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Embrace the Paradox of Multiple Truths

Happy Tuesday! 

Let’s cut right to the chase, shall we? 

As humans, we like neat little boxes. 

Our brains like definitive answers ad structure and compartments. 

Not just for paper, but also for thoughts… and personal truths. 

And when it comes to our most important relationships, sometimes, the reality is that there are multiple truths that occur simultaneously that seem to contradict each other. 

He’s a great guy…and I’m not attracted to him. 

I know this could be a great opportunity…and I know I can’t do the job for what they will pay. 

I want to go out on this date…and my body is telling me I need to rest.

So often, we rationalize or fight with ourselves how this could possibly be. 

And you end up doubting yourself, thinking the Universe isn’t listening and it can create a whole lotta unnecessary self-talk that is unsupportive of you calling in the love that you seek. 

So…what to do? 

Plain and simple, when you can honor all your Truths, even the inconvenient ones, and all the fun emotions that accompany those, it creates space for more aligned options to present themselves!

And each time you honor and express your Truth (into no one but your beautiful self!), you build up that self-trust muscle and self-confidence that makes you so damn attractive to everything your soul really really desires. 

So, that’s your invitation this week gorgeous: 

Q: What are 3 of your personal truths that want to be seen and expressed? You can think of a particular situation you’ve been wrestling with this week or just do general heart dump. Let it all come out-and you’ll be sure to find some interesting gems in there. BONUS points if you share a comment on the blog with one your truths! 

ps: Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Want to turn that ship around now? 

Click here. 

Sometimes You Have to Fall on Your Butt

Happy Wednesday! 

So, in the spirit of doing fun, new things for exercise, I decided to get myself some rollerblades. 

Yup-cue 80’s music and air that smells like sweat and microwaved nacho cheese and the Hokey Pokey (or was that just my childhood?) 

In any case, despite feeling like a complete dork, I also donned a bunch of protective gear to take my 5 minute spin around the block. 

I mean, who knows what could happen? 

It’s only been a decade or more since I did this.

Long story short, the first five minutes were amazing-I found my balance, I was listening to a podcast and feeling on top of the world…I let go of those fearful thoughts and the judge thoughts (what is she WEARING?) 

And just had fun. 

And then…I fell on my ass. Hard

Right smack in the middle of someone’s newly planted flower bed on the front lawn…and she was outside to watch the whole thing go down, as was a little kid who smirked by on his bike. 

Wonderful. 

I didn’t really even get how in the world I was supposed to get up with all this plastic gear and stiff, tight skates that I had made so tight they cut off any circulation around my ankles. 

I met the lady’s eyes and she said, “Honestly, I’m impressed you are even out here on those things! I could not do that!” And we had a good laugh and I ended up skating for like 30 minutes ore! 

The point: 

And as I skated home, I realized that the experience is a lot like dating, or doing anything new or different for that matter. 

Sure we’d rather look like we have our shiz together-we’d like to just whiz by and do fancy turns and stop without giving it another thought. 

But the reality is, anything new is going to require patience. 

Self-compassion. 

Persistance.

And laughing at oneself. 

It’s like beating up a kindergartener for not knowing Calculus. 

That would be ridiculous, right? 

So…in short, start where you are. 

It’s perfect. 

Imperfectly perfect. 

Say nice things to yourself for even getting out there and doing the thing.

You’ll have a lot more fun, be a lot less stressed and a whole lot more attractive to be around. 

Q: What is something new you’re doing this year? Let me know in the comments below!