are you going through a shift? 2 crucial steps most people miss on their way to a breakthrough…

unnamedAre you going through a shift?

Are emotions coming up that you weren’t expecting?

Do you wish you could just skip all that and go to the breakthrough, fun stage?!

It’s only natural to want to move on as quickly as possible from a situation that makes us feel sad, scared or just well…not awesome, right?

It could be you’re going through the break-up of a relationship, the dissolving of a friendship or family connection, shifting gears in a job or business or having to move when you really weren’t ready to.

These are just some of the major emotional transitions that I see with my clients.

And let’s face it. 

Transitions are messy.

They aren’t linear and there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution to navigate them!

I hear things like, “I just want to move on! I am fine…I’m filled with love and light and I am a powerful being…” “I’m pouring my energy into work…it’s how I deal.”

I get it.

When there’s a gap, our Ego can’t wait to fill it with something. Anything to avoid the pain or discomfort, right?

It’s so natural to do that, but when we fill the blank space, you rob yourself of a beautiful opportunity to transition even quicker.

On the other side of a break-down is a breakthrough, provided you take these 2 crucial steps…

But to get to the breakthrough, most people try and skip over these 2 crucial steps…grieving …followed by an honoring.

What Grieving Looks Like:

  • giving yourself permission to cry, scream, laugh and yell without justifying why you’re feeling that way or worrying about “how long it’s supposed to take” 

hint: grieving takes as long as it takes….

  • creating space in your day to let it out + do the things above…
  • putting people on standby in your life that you trust for those moments when you just need to talk something through or hear that it’s going to be okay

It does not look like:

  • avoiding what you are feeling (that will eventually come back to bite you in the you know what…)
  • isolating yourself to the point where you are not taking proper care of yourself + upholding your responsiblities
  • doing affirmations to avoid feeling something you don’t want to feel or putting on a “spiritual happy mask.”  Affirmations are awesome when coupled with authentic, raw “this is how I feel right now” feelings.

While and after you go through the grieving stage of the situation that has changed in your life (which, again may take 1 hour or 1 month depending on how fast your energy moves and how much you allow yourself to feel it all), honoring comes next.

To honor something says to your Soul, “This event/person/situation brought value to my life/my growth and so I choose to honor that value, even if it’s hard for me to see in this moment.”

What Honoring Looks Like (A few examples for you!):

  • Having a “funeral” for a situation where you literally get dressed in black and light a candle and say aloud all the things you learned about yourself + how it offered value to your life. 
  • Make a list of all your past relationships + write down at least 1 quality from each person you dated that you really admired and brought something to your life
  • Go through your old home or your old desk, etc and carefully and lovingly call out the different items that really helped you in your journey up to this point. 

When you do these last 2 steps, Grieving and Honoring a loss or change, you create an energetic space for the Universe to rush in with new things that are truly aligned with you.

A new partner

A new client

A new home

A new job

So, in closing, do what 90% of people won’t allow themselves to do.

Feel your shit

Allow yourself to be vulnerable and raw for awhile 

and honor honor honor what it brought to your life


You’ll feel lighter and brighter in less time…and you deserve it!

Q: Which step do feel is more challenging? Grieving or Honoring? Why? What step could you take this week to move through a transition you are going through? Share with us!

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True Story-How a dog taught me how to let go…and let in.

Can I ask you a question?

Have you ever had to let go of something or someone you loved so much because you knew it just time, even though you really wish it wasn’t?

Letting go is one of the Highest forms of love.

It says, “I trust that when i surrender my attachment to how it *should* be, I open up to what is in true alignment with my Soul

Yesterday I agreed to drive my mother’s dog from her ex husband’s home back to her.

They had shared custody of this cutie but now it was decided that she would take her back on a permanent basis.

It was super emotional.

Especially for her.

I could tell that she knew something was happening.

She kept pacing back and forth and when she saw her stuff being packed up into a plastic bag and a sheet laid down in the back seat of my car, her feelings were confirmed.

This wasn’t just another shuttle visit.

This was a goodbye.

On the other side of letting go is space. Space to re-invent yourself or take a pause.

It was swift, confusing and yet, in a way, cathartic in that a chapter had officially closed and a new one had just begun..

When we got to my mom’s house, she went straight to the carpet, ignoring her bed and just lay in the dark with her eyes closed for a long time. We left her like that and went to dinner.

It was like she was processing everything that had just happened to her and the people involved.

Dogs are such sensitive Angels.

