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If You’re Gonna Break Dishes, Use a Garbage Liner! (Q+A Time!)

Happy Tuesday!

Today, I take your Goddess questions from the community.

It’s officially Q+A time: “Diana, do you have any creative or spiritual tools that can help me let go of anger towards my ex?”

A: Oh, you betcha! Here are 4 things you can do…

Break dishes ( just use a garbage liner!). Imagine all the anger going into the dishes and you can declare all the things you need to say to your ex and then ask that it will be offered and released to the Divine through the breaking of the dishes.
Break a coconut (learned this from Tosha Silver) – similar process as dishes – but you can break a coconut in a safe place. NOTE: Discard the coconut after and don’t use it for anything else!
Write a letter, voice it and burn it. Don’t hold back Goddess! Say it all – voice it in the mirror, imagining your ex is in front of you and burn it symbolically releasing the energy hold on you.
Cut energetic cords! When we hold energy with another person, we form energetic ‘cords’ that looks like ropes to them and they us. Cord cutting is a process I describe in my book, The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again and while cords of Leo can never be cut, toxic ties can. This frees up your energy and also the other person if they are open to it!

All of these can assist you in moving energy with an ex or any situation, belief or person that you’re ready to move on from.

Q: Which one of these will you play with this week?

Let me know by leaving a comment and if you would like assistance in your specific situation, go here to book a coaching consultation or intuitive reading.

When You’re Not Sure Which Way to Go… Do This!

June 21, 2022/0 Comments/in Advice and Tips /by Diana Dorell

Ever been torn between two options when t comes to a relationship?

Both may seem equally appealing (or not) and it can sometimes feel really frustrating to know what to do.

So the clients come to me with a conundrum like this, I invite them to move out of their head and into that playful, receptive open space of possibilities.

In order to access that space, you can do this simple thing…try ’em on.

Try on each choice for 24 hours.

Just for 24 hours, imagine that you’ve already made the decision to do XYZ (choice 1).

Live with it for 24 hours, take it into your body and act as if.

Notice how your body feels throughout the day and how this choice informs how you speak, how you move in your world, etc.

Then, journal on that at the end of the day.

Shake it off and take deep breaths.

Then, the next day, ‘try on’ the other choice. Repeat.

You can gain invaluable information if you are willing to fully surrender to each choice.

I’ve had clients tell me:

“I knew what I wanted to do in the middle of the day. It was clear-like my head couldn’t get in the way.”
“Neither choice felt expansive…I realize I’ve been discounting a third possibility. I don’t know what the looks like but I’m going to stay open to that presenting itself instead of feeling like I have to choose between these two only.”
“Both made my body feel pretty neutral. I realize it really doesn’t matter which one I choose-both create the same result in my body. Interesting…”

So, there you have it.

Q: Are you willing to ‘try on’ different options this week for a 24-hour period?

No need to attach to the outcome or judge yourself or the experience.

It’s about gathering information from your intuition and your body. Who knows? You may even get a clear sign out in the world.

What do you have to lose but getting in your way?

PS: Ready for an energy boost? Go here to book a Gold treatment for yourself!

Is it Too Late for You? (The Ex Files-True Story)

May 24, 2022/0 Comments/in Advice and Tips, Love, Relationships /by Diana Dorell

Happy Tuesday!

Have you ever had the thought, ‘it’s just too late for me?’

It’s too late to get married-there are no good men out there.

It’s too late to follow my dreams-I’d have to go back to school.

It’s too late to (you fill in the blank!)

It’s so easy to listen to that comment in your head and put all these silly constraints on what’s possible for you to receive!

And really, what I have found in over a decade of this work, is that more often than not, anytime you begin sentence with it’s too late…it’s about control.

Not getting hurt.

Not feeling pain.

Not having to be rejected or judged.

It’s human nature.

I’ve been there too and today I wan to share a true story from my ex file about it.

You ready?

I had just turned 30 and had recently broken up with a guy we’ll call Mr. T.

I had read about an earthquake hitting his home town overseas via my personal news anchor aka my dad who sends me critical news in the form of two line emails (I don’t watch TV or read the news a lot and he worries that I’ll miss something!)

I was still hurting from the break-up – (I was supposed to go visit him overseas and we broke up the week before my flight…I know great timing, right?)

Thoughts like ‘it’s too late’ for me to tell him how I really feel because then he’ll think I’m whiny and desperate.

It’s too late to show him I still care for him, even though it didn’t work out.

Anyhow, when I saw the news, I hadn’t talk to Mr. T in a few months and I’m kind of embarrassed to admit that it took catastrophic event for me to get out of my own way.

Divine intervention ensued.

I was awoken at 2:30AM with this pulsating in my gut. I had been crying and was prompted to go to Facebook and lo and behold, he was online. Before my logical mind and Ego feminine pride could kick in, I just sent him a message. Very simple.

“I love you. I’m so glad you’re alive and you’re okay.”

Tummy happy.

His reply?

“I love you too. Thank. I okay.” (His English wasn’t perfect but it was brilliantly authentic).

So freakin simple.

There was no talk of reconciliation. No awkward so “how are you faring since we’re not you know, a couple?” and certainly no fishing for details of each other’s dating lives.

It was just human to human.

Or Spirit to Spirit.

Love.

Real LOVE.

Attachment-free.

Expectation-free.

And best of all, that one simple action to override my pride and follow my intuition/instinct to let him know I cared (without any agenda for myself) kicked the ‘it’s too late’ excuse in the ass.

Here’s the deal: TRUTH TELLING TIME

It’s NEVER too late to trust your intuition and follow through on what it’s telling you.

It’s NEVER too late to surrender your Ego and pride in the name of authenticity.

It’s NEVER too late to SHOW UP FULLY. Bruises. War wounds and all.

So, I ask you:

“Where have you believed that it’s TOO LATE in your life?” (Go with your first instinct here. Note: It’s usually the one you’ve been avoiding the most)
“What action however small could you take RIGHT NOW to flip the script?”
Go do that. (And get off Facebook already unless that’s your action and then by all means, rock it sister!)

ps: If you’re wanting to bring in love, need to forgive yourself/move on from a love or just need to feel HAPPY and LIGHT, check out this love meditation, “Journey to Love” in the Goddess shop that I actually created right after I had that conversation with said ex!