3 tips to rock the ‘red-hot’-moon (and your love life)

Tomorrow (October 8) we have a full moon which is the first big energy date to watch in this month’s heavy spiritual line-up!

It’s known as the “red moon” because if you look at it, it supposedly will have a reddish brown color to it, but from an energy standpoint, red is the color of the root chakra and it’s also the color of passion.

Stuff is coming up like:

where you live, who are you safe around, feeling secure with what you have, especially in relationships, where you aren’t living your passion and you’re pissed about it, or where you are living your passion but you’re spreading it around so fast you can’t keep up!

Yeah.

It sounds like a lot of negative stuff, but it’s actually the perfect time to re-align your most important relationships and clear away some old debris to make space for the real you!

I made a video for you (yay for new red lipstick!) where you will learn:

  • Clarity on what the heck this full moon is about and how it relates to your everyday life
  • The question to ask others before you fly off the handle or make an important move (especially helpful if you run into an ex during this cycle!)
  • The simple mantra that keeps you sane even when people around you are going cray-cray
  • 3 tips to rock this red moon + your relationships (especially with the one you have inside your head 😉

After you watch it, be sure to check out the Soul Challenge Question of the Week and share your answer with us in the comments!

This week: What is ONE thing you are making space for on this Full Moon? Leave a comment and share with us!

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Not manifesting what you want? This could be why…

So, for the past 3 days, I’ve talked to not one, but several amazing women friends who are all going on and on about the same things: can you relate?

  • I am a workaholic and I feel like my life is a never ending To-Do list and no one appreciates me
  • I have no social life and no love life…I know something has to change
  • I’m tired of feeling isolated and alone but I don’t know what to do

Then I ask the bold question:

“So, what are you going to change so you can you start loving yourself more? What do you do to take care of your Spirit”

 

I sometimes get weird stares and a laundry list of rational excuses, mostly about how they need to focus on their business. Or their responsibilities. Or re-organizing the closet. 

Sigh. I get it. OMG I’ve been there. So many times.  

It’s SCARY to change.

It’s SCARY to trust.

It’s SCARY to not be in control all the damn time and trust that thing are going to work out

But here’s the deal:

We say we want to take time out of our busy lives, love ourselves and come back into balance but what we are really are saying is…I’ll get to that later…

as soon as I get the business or career stuff handled

as soon as I have more free time

as soon as the kids go to college

as soon as I have more money

as soon as as soon as as soon as…

Only “as soon as” never comes, does it?

Self-care and prioritizing our Soul go to the bottom of the to-list…. if it’s even on the list at all.

Pleasure and taking a new direction towards something fun seems frivolous, unnecessary, unreasonable. The idea of putting our needs and emotions above others’ we love seems selfish.

But, consider this.

Your dream life is rarely birthed when you are being ‘reasonable.’

Otherwise, you would have it already, wouldn’t you?

The Universe knows you are EXTRA-ordinary. It’s just waiting for you to get the memo so it can start helping you get what you want. But normally we’re too in our heads to actually listen or do anything about it.

You are Divine. Are you ready to change?

Click here.

See, The Universe doesn’t respond to you when you’re being ordinary. Or reasonable. Or in overdrive business mode.

It responds to your request when you are relaxed, in a space of receiving and joy. Not stress. Or worry.

When you take time out for pleasure and Soul nourishing time, you become a magnet for the things you want.

  • My client slashed her work hours in half and started walking again and taking time to be with her Spirit. The result? Her quarterly income increased over 34%.
  • I treated myself to lunch at a 5-star restaurant in the middle of my work week. Just because I felt like it! The result? Two media invitations for interviews on helping women trust their intuition in love (hello, YES!)

and my personal favorite:

  • I took not FIVE days off from the grind to nourish my Spirit and be with horses in the Santa Cruz mountains totally unplugged. I didn’t know how I was going to cover all the costs, but I just trusted. When I came back, I got a new client.

Coincidence?

I think not.

This week’s Self-Love Soul Challenge:

What’s one “unreasonable” thing you can do for your Soul this week? Something that fills you with a feeling of “OMG I can’t do THAT! But wouldn’t that be neat….”

I give you permission to go for it Goddess.

Fuck reasonable.

