Is it Too Late for You? (The Ex Files-True Story)

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Happy Tuesday!

Have you ever had the thought, ‘it’s just too late for me?’

It’s too late to get married-there are no good men out there. 

It’s too late to follow my dreams-I’d have to go back to school.

It’s too late to (you fill in the blank!)

It’s so easy to listen to that comment in your head and put all these silly constraints on what’s possible for you to receive!

And really, what I have found in over a decade of this work, is that more often than not, anytime you begin sentence with it’s too late…it’s about control.

Not getting hurt.

Not feeling pain.

Not having to be rejected or judged.

It’s human nature.

I’ve been there too and today I wan to share a true story from my ex file about it. 

You ready? 

I had just turned 30 and had recently broken up with a guy we’ll call Mr. T.

I had read about an earthquake hitting his home town overseas via my personal news anchor aka my dad who sends me critical news in the form of two line emails (I don’t watch TV or read the news a lot and he worries that I’ll miss something!)

I was still hurting from the break-up – (I was supposed to go visit him overseas and we broke up the week before my flight…I know great timing, right?)

Thoughts like ‘it’s too late’ for me to tell him how I really feel because then he’ll think I’m whiny and desperate. 

It’s too late to show him I still care for him, even though it didn’t work out. 

Anyhow, when I saw the news, I hadn’t talk to Mr. T in a few months and I’m kind of embarrassed to admit that it took catastrophic event for me to get out of my own way.

Divine intervention ensued.

I was awoken at 2:30AM with this pulsating in my gut. I had been crying and was prompted to go to Facebook and lo and behold, he was online. Before my logical mind and Ego feminine pride could kick in, I just sent him a message. Very simple. 

“I love you. I’m so glad you’re alive and you’re okay.”

Tummy happy.

His reply?

“I love you too. Thank. I okay.” (His English wasn’t perfect but it was brilliantly authentic).

So freakin simple.

There was no talk of reconciliation. No awkward so “how are you faring since we’re not you know, a couple?” and certainly no fishing for details of each other’s dating lives.

It was just human to human.

Or Spirit to Spirit.

Love.

Real LOVE.

Attachment-free.

Expectation-free.

And best of all, that one simple action to override my pride and follow my intuition/instinct to let him know I cared (without any agenda for myself) kicked the ‘it’s too late’ excuse in the ass. 

Here’s the deal: TRUTH TELLING TIME

It’s NEVER too late to trust your intuition and follow through on what it’s telling you.

It’s NEVER too late to surrender your Ego and pride in the name of authenticity.

It’s NEVER too late to SHOW UP FULLY. Bruises. War wounds and all.

So, I ask you:

  1. “Where have you believed that it’s TOO LATE in your life?” (Go with your first instinct here. Note: It’s usually the one you’ve been avoiding the most)
  2. “What action however small could you take RIGHT NOW to flip the script?”
  3. Go do that. (And get off Facebook already unless that’s your action and then by all means, rock it sister!)

ps: If you’re wanting to bring in love, need to forgive yourself/move on from a love or just need to feel HAPPY and LIGHT, check out this love meditation, “Journey to Love” in the Goddess shop that I actually created right after I had that conversation with said ex! 

How to be Irresistible

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Happy Tuesday! 

I am so excited to share today’s video with you. 

It’s all about being irresistible to men, women… anything! 

Imagine walking through the world and getting complimented frequently.

Receiving sweet texts out of the blue.

Feeling doors open for you that are perfect for you.

It’s that ‘It’ factor and it has nothing to do with changing your hairstyle or being someone you aren’t.

The secret is simple but it requires tremendous courage.

Want to know what it is? 

Find out below: 

ps: Are you ready to open your heart and receive LOVE? 

So excited to be teaching “Amplify Your Love Energy” both as an in-person workshop in Gold Canyon, Arizonaon Feb 26 AND as a 14 day self paced online course stating Much 6!

*Link to RSVP for the in-person on Feb 26 

*Link to RSVP for the online course on March 6 

Have a magical week!

Needy, needy, needy

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Happy Tuesday!

The other day, I was speaking with a girlfriend and she was complaining about how her partner, who adores her, doesn’t like to give her shoulder or foot massages when she was tired from working-when she tried to confront hime about it, he just said it “isn’t his thing-he doesn’t like feet.”

Regardless of whether or not her partner was interested in giving her massages, I could tell they were totally in love with each other otherwise. 

Was all hope lost? she asked me. 

Not necessarily.

It just highlighted a very important value for her-physical touch.

No one person can meet every single need-that’s not realistic, nor is it healthy to expect that.

So, I invited her to explore options-was there something else that would give her the same feeling of receiving a massage from her partner? 