I stayed over + woke up super early (5 a-freakin-m!) and I was greeted by a thumping at the guest room door.

It was her.

She has a way of thumping and thrashing her tail about when she gets excited about something.

She seemed to smile at me, filled with tons of energy even at this ridiculous hour and it was as if she wanted to say, “I’m okay! It’s over! It’s a NEW DAY! Isn’t it great?”

And I thought to myself…wow, how would it feel to be a dog?

What if we could love just as hard and unconditionally as they do and let go just as easily of the attachment and the suffering?

How could your life be different if you were like a dog?

I’ll let that question hang in the air for now…it’s Full Moon week after all!

Time to let go and let in.

Q: What is ONE thing you are letting go of this week? OR ONE thing you are making space FOR? Brave souls, post a comment and like this post?

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9 Mantras to Set the Stage for a Fabulous 2015


Are you ready to honor the energy you created this year as you usher in a new cycle for yourself?

I have TWO juicy gifts for you as we close out 2014! 

1)  9 Mantras to Set the Stage for a Fabulous New Year: 

Here are 9 *channeled mantras that you can say to yourself or write out or dance out (hell, the Divine works through us in whatever way we are called to express her!). 

  • It is safe for me to receive.
  • I now open to abundance in all forms from expected and unexpected sources.
  • I am limitless. All is possible. I believe.
  • I am lovable. I am worthy. I am whole.
  • I am free to be me. I am rewarded for being myself!
  • The Universe is on my side at all times.
  • I say YES even though I’m afraid. Guide me Angels!
  • As I care for my own heart, love comes my way.
  • I give up the dance of perfect. I choose to be present with the beauty of the moment. 

2) Want to get out of your own way this coming year? Sign up for my FREE training! (before you forget busy bee!)

I’ve been asked a LOT, “Diana, can you please share your manifesting secrets? What am I doing wrong to block what I want from coming to me?” I have heard your requests and I’m excited to help you! On January 8, I’m hosting a FREE training call: “The Top 5 Ways you block Money, Love and Miracles from coming into your life! (it’s not what you think!)” Click here to join me! 

 

Have a fabulous New Year and remember: enjoy the here and now. 

It’s all that’s promised to any of us.

Make the most of it.

The Angels and I are rooting for you!

Are you a Jaguar or a Pick-Up? Get the male perspective on love right here

  • Have you found yourself in less-than-ideal relationships?
  • Do you wonder if you’re doing something wrong and why you keep attracting less than what you want?

My client, *Andrew (name changed for privacy) shared some male perspective on this and his wisdom inspired me to write today’s blog post. Note: I have paraphrased and expanded on our conversation so that it is actionable and focused for you to read.

Diana: So Andrew, what piece of advice would you give to guys and gals out there who want to have an amazing relationship?

 

Andrew:  Ladies and dudes, you have to decide whether you want to be a Jaguar or a pick-up truck in a relationship. And guys, you have to know what kind of lady you are dealing with up front and be prepared accordingly. And it has nothing to do with what vehicle you actually prefer driving okay? I want to be clear about that. It’s a metaphor.

 

Diana: Um, okay, that’s very interesting. Can you elaborate a bit more on that please? What makes someone a Jaguar or a pick-up truck?


A: A Jaguar…

Okay, well, my girlfriend is super high maintenance and I mean that in the best way possible. She’s gorgeous of course, but she is high maintenance because she knows what she wants. And she has all these requirements about what she expects from me. And she calls me out on my shit when I mess up. It’s really annoying but I respect her for it.

And yes, she’s moody as hell sometimes but I put up with it because she always knows when she’s acting ridiculous and she’ll apologize and thank me for being patient and listening to her. And she’s incredibly generous. Sometimes she goes over the top with stuff like surprising me with little presents or crazy unexpected stuff. She listens to me and let’s me read comics even though she thinks it’s juvenile. But she requires a lot of attention. She’s a Jaguar.

 

Diana: Okay, so if I summarize, a “Jaguar” is someone who:

  • has requirements and standards and communicates that to others

  • calls people out when they’re crossing a standard or they aren’t being respected or treated well

  • incredibly generous and is attractive inside and out

  • requires a lot of attention but it’s well worth it!

 

A: Exactly! Okay, so then there’s the pick-up truck.

 

Diana: Yes, I can’t wait to hear this.

