Goddess Guidence – Page 10

Can You Radically Accept Yourself?

July 24, 2023/0 Comments/in Advice and Tips /by Diana Dorell

Happy Tuesday!

In honor of July’s theme of radical self-acceptance, are you willing to let go of the negative chatter in your head?

I have had a tendency in the past to worry about everything-what could go wrong, what I may have done wrong or not good enough.

My dad would often find me as a little girl in my room obsessing for days about how I phrased something to a friend, what a teacher said, what I did or didn’t do.

At some point, he just laughed and said something to the effect of, “I guess that’s just what you do-worrying is just part of your process.”

The truth is, sometimes it feels really hard to let go.

It feels near impossible to shut up my mind and love myself when I get into those worry loops.

But the willingness and desire to move into a more self-loving, self-accepting space is the first step.

I wish I could have told my 10-year old self that.

I wish I could tell her, “This worry obsession doesn’t have to be part of your process forever…you may make ‘mistakes’ and people may do and say shit that hurts you or you feel like you hurt them. But you are lovable just the same. And it’s okay to not be perfect because no one is!”

If you too have struggled with some negative nellies in your head, you’ll love this month’s Mantra:

“I release negative self-talk now. I choose to radically accept myself.”

How to use it:
In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how you feel.

Will you play with this over the week and let me know how it goes? Hit reply or share a comment on the blog!

Remember, it’s never about perfection-that’s not the goal.

The goal is to stay open to a kinder, gentler space for yourself. That’s it. Okay?

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Diana wearing a salmon shirt, taken 2022

What To Do When He Doesn’t Text Back [Texting Tips]

July 17, 2023/0 Comments/in Advice and Tips /by Diana Dorell

Q: Diana, I was seeing this guy for three dates. I thought things were going great, but he hasn’t responded to my last text and it’s been almost a week. I feel like I’m going crazy-what is going on? What can I do?

It’s super frustrating when you text someone you really like stops texting you back.

It’s very confusing and even the most confident person can get thrown by the abrupt lack of communication.

Here are texting tips to help you stay sane when he (or she) isn’t texting you back:

Avoid making assumptions. Don’t assume it’s about you. There are all sorts of reasons why someone doesn’t text back. Maybe they didn’t see it. Maybe they saw it and forgot about it or thought they responded and didn’t. And yes, maybe they saw it and did not want to respond, for a number of reasons. You are not in control of whether or not he texts you, but you are in control of the stories you tell yourself about what’s happening.
Redirect your energy. Do something else. Even if you keep thinking about it, redirecting your energy will create space for you to calm your nervous system and perhaps, for him to text you back!
Accept it. No response is a response. Accept it. You don’t have to like it but the sooner you can accept that you may never get a response, the easier it will be to move on. Actions (and in action) speak volumes. Trust that if you are meant to connect, you will and if not, then the Universe is doing you a favor and it’s time to let go.
Resist the temptation to put him down or text him repeatedly to get a reaction. This will not bring him closer-if anything it will most likely push him even further away.Those are the actions of a little girl throwing a tantrum. You are a Goddess! Instead, you can write him a letter and burn it or even leave yourself a voice memo of all the things you want to say to him. Let it out in a healthy way and honor how you feel.

Bonus tip:
If he does text back and you feel upset….The Goddess way is to respect yourself-and if he does resurface, it’s perfectly okay to express concern or confusion, or to choose to not respond at all. Each situation is different. Your intuition will guide you to the right thing to do, but first get yourself in an emotionally neutral space. Get grounded. Breathe. Then respond (if you choose to) vs react.

It’s not easy, but the more you can implement the tips above, the easier it will be to manage your emotions when someone doesn’t text you back. Stay strong!

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The Secret to Getting Clarity (Monthly Mantra)

July 9, 2023/0 Comments/in Advice and Tips /by Diana Dorell

Happy Tuesday!

The other day, I experienced total brain fog. No matter what I did, I felt like I was at a standstill. Could barely put two thoughts together and felt totally unmotivated to do anything.

Has that ever happened to you?

It was like walking through molasses. It sucked.

I finally gave into it and let myself space out for a bit.

They say that when you get still, that’s when the answers come and I’ve found this to be true. I got this nudge to write (even though I had no idea what).

So, I grabbed my laptop and well…showed up at the page so to speak. A lot of nonsense flowed out of my fingertips and I felt like I was just whining. But I let myself just be with the moment. And then, after a bit, this mantra came:

“Clarity comes when I create space for the things that matter to me.”

I got chills when I saw it. I said it aloud the way I encourage you and my clients to do with mantras that resonate.

And I reflected on all the places that I was filling my day, our home and my schedule with things that didn’t matter at all to me.

Stuff, commitments and relationships that I was keeping in my life out of guilt, obligation or just laziness.

It was eye-opening.

My body’s response was brain-fog.

For others it may be something else-fatigue, frustration, etc.

I made a short list of what really matters most to me right now.

I gave myself permission to adjust the list as needed.

And although the brain fog was still there, the moment I made a decision to take a look at what I needed to shift in my life, even just one thing that was taking up too much space, I felt lighter.

I felt clearer.

I took a deep breath. And smiled.

Now it’s your turn (if you want to try this mantra!)

“Clarity comes when I create space for the things that matter to me.”

How to use it:
In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how you feel.

Journal questions to go deeper:

What matters to you?

What doesn’t matter to you?

What is one action or change you are willing to make to create more space for the things that matter? Hit reply and share with me.

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Ready to Exhale? Welcome to July!

July 2, 2023/0 Comments/in Oracle Message /by Diana Dorell

It’s time to breathe, Goddess.

Can you do it with me? Inhale….and exhale.

Let go…..

July invites you to embrace all the love and beauty that surrounds you that you may not be seeing right now.

If life has felt a bit challenging or confusing, the energies of this month are here to support you and remind you of what gets to receive your attention and energy, and what doesn’t.

Watch the full July Oracle Message below:

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