ready to kick your old pattern to the curb? do this!

/0 Comments/in , /by

Q: I’m newly back in the dating game and am really trying to be mindful to not repeat the same patterns from old relationships. I’m ready for the real deal-I’ve looked at each ex and gotten clear on what didn’t work in that relationship (I even made a list!), but is there anything else I can do to help me prepare for someone new? Am I missing something?

A: Great question! There are so many things you can do to prepare, but for now, let’s focus on the list that you made. It’s awesome that you are diving deep into what didn’t work for you in the past so you can make different choices with the new person you want to call in.

However, in addition to making a list of the things that didn’t work, I invite you to look at your last 3 relationships (even if they didn’t work out) and write down the feelings or positive things that these men brought to you. I know this may sound strange, especially if your ex was a douche bag, but when you shift your perspective to see in what ways that relationship DID support you, even if it’s simply showing you something about yourself, you’ll see common threads. And those common threads become what I call your love threads. Those things that help you flourish in a partnership.

For example, when I did this exercise a few years ago, I saw that the last 3 people I dated seriously all brought the following gifts to me: the gift of sensitivity (emotional sensitivity to me and to the people I cared about), a spirit of generosity (these men all had generous hearts and also loved to make sure I felt taken care of) and a strong family connection (shared value of family). Now, those relationships didn’t work out for various other reasons, but when I saw the common threads, I understood that those three things were really really important to me in a partner. So, when I got back out into the dating game, after a date, I’d ask,

  1. Do they give off an energy of sensitivity to what I’m saying and to the people around them (how did they treat the waiter, the lady in front of us, etc).?
  2. Were they generous or were they guarded with their giving?
  3. (If it came up) What is their relationship to family? Is it important or are they strictly flying solo in life?

Knowing your love threads can help you filter out who to see again and who to politely decline.

And that’s power.

This week’s Soul Q: What is your love thread? Pick one and share with us in the comments below!

13001296_10207626001946930_3084101872715200163_n.jpg

Want to learn more about how I can help you let go of your love blocks and prepare for your soul mate?

One of my special gifts is helping my clients let go of their ex and other subconscious-level blocks that are stopping you from attracting your soulmate.

I am currently enrolling just a handful of action-taking, ready-for-love Souls (are you one of them?) for private, 1:1 intuitive coaching and massive energy healing.

If you are ready to make some major changes in your love life but aren’t sure where to start, I am happy to announce that I have opened up my calendar to take a select number of complimentary consultations (15-20 minutes) to

  1. Get to know you and your desires better. Are you looking to get married? Just out of a breakup and looking to heal? Wanting to work on yourself and self-love so you can get back in the dating game? Fill me in!
  2. There are 4 core blocks I see that stop you from being a love magnet. With your permission, we can do an energetic Love Assessment to see which of the 4 or which combos of the 4 are your primary blocks.
  3. We can chat about solutions to help you un-block and work together and I will of course answer all your questions about that! By booking a consult you are never obligated to purchase any services. It is simply the first step in helping you make a decision to move forward.

Click here to book a complimentary “What’s My Love Block?” Assessment call!

are you burned out? 3 daily practices to live like a goddess..and rock May

/2 Comments/in , , /by

May’s message is about receptivity, which has truly been a theme of the past few weeks.

How open are you to receiving more than just enough in your life and in your relationships?

IMG_3285.JPG

The card says, “Allow yourself to receive. This will increase your intuition, energy and ability to give to others.”

The Goddess Hathor who the card has on it was an Egyptian Goddess of the Sun, representing fertility and true love…and she is often portrayed with the animals cat (connection to the psychic realms/subtle energies) and cow (nurturing and sustenance).

If you’ve been running yourself ragged, like most of us do at some point when we are trying to be SuperWoman or SuperMan, Hathor’s message is even more important.

Often times we think, “I’ll slow down and be still as soon as X happens first.”

But that is a surefire way to burn yourself out.

Can I share another way with you that combines the two energies of independence and also nurturing like Hathor?

I call it the Goddess way.

I would love to help you come back to yourself so you can be more available to the people in your life and the opportunities you want to create.

Here are 3 daily practices to manage your energy levels…and live like a goddess.

1. Listen to music that uplifts you as you begin…and wrap your day.

This sounds so simple, but it amazes me how many stressed out folks I see who are blasting music with lyrics that are unsupportive or harsh to the senses after their work day. If you are extra sensitive, instrumentals are awesome.

2. Compliment at least 1 person a day (preferably someone you don’t really know)

Being a goddess is about sharing love and noticing beauty wherever you go. It has nothing to do with a false sense of superficiality but a true appreciation for all the things already present in your space that delight you! So the next time that person in the grocery line is wearing something that looks beautiful on them or brings out a positive essence, how would it feel to be a bit ballsy and tell them? Watch them smile and that energy will radiate back to you!

3. Choose to stop multi-tasking…even if it’s just for 10 minutes.

A Goddess knows the power of focus. When we can zoom in on what’s in front of us, we are in full power and in full presence. When you scatter your vitality, mentally, physically or emotionally/spiritually, the other person gets a divided version of you….and so you may see divided results in your life. Try this and notice how much more energy you have when you just do one thing at a time…and trust that it will all get done in the perfect time.

Q: Which of the 3 daily practices resonate with you this week that you are willing to try out? Share with me in the comments below!

Want more?

Join me for my upcoming FREE 3-week Live Like a Goddess challenge that starts on May 9 (New Moon-wohooo!)