 


The Pick-Up Truck:

A: Okay, so if you or the person you tend to date is a pick-up truck, they are fairly low-maintenance. They don’t really ask for a whole lot and they have dents and bruises, maybe even lots of nicks on the bumper, but they’d rather just chug along than invest any money to get it fixed. They stay in the same beat-up, dangerous vehicle even though the light is on and there’s fumes coming out of the exhaust! Or worse, they try to do it all themselves and then what happens? One day they are on the side of the road in the middle of a rainstorm or something and the person they’re supposedly dating sees them… and keeps driving right past them!

 

In relationships, these are the people who just become doormats;  they just will give the guy or girl whatever they want without any thought to themselves or if it’s going to help them too. These people hate to be a burden but they always screw themselves and then wonder why no one wants to be with them for too long. I’ve been this guy and I’ve seen those kind of girl. It sucks!

Diana: Wow. That is pretty brutal but so true!

Andrew: I’m not really good at sugarcoating.

Diana: And that’s why you’re awesome. You just tell it to us straight. So, okay, let’s offer people some insight they can take-away from all this.

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3 TIPS for YOU!

So, based on what Andrew shared,  here are THREE tips I came up with for those of you who may find yourself more on pick-up side than the Jaguar side.

 

  • If what you really want is someone who is going to stick around long term, you’re going to need to be comfortable with saying NO to all the losers out there that you KNOW are not worthy of being in the same room with you. Just say no. And if you feel awful or guilty, let those feelings be there and say no anyway. You’ll feel relief and it gets easier!

 

  • The sex is never that good that it’s worth sacrificing what you really want-someone who truly loves you and is fine with all of you, even the parts you are embarrassed about.

 

  • Act like a Jaguar, even if you don’t believe you’re one. Fake it for awhile. It works!

 

Your Turn:

What do YOU think about the whole Jaguar vs. pick-up thing? Any advice you have for either “car?” Post your comments! Would love to hear from you!

 

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3 tools to avoid naysayers and drop it like it’s hot anyway

Let’s play a game. I call it “have you ever.”


Have you ever…

  • ever had some well-meaning person give you unsolicited advice about your life that left you feeling worse about yourself than before

  • ever doubted yourself and given into negativity and other people’s opinions about you

  • ever felt like you are in a room waiting for your life to start?

I’ve been there!

True Story:

With my orange tree. Mother Nature reminds me that we are ALL abundant!

With my orange tree. Mother Nature reminds me that we are ALL abundant!

I want to share a true story with you in the hopes that it helps you see that no matter what has gone down, there’s something that you have inside of you that trumps anyone’s opinion, your own fear and dare I say it, even your supposed “destiny.”


One of my secret (and not so secret anymore!) dreams has been to travel to Italy. It’s been an obsession of mine since I can’t even remember. I’ve never been there but you know how sometimes a place just calls to your Soul and you don’t know why? You may have grown up in a different culture entirely but still, it’s like this gnawing desire that grows stronger the older you get? That’s Italy for me. And now, many many years later, I am FINALLY going! It’s all arranged and for ten glorious days in June, I will be indulging in all things Italian.


And it’s funny. When I told people that I was going to Italy, most of them were like, “Oh my gosh! Italy is soooo beautiful! I went when I was younger. How romantic! You’re so lucky! I remember when….

And then after all the positive stuff wore off, they’d throw in, “But you know plane tickets to Europe in the summer especially are ridiculous, right?”

“I bet you can’t get time off from your job.

Well, you’re lucky you don’t have kids or a husband yet.”  (Uh…thanks?)


Talk about a downer on my dream. Other stuff that people said to me included:

The men there are shameless flirts! You are going there by yourself? And you have a boyfriend back home? Watch out!”

 

 

When You Doubt Yourself

But the most interesting comment ended up becoming a big lesson for me in listening to myself. I was at an event in Los Angeles with two very well-known intuitives whose work I respect so much. We did a meditation exercise about Abundance and Joy. After that meditation, I ended up doodling a few things on my notepad, two of which were a heart and the word Florence! I hadn’t said a word to anyone and I got SO excited that I started sharing how I really wanted to go Italy and put on a workshop about love and intuition. The ladies at my table were so supportive and excited for me!


Anyhow, later in the event, there was a rare opportunity to stand at the mike and ask a question we wanted the intuitive“hits” on and I didn’t know what I was going to ask. I just wanted to ask something. Anything! (Looking back, I know that was probably my Ego talking and I could have just sat that one out, but there are no accidents!)


So I asked all smugly, “Would this summer be a good time to go to Italy? I really want to live there for a little bit and put on a workshop.”


There was a long pause. One said, “Oh no! You will have more money NEXT year because you will be in an “8” abundance year. Wait.”


