Can You Radically Accept Yourself?

Happy Tuesday!

In honor of July’s theme of radical self-acceptance, are you willing to let go of the negative chatter in your head?

I have had a tendency in the past to worry about everything-what could go wrong, what I may have done wrong or not good enough.

My dad would often find me as a little girl in my room obsessing for days about how I phrased something to a friend, what a teacher said, what I did or didn’t do.

At some point, he just laughed and said something to the effect of, “I guess that’s just what you do-worrying is just part of your process.”

The truth is, sometimes it feels really hard to let go.

It feels near impossible to shut up my mind and love myself when I get into those worry loops.

But the willingness and desire to move into a more self-loving, self-accepting space is the first step.

I wish I could have told my 10-year old self that.

I wish I could tell her, “This worry obsession doesn’t have to be part of your process forever…you may make ‘mistakes’ and people may do and say shit that hurts you or you feel like you hurt them. But you are lovable just the same. And it’s okay to not be perfect because no one is!”

If you too have struggled with some negative nellies in your head, you’ll love this month’s Mantra:

“I release negative self-talk now. I choose to radically accept myself.”

How to use it:
In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how you feel.

Will you play with this over the week and let me know how it goes? Hit reply or share a comment on the blog!

Remember, it’s never about perfection-that’s not the goal.

The goal is to stay open to a kinder, gentler space for yourself. That’s it. Okay?

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It’s Go Time

Maybe it’s the end of the month vibes, but I’m all fired up today as I write this to you.

It’s go time. 

At some point, you just have to decide. 

Decide you’re available for more. 

Decide that you’re done tolerating XYZ once and for all.

Decide that you are worthy. You are smart enough. You are deserving of a beautiful, fulfilling and nourishing life and relationship.

Do you hear me? 

No one else is going to decide that for you.

Sure, your friends may tell you how great you are. 

You may like Instagram memes that tell you you are fabulous.

But if  you don’t decide… like really really decide way deep down to only to be available for what it is you keep saying you want. 

Well… I’m calling your bluff. 

It will fall flat. 

You are just spinning your wheels.

It sounds good. 

You’re ‘making progress’.

But you could just skip all that BS and decide. 

So I ask you, the brave ones reading this…

When it comes to love: 

Q: What are you available for? 

Q: What are you not available for? 

Q: What are you deciding right now? 

Hit reply and tell me. 

Leave a comment.

Declare it Goddess! 

Sermon over.

Feel free to roam the cabins. 

Have You Ever Felt ‘Not Good Enough?’

There are so many triggers today that can make us feel like we just don’t measure up.


Pictures and posts on social media.

Well-meaning friends and family opinions.

And a lot of times, when you scroll through for things to feel better about yourself, the phrase, “just love yourself, focus on loving yourself” will come up.

It’s a valid point bathos many of us are taught how to actually do that?

Self-love can seem like this daunting, huge place with a ton of entrances, but you aren’t even sure how to get to the crossroads to pick the right entrance!

So, if you’ve ever felt ‘not good enough,’ especially around relationships and dating, let me put your mind at ease.

Instead of going into overwhelm about how to love yourself and if you are doing it right, start with just one step.

Do this instead and you may find that you naturally begin loving yourself and walking through the door without having to force your way in: