3 tools to avoid naysayers and drop it like it’s hot anyway
Let’s play a game. I call it “have you ever.”
Have you ever…
ever had some well-meaning person give you unsolicited advice about your life that left you feeling worse about yourself than before
ever doubted yourself and given into negativity and other people’s opinions about you
ever felt like you are in a room waiting for your life to start?
I’ve been there!
I want to share a true story with you in the hopes that it helps you see that no matter what has gone down, there’s something that you have inside of you that trumps anyone’s opinion, your own fear and dare I say it, even your supposed “destiny.”
One of my secret (and not so secret anymore!) dreams has been to travel to Italy. It’s been an obsession of mine since I can’t even remember. I’ve never been there but you know how sometimes a place just calls to your Soul and you don’t know why? You may have grown up in a different culture entirely but still, it’s like this gnawing desire that grows stronger the older you get? That’s Italy for me. And now, many many years later, I am FINALLY going! It’s all arranged and for ten glorious days in June, I will be indulging in all things Italian.
And it’s funny. When I told people that I was going to Italy, most of them were like, “Oh my gosh! Italy is soooo beautiful! I went when I was younger. How romantic! You’re so lucky! I remember when….
And then after all the positive stuff wore off, they’d throw in, “But you know plane tickets to Europe in the summer especially are ridiculous, right?”
“I bet you can’t get time off from your job.
Well, you’re lucky you don’t have kids or a husband yet.” (Uh…thanks?)
Talk about a downer on my dream. Other stuff that people said to me included:
“The men there are shameless flirts! You are going there by yourself? And you have a boyfriend back home? Watch out!”
When You Doubt Yourself
But the most interesting comment ended up becoming a big lesson for me in listening to myself. I was at an event in Los Angeles with two very well-known intuitives whose work I respect so much. We did a meditation exercise about Abundance and Joy. After that meditation, I ended up doodling a few things on my notepad, two of which were a heart and the word Florence! I hadn’t said a word to anyone and I got SO excited that I started sharing how I really wanted to go Italy and put on a workshop about love and intuition. The ladies at my table were so supportive and excited for me!
Anyhow, later in the event, there was a rare opportunity to stand at the mike and ask a question we wanted the intuitive“hits” on and I didn’t know what I was going to ask. I just wanted to ask something. Anything! (Looking back, I know that was probably my Ego talking and I could have just sat that one out, but there are no accidents!)
So I asked all smugly, “Would this summer be a good time to go to Italy? I really want to live there for a little bit and put on a workshop.”
There was a long pause. One said, “Oh no! You will have more money NEXT year because you will be in an “8” abundance year. Wait.”
The other agreed.“Your ducks will not be in a row if you go this year. You have to take care of the basics first. Wait until next year.”
“Well, alright then. Thank you.” I begrudgingly went back to sit down at my table and my good friend and founder of the Reinvention Channel, Vidette, who I introduced you all to awhile back slid a piece of paper across to me like we were in school.
It said, “Diana, why are you doubting yourself? Your intuition said Florence and you told me this summer. Why are you letting someone tell you otherwise?”
She’s an awesome friend and she was right. I love Vidette.
But I shouldn’t shake what I had just been told. I tried to look at the situation objectively and rationally.
Side note: That lasted about two seconds because well, if you’ve ever tried to look at your own stuff objectively, it’s pretty hard to do. We want what we want! That’s why people hire me, so they get an outsider’s perspective when they can’t see through the fog of their own thoughts.
Here’s what mine were back then:
1. Yes, I do numerology too thankyouverymuch and I know that next year (2014) the numbers show that yes, if I’m following my gut, abundance should flow pretty freely more than this year (yay!).
2. But, I don’t care. I still want to go to Italy.
3. I may not have all my ducks in a row, but I never understood that expression and frankly, I find it more satisfying to see what happens when there IS no row and the ducks are happy to go wherever they want to. What’s fun about being in a straight line?
ps: In case you didn’t hear me Spirit, I really want to go to Italy. Really badly. (Soooo rational, right?)
I got MAD and like I wrote about in an earlier post, I used that anger and later that insatiable DESIRE and asked myself, “If I didn’t care what ANYONE said and I had no fears about limitations on my time or resources, what would I WANT to do?”
The answer that came? Use your travel miles, Diana and go to Italy.
