I was so afraid of being hurt again…

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Opening your heart again after being betrayed or hurt can feel really scary.

There is this transformative energy in the air, especially with this past weekend’s Harvest Moon/lunar eclipse.

Can you feel it?

There is tremendous opportunity right now to let go of the heavy shackles that have kept you stuck from the past.

A time when karmic debts can be paid.

And a lightness into the new is inevitable.

But sometimes we can get in our own way from allowing these opportunities in.

I was speaking with a woman awhile back who shared how uncomfortable it felt to even think about opening up to a new relationship.

Even though she really was yearning for a life partner.

For the sake of privacy, let’s call her *Ann.

Ann had been taken advantage of several times before and she felt this push-pull between wanting to leap into the dating scene again after years…and just focusing on her career and not bothering.

When she asked my advice on what she could do to open her heart if she entertained the first option, here’s what I shared…

What to believe to open your heart…

It boils down to this: know + believe that you are safe.

When we don’t feel safe, we hide ourselves.

We give from a protective, limited space that says, “I don’t want to give too much in case you try to take too much or hurt me.”

It is based in a scarcity, not-enough energy and it repels the very thing you seek: love.

What can you do if you realize you’ve been operating from this space?

It basically comes down to reminding our inner Child that the grown up Goddess within you is in charge.

It’s not that you never feel afraid.

It’s that your belief that you are accepted and safe even with those fears is stronger.

In that space, when you’ve been reassuring your inner Child that you are enough.

That there is always enough of anything to go around.

That it is safe to give and receive love, and that you’ll know quickly if there’s someone that isn’t helpful to engage in relationships with.

Magic opens.

When we don’t take care of the inner kid in us, that’s when it’s easy to sabotage.

To think the Universe is not on your side, and that you have to keep your guard up all the time.

To go out with inappropriate partners.

To close yourself off from opportunities to meet new people.

To over-indulge in distractions like TV, overeating or toxic thoughts that keep you from taking action you know you need to take.

It all starts with a decision: 1) Are you willing to reassure your inner child that you will take care of it? 2) Are you willing to open your heart, even when you don’t “do it perfectly?”

If so, say YES in the comments!

ps: If you are ready to release layers of energetic blockages so that you can learn how to love yourself, open your heart and call in a soul mate partner in 2020, I would love to work with you! I’ve helped hundreds of folks to let go of their blocks and increase their self-confidence and feminine attraction energy! Next step:Go here to book a time to connect with me for a 15-min intro consultation.

hmmm..what would you do in this situation?

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Happy Wed!

Today is Q+A, where I take your questions and share insights to help our entire community.

Today’s question: “The guy that just recently broke up with me wants to meet up with me. He made a point to let me know it would be “just as friends,” which is really confusing because I still love him. If he’s truly over me, why does he even want to meet? I’m torn-what should I do?”

Ah, the mixed message dilemma.

This is a valid question-when someone you still love shares that they want to meet up in person, especially if it’s a recent breakup, it can feel like a dance between false hope (maybe they’ll change their mind and realize how awesome you are) and Ego revenge (how dare he even think I would consider going!)

But it’s not so black and white with matters of the heart.

Here’s my suggestion

What would you suggest? Leave a comment!

ps: Totally last minute but tonight at 7pm Pacific, I am hosting a free group coaching call with my friend Lee Cholodenko for MEN. If you know anyone who could benefit, check out the free training we did here that also has a link to sign up for the free coaching call: www.dianadorell.com/formen



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your jan 2020 message inside + a gift!

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Happy New Year, Decade, January!

Holy cannoli-if you’re ready for a breakthrough, banner year, 2020 is your time.

It is such an honor to be in your inbox-and my intent is to provide high octane, top-notch quality content this year to help you transform your relationships, starting with the one you have with the Goddess in the mirror 🙂

If you’re new to my world, welcome!

Every first week of the month, I love to share a monthly Goddess oracle card forecast!

How it works: 

I pull a card for each day of the week and I highly recommend you grab a sheet of paper and pen to pause the video on each card, asking, “What could this card mean for me?”

If you’ve been in my community for awhile, you know I always encourage you to trust your intuition and develop that muscle to tap into your own Truth.

In this video, you’ll learn:

the overall theme of 2020 and a week by week intuitive nudge

what the big deal is about January 12

how you can plan ahead and create empowered relationships, no matter what the energetic ‘weather.’

Watch it here:

ps: Happy New Decade gift: Many of my private clients and friends consider themselves to be empaths, or those who have a heightened sensitivity and gift for feeling other people’s emotions, among other things. Is this you too?

If you are an empath, you tend to attract ‘takers’ in relationships and that’s the last thing I want for you in this brilliant new energy! Learning how to manage this gift is crucial so…

I created a free list for you! It’s called, the ’21 Best Practices for Empaths.’

Download it for free right here
http://www.dianadorell.com/empathgift

Here’s to new beginnings!

i need some space

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Happy Wednesday!

Have you ever been dating someone and then, they go cold on communication out of nowhere?

This can be so confusing and hurtful.

Thoughts like, ‘Did I just screw up?’ 
What’s wrong with me?
Why don’t they want to be with me? can come up.

This question came in from our community and I wanted to answer it as December really is the perfect time to acknowledge old patterns and make a new choice that empowers you.

Q: I am in an ldr (long distance relationship) with a guy I started to date 2 months back. We had attraction as well as the emotional connection…but his behavior has changed tremendously in the last month. He doesn’t text or call anymore and if I do then he gives the excuse of “I’m busy.” Does giving space to a guy and not contacting him at all makes him realize that he need to rekindle the relationship? Have I ruined everything by contacting him, even though he ignores me?”

A: Watch my response below

Have you ever dealt with funky ghosting in an LDR? What advice would you give? Share your thoughts below! 

Want more support? Relationship coaching can help you break patterns that are blocking love from coming into your life that last. Book a complimentary consultation here and let’s talk!

want to feel more confident around using your intuition? do this!

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Happy Wed!

Today’s Q+A comes from Facebook:

“Diana, I feel like I second guess myself a lot. How do I feel more confident about the messages I’m getting from my gut feelings and intuition?

Training yourself to trust and follow your intuition is a muscle that anyone can get better at. It’s like going to the gym. 

Practice, positioning your body in the right alignment and most of all, confidence even when you’re just starting out is important.

Can I be your spiritual gym coach? 

Side note: I hired a personal trainer and OMG, best decision ever, although some days are really really hard to make happen.

But in response to this question, here is a video where you’ll learn:

  • the secret to getting stronger intuitive messages (it’s simple but most of us miss it because we try to complicate everything!)
  • the biggest thing getting in your way of trusting your gut feelings
  • my ridiculously simple daily tip that can up your chances of getting an accurate message for yourself (consider it your spiritual reps!)