how to love your body and up your manifesting mojo

I’m so so excited to introduce you to one of my favorite women on the planet.

But before you meet her, let me ask you a few questions.

Do you love your body?

Do you love the way you feel in your body right now?

Do you feel alive and excited about your life in this moment?

If you answered no to any of the above, know that it’s okay.

During the summer especially, I have noticed that it is especially important for me to speak kindly to my body and keep those “you’re fat” thoughts at bay.

The way we feel in our own skin either draws or repels people from you.

Especially if that person is someone you’d love to date on the regular.

It has nothing to do with your actual size and everything to do with the energy you carry in your body temple.

As a recovered formerly anorexic ballet dancer, I know the shame story very well. If you haven’t ever read my story, click here.

And I also know the other side of acceptance, deep self love and compassion.

Today I’d love to introduce you to Tanuja Paruchuri, a past client of mine and also a brilliant business owner and women’s health and empowerment coach.

She has a fascinating story we can all relate to on some level, so block out 25 minutes, grab a yummy cup of tea or refreshing beverage and join us for a virtual “cafe” chat.

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Here are some of the things we cover in the interview:TanujaP.jpg

  • Going from size 10 to size 0 and and her journey to coming back into balance
  • Feeling disconnected and depressed to turning her life (and relationship to food) around
  • Her secret behind what it takes to manifest a sustainable self-care practice and thriving business (it does not involve hours and hours of sitting still meditation!)
  • Her indulgent recommendations that are healthy and actually taste yummy that are gluten-free, grain-free, non GMO etc. (think chocolate chip cookies, muffins, cupcakes..)
  • Inspirational words on finding your purpose, trusting yourself and loving yourself

And more!

One of my favorite quotes from her: “When you have a spark, or an idea…it’s important to listen to those little whispers that come up, because it could lead to your Purpose, even if it’s just your Purpose for right now. It will lead you to your happiness.”

——->Click here to listen to my interview with Tanuja Paruchuri, founder of Love Bites. ←—–

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a surefire sign you’re on the brink of a breakthrough (most people misinterpret this!)

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Last week, I shared an exercise from my private coaching files to help you clarify what is important to you in a partnership so that you don’t lose the gems that your exes left behind.

Missed it? Check it out here.

Today I want to chat about one of the most crucial steps that shows up in the manifestation process that most people avoid dealing with…or worse, they mistake for a sign that they are on the wrong path and end up exactly where they were before-comfortable but stagnant and bored/frustrated/etc. Specifically in relationships.

On more than one occasion I have tripped myself up on it and it wasn’t until I learned that it was simply a surefire sign that I was right on the edge of pulling in some major awesome-ness that I stopped giving it so much power and started to actually enjoy it!

I’ll give you a hint. It starts with an R.

The big R is resistance.

What do I mean by this?

It’s an almost knee-jerk response or series of thoughts that arise usually when you are:

  1. About to do something that you’ve never done before that you know is going to help you but….you’ve never done it before. (fear of the new without guarantees)
  2. Stretching out of your comfort zone in one or more ways (emotionally, financially, etc)
  3. Triggered by a past memory that is associated with the new thing presented to you. (fear of feeling bad again)

Your subconscious is designed to keep you safe. It likes guarantees. Given the choice between a lukewarm familiar choice and an innovative, different choice, it will do everything in its power to convince your logical mind that the familiar choice is better. Even if you are not seeing the results that you want to see. So crazy right?

Anything that is outside the default setting is going to bring up a “warning! Red alert!” vibe in it because it perceives danger. And so we think we are on the wrong path, but that’s not true!

In relationships, this is usually the step right before some major self-sabotaging happens.


You have been declaring that this is the year you will meet your soulmate and get married. You meet someone for a first date. Let’s call him Mr. Man. All is going well. You enjoy the conversation, you feel the chemistry running through you, you enjoy spending time with them and you even agree to see them again. You go on two more great dates where you feel treated like a Goddess. You feel so happy and sexy. You wonder when he’s going to call again and he does! (faster than you expected). And then on the next date, he asks you if you want to take it to the next level and stop seeing other people. He says he really likes you and wants to have the opportunity to really get to know each other and see if this has any future potential.

Thud. All of a sudden, the energy shifts.  You start judging the person in front of you. They are too tall. They are just not smart enough. What if the sex is terrible? Are they crazy? Why are they going so fast? There must be something wrong with them. Why are they being so nice and calling or texting too much/not enough?

All signs of internal resistance to letting yourself be happy and explore the potential.

You may even have a physical response to the experience. Temperature changes, mood changes, anger, etc.

And your logical mind will tell you that you’re right.

That this person is indeed crazy. He’s not for you. It’s too much. Who does he think he is anyway? Why is he being so direct? There’s got to be a catch. Done. You’re done…..

And poor Mr. Man just asked you a question. But that question just brought up all your shit.

Of all the ways you maybe don’t feel ready to let him see the real you.

Where you feel unlovable or undeserving.

Or just plain scared of losing your freedom as you know it now and actually getting what you want.

