Summer Dating Tips Part 1

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summer-wallpaper-hdSummer can be overwhelming and also fun, especially if you’re single.

There’s something about the sunshine that can heighten that desire to be close to someone special, to feel sexy and to play!

It’s the perfect time to get back in the swing of dating again, no matter how many times you’ve been hurt before.

So, for the next 3 weeks, I want to share 3 dating-specific tips that can you navigate the dating waters without wanting to run for cover. 

These are tips that I’ve implemented and tested out with my clients and in my own dating life that resulted in me recovering from intense heartbreak and getting back on the horse, Goddess-style!

Dating…. Goddess Style Tip #1: Spread the love!

In short, date multiple people at one time.

Pack your schedule with dates without attachment.

This one sounds so very simple but it can be hard if you just came out of a relationship and are generally a one-woman, one-man kind of Soul. 

When you go out with different people in a short amount of time, there are several important benefits:

  1. You avoid pouring all your emotional energy into one person that quite frankly, hasn’t yet earned your trust and heart yet! You just met them! 
  2. Even if you feel a strong connection on one date with a certain person, there’s always more to uncover about their intentions and non-negotiables before you get emotionally (and physically) invested. 
  3. You get to “try on” your energy with theirs! It’s like trying on a dress. It may be Gucci but no matter which way you put it on, it may never hug your hips the right way and that’s fine! Next! 

A true tale of 4 men

One woman I know had scheduled 4 dates with 4 different men in one week to test this theory out. 

She had a blast going out to dinner, coffees, ice cream and even mini golf.

Some she had a nice connection with. Others bored her to tears but she simply went to experience herself with someone new.

She was dating Goddess style.

The result?

Now she’s dating one of the four who got tired of competing for her time and attention and he treats her like a Goddess as he should!

And she even got a text from one of the other men saying, “If it doesn’t work out with this guy you’re committing to, please call me. You’re awesome!”

(Who wouldn’t love to receive that?!)

*Note: I get asked by women all the time, 

Q: “Isn’t that MEAN to date multiple people? I feel guilty for dating more than one man at a time.”

My blunt-big sister-meets wingwoman answer to them? 

1) Men do it all the time. It’s not mean. It just is. Stop assigning meaning to everything!

2) I said DATE, not have sex with multiple people at once. As in…simply go out and experience their energy with yours in a no-pressure setting. See if you like who you become when you’re with them and what they spark in you! It’s an experiment not an iron-clad contract. 

3) Wouldn’t you feel better knowing that if you didn’t vibe with one person, you knew you had a date with someone totally different who thinks you’re attractive the next day? 

There is power in numbers, Goddess. 

Q: Have you ever dated multiple people at once? What has your experience been like? Any tips? Share with us in the comments!

This week’s dating challenge: Spread the love, schedule the love!

This week, see if you can fill up your calendar with at least TWO dates over the next 2 weeks. Some quick ideas for you: Ask your friends to set you up. Go on a blind date that your co-worker keeps mentioning. Flirt  with the cashier at the checkout counter (more on that later if you’re looking at me like I just said something totally inappropriate and crazy) Join a free dating site like OkCupid.com. Again, this is an experiment. The worst you can do is NOTHING. What have you got to lose?

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my fav mercury retro* story (it changed my life)

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Mercury Retrograde.

A time when computers crash, road rage can abound and miscommunications manifest out of nowhere.

I used to dread the inevitable slow down of this time and if you’re reading this, you’re probably super sensitive to energy and have been feeling it maybe a few days before it happened.

That email never got sent.

The address you wrote down was wrong by 1 number.

Your ex comes back and wants another shot and throw your hands up at the sky and think WTF is going on?

I thought I dealt with that crap already.

But I’ve now come to appreciate the snail pace and test on my patience level.

Whenever I get the urge to flip out, I try and remember this story I’m about to share with you that was very Mercury Retro-esque that literally changed the course my life.

It all started in my kitchen in Oakland when I was contemplating my path and what the heck to do.

Nothing felt certain and I had never felt so alone in my life.

My boyfriend and I had broken up, I didn’t know how I was going to pay rent that month and I had just come out of the ER with a mounting bill for scans that I didn’t even need.

I was raw.

So I did what any normal person would.

I decided to go on Facebook.

Only my browser kept freezing.

And I got the rainbow spinning wheel of death on my Mac.

I wanted to cry.

Just let me have my damn distraction!

Then finally a breakthrough came.

The wheel stopped and I saw the facebook logo at the top.

Yes.

thank. you. dear Lord.

And then something weird happened.

It never went to Facebook.

It skipped Facebook.

And opened up a browser for a college in Arizona.

W.T.F?

I tried to reload, but it wasn’t having it.

It was called Southwest Institute of Healing Arts.

The last thing I wanted to do was go back to school.

Was this a joke?

But my intuition started kicking in.

My tummy got all hot.

And I started getting Angel goosebumps up and down my body.

The message I kept getting?

“Call them.”

I didn’t want to call them.

But what the heck else was I going to do?

So the next thing I know I’m speaking with a woman who tells me that they have a program for coaching certification and yoga and all sorts of wonderful metaphysical classes.

She said that I was in the system as having an Americorp award for pretty much the amount of yearly tuition for not one but both programs. (I had done Teach for America years before and for some reason, this school accepted those service funds I had totally forgotten about because I was dead set against going to grad school.)

And that it expired in a year.

Was I interested in coming out for a visit to the desert?

What?!!

To make a long story longer, in short I left California, my entire practice that I’d built up to go to school and build a new life for myself. I got my coaching certification and yoga teaching certification fully paid for and I had my first clients within the first weekend of starting my new life.

Nothing is an accident.

All from a frozen computer screen during the Retrograde.

So, pay attention to what your intuition is telling you right now.

You never know where it could lead you.

Or how life can surprise you!

Q: Do YOU have a fun Mercury Retrograde story?

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credit: peek-photography.nyc

Share it with us in the comments below!

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you have to let go of good if you want great

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Have you ever known that it was TIME to let go of something that was “just okay” so you could make space for something amazing?

I recently had a session with someone who was letting go of a man who she’d had an on and off again relationship with.

They had both been playing cat and mouse for over 3 years and when we went to do the karmic cord cutting (a powerful energy release I do with my private clients), tears rolled down her face as she felt his presence in the room. “My whole body is vibrating!” she said, looking at me with wide eyes.

She got to share with him all the things she’d been too proud to say when they were face to face. To start the letting go process…for real.

And the next day (full moon) she texted me to let me know that she just wanted to go to a park and just be with herself…and sift through all the emotions that came up instead of going to a party.

“I never do that!” she laughed.

She cried. She laughed. She raged. But she had freed herself. She was starting to accept that she had always held the keys to her freedom. It wasn’t with this guy. That’s real power.

But her take-away? She was done settling for just okay. She was ready for great.

And in order for great to arrive, we have to be willing to let go of the crumbs. To let go of just “good enough.”

It’s not gonna cut it anymore Goddess!

The real secret: shhhh

And to be open to GREAT, you have to learn to tolerate and accept the space. The void. The discomfort.

You have to be strong.

It’s so easy to try and fill that space that that person, job, or habit left, but you want exceptional right?

Mindblowing, OMG-this-is-my-life amazing, right?

Then you’re going to have to be able to sit with yourself in the discomfort for awhile without rushing to replace it.

Does it hurt or suck sometimes?

Yes.

Is it easy?

Hell no!

But it’s what it takes.

A firm will to say “I will only accept the best. I’m done with crumbs.”

The Universe will test you.

You may think you’ve screwed up when that person comes back or you encounter a similar situation as before.

No no no sister.

It’s just the Universe testing your resolve to GREAT.

Be strong.

You’ve got this.

Q: Where have you been settling for “just okay or good? What does AMAZING or great look like? Brave souls, share with us in the comments! There is power in your words. Just by sharing it you are already putting it out there that you deserve more. Because you do.

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credit: peek-photography.nyc

 

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he kept pulling me in emotionally

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Have you ever had something just take you way off your center?

It’s New Moon week and with New fabulous beginnings also comes those moments where life tests you to see how far you’ve really come.

Old people from the past show up and you get to resolve something.

Old issues resurface and you get to make a different choice than you would have before and it all turns out awesome, even though it scares you.

Old ways of responding are up for debate and you can surprise yourself!

Can I share something super personal with you today?

True confession.

I’ve been healing from a major breakup.

All the emotional ups and downs that come with it.

And recently, the ex contacted me via text to tell me he loved me.

That he was sorry for bothering me.

(I asked that he limit contact so we can both heal and move on)

When he did this in the past, I always got pulled into an emotional drama and would be a total mess.

So when I saw the number pop up on my phone my initial response was, ugh!!!

And at first, my guard was totally up and I just said something curt like, “That’s nice.Take care.” (Take THAT annoying man who can’t make up his mind Ego-induced victory!)

But because this is New Moon week and I’m a big fan of fresh starts and Soul growth, I decided to do something different.

But the truth was my heart hurt.

Like physically hurt.

I could barely breathe. My throat closed up and I just felt a mix of churning in my stomach.

This is what a broken heart feels like, but more than that, it’s what a closed heart feels like.

In my efforts to guard my emotions, I had left out the most important ingredient: the Truth.

