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Sometimes All You Need is a Break in the Pattern

Happy Tuesday! 

Before we dive into this week’s offering…I’d like to check in. 

How are you feeling post eclipse and 11:11 vibes? Did you notice anything coming up or weird dreams?

<We had an amazing turnout for the 11:11 Activation Night and the connection, downloads and energy were super powerful! We are still in the 11:11 energy corridor for about 24-48 more hours-if you’ve been wanting to get more clarity, you can still get the 11:11 Activation Night messages and Meditation journey, along with the Deep Journaling and Ritual ideas that you can use for any New or Full Moon. Go here (scroll down once you click and you can purchase Part 1-recording).>

This week’s question from the community: 

Q: I really want to start dating again, but every time I get to the point of possibly having a date, I come up with all kinds of excuses why this guy isn’t up to par and just sabotage it before it begins. I feel so tired after work and I don’t want to engage in a date so I default to watching TV and cancelling. I know it’s not getting me closer to being in a relationship but I can’t seem to stop this. What is wrong with me? What can I do to stop getting in my own way? Help! 

A: Thank you for reaching out! This is a very common scenario, and there are a few layers to unpack here. But the first thing I’ll say is there is nothing wrong with you. When I read the energy behind your question, the word ‘tired’ pops out. When we are tired (mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually), anything that our subconscious perceives is going to require MORE energy can be seen as a threat. An energy depletion. So it’s natural that if you are tired, having to be “on” with someone you aren’t comfortable with seems unnecessary. It’s self-protection but at the core of your question may be a combination of:

  1. Energetic Management: 
    • Find out what small tweaks you may be willing to make to your schedule so that you are energised by what you’re doing vs depleting at the end of the day. This will make it easier to have the bandwidth to actually discern whether a particular date is in fact your intuition telling you, Don’t bother. Or…just a not today because I’m exhausted but I’d meet this guy for a date tomorrow-kinda scenario. 
  2. Let Someone Else Play Bad Cop: 
    • To break the pattern requires doing different things. If it helps, have a friend on call the day you know you have a date. You can instruct them to call or text you before to remind you to check in with yourself and to get out of your house in service to your bigger why-which is to be in a relationship! Even if it turns out that you aren’t attracted to the guy or vice versa, you never know who that person knows and they may introduce you to your future husband. But you’ll never know if you don’t leave the couch. 

The more you can call back your energy and re-assess what is actually draining you, and the more open you are to receiving support, the easier it will be to silence that self-protective, well meaning saboteur and get out there to meet your Mr. Right. 

Q: If you’re reading this and you’ve been through something similar, what have you found helped you? What advice would you give the woman above? Share your comments on the blog and as always, know that you are beautiful, worthy and deserving of amazing love NOW! 

Have a great week!

Being in Your Feminine is Not This… (Dating Advice)

“I have to be in my Feminine to attract love right, Diana? So, why do I have to get specific?”

First off, you don’t *have to* be in any energy, but if you want to attract a primarily Masculine energy centred man, being in your authentic Feminine creates polarity, that sexual and energetic ‘tension’ that creates a romantic dynamic. 

Having said that, being in your feminine energy is never about being passive!

It truly drives me bananas when I overhear women encouraging each other to just “sit and wait” and not do anything at all to signal the Universe of their desires to be in partnership.

It’s a super delicate dance but here is one powerful thing you can certainly *do* while being in your Feminine energy that will actually help you attract romance without slipping into passivity…or over-giving. 

  • give yourself a weekly goal or intention. Notice I said give yourself (not the guy/girl). For example: Even though it felt weird at first, I asked one of my clients how many dates she would like to goon in the next week and she said “3” so she declared, wrote it down and even cleared out space in her week when she would be able to accommodate invitations. Within the next hour, a guy messaged her on Hinge and asked her out. They are going out this weekend. She was shocked. I was not. That is the power of declaring, being clear and creating space. 

Let’s break that down.

Step 1: She had to get clear.

How many dates? If she had been wishy-washy or passive like –I don’t know- however many the Universe wants to send me??? you can just feel the energy, right? Even writing it is like taking a super lukewarm bath-it’s not sexy and it’s not magnetising. IN order to get clear, she had to do gut check and/or body check-yes, maybe her head said she wanted 5 dates, but when she checked in with her body, she realized she only had energy available for 3. Take the time to slow down and get clear. 

Step 2: She wrote it down and made space in her schedule. 

She actively participated in the creation of her desire. If she ha said 3 dates but refused to block off or identify time when she could actually meet those men, she may have still called in those dates, but she could have been unnecessarily stressed or felt like she was overbooking or compromising in another area. Q: What needs to be cleared or sifted so you can actually receive what you’re for? 

Step 3: She stayed open to how and when. 

Sure, the intention was for the week, but she let go and trusted that she would receive feedback from the Universe via people at the perfect time. And she did! She wasn’t trying to control when it happened or how it happened. So she was a safe receiving space for it to come to her! 

The more you can actively practice these 3 baby steps, the easier it will be to stay constantly in your Feminine, without slipping into passivity and wondering why nothing it happening! 

Q: Which of these 3 steps do you need to practice? Hit reply or leave me a comment on the blow and let me know! 

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Is Ego bad? (Q+A time!)

Happy Tuesday! 

How was your Equinox?

Thank you so much to everyone who signed up for the Autumn Healing Meditation!

If you’d lie to get a copy of the recording to listen to and gain the energy benefits, you can go here and we will send it to you!

Today, I’m answering a question from our Goddess community.

Q: “Diana, I’ve been really working on my spiritual practice and trying to not take things personally in relationships. It’s not easy! One thing I wondered about – Ego bad? Where is the line between having a healthy Ego and an unhealthy one?

I love this question! Ego gets a really bad rap but really it has a very important purpose in our Lives!

Understanding this purpose can help you in all relationships. 

After you listen: 

Q: Do you listen to your Ego? Share with us in the comments!