This is the point where resistance can be seen for what it is (your natural internal triggers of the unfamiliar rubbing up against your past or your future) and dealt with…or you can go onto sabotaging which is what most people do if you are unconscious about what’s happening.

So you text your ex even though you swore to your friend you’d delete his number.

You may even go as far as seeing him,

Mr. Man calls and texts to see if you’re okay and you blow him off or block his number.

And you go back on to see what other hotties winked at you.

Sabotage begins.

And at the end of the resistance that turned into sabotage, your subconscious decided Mr. Man’s fate before he even got a fair shot at truly getting to know you.

You’re back to square one and it feels like shit. You wonder if there are just no good men out there and your confidence drops.

It’s a very familiar loop. But the good news is, you can change it.

Step Out of Resistance Land

You are that powerful.

It all starts by noticing your energy shift.

And the next step is just saying, “I feel some resistance right now.”

 Breathe and be with it not against it.

Just the simple but powerful act of calling your resistance out can be the catalyst to put your subconscious mind on pause. Then you can actually see what it’s trying to tell you before you go on autopilot and move into sabotage land.

Expanding on the Mr. Man example above…

If you had used the steps I just mentioned, what may have happened was that you gave yourself space to see that some of the subconscious fears and thoughts that got triggered by his question were: (hypothetically)

*I don’t like my body right now. What if we have sex and he laughs at me?
Truth: I want to feel good in my body. Start dance class again on Monday.

*I feel like I need to get my shit together because he seems to and who wants to be with someone who doesn’t?
Truth: I want to get my finances together. Call credit card company and negotiate a lower rate.

*I really like this guy but I’m not ready to stop dating other people just yet.
Truth: I have to tell him how I feel and risk that he may not want to see me again.

Then perhaps you could have had a dialogue with Mr. Man that went something like this:

“I really love that you asked me that but I feel a little hesitant to be exclusive just yet, although eventually that’s what I want too. It’s bringing up some of my fears and I really like you. Could we continue to see each other and then revisit this in a few weeks?”

Now, granted, that does take a willingness to be vulnerable, but if true love is really what you want, and if Mr. Man is a real contender, he won’t be turned off by this. He’ll honor your pace and then whatever is supposed to unfold between you can, without the filter of knee-jerk resistance coming up to block your connection!

10363775_10202795961518938_2428182819912217634_nQ: Have you ever felt resistance come up in your relationships? How did you deal with it? What was the outcome?

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this small shift can change your life…i’ve done the leg work for you!

Happy Tuesday!

How was your weekend? Did you do anything fun?

Quick update: I just got back home to the desert from New York City. Had a blast meeting with old friends and also clients who I’ve worked with on the phone but never met in person! Fun pic from my recent “Wealthy Goddess” event below with Lorena Morales! Also just kicked off my free 3-week video training series called “Live Like a Goddess!” Want to join me and learn how to receive? It’s not too late! Hop in here.

Can I share something really weird about myself with you that is the intro to today’s inspirational post?

Here it is.

I loooove…. pennies. 

In particular, finding pennies on the floor. I prefer the super new shiny ones, but the rusty, not-sure-i-could-give-this-to-a-cashier-it’s-so-covered-in-crap ones are cool too.

I get ridiculously excited and I sometimes squeal with delight when they make an appearance.

To me they are evidence that we are supported by the Universe.

They are a symbol of the energy of abundance, which to me certainly includes financial moo-lah but also love and our capacity to receive all the delights and desires of our Soul.

Since I got off the plane for my NY trip, I found a penny everyday, if not more than once a day.

Sometimes the Universe even threw in dimes!

Each time, even in a crowded subway or intersection, I would respond in the same way.

Delighted! Smiley! Filled with joy and with a big goofy smile on my face that I’m sure scared people (or disgusted them…or didn’t faze’s NY after all).

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If you aren’t experiencing what you want in your relationship space, or in another area of life, consider that you may have put your focus on the wrong thing.

Example: When I kept finding those pennies and dimes, I was usually just in the present moment. Trying to find the right train to take so I wouldn’t get lost…again! Or looking for a sign or a friend who was meeting up with me. But in the back of my mind, I expected to find more pennies and dimes AND…I learned to stop trying to control when or how that would happen.

To test this theory out, for about ten minutes when I had alone time, I focused totally on pennies and dimes. I just knew I was going to find them. And I looked hard. Every sidewalk, my eyes scoured left and right, determined. I started to feel really tense and my breathing got shallow. I almost ran into a kid in a stroller I was so focused. And as you can probably guess, the result was no pennies or dimes. Just a whole lotta stress, wasted mental energy and a bruised toe!

I had a good laugh and then focused on the beautiful church that happened to be on my right. It was so beautiful and I sent a pic to my boyfriend.

And one minute later, there it was. Penny number two of the day.

So, in short here are this week’s action steps:

  1. Notice-are you operating from a space of knowing that you will have that hot relationship, etc but allowing your mind to come back to a space of ease, joy and the present moment? Or are you focusing so hard that you are creating negative things like stress, anxiety or worry? A simple awareness shift is all it takes to bring you back.
  2. One of my favorite mantras? “What I truly desires also desires me. It’s safe to let go.” Have a go with it. Say it aloud when you find yourself gripping  or write it out a bunch of times and notice how it feels!”

