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Today’s question is about communication.

NOTE: Even if you can’t relate to her particular situation, the advice shared applies to any relationship where you are feeling overwhelmed with a certain behavior from another.

Q: “I have a weird problem. This guy I’ve been seeing for three months constantly texts me. All day. Every day. I feel silly complaining about this but I really like him, but I feel this constant pressure to respond all the time, even though sometimes I really have nothing to say. I wish he would text LESS…and I’m starting to feel annoyed but I don’t want to push him away. Help!”

This isn’t a weird problem! 

It can be a delicate dance when you really love someone but the way they are choosing to communicate isn’t working for you.

A:  Less is more Goddess. Men respond to actions more than words. If you want him to text less, you can give yourself permission to not respond to every single text. He may think you expect multiple daily texts (who knows-maybe some woman in his past got mad because he didn’t do this!) so instead of having a conversation about it, which could put him on the defensive, just focus on what it is you want. Maybe it’s less texts with more substance. Or you want him to call you. A simple message like, “I miss hearing your voice baby…” mid-day could send him a clear message to call. What you respond to, you will get more of. Good luck!

Now over to you: Have you ever faced a similar situation? What advice would you share? Leave a comment below!

Opening your heart again after being betrayed or hurt can feel really scary.

There is this transformative energy in the air, especially with this past weekend’s Harvest Moon/lunar eclipse.

Can you feel it?

There is tremendous opportunity right now to let go of the heavy shackles that have kept you stuck from the past.

A time when karmic debts can be paid.

And a lightness into the new is inevitable.

But sometimes we can get in our own way from allowing these opportunities in.

I was speaking with a woman awhile back who shared how uncomfortable it felt to even think about opening up to a new relationship.

Even though she really was yearning for a life partner.

For the sake of privacy, let’s call her *Ann.

Ann had been taken advantage of several times before and she felt this push-pull between wanting to leap into the dating scene again after years…and just focusing on her career and not bothering.

When she asked my advice on what she could do to open her heart if she entertained the first option, here’s what I shared…

What to believe to open your heart…

It boils down to this: know + believe that you are safe.

When we don’t feel safe, we hide ourselves.

We give from a protective, limited space that says, “I don’t want to give too much in case you try to take too much or hurt me.”

It is based in a scarcity, not-enough energy and it repels the very thing you seek: love.

What can you do if you realize you’ve been operating from this space?

It basically comes down to reminding our inner Child that the grown up Goddess within you is in charge.

It’s not that you never feel afraid.

It’s that your belief that you are accepted and safe even with those fears is stronger.

In that space, when you’ve been reassuring your inner Child that you are enough.

That there is always enough of anything to go around.

That it is safe to give and receive love, and that you’ll know quickly if there’s someone that isn’t helpful to engage in relationships with.

Magic opens.

When we don’t take care of the inner kid in us, that’s when it’s easy to sabotage.

To think the Universe is not on your side, and that you have to keep your guard up all the time.

To go out with inappropriate partners.

To close yourself off from opportunities to meet new people.

To over-indulge in distractions like TV, overeating or toxic thoughts that keep you from taking action you know you need to take.

It all starts with a decision: 1) Are you willing to reassure your inner child that you will take care of it? 2) Are you willing to open your heart, even when you don’t “do it perfectly?”

If so, say YES in the comments!

ps: If you are ready to release layers of energetic blockages so that you can learn how to love yourself, open your heart and call in a soul mate partner in 2020, I would love to work with you! I’ve helped hundreds of folks to let go of their blocks and increase their self-confidence and feminine attraction energy! Next step:Go here to book a time to connect with me for a 15-min intro consultation.