The other agreed.“Your ducks will not be in a row if you go this year. You have to take care of the basics first. Wait until next year.”


“Well, alright then. Thank you.” I begrudgingly went back to sit down at my table and my good friend and founder of the Reinvention Channel, Vidette, who I introduced you all to awhile back slid a piece of paper across to me like we were in school.


It said, “Diana, why are you doubting yourself? Your intuition said Florence and you told me this summer. Why are you letting someone tell you otherwise?”


She’s an awesome friend and she was right. I love Vidette.


What Now?

But I shouldn’t shake what I had just been told. I tried to look at the situation objectively and rationally.

Side note: That lasted about two seconds because well, if you’ve ever tried to look at your own stuff objectively, it’s pretty hard to do. We want what we want! That’s why people hire me, so they get an outsider’s perspective when they can’t see through the fog of their own thoughts.


Here’s what mine were back then:

1. Yes, I do numerology too thankyouverymuch and I know that next year (2014)  the numbers show that yes, if I’m following my gut, abundance should flow pretty freely more than this year (yay!).


2.  But, I don’t care. I still want to go to Italy.


3.  I may not have all my ducks in a row, but I never understood that expression and frankly, I find it more satisfying to see what happens when there IS no row and the ducks are happy to go wherever they want to. What’s fun about being in a straight line?


ps: In case you didn’t hear me Spirit, I really want to go to Italy. Really badly. (Soooo rational, right?)


I got MAD and like I wrote about in an earlier post, I used that anger and later that insatiable DESIRE and asked myself, “If I didn’t care what ANYONE said and I had no fears about limitations on my time or resources, what would I WANT to do?”


The answer that came?  Use your travel miles, Diana and go to Italy.

My intuition directed me to the United.com site and I saw that I had 80,000 unused miles! It takes 60,000 to get to Florence, so there goes the “airfare is too much” objection . And soon after I booked my airfare (literally within 45 minutes), I found a beautiful room to stay in through a secure travel site and I also got a strong hit that I will be writing like a mad Goddess while I’m there. I am SO excited to be doing sessions with my clients from Italia over gelato! And the rest will figure out itself.

3 Golden Nuggets for YOU:


1) Your consistent soul-driven desires TRUMP everything else. Listen to them.


Even when you choose to cave in and NOT follow your intuition, your soul-driven desires nag at you in the middle of your workday, they pop into your head or your thoughts late at night or first thing in the morning. You may even get signals of other people doing stuff that reminds you of your latent desires that you’ve put on the back burner.


Let your soul-driven desires have a voice. Hear them out. They may have some pretty amazing plans for you that you couldn’t have thought up no matter how many psychics you went to or how many pieces of advice your friends or family members give you about what’s “for your Highest Good.” Listen. Stay open to their whispers.

 

 

2. Just START. You don’t have to have the whole plan. (Boring!)

You just have to know what you want and do the next immediate action. Then you get the next set of steps. Kind of like what happened with me. First, I had to negate my own intuition only to get mad at myself, which fueled me going to United.com, then to the travel site and finally I was so on fire that my creativity and intuition were doing the happy dance together.

 

 

3. Be Discerning. Naysayers are inevitable, but listening to them is a choice.

Most people are well-meaning and when you can remember that we’re all doing the best we can from our own unique life experiences, you can chill out and let the outside negativity or the fears that aren’t yours just slip off your aura. Replace it with compassion and loving detachment and do what you want to do anyway! (It’s more fun and takes a lot less energy!)

 

 

Your Turn:


Q: What’s a place you’ve always wanted to travel to? Why?


1. Post your answer using the “Leave a Comment” button down right!


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You are:

  • committed to learning more about yourself and have an open mind

  • open to receiving spiritual coaching and never blame anyone or anything for your current circumstances

  • an action-taker who has a desire to grow


Is that you?


Very very important: Read this before you say YES!


1) These are different than intuitive readings. The intention for these Sparkle consults are to help you discover what is really going on or blocking you from what you say you want in one area of your life. So if you come to this call wanting answers or wanting my “intuitive hits” on your life, I will kindly direct you back to my services page to book a reading. 


2) I will ask you questions, get to know you better and based on what we uncover together, I will make specific suggestions of ways that we work together to help you achieve your goals. This could be suggesting that you apply for one of my training or coaching program, consider a Soul reading or I may get a sense that a numerology report and an audio course I have would be of greatest benefit. It varies per person.


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All my love,


Diana


www.DianaDorell.com