when the other shoe drops…

Have you ever seen the movie, Bridget Jones’ Diary?

There’s a great line in there that goes something like this:

“Why is it that when one part of your life starts going brilliantly, another part always seems to fall spectacularly apart”

In the movie, she’s referring to being in a fun, exciting new relationship while her relationship with her mother starts to unravel. Fast.

Have you ever experienced that?

The Meltdown
There are all these fancy phrases to describe this phenomenon, but to make it fun, let’s call it the “Subconscious Meltdown.”

Basically it’s when you dramatically up-level one area in your life that has been a thorn in your side ….and your subconscious freaks out.

It is feeling unsafe, unsteady and in new territory and all those pesky little beliefs that go contrary to your new reality decide to make an appearance.

All with the sole purpose of helping you feel comfortable. Safe. Status quo.


You’ve been doing all this work on your money mindset.

You start upward momentum and land a huge raise or a new client.

The same day, your tires go flat and your computer craps out.


You’ve been going on dates, despite feeling scared.
You agree to a second date, things are going amazingly well…
You’re smiling, feeling sexy and desirable…AND
You have a meeting with your boss who says they no longer need you. And the date cancels.

It can feel like the Universe is playing this nasty trick on you.

And it’s so easy to go into victim-mode, curl up in a ball and think the whole world is against you.

It’s easy to just stop trying for what you want and justify that you really like where you are..really….it’s not so bad, right? LIE!

But the thing is, these events, as frustrating as they are, are essential to you getting to the next level. In love. In business. In life. They aren’t the verdict.

And it’s not the Universe saying you suck.

It’s part of the process of transforming your life from the inside out.

It’s a temporary side-effect on the way to creating what you desire.

It’s like popping the zit.

First all this crap comes to the surface, it pops and BAM! Clear skin.


A do-over.

Your face may be a little sore.

You may want to use some cover-up and hide out.

But all in all, it was just a zit.

In short: When you start taking massive action in the direction of your dreams, potholes can and do appear. But you don’t have to let it stop you. It can help you know that on the other side of pulling yourself out or asking for help out of the hole, is a new place.

One that is more like you.

More in alignment.

More fun and way more authentic.

So, the real question is:

Are you willing to keep going towards your deepest desires even when the other shoe you didn’t even know you had…drops?

 If so, in the comments below, post 1) what your big desire is and 2) one action you will take this week towards it!

That’s the path of the Spiritual Seeker and Master Manifestor!

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where are you right now? how to stop future trippin and making yourself crazy

So, one of my favorite poses to teach in yoga is Warrior 2.

I have a special kinship with it and if you’re not familiar with it, you basically take a giant step back with your right or left foot, bend into the front knee,  your arms are in a T-position and your torso is turned to the side. (image here)

I wasn’t exactly a born yogi.

I’m restless. I hate to be still and at the beginning of my yoga practice, I just wanted to push myself to be the most flexible person in the room with her leg up highest (yes it was super obnoxious but that’s what you get when you put a ballerina in a room with mirrors. we just want to look amazing!)

So anyhow, the teacher had us go into Warrior 2 and I was so proud at how deep I bent down-surely she would notice. My front thigh was burning and I looked beyond my fingers and stretched my front arm with so much force you’d think I was reaching for the last cup of water on earth.

It was not comfortable at all.

It was actually quite painful.

She came right by me and gave me a few adjustments and told me to breathe.


And then she said the following (when you totally know that what she’s about to say is probably about something you did, but she’s trying to be diplomatic and make it be beneficial for the whole class).

I used to teach high school English.

I know the deal, my logical mind shouted.

The Lesson:

She said, “Where you right now? If you stretch your torso too far forward, you put pressure on  your knee and you are concerning yourself too much with the future that does not yet exist. This is the energy of anxiety.

If you hang back and stretch back with your back arm, you are stuck in the past. This is the energy of depression.

The power comes in the present.

So, instead of reaching towards or away from something beyond your fingers, think about sinking your hold torso DOWN. Sink into this moment, feeling balanced in both the front and the back feet.

That is the gift of the present. Peace.

Well that about summed up my entire life.

So often I found myself obsessing about the next little tragedy that was sure to happen in a relationship….the whole waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop thing.

Or obsessing and reliving the past and getting myself all sad and yes depressed that time (and a guy) had moved on from me.

So there in that yoga room, in Warrior 2, I found the peace I was so desperately looking for but didn’t even know I needed.

Over to you.

This week’s soul question: What is one tip or suggestion that has helped you stay out of the past and future tripping? Please share in the comments below!

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Is it your intuition or wishful thinking?

Great news! Mercury retrograde is officially over. It’s time to put the past where it belongs so you can move forward to a very creative new cycle!

Part of what this new cycle calls for is that you trust yourself. And trust your intuition to guide you through important decisions that no doubt will be coming up for you to address.

This week, I’d love to share a simple question you can ask to discern if a message is really from your intuition… Or if it’s something else trying to confuse you like fear!

Clarification: After I shot the video I realized that I was a bit unclear!

Spirit may say something such as “Pay attention to how you feel around this person.” or even “It may be time to stop X.” But it will never use the word or phrase, “DON’T do X!”

It may not be time yet for you to know what is next if you are given a directive like above to consider stopping something, but it will always be presented in a gentle, emotionally-neutral delivery, even if the news is uncomfortable or unexpected!

Hope that helps and now over to you:

This week’s Soul question: Have you ever received a “hit” that you weren’t sure was your intuition? What happened and what did you learn from that? Leave a comment!

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