13001296_10207626001946930_3084101872715200163_n.jpg

I will be diving in deeper into the ways you can live like a Goddess from the inside out.

Sign up for the free challenge here

are you tired of getting sucked my other people’s energy? visualize this!

/0 Comments/in /by

Have you ever had a situation where you come into a room feeling peaceful and chill…and after a brief interaction with an anxious person, you too leave feeling anxious..and confused?

In this video, you’ll learn a very simple 3-step process and visualization to help you manage your own energy level and stop getting sucked into other people’s stuff!

This week’s Soul question: Have you ever gotten pulled in by another person’s energy? What helped you? Share with us in the comments below!

Want more? I’d love to send you my popular audio training: 5 Common Ways You Block Money, Love and Miracles from Coming into your life.

 click here

In NYC? Check out my fabulous workshop for women entrepreneurs called “Wealthy Goddess Workshop!” May 7! Early bird price: Just $17 until May 1!10367159_10202795966319058_7431355893245143367_n.jpg

your angel story from the city of sin

/4 Comments/in , /by

Happy Tuesday!

Did you have a good weekend?

I just got back from Vegas and got to spend time with my sister, my man and just let loose after a very packed couple of weeks!

I have a love/hate relationship with the City of Sin and being both an introvert and an empath, it’s a place that really requires me to walk my talk…or get completely derailed by the bright lights, the constant stimulation and well….people!

Have you ever been there before?

Can I share my story from the weekend with you with the intent that it helps you make better decisions from your intuition?

I had been there two other times, once for a weekend with some teacher co-workers in my early 20’s (which ended so badly because all they wanted to do was shop, so I bought a plane ticket home early!) and the other for a 1-night workshop which was really awesome, but I still had to run through a smoke-filled casino to get to my hotel room and recharge (I remember thinking it was hilarious that they chose Vegas to host a spiritual conference!)

So, when my guy suggested we go to Vegas to let off steam, my initial reaction was…NO! Absolutely no. No, no, no.

He asked me why and I told him about my experiences in Vegas and he just listened.

Then he said, “What could we do to make sure you feel taken care of and not have the urge to get on the plane early this time around?” And then asked me again…(he’s persistent and inquisitive which I adore and get annoyed at simultaneously).

I had never even considered that.

I asked my intuition.

A few things came out.

In order to make the trip a YES, the following needed to be in place:

  1. A non-smoking hotel room, preferably in the end corner of the floor, off the main Strip (quieter)
  1. A list of 3 must-do’s.

We each shared 3 things we absolutely wanted to experience and gave each of those things a specific day or time during our 3 day stay. That way I wasn’t spending energy or money or time on things that weren’t that important to me. Mine were 1) See the Mob Museum 2) See my sister and learn/play a game of blackjack with her at one of the major casinos and  3) See the “Oceans 11” fountain show at the Bellagio in the night.  His was shorter….1) Walk down the Strip and take pictures…everywhere.

  1. Balance out being out with time to do nothing.

Even though it was Saturday night, we went to see a show in our hotel, had a nice dinner off the Strip and called it an early night. We chose to stay out late and be “extroverts” socializing until the wee hours Friday. Balance is everything.

12898159_696958650417_557588769697540865_o.jpg
Photo by Gavin Scott Productions

I’m so glad he posed that question to help me make a decision about the trip that was based on me actively creating my experience vs. falling back on previous memories that made me feel like a victim.

We always have a choice!

Now let’s recap.

3 Must-Do’s Before Making A Decision

  1. Make an absolute YES list (1-5 things that must be in place for this situation/offer/etc to be a YES for you! My magic number is 3.)
  2. Check yourself if you are making a decision off a past experience that was negative. Ask yourself if that reason is still true or if you can just chock it up to a previous choice.
  3.  Declare your decision and be the co-creator of your experience! You are never a victim!

That’s it!

Q: What is ONE thing you are contemplating this month? What is ONE thing on your absolute YES list for that thing? Share with us in the comments below!

Ps: Want to get free weekly updates?

Click here to get my free training!

3 tips to let go of a relationship…with love

/0 Comments/in , , /by

Ending a relationship can be so emotional and hard.

There are so many emotions that can come up and even if we know that letting go is for our highest good, there may be a part of you that holds on.

In this video, I’ll share 3 tips to help you let go of a relationship that has run its course…with love.

This week’s soul question: Which one of the 3 tips will you apply to help you release during this Eclipse week?

Share with me in the comments below!

For more, please check out my new book, The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again on Amazon!

IMG_3029.JPG

http://amzn.to/1T0DhRR

—

Prefer to read?

3 Things I’ve learned about letting go of a relationship (TEXT)

  1. You don’t need to have them physically present for you to move on.
    You can do it energetically. This concept of releasing energy from the past without having to talk to them in front of you, in the flesh, used to confuse me…until I tried it and was finally able to start the healing process and move forward.
  2. Stay in the present and accept your part in the past.
    So often when a relationship ends, we want to re-hash it over and over again, usually from the point of view of our Ego, which stars us as the hero/heroine. But all this does is keep you a victim to a story that isn’t serving you. When we instead take 100% responsibility for our part in what happened, then the energy can start to move and you can see beyond the haze of your pain.
  3. You can still love someone and let them go.
    So often when I would go through a breakup, I would just brush aside any feelings of love that I had for that person because I felt so hurt. But the truth is, true, authentic Soul-level love is always present, even if it’s in your Highest Good to let each other go. Love never does; it simply changes form and expands in different directions.