Video: want to stop taking on other people’s crap? do this!

Have you ever left your house feeling on top of the world?

Happy, ready for the day and smiling for no reason?

And then you get to the office or you get off the phone with someone and after a few minutes, you feel like you need to take two showers?

You feel icky, mad, sad or just “off” and you know you’ve taken on their crap but you don’t know how to NOT?

Us spiritually-conscious folks, tend to have the biggest hearts and also tend to be extremely sensitive to others’ moods, vibes, etc. This is a true gift and you probably know you’re here to radiate light and elevate the planet with good vibes and love. All that being said…

In relationships (of all kinds), if you don’t want to end up feeling like crap for taking on other people’s crap all the time, it’s crucial that you learn how to stay in your own energy.

I want to help you do just that!

In this week’s video you will learn:

  • One of my favorite Angel-friendly negative-energy-be-gone exercises you can do that requires less than 10 seconds once you’ve gotten some practice!
  • The why behind other people’s crap bumping into your energy and what’s really happening
  • You’ll learn of a fun opportunity to take it a step further and learn how to not let other people’s crap influence your decision-making abilities

Watch it below (I kept it short again..wohoo!) and be sure to answer this week’s Soul Challenge question in the comments!


 

NOTE: If you are extra sensitive and having the mirror only face one-way feels isolating, experiment with having it be a 2-way mirror so you can see yourself on one side and the other person sees themselves. You can also add color and make the mirror a color that feels fun for you! Experiment and report below!

This Week’s Soul Challenge: Have YOU ever taken on other people’s negative vibes or energy? What has helped you to stay positive at work or in your relationships! Share your wisdom or tip with us below!

ps: Ready to learn how to take your intuition up a notch?

Intuition 101 11/2014

Video: Simple daily exercise to get stronger messages from your intuition

Q: How do I feel more confident about the messages I’m getting from my gut feelings and intuition?

A: Training yourself to trust and follow your intuition is a muscle that anyone can get better at. It’s like going to the gym. Practice, positioning your body in the right alignment and most of all, confidence even when you’re just starting out is important.

Want to learn a simple daily exercise that can dramatically increase your confidence around intuition?

I offer this exercise to my clients and in the beginning of my own spiritual journey, I found it to be invaluable and I’d love to pass it on to you!

In the short training video below you will learn:

  • the secret to getting stronger intuitive messages (it’s simple but most of us miss it because we try to complicate everything!)
  • the biggest thing getting in your way of trusting your gut feelings
  • my ridiculously simple daily tip that can up your chances of getting an accurate message for yourself (consider it your spiritual reps!) 

Did you watch it? If YES, here’s your Soul challenge:

“Do you struggle with not trusting yourself? What has helped YOU? Share your wisdom with us in the comments below!”

ps: Want another free tool to help you distinguish between a message from Spirit and wishful thinking? Grab your free gift here.

should you date a guy with kids?

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”– Lucille Ball

Q: I’m dating a guy with young kids and he says he loves me and I love him, but I always feel like everything we do has to be on his schedule. I’m starting to feel like I’m not getting my needs met. Should I stay with him and just accept that I’m never going to come first or should I just let it go now before I commit any further? Help!

This is a GREAT question and we’re going to hit it from several angles.

The suggestions offered can be applied to ANY area of your life where you feel like you’re getting the short end of the stick and you aren’t sure what the heck to do.

It all comes down to a few simple, but powerful things.

After you watch the video, be sure to answer the Soul Challenge Question for this week below!

Soul Challenge:

Here are some questions to consider: Share with us in the comments!

  1. Have you ever dated a guy with kids? What was your biggest takeaway from that experience? Any advice?
  2. What is ONE choice that you would be willing to make today that would be an act of self love?
  3. Share + take action on #2!

ps: Can I send you a free gift to help you make better decisions in love and life? Click here!

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Prefer to read? Here you go!

Title: Should you date a guy with kids?