May you find many many “pennies,” and have a beautiful week!

Love and Blessings,


 ps: Want to learn how we can work together to help you make some powerful shifts in your love life and self-confidence? Hit reply and say YES and we can set up a time to chat on the phone for 15 minutes to see what option would be best for you!IMG_3336.JPG

are you burned out? 3 daily practices to live like a goddess..and rock May

May’s message is about receptivity, which has truly been a theme of the past few weeks.

How open are you to receiving more than just enough in your life and in your relationships?


The card says, “Allow yourself to receive. This will increase your intuition, energy and ability to give to others.”

The Goddess Hathor who the card has on it was an Egyptian Goddess of the Sun, representing fertility and true love…and she is often portrayed with the animals cat (connection to the psychic realms/subtle energies) and cow (nurturing and sustenance).

If you’ve been running yourself ragged, like most of us do at some point when we are trying to be SuperWoman or SuperMan, Hathor’s message is even more important.

Often times we think, “I’ll slow down and be still as soon as X happens first.”

But that is a surefire way to burn yourself out.

Can I share another way with you that combines the two energies of independence and also nurturing like Hathor?

I call it the Goddess way.

I would love to help you come back to yourself so you can be more available to the people in your life and the opportunities you want to create.

Here are 3 daily practices to manage your energy levels…and live like a goddess.

1. Listen to music that uplifts you as you begin…and wrap your day.

This sounds so simple, but it amazes me how many stressed out folks I see who are blasting music with lyrics that are unsupportive or harsh to the senses after their work day. If you are extra sensitive, instrumentals are awesome.

2. Compliment at least 1 person a day (preferably someone you don’t really know)

Being a goddess is about sharing love and noticing beauty wherever you go. It has nothing to do with a false sense of superficiality but a true appreciation for all the things already present in your space that delight you! So the next time that person in the grocery line is wearing something that looks beautiful on them or brings out a positive essence, how would it feel to be a bit ballsy and tell them? Watch them smile and that energy will radiate back to you!

3. Choose to stop multi-tasking…even if it’s just for 10 minutes.

A Goddess knows the power of focus. When we can zoom in on what’s in front of us, we are in full power and in full presence. When you scatter your vitality, mentally, physically or emotionally/spiritually, the other person gets a divided version of you….and so you may see divided results in your life. Try this and notice how much more energy you have when you just do one thing at a time…and trust that it will all get done in the perfect time.

Q: Which of the 3 daily practices resonate with you this week that you are willing to try out? Share with me in the comments below!

Want more?

Join me for my upcoming FREE 3-week Live Like a Goddess challenge that starts on May 9 (New Moon-wohooo!)


I will be diving in deeper into the ways you can live like a Goddess from the inside out.

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The #1 Rookie Manifesting Mistake I Made (So You Don’t Make it Too!)

A few years back, I was living in the SF Bay Area and dancing professionally with a group in the Mission District.

One particularly grueling, sweat-filled rehearsal, we got a 20 minute lunch break and  yours truly in her infinite wisdom, totally spaced on bringing snacks or a lunch.

My options and time were limited.

But across the street was McD’s.

Now, I truly would rather gone anywhere else, but with 16 minutes and counting left until I had to summon some massive cosmic energy to dance for another few hours, I decided to take my chances.

I apologized in advance to my body.

“Hello, Welcome to McDonalds. Can me help you?” a friendly lady with a heavy accent asked me.

“Um, yea, I’ll have the McChicken, but please…just put lettuce and tomato. None of that sauce stuff.”

She looked at me kinda weird, like I said something in Sanskrit to her, but she nodded, tapped her buttons, I paid and she told me to move aside and wait for my number.

Time left to eat: 7 minutes.

Oh. My. Goddess my tummy was rumbling. I could taste the rubbery chicken in my mouth and all I could think of was grabbing it, scarfing it down and sprinting back to the studio.

“Number 7!”


I grabbed it and just ran to the studio, figuring I could have 1 minute of peaceful eating on the floor.

I ran up the stairs, picked a corner and tore open the yellow wrapping like a starved dog.

And I took a bite. Bliss was coming.

But something tasted funny.

It seemed a little light.

I opened the sandwich and what was there?

Lots of lettuce. And. Tomato. Only.

Wrapped in bread.

The chicken was M.I.A.

The Lesson: PeekPhotographyDorall-0949

I wanted to cry and yell at that lady so bad, but it taught me an important lesson on manifesting.

Here it is.

Watch your words. You have to be specific.

I asked for lettuce and tomato only and well…that’s exactly what I got.

I could have blamed it on the lady’s limited English or I could take full responsibility as a powerful manifesting Goddess and next time, just clarify.

I chose the latter after that day.

Over to you:

This week’s Soul question- Have you ever made a request that was too vague and then gotten a vague answer or result back? What’s one specific thing you’d like to bring in for yourself this week? Leave a comment and let’s help circulate that into the Uni-verse!

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