The #1 dating buzz killer and how to avoid it

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This one thing can mean the difference between a great date and a catastrophe.

It’s something very subtle and distinguishes you as “second date potential” or “first date horror story.”

Which would you rather be? (That was a silly question.)

It’s like black ice on the highway. This buzz killer sneaks up on you and when you are on it, it is ungrounding, confusing and well, super unpleasant and you can’t wait to get away from it.

So, what is the #1 dating buzz killer? 

Want to take a guess? (I’ll wait).

No, it’s not talking about old relationships (although that one ranks pretty high up there too) and it’s not just talking about work and your career (which also makes the top 5 list).

The #1 buzz killer is…..<drumroll please!> Negative self-talk!

You’ve probably been around those people who are charming, lovely and down-to-earth and then out of nowhere, they start complaining about themselves or deflecting compliments you give them with a negative comment or downplaying what you just said with false modesty. It doesn’t feel so great on the receiving end, does it?

So…plain and simple, STOP the negative self-talk and also recognize that a date is not an substitution for a therapy session or vent session with your girlfriends! If you had a bad day, it’s understandable but don’t take that energy into a date.

Instead, here are three things you can do before a date or important meeting if you find yourself about to spiral down the negative self-talk rabbit hole.

Step 1: Rant

Give yourself permission to be the victim in a safe space and rant out loud or on a piece of paper the unfiltered thoughts and feelings you are having. Or cry. Yell. Scream. Make faces. Give an imaginary person the finger. Just get the negative out. No one is going to be grading you or shaming you for being un P.C. 

 

Step 2: Re-lease

Using your breath, once you’ve completed your full-on rant, close your eyes, take a deep breath and as you exhale, visualize all that negativity leaving your body and being put into a basket being held by a beautiful Angel to release out.

 

Step 3: Re-frame

Now with that energy out of your space, set an intention on something that you appreciate about yourself. It could be something simple like, I am grateful for my eyes that are allowing me to see this. One thing. Notice how it easily shifts and if all else fails, smile like a silly Cheshire cat. It works every time! Now you are ready to come to the table with a positive, lighter (and more accurate) version of your True self…and honey, that’s DAMN attractive!

 

Action This Week: What is ONE thing you appreciate about your life right now? Share in the comments below? 

As an invitation, consider writing out one thing each day that you appreciate about you and notice how you feel and how your interactions with others go.

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Your 2014 Message + The Key to Surviving New Years’ Eve

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In this PACKED video of spiritual insight, you will learn:

*How to handle feelings of anxiety and depression as we approach New Years’ Eve (especially if you are single!)

*The secret to manifesting love after trying online dating and failing that rarely gets talked about

*A tried-and-true success principle from 1919 that will change your life and your relationships!

*The one thing you MUST do if you want to stay on track in 2014

*The themes of 2014 and what you expect for the year ahead

*A fun invitation to help you manifest your dreams in 2014 with me!

 


ps: Last call to join me for the January Goddess Tribe! It’s all about Freedom and finding your Flow in the midst of challenges. It’s not too late. If you’re ready to manifest with grace and ease in the power of a group setting, this is for you! I will be teaching principles that I have used to manifest many miracles in my life including: a fully paid-for trip to Florence, Italy in the height of the summer, the perfect place to live in exactly the price range, location and feel that I wanted, unexpected sums of money and much more!  Check it out here + join us!

 

The real key to a man’s heart (New Video)

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You may have heard the expression, the “key to a man’s heart is through his stomach!”

While that may be true, I’m here to share another key that you may not have heard before that will score you more dates, more love and more admiring glances and attention from that special someone already in, or coming soon, into your life. 

I listened to countless men share this secret with me and I want to share it with YOU.

In this video you will learn:

  • What men really want more than anything from a woman (this may surprise you)
  • The three magic words you can say  to unlock a man’s heart or keep him interested (without feeling all weird and fake!)
  • How to get more attention from your man (or any man) without manipulating or compromising who you are

After you watch, I hope you’ll take me up on the exercise for this week and report back!

Exercise:

1. Who is one MAN in your life? *doesn’t have to be someone you are romantically involved with.

2. Using the I appreciate you tip above, what is 1 thing you appreciate about them that you will share with this man this week?

3. How did it go? How does it feel to appreciate them? Report back!

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How to Stay In Your Own Energy in LOVE (The Lipstick Tube technique)

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Q: “Diana, I tend to be really empathic with the people I am closest to. If you are sad, then I match them and become sad. And if they are happy, then I am happy.
What can I do to stay in my own energy and not be so affected by other people’s emotions?”

This is a GREAT question and in today’s video you will learn:

  • An unconventional energy technique to help you clear out negative energy and stay present in your relationships

(it involves lipstick…I’m so serious!)

  • Feel less burdened by other people’s heavy emotions
  • De-stress and stay sane in public places without feeling like you have to run for cover energetically!

Watch it below:

 

 

What do YOU do to help you manage your emotions?

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How to deal after someone has cheated on you…

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A brave Goddess shared this on my public Facebook page yesterday:

Q: “Diana, my last relationship lasted five years before I caught him with another woman. I haven’t dated (or felt like dating) for three years now. It seems like every guy I’ve dated ends up cheating on me and I don’t want to subject myself to that anymore. Some people are meant to be alone – am I one of them?”

 

It is never an easy thing when someone you love steps out on you. 

Or you get that sinking feeling in your belly that it’s happening but you don’t know what to do.

It can leave you feeling like the woman above-doubting whether love exists for you and whether or not you are just meant to be alone. 

But the good news is that every single relationship creates an opportunity for us to learn a Soul lesson, to grow and to see the shadow parts of ourselves that we may have been denying. 

 

Here’s what I shared with her/what came through from Spirit:

“Goddess, if you have had a pattern of men cheating on you, one question to meditate on is “Where have I cheated myself? Where have I been cutting corners or accepting less than I wanted in X area of my life?” Start there to begin the healing to open your heart.”

 

You see, it ALWAYS comes back to us. 

And it (the energy of “cheating”) can show up in another area of your life besides love.

I can speak from experience!

Some ways I know I “cheated” myself in the past included:

  • Overdrafting on my checking account and buying stuff with my debit card that made me stuff the feelings I didn’t want to deal with (hello lattes, massages and expensive jewelry I had no business buying!)
  • Driving weekly over 100 miles to see the man I was dating only to have him drive TWICE to see me (once because it was on his way back from a family commitment) (compromising my energy level)
  • Being consistently late to meet friends or flaking altogether on calling them back (cheating on my commitments) 

And not surprisingly during that time was when I was seeing a man who I got that sinking feeling with that I was not the only woman. It was a horrible feeling but you see, energy is energy and only when I was able to peel back the layers of my deeper pain and ask the deeper questions of my Soul was I able to begin shifting the pattern and changing my life for the better! I started paying better attention to my money and how I treated it; I broke up with the man who refused to put in the extra effort to see me and I made sure to say yes only to the commitments I knew I could keep. My friendships blossomed, my energy, bank account and confidence soared and best of all, I started to actually like myself again. And it’s a cool thing. When you like you, others do too, and when you love you, well, watch out! Because love is on its way!

It starts by taking it back to YOU.

 

Action Item:

Whatever is annoying you about a certain person or situation this week, ask yourself:

1. “How am I treating myself the exact same way?

2. What is one thing I can do to turn that around today?”

Look at all the areas of your life until you can find at least one place to shift. Take one simple action to repair the damage and be gentle with yourself. You’ve got this. It’s time to SPARKLE!

 

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