what to do when your life starts falling apart

Have you ever seen the movie, Bridget Jones’ Diary?

There’s a great line in there that goes something like this:

“Why is it that when one part of your life starts going brilliantly, another part always seems to fall spectacularly apart”

In the movie, she’s referring to being in a fun, exciting new relationship while her relationship with her mother starts to unravel. Fast.

Have you ever experienced that?

It can feel like the Universe is plotting against you but here’s what you must keep in mind…

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What to do when your life seems to be falling apart:

There are all these fancy phrases to describe this phenomenon, but to make it fun, let’s call it the “meltdown.”

Basically it’s when you dramatically up-level one area in your life that has been a thorn in your side ….and your subconscious freaks out.

It is feeling unsafe, unsteady and in new territory and all those pesky little beliefs that go contrary to your new reality decide to make an appearance.

All with the sole purpose of helping you feel comfortable. Safe. Status quo.

Examples:

You’ve been going on dates, despite feeling scared.
You agree to a second date, things are going amazingly well…
and then…
Your car craps out, you lose your job and your date ghosts you. All in the same week.
You may think, “Does the Universe have my back?”

It can feel like the Universe is playing this nasty trick on you.

And it’s so easy to go into victim-mode, curl up in a ball and think the whole world is against you.

It’s easy to just stop trying for what you want and justify that you really like where you are..really….it’s not so bad, right? Lie!

But the thing is, these events, as frustrating as they are, are essential to you getting to the next level. In love and in life. They aren’t the verdict.

And it’s not the Universe saying you suck.

It’s part of the process of transforming your life from the inside out.

It’s a temporary side-effect on the way to creating what you desire.

It’s like popping the zit.

First all this crap comes to the surface, it pops and BAM! Clear skin.

Smooth.

A do-over.

Your face may be a little sore.

You may want to use some cover-up and hide out.

But all in all, it was just a zit.

Your Life Isn’t Falling Apart

In short: When you start taking massive action in the direction of your dreams, making changes and doing things differently than you’ve always done them, it can feel like your life is falling apart. But you don’t have to let it stop you. It can help you know that on the other side of pulling yourself out or asking for help out of the hole, is a new place.

One that is more like you.

A better fit.

More fun and way more real.

Will you rise to the challenge?

So, the real question is: 

Are you willing to keep going towards your deepest desires even when your life appears to be falling apart? Or are you going to quit at the first sign of a challenge?

If so, in the comments below, post 1) what your big desire is and 2) one action you will take this week towards it!

PS: Want to feel more confident in your relationships, even when life gets hard?

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how to deal with the space between the old & the new

Happy Wed!

So of the topics that have come up several times in The Empowered Goddess Society (a new membership community I facilitate) is this idea of being in the in-between time.
You’re done with one particular cycle but not quite ready or clear on what the next one looks like.
It can be the weirdest time period but it’s the corridor for the human experience catching up with the soul’s growth/evolution.
One of the ladies shared it perfectly with a shared meme:

I wrote a post about this years ago and I felt guided to re-share it with you today.

You know you’re in a spirit waiting room when:

  • you feel like you are in-between exiting your old life and entering a new, unknown one

  • you feel pressured to make a decision about your new life but every time you try, your energy gets scattered

  • You have a deep desire to just escape your current situation or you crave lots and lots of quiet time (even if you’re very outgoing and social normally!)

Keep reading here…

April Goddess Message: Are you ready for a breakthrough, Goddess? Do this!

Happy April Goddess!

I’m writing you a day early so you can get the maximum benefit from this month’s week by week Goddess video message.

It’s a beautiful month with a chance for do-overs, re-invention and rest/healing.

Click here to check it out

ps: It’s the perfect time to make massive changes in your life! Click here to check out different ways we can work together to maximize this new cycle!

5 things to ask yourself before 2018 ends

Happy Wednesday!

OMG. I just realized this is the last Wed nugget I’ll be sending you before the turn of the year! 

Seriously, where did 2018, and December for that matter, go?!

note: Thank you so much to all who joined me for the Holiday Rescue Remedy class for Empaths! We had a blast and learned lots of techniques to ward off negative energy and manage holiday overstimulation. Would you like to receive the class recording and materials? It’s not too late! Two options: Get it for free when you join The Empowered Goddess Society or Go here to purchase the class only and we will email you the recording + supplemental materials!

Onward to today!

I don’t know about you but I have found that it’s so easy to focus on what’s coming ahead and skip over honoring and really taking the time to reflect on all that you created/learned/grew from over the past 12 months.

Is that you too?

Like, I’ll say I’m going to reflect and do this nice ritual but then when push comes to shove and I get a second away from family and pets, I have tended to just say to myself, “This year was awesome-yay! Bring on the Next Year and Let’s get back to Netflix!” 

This year I actually did a mini ritual. I sat on my butt as my puppy Bella curled up next to me, stared at my tiny Xmas tree and pulled out my huge journal, the one reserved for my creative ah-ha ideas and asked myself some questions.

It was really cathartic and by the end, I felt like I truly “completed” this year and it also helped me tap into what I really value and want to continue more of next year.

So, over to you now. 

Here are 5 things you can ask yourself as we round the corner to 2019.

Suggestions: Create a distraction free zone. Put pen to paper (this activates your subconscious brain in a way that typing just doesn’t) and complete the following. Soy candles and fuzzy socks optional.

1. The biggest lesson I learned in 2018 is…

2. The thing I’m most proud of in 2018 is…

3. What I will remember most about 2018 is…

4. The thing I’m most excited about for 2019 is….

5. What I’m most committed to focusing on in 2019 is…(ex: feeling healthy and strong in my body, speaking kindly to myself, etc)

Thank you so much for being here + I hope wherever you are in the world, you remember that you are loved, you are enough and you are magical!