And if you don’t like it after a week,  you can always go back to the way things were before.

No questions asked.

Your call.

It’s time to put yourself first.

 

Want to do something totally “unreasonable” and life-changing?

Come spend 3 days with me and 10 other amazingly fabulous Goddesses in the Red Rocks this November!  Time is running out. I’m holding space for you.

You know who you are.

Kiss kiss, nudge nudge.

I promise laughing, going deep and releasing the old shit to prepare you for who you really are, and some major spiritual breakthroughs in 5-star surroundings.

Click here. Spaces are limited.

You’re so worth it.

And I love you.

Signing off now to do something “unreasonable” and fabulous 🙂

Love and Blessings,

Diana Dorell

part 2: positioning your space for love

Read Part 1 here

 

Now you’ve prepped your space. It’s free of dirt, you’ve sorted through what needs to go and what gets to stay and now you’re ready for the second step: Positioning your space for the relationship or energy you want to call in.

The most important position is the position of your bed. This is a Feng-Shui rule, but I want to say this about any of the suggestions I am about to share: listen to your body’s signals about what feels good. What feels “good” for lack of a better phrase is “your Feng-Shui.” Got it? Good.

As you enter your bedroom, you want to avoid the following bed positions:

  • “Corpse” Pose: With your bed right in line with the door, this position supposedly drains your energy of its natural vitality.
  • Especially if you are tired of being single, “bed pushed up against the side of a wall.” This position leaves no room for the “partner” to enter his/her side of the bed and there is no room for a second nightstand which is a no-no….unless you want “one-night-stands” or you really just want to be alone right now. 
  • Head right under a window. Not only does this position just plain feel weird, being so close to a window supposedly drains your energy in the same way that being in the corpse pose does. If you absolutely can’t find another position except this one, then I would suggest getting a very solid headboard that comes up high enough when you sit up in the bed to avoid the glass and some nice curtains that feel protective and nurturing.

Ideal positions have you:

– being able to see the door and

-also have your head near a wall for extra support.

-leave enough space on either side to enter and exit

See my 3 fabulous, hand-drawn masterpieces below!

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 Other important things to consider:

Night Stands and Space around the Bed:

  • Make sure there are TWO, ideally identical, but if you just moved into a new place, you can use that moving box as a nightstand…temporarily.
  • Having something stand in for what you want is a good idea, but just make sure that your intention is to actually get a solid one or the relationships you attract could mimic the nature of the box: temporary!
  • Having two that are different shapes are okay as long as your partner has room to put their stuff up too.
  • Make sure you are able to freely move around your bed (on each side). If there is a set of drawers in the way or a gorgeous statue or dressing chest, move it somewhere else! If you have to tiptoe around your own bed, remember everything is energy. Do you want to tip-toe around your relationship? My guess is no! So keep the space around clean, free-flowing and roomy and that’s what you will invite in too!

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4-steps to preparing your space for love (Part 1 of 3)

Unknown“Your sacred space is where you find yourself again and again.”-Joseph Campbell 

Let’s face it-it’s no surprise that when you de-clutter your space, you feel more energized, more clear-headed and generally make better decisions about your life.

Beyond those awesome side-effects, our spaces (internally and externally) can affect the way we feel about ourselves but also send an energetic signal to the Universe about what we say we want and what we are willing to put up with.

I love the art of Feng-Shui and combined with space clearing (a technique to energetically clean out lower vibrations from a space), my secret fantasy of being a spiritual HGTV interior decorator comes to life!

One of the biggest things I see with super busy entrepreneurs is a lack of separation between their personal and professional lives, which affects your energy and if you’re single and wanting to be in partnership or if you are already with someone but something feels off, looking at your bedroom from an energetic standpoint is a great place to start.

Here are 3 simple tips to get your bedroom ready for more harmony, peace, and romance!

Over the next 3 weeks we will look at 3 core components: Preparation. Positioning (pun intended! haha!). and Passion. (wohoo!)

Part 1: Preparation

Total time required: Approx 1-2 hours…unless you are O.C.D, have a super clean space already or are so intuitive that you are one step ahead of me.

