Where Do You Need to Broaden Your Lens in Love?

Happy Tuesday!

Are you ready to receive at a greater level, especially when it comes to your relationships?

As I mentioned in the September oracle video, this is a month where you can see rewards from work based from pure intent and service and I believe that includes the inner work.

How are you speaking to yourself?

Where can you judge another less?

Part of what keeps us contracted with receiving in relationship is our inability or unwillingness to see things from a higher lens.

When you’ve been hurt before, it’s easy to tell yourself a story that things are just “always going to be like this.”

Or “men cannot be trusted.”

Or whatever the narrative is.

But to bust out of that inner prison, one thing that I’ve found helpful is to use mantras along with writing down fears that come up around believing that mantra.

This month’s mantra is “I am open to receiving and seeing infinite possibilities.”

When you are open to seeing more than one possibility and receiving, you broaden your lens and potential for intimacy, connection and understanding can increase.

So, if you like journaling, before you use this mantra, I invite you to reflect on the following:
Where have I been pretty fixed on seeing X person/situation/etc in one way?
What could shift if I allowed myself to expand my lens?
Where would I like to receive more but feel unsafe to?
Now it’s your turn (if you want to try this mantra!): “I am open to receiving and seeing infinite possibilities.”

How to use it:
In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how you feel.

Have a beautiful week, Goddess!

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What To Do When He Doesn’t Text Back [Texting Tips]

Q: Diana, I was seeing this guy for three dates. I thought things were going great, but he hasn’t responded to my last text and it’s been almost a week. I feel like I’m going crazy-what is going on? What can I do?

It’s super frustrating when you text someone you really like stops texting you back.

It’s very confusing and even the most confident person can get thrown by the abrupt lack of communication.

Here are texting tips to help you stay sane when he (or she) isn’t texting you back:

  • Avoid making assumptions. Don’t assume it’s about you. There are all sorts of reasons why someone doesn’t text back. Maybe they didn’t see it. Maybe they saw it and forgot about it or thought they responded and didn’t. And yes, maybe they saw it and did not want to respond, for a number of reasons. You are not in control of whether or not he texts you, but you are in control of the stories you tell yourself about what’s happening.
  • Redirect your energy. Do something else. Even if you keep thinking about it, redirecting your energy will create space for you to calm your nervous system and perhaps, for him to text you back!
  • Accept it. No response is a response. Accept it. You don’t have to like it but the sooner you can accept that you may never get a response, the easier it will be to move on. Actions (and in action) speak volumes. Trust that if you are meant to connect, you will and if not, then the Universe is doing you a favor and it’s time to let go.
  • Resist the temptation to put him down or text him repeatedly to get a reaction. This will not bring him closer-if anything it will most likely push him even further away.Those are the actions of a little girl throwing a tantrum. You are a Goddess! Instead, you can write him a letter and burn it or even leave yourself a voice memo of all the things you want to say to him. Let it out in a healthy way and honor how you feel.

Bonus tip:
If he does text back and you feel upset….The Goddess way is to respect yourself-and if he does resurface, it’s perfectly okay to express concern or confusion, or to choose to not respond at all. Each situation is different. Your intuition will guide you to the right thing to do, but first get yourself in an emotionally neutral space. Get grounded. Breathe. Then respond (if you choose to) vs react.

It’s not easy, but the more you can implement the tips above, the easier it will be to manage your emotions when someone doesn’t text you back. Stay strong!

ps: Would you like to get support with a specific relationship? Book an Intro to Coaching consult to connect with me here.

The Secret to Getting Clarity (Monthly Mantra)

Happy Tuesday!

The other day, I experienced total brain fog. No matter what I did, I felt like I was at a standstill. Could barely put two thoughts together and felt totally unmotivated to do anything.

Has that ever happened to you?

It was like walking through molasses. It sucked.

I finally gave into it and let myself space out for a bit.

They say that when you get still, that’s when the answers come and I’ve found this to be true. I got this nudge to write (even though I had no idea what).

So, I grabbed my laptop and well…showed up at the page so to speak. A lot of nonsense flowed out of my fingertips and I felt like I was just whining. But I let myself just be with the moment. And then, after a bit, this mantra came:

“Clarity comes when I create space for the things that matter to me.”

I got chills when I saw it. I said it aloud the way I encourage you and my clients to do with mantras that resonate.

And I reflected on all the places that I was filling my day, our home and my schedule with things that didn’t matter at all to me.

Stuff, commitments and relationships that I was keeping in my life out of guilt, obligation or just laziness.

It was eye-opening.

My body’s response was brain-fog.

For others it may be something else-fatigue, frustration, etc.

I made a short list of what really matters most to me right now.

I gave myself permission to adjust the list as needed.

And although the brain fog was still there, the moment I made a decision to take a look at what I needed to shift in my life, even just one thing that was taking up too much space, I felt lighter.

I felt clearer.

I took a deep breath. And smiled.

Now it’s your turn (if you want to try this mantra!)

“Clarity comes when I create space for the things that matter to me.”

How to use it:
In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how you feel.

Journal questions to go deeper:

What matters to you?

What doesn’t matter to you?

What is one action or change you are willing to make to create more space for the things that matter? Hit reply and share with me.

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When Things Aren’t Going Right: What To Do!

Happy Tuesday!

What can you do when things aren’t going right?

We’ve all been there, where you feel like you’re taking all the right actions, but nothing seems to happening.

It’s frustrating, confusing and it can cause you to completely doubt yourself.

If you’ve been feeling like the Universe forgot your address, you’ll love this video!

PS: Would you like more clarity for what could be happening in your life right now? Book a reading here.

3 Confident Female Mindsets That Drive Guys Wild

If you’ve ever been told, “don’t be too confident or you could intimidate a masculine man,” and found yourself ‘shrinking’ or feeling worried that you have to mask your confidence to attract a high quality partner, you’re going to love today’s topic.

A big part of your journey to attracting the right partner has to do with your mindset-that’s nothing new.

But in talking with many of the clients I’ve worked with, especially the women, they’ve shared that there is this unspoken pressure to downplay their natural confidence and be ‘more feminine.’

It can feel like another to-do, constantly monitoring yourself on a date and wondering if you are in the right “mindset” but it doesn’t have to so hard!

I believe you can be confident AND drive men wild (in a good way!).

To do this, it’s helpful to look at 3 mindsets or you can call them beliefs to make it simple that reinforce this.

Let’s look at them together, shall we?

The more you can experiment with these 3 confident feminine mindsets/beliefs, the easier you may find it is to connect with potential masculine-energy partners who value you for who you are, no contorting yourself into someone you’re not or overanalyzing needed!