you choose!

After you watch, be sure to post a comment to the question below and check out this week-only Full Moon reading/healing invitation!

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Q: What is one of your top qualities in a relationship that came out of this exercise? Do you have any tips that have helped you in calling in the new and releasing the old? share with us!

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credit: peek-photography.nyc

Summer Dating Tips Part 1

summer-wallpaper-hdSummer can be overwhelming and also fun, especially if you’re single.

There’s something about the sunshine that can heighten that desire to be close to someone special, to feel sexy and to play!

It’s the perfect time to get back in the swing of dating again, no matter how many times you’ve been hurt before.

So, for the next 3 weeks, I want to share 3 dating-specific tips that can you navigate the dating waters without wanting to run for cover. 

These are tips that I’ve implemented and tested out with my clients and in my own dating life that resulted in me recovering from intense heartbreak and getting back on the horse, Goddess-style!

Dating…. Goddess Style Tip #1: Spread the love!

In short, date multiple people at one time.

Pack your schedule with dates without attachment.

This one sounds so very simple but it can be hard if you just came out of a relationship and are generally a one-woman, one-man kind of Soul. 

When you go out with different people in a short amount of time, there are several important benefits:

  1. You avoid pouring all your emotional energy into one person that quite frankly, hasn’t yet earned your trust and heart yet! You just met them! 
  2. Even if you feel a strong connection on one date with a certain person, there’s always more to uncover about their intentions and non-negotiables before you get emotionally (and physically) invested. 
  3. You get to “try on” your energy with theirs! It’s like trying on a dress. It may be Gucci but no matter which way you put it on, it may never hug your hips the right way and that’s fine! Next! 

A true tale of 4 men

One woman I know had scheduled 4 dates with 4 different men in one week to test this theory out. 

She had a blast going out to dinner, coffees, ice cream and even mini golf.

Some she had a nice connection with. Others bored her to tears but she simply went to experience herself with someone new.

She was dating Goddess style.

The result?

Now she’s dating one of the four who got tired of competing for her time and attention and he treats her like a Goddess as he should!

And she even got a text from one of the other men saying, “If it doesn’t work out with this guy you’re committing to, please call me. You’re awesome!”

(Who wouldn’t love to receive that?!)

*Note: I get asked by women all the time, 

Q: “Isn’t that MEAN to date multiple people? I feel guilty for dating more than one man at a time.”

My blunt-big sister-meets wingwoman answer to them? 

1) Men do it all the time. It’s not mean. It just is. Stop assigning meaning to everything!

2) I said DATE, not have sex with multiple people at once. As in…simply go out and experience their energy with yours in a no-pressure setting. See if you like who you become when you’re with them and what they spark in you! It’s an experiment not an iron-clad contract. 

3) Wouldn’t you feel better knowing that if you didn’t vibe with one person, you knew you had a date with someone totally different who thinks you’re attractive the next day? 

There is power in numbers, Goddess. 

Q: Have you ever dated multiple people at once? What has your experience been like? Any tips? Share with us in the comments!

This week’s dating challenge: Spread the love, schedule the love!

This week, see if you can fill up your calendar with at least TWO dates over the next 2 weeks. Some quick ideas for you: Ask your friends to set you up. Go on a blind date that your co-worker keeps mentioning. Flirt  with the cashier at the checkout counter (more on that later if you’re looking at me like I just said something totally inappropriate and crazy) Join a free dating site like OkCupid.com. Again, this is an experiment. The worst you can do is NOTHING. What have you got to lose?

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