Q: I’m dating a guy with young kids and he says he loves me and I love him, but I always feel like everything we do has to be on his schedule. I’m starting to feel like I’m not getting my needs met. Should I stay with him and just accept that I’m never going to come first or should I just let it go now before I commit any further?

A: There are a few key things happening here to look at.

First, being comfortable with a guy who has young children who still live at home.

Second, feeling safe to communicate what your needs are and standing up for what’s important to you and finally, deciding whether this is a situation that is going to help you get closer to your heart’s desire or take you further away.

It all boils down to 3 things: self-love, self-worth and knowing your deal breakers.

In your heart of hearts, before moving any further, it’s super important to ask yourself, “Is dating a guy with young kids a deal breaker?”

For example:

If deep down, you really want children of your own someday (in whatever capacity that looks like) and you’ve talked with him about it and he’s made it clear the kids he has are IT for him, well, then staying with him could feel like an act of self-betrayal… unless you are 100% willing to assume the role of stepmother and would be fulfilled with that.

If you on the other hand, you feel pretty neutral about having children with this man or he’s open to having more but are having a hard time getting the 1:1 time and feeling of adoration you want from him, then the issue is really about feeling confident and worthy of being adored.  It all goes back to basics. Self. Love.

Whatever we “need” from another is something we have to first learn how to provide for ourselves.

Important: This never comes from a “see-i-don’t-need-a-man-i-can-do-it-myself” lone ranger kind of place. That feels heavy and that’s when people can feel bitter about love.

It’s about learning how to come to the table with the qualities we seek in another so we have something to offer the relationships! It’s about coming from a place of overflow vs lack or seeking something we fear we aren’t really worthy of giving to ourselves.

Only then can we truly embrace the love that someone else has to offer us. And that makes them want to give you MORE. And you have to DO less. It’s truly a win: win.

So, the answer to the question is “it depends” (not what you probably wanted to hear, but hey, the Universe isn’t black and white.)

It depends on how much you are loving yourself.

It depends how deeply you affirm your own worth, not just in love, but everywhere in your life.

It depends on how well you are communicating what really want to yourself first and then another.

It depends on how well you know your deal breakers.

It depends on your level of courage and your risk-taking threshold.

It depends on how much you love yourself (yes I put it twice on purpose!)

And finally, it depends on what feels true and authentic to help your Soul fulfill it’s truest desires.

Soul growth is never easy, but TRUE and AUTHENTIC will always get you closer to what you really want.

 

Soul Challenge:

Here are some questions to consider: Share with us in the comments!

  1. Have you ever dated a guy with kids? What was your biggest takeaway from that experience? Any advice?
  2. What is ONE choice that you would be willing to make today that would be an act of self love?
  3. Share + take action on #2!

ps: Can I send you a free gift to help you make better decisions in love and life? Click here!

3 tips to rock the ‘red-hot’-moon (and your love life)

Tomorrow (October 8) we have a full moon which is the first big energy date to watch in this month’s heavy spiritual line-up!

It’s known as the “red moon” because if you look at it, it supposedly will have a reddish brown color to it, but from an energy standpoint, red is the color of the root chakra and it’s also the color of passion.

Stuff is coming up like:

where you live, who are you safe around, feeling secure with what you have, especially in relationships, where you aren’t living your passion and you’re pissed about it, or where you are living your passion but you’re spreading it around so fast you can’t keep up!

Yeah.

It sounds like a lot of negative stuff, but it’s actually the perfect time to re-align your most important relationships and clear away some old debris to make space for the real you!

I made a video for you (yay for new red lipstick!) where you will learn:

  • Clarity on what the heck this full moon is about and how it relates to your everyday life
  • The question to ask others before you fly off the handle or make an important move (especially helpful if you run into an ex during this cycle!)
  • The simple mantra that keeps you sane even when people around you are going cray-cray
  • 3 tips to rock this red moon + your relationships (especially with the one you have inside your head 😉

After you watch it, be sure to check out the Soul Challenge Question of the Week and share your answer with us in the comments!

