Posts
Being in Your Feminine is Not This… (Dating Advice)
“I have to be in my Feminine to attract love right, Diana? So, why do I have to get specific?”
First off, you don’t *have to* be in any energy, but if you want to attract a primarily Masculine energy centred man, being in your authentic Feminine creates polarity, that sexual and energetic ‘tension’ that creates a romantic dynamic.
Having said that, being in your feminine energy is never about being passive!
It truly drives me bananas when I overhear women encouraging each other to just “sit and wait” and not do anything at all to signal the Universe of their desires to be in partnership.
It’s a super delicate dance but here is one powerful thing you can certainly *do* while being in your Feminine energy that will actually help you attract romance without slipping into passivity…or over-giving.
- give yourself a weekly goal or intention. Notice I said give yourself (not the guy/girl). For example: Even though it felt weird at first, I asked one of my clients how many dates she would like to goon in the next week and she said “3” so she declared, wrote it down and even cleared out space in her week when she would be able to accommodate invitations. Within the next hour, a guy messaged her on Hinge and asked her out. They are going out this weekend. She was shocked. I was not. That is the power of declaring, being clear and creating space.
Let’s break that down.
Step 1: She had to get clear.
How many dates? If she had been wishy-washy or passive like –I don’t know- however many the Universe wants to send me??? you can just feel the energy, right? Even writing it is like taking a super lukewarm bath-it’s not sexy and it’s not magnetising. IN order to get clear, she had to do gut check and/or body check-yes, maybe her head said she wanted 5 dates, but when she checked in with her body, she realized she only had energy available for 3. Take the time to slow down and get clear.
Step 2: She wrote it down and made space in her schedule.
She actively participated in the creation of her desire. If she ha said 3 dates but refused to block off or identify time when she could actually meet those men, she may have still called in those dates, but she could have been unnecessarily stressed or felt like she was overbooking or compromising in another area. Q: What needs to be cleared or sifted so you can actually receive what you’re for?
Step 3: She stayed open to how and when.
Sure, the intention was for the week, but she let go and trusted that she would receive feedback from the Universe via people at the perfect time. And she did! She wasn’t trying to control when it happened or how it happened. So she was a safe receiving space for it to come to her!
The more you can actively practice these 3 baby steps, the easier it will be to stay constantly in your Feminine, without slipping into passivity and wondering why nothing it happening!
Q: Which of these 3 steps do you need to practice? Hit reply or leave me a comment on the blow and let me know!
ps: Who is coming to Hollywood this 11:11? Join me for my Winter Retreat! There’s still time to sign up! Click here
Is Ego bad? (Q+A time!)
Happy Tuesday!
How was your Equinox?
Thank you so much to everyone who signed up for the Autumn Healing Meditation!
If you’d lie to get a copy of the recording to listen to and gain the energy benefits, you can go here and we will send it to you!
Today, I’m answering a question from our Goddess community.
Q: “Diana, I’ve been really working on my spiritual practice and trying to not take things personally in relationships. It’s not easy! One thing I wondered about – Ego bad? Where is the line between having a healthy Ego and an unhealthy one?
I love this question! Ego gets a really bad rap but really it has a very important purpose in our Lives!
Understanding this purpose can help you in all relationships.
After you listen:
Q: Do you listen to your Ego? Share with us in the comments!
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
Let the Universe Help You
Happy Tuesday!
The other day I was driving to see a friend and I was strongly called to look over to my right.
A sign, literal sign for some business and do you know what it said?
“All things possible.”
I chuckled because I’d been having a strange week with a lot of unexpected twists and turns.
I teach this stuff, but I’m not immune to having days where I have trouble trusting that I’m being supported.
So that sign was very timely.
It helped me get into a more expansive mindset beyond the realm of the “problems” that presented themselves.
So often we get caught up in the mind, in fear or anxiety about the future, that we forget we can slow down, ask for a sign, and relax.
This is the Feminine Flow State-it’s not passivity-more, just powerfully deciding to receive signals of what our Deepest Truth is from the outside world.
One wa to get into this Flow State is to start your morning quietly.
Do something that takes you out to the realm of the linear, production-mode into the liminal, Yin state.
So you can actually hear yourself and also make loving, clear requests for the Universe to co-create and support you.
One thing I love doing is making morning tea.
I love the sensation of boiling a post of hot water, selecting my tea or sometimes just adding lemon, lighting a candle and journaling.
Some days, not much comes out.
It feels like dribble.
Other days, I channel content for an entire course! (Hello-Embody!)
And it’s my time to get still and ask, “Spirit, here’s what I’m feeling/knowing/contemplating. Can you give me a clear sign to let me know I’m on the right track or help me course-correct please?”
So this week, especially since we are still in Mercury Retrograde, I invite you to switch up your usual morning M.O. and do one thing to tune into yourself.
Make a request from the Universe to send you a sign.
And give yourself permission to stay receptive and trust that if it’s truly a Sign, you’ll know. You won’t miss it.
Q: Are you game? If so, hit reply and say YES!
Enjoy your week and sending you tons of blessings!
Love,
Diana