3 Steps to activate your masculine and feminine energy to get what you want

This past weekend I was reminded of the power of masculine and feminine energy and how both are so essential to us creating what we really want: inner peace and love. 


  • Have you been go-go-go, driving yourself MAD trying to do it all alone, wondering why you seem to be manifesting slowly or not at all and getting exhausted in the process? This is the negative aspect of the masculine. The positive one is Taking Action and being clear and responsible for that action.
  • Have you been so passive and stuck in your head or emotions that you feel paralyzed to take action for fear that it won’t work out or that you will be judged?

This is the negative aspect of the feminine. The positive one is Tuning in and opening up your receptivity, connecting to your inner Wisdom before you act. If you are too much in one energy, life feels really really hard. But when you can tune into yourself (your feminine), then the actions become simple. (your masculine). They work together in harmony and you feel calm inside, even when what you’re dealing with is really challenging. I got reminded of both energies at the Fair I attended this Sunday. Let me give you some examples. I invite you to consider how you could apply this to YOUR life and streamline your decision-making process.


#1: Know what you’re asking for

I sat in Meditation and felt myself connecting to so many people. (Feminine) I took the time to feel the energy of love coming out of my heart chakra to theirs and receiving love back if they were sending it to me. It made me giddy and excited and I felt lots of warm energy and Angels around. From this place, I also got clear that I wanted to leave the Fair with a profit, at least double vs. just making ‘enough’ to cover the expense of my booth. I would attract in people who were ready for the work and who were willing to invest in themselves/saw the value of the services I was offering. (The Masculine). I would stay open to who I was meant to serve and trusted that they would come (Feminine) and would remember to also clearly state my prices and hand them a flier about my work and events (Masculine). With that, we packed up and went to the Fair.


#2:  Trust Your Feminine, Then Activate Your Masculine

I was at the Fair for many hours and there were inevitable slow periods so my mom and I would take turns being at the booth. (And you guys know I go a little stir crazy if I am asked to sit for too long) so I decided I’d walk around to see the other vendors, treat myself to a reading or a gift, explore, go get more water, walk out for a moment to feel the sun, etc. Well, whenever I’d come back, my mom (with a big smile on her face that said, “I’m trying to figure out how to say this nicely.”) said, “Diana, every time you walk away and go explore, the people come and want a reading from you but you aren’t here. One older woman came back TWICE. I wasn’t sure what to tell her.”

Ok. Pause.

A few years ago, I would have chained myself to that booth chair for fear that I would “not be available or miss out somehow.” I would have sacrificed my well being and done readings even when I had no water, had to pee or my stomach was growling because I had skipped lunch to help people.  I went back to my original intention around trusting that the people I was meant to serve would be there and I would also be pro-active in sharing what I could help them with if I felt that nudge within.



#3: Receive Divine Confirmation + Stop Questioning It (and yourself)


Ironically, this older woman came back (and my mom was the one wandering now.)

She was distraught, a little scattered but very happy to see me. She didn’t say anything except to ask timidly, “…Are YOU..….?????”  I just smiled and replied, “Yes I am. Nice to meet you!” She mentioned that she had been waiting for me. But then something unexpected came out of my mouth. Before I had her sit down, I (well, really the Angels/Spirit) started chatting about how I had just treated myself to a reading with this woman on the other side of the room from me and how fabulous she was. She even shared the same birthday as me. I just kept babbling on and on. The older woman’s eyes got wide and she said, “Oh, does she charge money?” I said, “I think it’s by donation but not required. And she said, “Well, I have to go see her then! I don’t have any money!” And off she went.

Now, I now some of you may be sitting there thinking, “Diana, that was SO silly! You just turned away business!” But my intuition knew better. There was a reason why that came out of my mouth. I was not meant to serve her and she could be better served with this other reader. And it was no accident that each time she came by, I was unexpectedly “out of the office.” Not surprisingly, after I had my luxurious lunch, had received a mini reading for myself and replenished my water bottle, I attracted LOTS of people, some of who did get a reading and others who I am considering partnering with to help other men and women!  The best part? They got ALL of me. Not the overgiving Diana who was exhausted. The full, sparkly Goddess version of me, which is where I do my best work and have the most fun!

It All Comes Back to YOU:


I also remembered my intention: I choose to only attract people who see the value of the work and who are ready to invest in themselves.  I am happy to share that I also got a profit vs. ‘just the minimum” I invested for a table. And so really, I got exactly what I asked for.  And I truly believe that the reason why was that I didn’t let my mind, any fears or other people’s opinions or beliefs override my own inner wisdom.

I believe YOU can have what you really want and are willing to commit 100% to also. It takes trust, practice, faith, yes. But if you can stay in the middle, which is knowing where you need to activate (turn up your masculine) and where you need to simply hold space and let it BE (turn up your feminine), life can be pretty sweet!

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5 replies
  1. Amy
    Amy says:

    This blog post was absolutely excellent. Thank you for being so willing to teach through your personal experience!

    You are a gift to us all.

    With joy,

    Amy Yancy

  2. Susan
    Susan says:

    I really enjoyed this. I have often thought at times when things ‘seem’ to not be working out, there is a reason for it – that is better.
    I love the way your worded your intention and put it all into perspective. I am going to do some soul searching and integrate more about the type of people I want to work with as clients.

    • dianadorell
      dianadorell says:

      Thank you for reading Susan! Yes, there is always a reason behind what appears to be chaos. Our words (and are actions) must be congruent to each other. That’s when the Universe can REALLY support us because there are no mixed messages. Much Love!


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