At first, she was resistant to the idea, and then she got quiet and said-“You know, I really just want to feel his body near me-not necessarily in a sexual way but it makes me feel calm and connected.”

So, really it wasn’t even the massage itself tat was the most important-it was the feeling of…calm and connection. 

She got creative and saw different ways she could feel that way with him that didn’t require him to give her feet a rub and also ways she could give that to herself.

Some of the things she came up with?

  • asking for him to hold her hand while she was taking a bath (not every time but once in awhile). He agreed right away!
  • for herself: turning off her electronics an hour before bed and getting a weighted blanket
  • listening to sounds of the ocean as she wrapped up her work day and slipping into fuzzy socks
  • touching feet under the dinner table while talking about their day. Another easy win for him and her!

The fun part was hearing about how much more intimate their relationship felt even after a week of just making a few tweaks.

And what made me laugh out loud was that he bought her a foot and leg assuage thing to use whenever she wanted! (and I’m sure would agree to hold her hand while she used it!)

The takeaway here is two-fold:

  1. When you get creative with discovering the feeling you are desiring behind a need, it’s way easier to come up with ways to get those needs met.
  2. When you take ownership of your needs and stop assuming one person to be your need–machine, they are more likely to step up to want to make you happy!

Q: What is one need that has been calling to you to address? What is one creative way you could get the same feeling? Share with us!

How to Keep Going, Even When You Aren’t Seeing What You Want

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Dear Goddess,

Did you happen to see the Solar Eclipse on Saturday? 

It was so beautiful and it was in the sign of Sagittarius which surrounds themes of

  • optimism
  • expansion/unlimited possibility 
  • international/foreign connections
  • sharp wit and blunt communication 
  • fun and more!

It’s also a good week to really tune into your intuition’s nudges on what is more near and dear to your heart.

You may yearn for a soulmate partnership.

Someone to hold you, adore you and do life with you.

You may have put yourself on so many dating apps but no one seems to be right, no one messages you…

Or you do have a wonderful date and then you need hear from them again,

Or they are married,

Or they are ‘not in a place to be  in a committed relationship.’ 

No matter the situation, it can feel really discouraging and frustrating to keep going, and to stay positive when there’s no sign in sight of what you’re yearning for. 

I’ve been in this situation countless times in the past and after witnessing and holding space for private clients over the past 11 years, here are 3 beliefs to consider: 

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  1. I wouldn’t have the desire if the thing I’m desiring wasn’t already here in the Universal Field. It is happening in exact Divine timing and I won’t miss it. Yes, I know that’s annoying to hear, but if you adopt the mindset of “The Universe is on my side and will deliver what is truly meant for me at the perfect time,” then you can chill and relax if something doesn’t seem to be happening ASAP. It’s Divine timing. You can still date and practice staying open and relaxed to receiving without attachment or gripping. 
  2. Everything that happens is an opportunity for me to commit more truly to what I want. When Jess-than-aligned partners present themselves, you can choose to see it as an opportunity to commit even more to the type of relationship you want vs worrying about “why you attracted this.” (Honestly, sometimes it’s just showing up to test you on how committed you are to what you say you desire!)
  3. When in doubt, cut it out! As you peer honestly at the actions you are taking and the relationships currently in your life, heck, even the books and TV shows you are reading, where are you contradicting what you say you want? Example: If you say you want to meet someone (like your forever person) but you are addicted to watching TV shows where all the characters are having one-night stands, that’s what’s being embedded in your psyche. It may be time to make new choices. If you’re not sure if something you’re doing or someone you are engaging with on a regular basis is healthy and aligned with the desires of your heart, it may be time to cut it out and replace with new activities. 

The more you can observe yourself with grace, compassion and honesty, and align with the natural timing of the Universe, the easier it will be to know when to take action and when to just be in trust!

Q: Which one of these are you going to play with this week? 

Let me know in the comments and if you’d like to go deeper, I am SO excited to have 10 spots available for 2021 Healing Release Sessions!

How it works: 

These are different than getting an intuitive reading in that you will be given an exercise to complete before we speak to maximize the release energy. Then we will hop on the phone or Zoom for the energy activation and release to let go of heavy stuck enemy and anything you already to say bye bye to. And then you’ll be given a personalised directive to seal off that energy after we are done. This is really special because I no longer offer one-off energy healing sessions so if you’ve to get in and clear some heavy stuff, jump in!

These are $297 USD and I will be booking all of them before the Winter Solstice on the 21st. 

Next steps:

  1. Go here to book (if I already have 11 spots full, I will refund you!) 
  2. You will receive an email within 24 hours to boo a specific day and time and also receive your pre-session exercise.
  3. These will go quickly! Once they are gone, they are gone. 

Have an amazing week!