My intuition directed me to the United.com site and I saw that I had 80,000 unused miles! It takes 60,000 to get to Florence, so there goes the “airfare is too much” objection . And soon after I booked my airfare (literally within 45 minutes), I found a beautiful room to stay in through a secure travel site and I also got a strong hit that I will be writing like a mad Goddess while I’m there. I am SO excited to be doing sessions with my clients from Italia over gelato! And the rest will figure out itself.
3 Golden Nuggets for YOU:
1) Your consistent soul-driven desires TRUMP everything else. Listen to them.
Even when you choose to cave in and NOT follow your intuition, your soul-driven desires nag at you in the middle of your workday, they pop into your head or your thoughts late at night or first thing in the morning. You may even get signals of other people doing stuff that reminds you of your latent desires that you’ve put on the back burner.
Let your soul-driven desires have a voice. Hear them out. They may have some pretty amazing plans for you that you couldn’t have thought up no matter how many psychics you went to or how many pieces of advice your friends or family members give you about what’s “for your Highest Good.” Listen. Stay open to their whispers.
2. Just START. You don’t have to have the whole plan. (Boring!)
You just have to know what you want and do the next immediate action. Then you get the next set of steps. Kind of like what happened with me. First, I had to negate my own intuition only to get mad at myself, which fueled me going to United.com, then to the travel site and finally I was so on fire that my creativity and intuition were doing the happy dance together.
3. Be Discerning. Naysayers are inevitable, but listening to them is a choice.
Most people are well-meaning and when you can remember that we’re all doing the best we can from our own unique life experiences, you can chill out and let the outside negativity or the fears that aren’t yours just slip off your aura. Replace it with compassion and loving detachment and do what you want to do anyway! (It’s more fun and takes a lot less energy!)
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Thank you for the example of your courage and the great support you have! I have had visions of traveling the states and exploring for a long time. I can taste it!:)
Love your passion Rachel! And it sounds like you have the energy behind it to go for it!
I found this very inspiring. It’s always easier to find support not to do something. Thanks for being a living example of getting what you want. Have a fantastic trip!!
My pleasure Krista! Thank you for reading and yes, we will always find people who will say NO or why you CAN’T but your opinion is the one that really counts 🙂 Much Love!
Ahh this brings back memories of March 2010 when I decided to go to volunteer at Kripalu for 4 months! I got the same type of comments “WOW you are leaving your job?” “what will you do when you get back?” “what will you do with your home?, Your Car? your going alone?, BLAH BLAH” I didn’t have the answers or a plan all I knew is that I HAD to go! And I must say it was the biggest blessing and the most amazing experience I have ever had!
It has always been a dream of mine to go to the rainforest! I would love to go to the beach/ rainforest in Costa Rica and soak up the Beauty!
I am so excited for you that you manifested one of your dreams! <3
Good for you Lynsey! Even in the face of unanswered questions, you followed your gut and it sounds like it was for the best with many many returns! Ooo-costa rica! So….when are you going GoddesS? 🙂
SO excited for you! And so happy to have the reminder to listen to my intuition even if others (even people I may consider experts) say otherwise. Intution always has a way of leading us to what we need to do exactly when WE need to do it most, not necessarily when the stars or numbers are perfectly aligned for it. Things always seem to work out “perfectly” when we look back on them after we have followed what called to our soul. Thank you Diana!
Oh and to answer your question, Hawaii is calling me. Or maybe just any tropical beach. I keep letting logisitics get in the way. (Me throwing my arms in the air) LOGISTICS, SCHMGISTICS!
Oooo Hawaii! I am thinking of having a healer retreat there for 2014. Would love to have you! I’m feeling KONA 🙂
It’s so empowering to remember that listening to others is a choice!! I met a very kindred spirit several years ago, and we put together an internet radio program. We were strategic in our show planning, but not so much in our promotion. And yet, people came out of the woodwork in droves (thousands) to listen. The synergy, the connections we made and the people we assisted… it was all just amazing! All thanks to an intuitive soul-urge that we followed. 🙂 Those intuitive inklings can bring about the most magical blessings!
Congrats on the trip to Italy, Diana! I’m sure it will be spectacular!
My dream destination has always been Ireland! A friend told me once that she thought that once I went, I’d never come back! LOL
Love that story Kim! I’m sure you bring so much value to your listeners and they feel your heart <3. I just had a good friend return from Ireland and from the pics, it looks like a magical place! Much Love, Diana