This week: What is ONE thing you are making space for on this Full Moon? Leave a comment and share with us!

ps: Are you coming to Sedona? Just a few Spots Left! Check it out below.

 

 

 

Not manifesting what you want? This could be why…

So, for the past 3 days, I’ve talked to not one, but several amazing women friends who are all going on and on about the same things: can you relate?

  • I am a workaholic and I feel like my life is a never ending To-Do list and no one appreciates me
  • I have no social life and no love life…I know something has to change
  • I’m tired of feeling isolated and alone but I don’t know what to do

Then I ask the bold question:

“So, what are you going to change so you can you start loving yourself more? What do you do to take care of your Spirit”

 

I sometimes get weird stares and a laundry list of rational excuses, mostly about how they need to focus on their business. Or their responsibilities. Or re-organizing the closet. 

Sigh. I get it. OMG I’ve been there. So many times.  

It’s SCARY to change.

It’s SCARY to trust.

It’s SCARY to not be in control all the damn time and trust that thing are going to work out

But here’s the deal:

We say we want to take time out of our busy lives, love ourselves and come back into balance but what we are really are saying is…I’ll get to that later…

as soon as I get the business or career stuff handled

as soon as I have more free time

as soon as the kids go to college

as soon as I have more money

as soon as as soon as as soon as…

Only “as soon as” never comes, does it?

Self-care and prioritizing our Soul go to the bottom of the to-list…. if it’s even on the list at all.

Pleasure and taking a new direction towards something fun seems frivolous, unnecessary, unreasonable. The idea of putting our needs and emotions above others’ we love seems selfish.

But, consider this.

Your dream life is rarely birthed when you are being ‘reasonable.’

Otherwise, you would have it already, wouldn’t you?

The Universe knows you are EXTRA-ordinary. It’s just waiting for you to get the memo so it can start helping you get what you want. But normally we’re too in our heads to actually listen or do anything about it.

You are Divine. Are you ready to change?

Click here.

See, The Universe doesn’t respond to you when you’re being ordinary. Or reasonable. Or in overdrive business mode.

It responds to your request when you are relaxed, in a space of receiving and joy. Not stress. Or worry.

When you take time out for pleasure and Soul nourishing time, you become a magnet for the things you want.

  • My client slashed her work hours in half and started walking again and taking time to be with her Spirit. The result? Her quarterly income increased over 34%.
  • I treated myself to lunch at a 5-star restaurant in the middle of my work week. Just because I felt like it! The result? Two media invitations for interviews on helping women trust their intuition in love (hello, YES!)

and my personal favorite:

  • I took not FIVE days off from the grind to nourish my Spirit and be with horses in the Santa Cruz mountains totally unplugged. I didn’t know how I was going to cover all the costs, but I just trusted. When I came back, I got a new client.

Coincidence?

I think not.

This week’s Self-Love Soul Challenge:

What’s one “unreasonable” thing you can do for your Soul this week? Something that fills you with a feeling of “OMG I can’t do THAT! But wouldn’t that be neat….”

I give you permission to go for it Goddess.

Fuck reasonable.

And if you don’t like it after a week,  you can always go back to the way things were before.

No questions asked.

Your call.

It’s time to put yourself first.

 

Want to do something totally “unreasonable” and life-changing?

Come spend 3 days with me and 10 other amazingly fabulous Goddesses in the Red Rocks this November!  Time is running out. I’m holding space for you.

You know who you are.

Kiss kiss, nudge nudge.

I promise laughing, going deep and releasing the old shit to prepare you for who you really are, and some major spiritual breakthroughs in 5-star surroundings.

Click here. Spaces are limited.

You’re so worth it.

And I love you.

Signing off now to do something “unreasonable” and fabulous 🙂

Love and Blessings,

Diana Dorell