do you love yourself? 5 questions to ask.

Do you love yourself?

It sounds like such a loaded question, doesn’t it?

But the degree to which you love and accept yourself affects how open and available you are to allow others to love and accept you. Not just in relationships, but in all areas of your life.

With Thursday’s solar Eclipse (July 12), the Universe is shedding light on how you feel about yourself and how you project that out to the world. Solar eclipses are about masculine energy and the vision you see outside of yourself/a male energy close to you and what they are trying to teach you.

It’s not so black and white like yes, I do or no I don’t.

Over the past 7 years of witnessing thousands of clients transform their lives, it always circles back to this one area: self love/self-acceptance.

And I’ve seen over and over again, 5 critical areas that surround a healthy self-love relationship with yourself.

Ready to take the mini quiz?


Ask yourself the following and then without thinking, rate your level of self-love in this area from 1 to 5. 

1= I don’t love myself very much in this area at all to 5= I am knocking it out of the park-I’m totally loving myself in this way!

1. Do you treat your body with kindness and respect? (eating healthy foods, moving it everyday, choosing clothing that feel good to wear)=

2. Do you say No to other people’s demands on your time and energy (even though you may feel a little guilty)?=

3. Do you have healthy practices in place to self-soothe when you have a challenging day or moment?=

4. Do you maintain friendships and associations with people who energize you and who you can be yourself with?=

5. Do you reach out for support when you are feeling overwhelmed (vs trying to just do everything yourself?)=

Next steps:

  • Notice which ones you scored highest and which ones you scored lowest.
  • Journal to go deeper:
For the highest, what can help you maintain that frequency? What tends to distract you or take you away from loving yourself at that level everyday? For the lowest, what is one thing that you know would help you elevate that to a new place? What fears or thoughts come up as you think of increasing the self-love in that area? Your first instincts could shed some valuable light on how to love yourself even more!

It’s never about being perfect.

It’s about just elevating yourself to the level you want to be at.

Loving how you feel about you and operating from that high vibe.

Happy Solar Eclipse and would you like more support?

For Fall (Sept/October) I am taking on a handful of 1:1 spiritual mentoring clients who are ready to change their lives, dig deep and create transformation from the inside out in your self-talk, relationships and Soul purpose work!

Is this you? Are you ready to have someone hold your feet to the fire, hold space for you emotionally but also energetically and help you connect with your Truth so things actually shift in your life?

Click here to schedule a 15-minute consultation. These are complimentary. Let’s see if we’re a fit, you can ask me questions about what the process is like and I will also ask you questions to see what your goals are and if I’m the best person to help you reach those! I will also share any resources or next steps regardless of whether we end up working together if they arise!


what’s in store for you? your goddess message inside!

July is a very spiritual month and one that can take you into deeper parts of yourself if you allow it in. It is the 7th month of the year and 7 in numerology represents the hidden aspects of yourself, tuning into other realms and perspectives and of the dance between independence and isolation.

So it’s a month where you may feel heavy emotions coming up or stuff that you thought you dealt with coming up to the surface and you’re like…WTF? I really thought we were done with that Spirit!

But it’s coming up for you to look at it one last time and decide-are you really done with it? What are you rejecting in yourself or another? Where can you honor something that’s caused you challenges so you truly truly let it go once and for all?

This month requires you to be the warrior goddess as well as the visionary-where do you want to go next?

This week especially I was feeling Goddess energy and I channeled a message from the Goddess of War herself, Athena. These messages if you block out distractions and really tune in, can be a healing for your Soul if you are open to receive it.

In this week’s video you will:

  • re-align to your Truth (hear the channeled message to help you maximize this week’s energy)
  • let go of stress (you’ll receive a specific Goddess mantra you can use throughout the month when you are feeling torn between what to do or not do).
  • prepare for an amazing, magical month (know what is being asked of you to move through supposed challenges at this time!) 

Watch it here:

Love and Blessings,

ps: Stay tuned because next week I have a very important announcement you won’t want to miss!

Feeling a little wonky or confused? Book a reading or energy healing session here

life isn’t about doing it perfectly…

Happy Wed!

Have you ever witnessed a moment that took your breath away because it was just so different than what you expected?

I just got back from a beautiful wedding near San Diego and the ceremony was a combination of traditional Catholic Portuguese vows and Buddhist chants and ritual! (Fascinating in itself, right?)

There were so many moments that stuck out but one in particular was a crystal lotus flower with a gemstone-like egg that held the rings.

In the Buddhist tradition, this symbolized the couple’s commitment to join the masculine and feminine forces together to create One ness and unity, not just for each other, but for humanity as a whole. 

As my friend and her soon to be husband toggled back and forth between reciting Portuguese and English vows and they reached for the ring, the groom nearly dropped the rings as they slid off very quickly from the egg.

There was a GASP! that rippled throughout the seats and they made light of it and after a moment of panic on his face, he burst into boyish giggles-and my friend started giggling and then we did too! This continued through the ceremony as little nuances here and there strayed from “perfect” but were so very perfect in their imperfection…because they were real.

And it got me thinking, how many times do we beat ourselves up because something doesn’t come off “perfectly” in our relationships?

With that conversation?

Or that situation?

And how easy it can be to slip into a state of self-judgement and worrying about other people’s perception of what you are doing, thinking, saying, not saying.

But what if the real trick is to just show up.

In all your beautiful, flawed, imperfect glory?

And just trust that things are going to flow the way they are meant to.

Go all in, yes.

Get clear on what you want, yes and yes.

Take aligned action and include the Divine/your Spirit/the Universe in your plans (yoni egg and lotus optional!) 

But then freaking let GO.

Let it do its thing.

Be kind to yourself.

Be kind to others.

And make sure to laugh!

Because “perfect” is not only realistic.

It’s boring.

And it sucks you out of the moment.

So live it up.

As we head into July, give yourself permission to stop beating yourself up for what you could have done but didn’t.

You’ll do it differently next time.

You did what you had to do then to get you to here and now.

Enjoy the nuances.

And the sunshine 😉

Have a magical close to June and “see” you in July!

Love and Blessings,