3 ways to know whether you should date them again or ditch them

Q: Should you go out with someone again based on a first impression?

 

We’ve all been trained to make good first impressions, whether it be for a job interview or a first date. But is a first impression all it’s cracked up to be or are you only seeing one side of a person and perhaps you need to go out with them several times before you trust what you’re feeling?

 

A: It’s a great question and while I’m not you (and I don’t know your date in question), I do have 3 insights on the subject to help you feel more secure in your dating game.

 

1. See how they treat other people on your date

Do they appear to be kind and charming with you but make a snide comment about the wait staff? If you’re waiting in any kind of line, do they complain or do they make conversation with the people next to you? How your date treats others when he/she is at his “best” says a lot. Pay attention.

 

2. Watch for give and take.

Someone who is a match for you will be as interested in learning about you as they are in sharing information about themselves. If someone is withholding when you ask them questions and deflects to ask about you all the time, that is a red flag. If, on the other hand, they answer thoughtfully and also listen to you intently that is a great sign! (you can tell the difference between that and someone waiting for their turn to talk). Use your intuition.

 

3. Follow YOUR first instincts following the date

What I mean is, instead of paying attention to how you feel when you’re with them on the date, pay attention to how you feel or information that comes to you AFTER THEY LEAVE/the date concludes. Not an hour after, but right within the next few minutes. Do you feel happy? Excited? Zapped of energy? Write those first impressions down as you will have valuable information from your intuition before your heart gets involved.

 

Now it’s YOUR turn:

 

1) Have YOU ever been on a date where your first impression was right on (or vice versa), off target? What happened and how did you handle it?

 

2) What helps you assess whether to go on a 2nd date?

 

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A Love Story From Ponte Vecchio Bridge

Have you ever been to a place that changes you forever and changes the way you view yourself?

 

Note from Diana: I want to share a true story with you from Florence about a bridge, a diamond and true love. I hope it inspires you to look for love in all the places you are called and to remember how powerful this vibration is when we are open to give and receive it.

 

From my journal: 6/22/13

 

Dear Diary,

 

Today I got to thinking about love and as I expected, Florence indulged me.

I walked along the famous Ponte Vecchio Bridge with my good friend Diane, which is home to all the best gold merchants and jewelry shops in Firenze (Florence). Mesmerized by the glittering diamonds and gemstones, I persuaded Diane to go into one of the shops with me to try on diamond rings for fun!

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The woman behind the counter smiled and when I told her we were just looking to experience having diamonds on our fingers, she was so nice and nodded with approval that we succumbed to this pleasure experience! “Perfecto!” she said in a way that was perfect Italian but she shared that she was from Brazil and had met an Italian man there who later became her sweetheart and she moved here to Florence to start a new life with him.  It was so romantic! (Especially as we played like little girls with trying on the biggest rocks she had in the store!) And then it got better.

 

The woman’s eyes sparkled as she continued.

 

“You know, this bridge is a love story.”

 

“Oh, really, why?”

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She said in a lovely Italian accent, “Well, originally this bridge was where the jewelers and the people selling the fish came to sell their wares. There were all kinds of merchants. But when Medici, the head of Italy married his love who was from Austria, he bought the Palacio Pitti so they could be away from all the commoners and his offices and other palace were on the other side of the bridge. He loved her so much that he ordered all of the fisherman and other merchants to leave and decreed that this bridge would only be for the goldsmiths and those selling the beautiful jewels. He did this so that she could walk along the bridge between the two palaces everyday and pick out something special for herself. A gift for everyday that he loved her. And he even built a secret corridor alongside the bridge so they had a private way to cross. This is a love bridge. Today we say is very good luck to buy gold or jewels here for couples in love or wanting to get married as it symbolizes a love that lasts.”

 

Wow. By then, Diane and I were totally mesmerized and using discernment I could tell that this woman really did believe in the story and love. I saw it in her eyes although for a second, my business side was saying, “Damn she’s a great saleswoman. Totally hooked me in!” But I felt my heart chakra open and as we said goodbye to the woman and stood still in on the bridge overlooking the water, it hit me.

 

That’s what real love is.

 

  • It’s expansive. (Like the water under the bridge and the construction of the secret passage where there wasn’t one before)
  • It’s sometimes irrational and over the top. (Like some of the jewels I saw).
  • It’s sometimes inconvenient but it doesn’t care.