Materials needed: Trash bags, cleaning supplies, candle (optional), 3 Moving Boxes or Trader Joes paper bags with the handle (depends on how big your space is and how much crap you have!), 3 post-its labeled Trash, Sell/Donate, I’m Not Sure

1) Set an intention
Always! This is the most important step because without it, you can move furniture around to your heart’s content but it won’t have the energy behind it to work for you.

Example: I desire more peace of mind (literally, shut UP To-Do list generator!). I desire more romance. I desire more S-E-X, like at least 4X/week. Whatever it is, write it down AND declare it aloud. You can even get all fancy and light your favorite candle to symbolize this new intention coming in. The Universe has NO opinion about what you desire, so don’t be afraid to really put it out there Goddess!

2) Clean!
This goes without saying. When was the last time you checked for dust bunnies under the bed? Time to put on some Lady Gaga and bust out the Swiffer Mop and trash bags.

New energy can’t flow in a space where there is dirt and grime. Bonus: put your whole body into it and burn off extra calories!

3) Call in Help
Okay..so you have your 3 boxes, labeled Trash, Sell/Donate, I’m Not Sure. Get quiet, close your eyes and call in the Divine/Angels, Higher Self, whatever you believe in and say, “Thank you for helping me sort my stuff for my Highest and Greatest Good.”

4) Spiritual Sorting of your Sh*%
Open your eyes and go around your room SLOWLY. As you look and hold the different objects you have, ask, “Does this energize me and align with my intention for (look back at what you wrote)?” It’s a YES or a NO. If it’s a YES, it stays. If it’s a NO, use your intuition to tell you which box it goes in.

You may need more than 1-2 hours. Don’t stress. You can work on one area of your bedroom at a time.

As you go through these 4 steps, notice if any emotions come up for you. Pause. Reflect and Feel. Remember, this is not just about preparing your room for love. It’s also about preparing your Soul. Be tender and loving with yourself and you will all set for next week, when I teach you about the positioning of furniture and objects in your sacred space! Wohoo!

Soul Question: Share with us or in your journal!

“What is your intention for your new space? What comes up as you think about preparing your space following the 4-steps? What are you excited to call in? Share with us in the comments!

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should you go out with him again? do this to find out

When you get back into the dating game, it’s totally normal to feel uncomfortable and it can feel hard to know the difference between the signals you are getting from your intuition and just old fears that could be creeping up around getting back in the game and being vulnerable.

You may have heard the advice, “Always trust your first impressions.”

While first impressions are important, I want to take it a step further. Some of the most powerful information about a date and whether going out with them again would be a good idea for your Soul happens in the 3-5 minutes AFTER the date ends and you leave their presence.

Note: This exercise is most effective if you are doing in-person dating.

In the 3-5 minutes after they or you leave, your gut feelings come to the surface to process the information you received about your interaction and connection.

Capitalize on this!

What to do:

Put a little notepad in your purse and after they leave, when you are sitting on the train or in your car, write down the answers to the following questions. Do it quickly as the logical mind will want to swoop in and what you want to capture is your intuitive knowings.

1. Right now, my body is feeling……

Example: tight in the throat, open and warm, a little scared, nervous, like butterfiles

Don’t judge anything you write down. Again,  you are just downloading information.

2. What I already know about this connection is…

Example: I really trust them, I’m not sure I feel safe,  I feel light, etc.

3. The next morning, look back at your answers and make your decision.

Sometimes if your body is tight that doesn’t necessarily mean NO. In that case, ask your intuition, “Is there something I want to ask them or tell them that would help me feel more clear?”

And if you get a “Yes” write down what you want to say or ask and make a plan to connect with them. And if you get a “No” to that, then that’s a likely sign your intuition is saying that it’s probably not in your best interest to keep dating that person and that’s okay! There is a pot for every lid and what this exercise does is helps you determine whether a date is your energetic match or not. Nothing bad or good about you or them. It’s about energy! And as you practice this exercise you will learn how to trust your intuition and its impressions to draw in that special soul mate soon enough Goddess!

Now I want to hear from you:

Q: Have you ever been on a date where you got some strong feelings right after? Did you listen to them or not? And what did you learn about yourself through the experience? 

Share with us in the comments and if you feel stuck right now in any part of your life, RSVP for my free class: 6 Reasons You Aren’t Getting What You Say You Want!