How to Decline an Invite From a Strong Personality (With Grace)

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Happy Tuesday!

Have you ever gotten repeated invitations from a friend or acquaintance and wanted to decline but didn’t have the words?

It can feel even harder when the person is what I call a “strong personality” and you may feel compelled to say yes, when you really want to say no.

Today, I’m taking your direct questions from the community and here’s the situation:

Q: “Diana, I have a friend who I met years ago at a business event. She keeps asking me to hang out in person, but I just don’t feel like it. It’s nothing personal against her, but I just have other priorities and I’m being super intentional where I spend my energy this year. I just keep saying, “it’s not the right time for me,” but she’s a strong personality and keeps pushing me to know why and proposes another date or question. I don’t want to be rude, and I don’t want to burn bridges but I don’t really know what to say so she “gets” it. Help!

A few things come to share with you!

1. Clarity is kindness. Q: What is it that you do want out of this relationship? Do you want to keep this person in your life but in a different capacity? Do you really want to not have any ties because it just doesn’t feel good or make sense? Be honest with yourself and allow all the feelings that arise to come up. That will inform how you eventually respond.

2. Ask yourself this: If the situation was reversed, how do you think they would act? This is more about getting curious. Chances are high that with a strong personality, if they didn’t want to hang out with you (or they wanted you to stop communicating), it would be very, very clear and there probably wouldn’t be a lot of wiggle room. So, ask yourself, what are you afraid of (if anything) could happen or how they would react if you were just really honest about what you wanted?

3. Once you know what you really want, and you’ve allowed the feelings and fears to surface and get to neutral, then you are ready to communicate neutrally and clearly.

Here are some potential responses (feel free to adapt/edit using your tone and what you want out of the relationship!): 

  • Brutal, but clear approach: Hey there-I appreciate you reaching out to hang out, but to be honest, I don’t have the bandwidth for that. If that changes in the future, I will let you know. Thank you for understanding and respecting that.
  • If you’ve identified you do not want a friendship but really want to help each other out in another capacity based on the event you attended: “Hi (x)-I am so glad we met the XYZ event years ago. If there is something specific I can support you with as far as business goes, feel free to email me and I will respond when I can. My calendar is super full right now for in person committments.”
  • If you do want to build/maintain friendship but just really don’t have the time or desire to hang out right now: Hi X, I really appreciate you consistently reaching out to connect with me. I realize my responses may have been a bit unclear-I truly value our connection and the truth is, right now my energetic capacity to hang out with friends in person is pretty low. It’s not personal-I just have other competing priorities at the moment. I am, however, available (if you really are!) to (fill in the blank-speak on the phone, text, etc). I understand if that doesn’t work for you, but I wanted to be honest and let you know where I’m at!
    The more you can practice being clear, getting to emotional neutral and communicating from that space, the easier it will be to deal with a strong personality (or any personality) and decline or accept invitations!

Q: Have you ever been in a similar situation? How did you handle it and what tips can you share around this? Leave a comment on the blog!

My Fave Way to Clear Negative Vibes Fast!

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Happy Tuesday!

One of the things I get asked a lot is how to clear negative energy.

Whether it’s just getting yourself out of a weird funk or releasing stuff you may have unconsciously taken on from that person at the grocery store, etc, having something simple and effective to do is key!

And to position yourself this year for high-quality relationships, massive abundance and more joy, having this tool in your back pocket is invaluable.

I use this tool a lot and if you’re an empath and particularly sensitive to other energies, you’re going to love this.

Watch below to learn it!

Have a great week and if you are ready to 10X your energy this year, consider booking a gold treatment! Check it out here.

3 Simple Questions to Ask Yourself as We Wrap Up 2023

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Happy Tuesday and last newsletter of 2023!

OMG…where did the year go?

You’ve learned so much this year.

A lot has unfolded and a lot is still yet to reveal itself.

As we dive into the last few days of the year, it’s tempting to just skip ahead and start focusing on 2024 and just ignore the whispers of wrapping up this year energetically.

A powerful exercise to do before the 31st approaches is to ask yourself these three questions.

I’ve formatted them into sentence stems for simplicity.

I do these too and my clients have shared that taking a few moments to just reflect helped them feel more complete and ready to receive at a greater level than before.

Because here’s the thing: the more we can slow down and really carve out time to reflect on our journey, even for just a few minutes, the more grounded and easier it can feel to dive 10000% into the new energy that is coming.

Here they are:

(Feel free to write them by hand (my personal favorite) as it activates your subconscious.)

1. One thing I’m really proud of this year was…

2. One area where I still need to forgive myself or let go is…

3. One thing I’m so at peace with within myself is…

Question I get asked: How long do I have to write for?

Answer? Let yourself keep writing until you feel like you’re complete.

Healing my happen. Tears may flow. Laughter may come up.

Let it.

Because it’s all part of your story, Goddess.

And it’s the last page of your 2023 story.

Tell the truth.

Wishing you so much love, happiness and magic!

Thank you for being in my Goddess community and I’m looking forward to brainstorming more content for you to help you trust and love yourself in 2024.

Much love x

This Belief Can Change Everything, Goddess…

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Happy Tuesday!

If you’re feeling some kind of way right now as December closes out, you’re exactly where you need to be right now.

A question I get asked a lot is, “Diana, what can I look at in myself to create more ease with attracting what I want-a soul mate, more money, etc?”

I am so excited to share this training video I did on this very subject.

Some of the things we talk about on it:
-a belief or invisible script that blocks attraction (most people don’t even realize they are running from this mindset!)
-why you don’t get what you desire (so simple but again, when we are ‘in’ it, we don’t see it always)
-questions you can ask yourself to start to get to the root of what you need to see in order to manifest with more ease and frequency

Check it out below:

ps: This was recorded in my private Facebook group, Empowered Goddess Secrets. If you’d like to join, it is free. To gain access, please go here.