You must be willing to look like a fool and to give love in the most authentic expression possible… even when it is inconvenient for other people (like Medici kicking out the poor fisherman!)

 

So, a lot to think about crossing the bridge, which I am just realizing as I type this to you, is post Full Moon, a time of release and completion. A new chapter. Onward!

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Your Turn: Post a Comment!

  1. What is a place that you have been to that reminds you of LOVE and BEAUTY? (It could be a place you’ve been to or a place you want to go)
  2. Why did you choose that place?
  3. Post a comment at right and share with your friends! Let’s pass on the LOVE!

 

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Adventure from Italy: 3 Tips If You’re Feeling Lost in Love..or in Life

True Confession from Italy: For those who have ever felt lost…..

 

I decided to go for a walk after my pizza gorging and I was quite proud of myself for going around the City center by foot….until I realized that I had NO idea where I was. As you read this, I am going to encourage you to compare it to a time when YOU felt lost in your life be it a relationship, a career change or just a situation you struggled with. 

 

The neighborhood started to change, I started to see the streets narrow even more (I didn’t know that was possible). There was trash and graffiti everywhere and my internal compass was panicking. I pulled out the map my host had given me and I felt so incredibly overwhelmed. Every freakin side street in Florence starts with the words Via De La _________ and my eyes started to go fuzzy after taking in all the tiny squiggly lines. I wanted to cry. I wanted to ask for help but I didn’t want to be spotted as a “tourist.” My feet hurt and I just wanted to go home. Whatever Via that was on! It is starting to get dark right about now. And then I started to miss my boyfriend and couldn’t reach him or my friend because there was no Wi-Fi where I was on this random corner. I was so in my head that it took a cyclist on a Vespa literally missing me by 2 inches speeding by to wake me up and bring me back to the present. Suddenly my mind went kind of numb. I saw a garden in front of me. It looked pretty so I walked over there until the lady yelled at me that they were closed. Oh well. But then something said, look at the map again. And wouldn’t you know, my eyes went RIGHT to the street I was on and I could see where I was in that Where is Waldo spread! I wasn’t lost after all!

Long story short, I finally got to my door only to realize that the plaza where I had wandered to originally for dinner was like 20 feet in front of me in the opposite direction!  I had walked myself into a crazy tizzy only to end up right in the same spot I started. It was mind boggling and I had to laugh. But at least I didn’t feel so stuffed 🙂 

But here are 3 take-aways from this story that you can apply to ANY place in your life you feel lost:

1. Get out of your head
When you feel lost, take a minute to close your eyes and take yourself out of your head by focusing on something right in front of you. For me it was the garden. For you, it may be something like your keychain. Really take the time to feel the vibration of what you’re looking at. Let it bring you into the here and now. This will calm your blood pressure and help you think straight. 

2. Trust that the Universe is trying to get your attention
When you feel stuck, lost or like you’re spinning your wheels, it’s easy to just put your attention on the fact that you feel that way. But consider that the Universe wants you to literally check out your entire environment, outside your own story. You may be pulled to talk to someone or go in a direction you wouldn’t have considered if you had clung to feeding the fear in your mind about why you’re still “lost.” 

3. Learn to tolerate discomfort. It means you’re growing!
Sure, it’s easy to fall into negative thinking. It’s easy to want to go back to what’s comfortable. But it doesn’t serve you. When we stretch ourselves beyond our comfy zone, that’s where we get to see who we really are and what we’re made of. For me, it was surrendering to the fact that I am alone in Italy and I am choosing to have a great time even if I have to look like a tourist, a fool or get lost as part of the process. 

Your Turn:


1. Which of the 3 tips speaks to you the most today? Why?

2. Do YOU have a suggestion that helps you when you’re feeling lost?

Tell me about it by posting a comment (to the right) and sharing with your friends!

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“How people treat you is karma; how you react is yours.”-Wayne Dyer

Whether it’s that opinionated girlfriend, your nice-but-nosy co-worker or someone you’re currently dating or have dated, there are moments where you might wonder, “Why is this person getting under my skin? Why do I have such a hard time communicating with them or feeling heard? Is it karma? Did I do something in a past life to piss them off and this is my payback?”

In this video (3:21 min) , you will learn
● What a karmic relationship is and what it means to be in one (it’s not just for lovers!)
● 3 signs to watch for that distinguish a karmic relationship from another type you’ve had
● The simple perspective shift that can create space for the karmic connection to “complete” without manipulation or pushing.

VIDEO: (3:21 min)

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