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It’s Time to Take Back Your Personal Power!

Happy Tuesday! When it comes to your closest relationships, do you feel like there’s a healthy give and take? 

Are you always the one giving in for the sake of peace or do you feel safe to express yourself and voice your preferences? 

When it comes to romantic relationships, especially in the beginning, a lot of my clients have shared that they feel this unspoken need to prove themselves and “be enough” for that other person. 

You may feel pressure to do a lot of the activities that other person wants to do that you would never want to do on your own.

Or keep your mouth shut when something really bothers you.

All in the name of ‘keeping the peace’ and ensuring that the connection continues…

This can sometimes come from past relationships  where the power dynamics and boundaries/expectations were unbalanced (or in some cases, never solidified).

In healthy dynamics, compromise is natural. 

But when compromising comes at a cost to your personal energy, self-esteem and confidence. It can become toxic. 

It’s time to take back your personal power! 

In line with March’s theme of “personal power”, I’d love to share a mantra to help you feel more balanced in your relationships, especially if you have already identified that you have a tendency to hold back how you really feel and want to change that! 

Here it is: “The only person I have to be enough for is myself. It is safe for me to express who I am and how I feel. How others respond to that is out of my control.” 

When you remind yourself that it is safe to express who you are, you also give that other person unspoken permission to express who they are too, without all the pressure and filter of needing to be perfect. 

You create space to have more connected, meaningful communication with the people you love, because you aren’t trying to prove yourself. 

You already know you’re enough and that even if you have a different opinion than them, both of your opinions are valid. 

That engenders self-respect which leads to others respecting you and who wouldn’t want to be around someone like that? 

How to use it: 

In quiet moments where you feel fears rising up in your chest, close your eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath and say the mantra above. Say it three times with deep feeling. Notice how you feel. 

Will you play with this over the week and let me know how it goes? Drop a comment below!   

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What is Completing in Your Life?

Happy Tuesday!

I’m mixing it up this month. In lieu of just one overview for the month, I would love to share more details about the energy of relationships over the next week. 

We have a powerful Full Moon in Virgo on March 7th (today!) that has manifesting potential that can blow your mind if you allow it. 

It’s inviting all of us to be more precise in our communication, goals and when it comes to love, healthy boundaries and expectations…

For more, check out the video below and my new hot pink Unicorn cap that I found in a boutique downtown Tucson!

Don’t Give Up – Go For 80, Yo!

Happy Tuesday!

Today’s Q+A: “What advice do you have for those times when dating feels like a full-time job? I feel like I’m losing steam and getting so discouraged but I don’t want to give up on love. Help!”

I love this question…and before we dive in, I have a question: Have you heard of the 80/20 rule? 

It’s true in business. 

It’s true in real estate. 

And it’s also true in dating. 

It goes like this, using the business example:

80% of sales are made from 20% of the customers.

Those 20% are die-hard fans and they make up 80% of a store/product’s revenue.

That means that more than half of the people that enter a store on any given day will never, ever buy. 

Or buy sporadically when there’s a sale or something. 

But I digress. 

If we apply this to dating, it’s so easy to focus on the 80% of dates that suck, that leave you mystified with why there wasn’t a follow-up date or text or call. 

It’s easy to beat yourself up and want to throw in the towel, when really, if you reframe it-20% of those date will most likely be amazing. 

And…if we take it a step further, if you’re wanting to stay open to wonderful potential partners, what if you look for the 80% of what you love and admire in someone? No one, I repeat, no one is perfect and expecting 100% perfection will yield disappointment. 

Even if the date goes nowhere, putting your focus and lens on looking for what is interesting about someone, or what they are brining out in you is sending positive energy out towards them and yourself. 

And you’re more likely to notice when someone really is a great match for you. 

So…in a nutshell:

  1. When you feel low, remember the stats: Not every date will be a winner. In fact, 80% may suck. But 20% will be interesting and get you closer to who you’re meant to be with. 
  2. Stay open + focus on finding something interesting with every date you go on. You’ll have a lot more fun and who knows what magical opportunities could arise when you stay out of judgement and put away your long-ass requirements. 

Q: What do you think about this 80/20 rule? How has it showed up in your life? 

Leave a comment – I’d love to hear from you!

Feeling’ the Feels? New Beginnings Time!

Happy Tuesday peeps! <3 

I have two whiteboards in my Goddess office and they were filled with tasks and goals and random stuff with deadlines and like 70% of it stayed on the board for nearly two weeks.

And today I wiped them both clean and exhaled a huge, audible sign of relief. 

I used to beat myself up when this happened but now I’ve learned that sometimes, quite frankly, my energy is/was meant to be redacted elsewhere, no matter how much my mind tries to tell me it has to be that thing. 

I’ve learned that when you’re living and be-ing from your most intuitive, wise self, you are always, always nudged where you are meant to be and if that just doesn’t align with all the precise “goals” you thought were important, well then, trust that it’s safe to give yourself a do-over! 

That is the vibe this week! 

Energy-wise, we are now officially in Pisces season, a time of: 

  • heightened sensitivity and psychic nudges that may come out of nowhere
  • merging/boundary issues with your nearest and dearest 
  • blurred lines
  • daydreams and intense dream travel 
  • nostalgia
  • compassion and more…

I made an impromptu “live” video this Sunday before my dance class which was amazzzzing btw on what to expect for this week. 

Check out the lessons, see the oracle cards I pulled and… 

you’ll also get to see my brand-new bright orange and red Turkish lamp I snagged at the Tucson Gem Show. 

It. Is. Magical. 

And so are you! 

Have an amazing week! 

It’s an Island Ma’am (True Love Story)

Aloha! 

Happy Tuesday, 

In the spirit of Valentines’ Day week, I want to chat about the E-word. 

Expectations…

On the one hand, expectations can help us clarify what we no longer wan to tolerate but taken to the extreme can create stress in relationships. 

I learned this the hard way on my honeymoon in Hawaii this past week! 

Listen below to hear my story! It’s my intent that by sharing this it empowers you to examine your relationship to expectation and deepen your connection to yourself and those you love. 

After you listen, I would love to hear from you-what resonated? Where could you benefit from more surrender?

Hit reply and leave a comment on the blog. I love hearing from you!

PS: Want to call in LOVE? Deepen the connection you already have? I’ll be hosting a LOVE Message Circle right after the New Moon on Feb 21! More details to come I the next few days to watch your inbox!