So I did something I never do in a break up.

I stopped pretending that I felt strong and ‘together’ and ‘over it.’

I broke all the ‘rules’ that say you should just block their calls, etc.

Somehow this moment felt like it warranted something different.

I texted him back and said something to the effect of: “I know this is hard. I love you too. I feel a wall around my heart and it hurts but I’m just doing the best I can to move on. I’ll let down the wall again when I’m ready and I want to but for now, it’s shut. Goodnight.”

His reply? 

“I love you so much. I’m so sorry. Goodnight.”

We had a beautiful exchange.

And the best part? I didn’t leave in a heap of tears like I usually would have.

Why?

I do my best to practice what I preach. 

I had made sure that before I replied to that text, I was out of my heart space and I took myself down the energetic elevator to my Knowing. My intuitive center. Where my Spirit was in control, not my head or my Ego.

Want to learn how to do that? I’m sharing it all with brave souls next week…if you feel guided to dive in with me.

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

There was no expectation for anything other than acknowledging a moment of Truth.

I love you.

I’m hurting.

I feel this.

That’s it.

And in that moment, I felt free.

Free from the mental prison and the energy it takes to sustain a facade of the heart.

Is it the end of the story?

I don’t know yet. It’s the end of a chapter.

But I know that moving on comes in phases.

And to authentically move on, it requires that we let go of our Ego’s need to control our heart.

It’s about integration.

It’s about self-love and self-trust and certainly, self-worth.

It’s never about knowing the full story. Or having a guarantee. Life just isn’t set up that way in my humble opinion.

But it doesn’t have to be so freakin hard.

For those of you who know you have a hard time staying out of your heart space or getting tangled up in other peoples’ crap, I’d love to invite you to my upcoming intuition course: 

Intuition 101: Mastering the Art of Decision-Making and More!

It starts next week and you will leave the 5 weeks armed with intuitive tools you can use for a lifetime.

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

I know what it feels like to live out of integrity with your intuition.

To live from just your head (everything feels HARD!)

To operate just from your heart (everything feels OVERWHELMING and CONFUSING!)

And most of all, I know that there is another way that combines the best of your brilliant logic, your huge heart space and your intuition. 

If you want to learn, I’m here to show you and take you deeper into my world!

http://www.urintuitive.com/intuition-101.html

It all goes down April 27!

And if you got nothing else out of this email, remember this:

Life isn’t about escaping pain. It’s about letting it take you deeper into yourself so you can show up as the authentic, amazing person that you know you are! <– CLICK TO TWEET

You are loved!

Q: Have you ever surprised yourself with how you handled a difficult exchange? What happened and what helped you get through it? Share in the comments below!

Thanks so much for reading this and have a fabulous New Moon week!

Love,

Diana

what’s your ‘magic’ number? my #1 tool to focus your energy

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Do you tend to get overwhelmed with too many things to do at once?

Does your To-Do list seem to run your life?

I’ve been there and if you’re anything like my awesome superwoman/superman-style clients, you (or someone you know)  probably have a tendency to overcommit yourself or to feel the need to always be productive, even to the detriment of your own energy level.

Am I ringing any bells?

If you are ready to

  • eliminate overwhelm
  • have more energy for the things that actually matter (hello Monday night dance class I keep saying I’ll get to!)
  • feel more in control and productive

I want to help!

This week’s tool is called “What’s Your Magic Number”

It’s a simple visualization technique that I use in my own life and suggest to my clients to help you prioritize.

Ready?

Close your eyes.

Imagine that you are at a gorgeous buffet table filled with a ton of small delicious plates.

You are given a tray so you can take as many plates as you want back to your table to enjoy.

And once you’re done you can always come back for more.

Going with your first gut-level answer, in your imagination, grab the plates you want on this first round.

How many did you grab?

Write down that number.

2? 6? 3?

That’s your “Magic Number!”

It is the number of items your subconscious can prioritize at once.

Any less than that and you’ll probably try and add something more to your plate or steal someone’s plate!

Any more than that and you end up picking at all the plates in an effort to finish but eat none of them entirely.

That’s it!

Easy right?

Let’s do an example.

Susie does the exercise and her number is “3 plates.”

What this could look like in her life:

  1. She picks the top 3 projects she’s going to give her energy to for the coming business quarter. She says no to any additional projects that try and pull her away from those top 3.
  2. She writes down 3 tasks at a time to tackle by the end of the day. If she gets through all of them, she can write down 3 more tasks or she can use that extra time to do something else without guilt.
  3. She schedules 3 dates for the week (if she’s single and wanting to be a relationship). She never schedules them on the same day and she makes sure that those 3 dates work around the activities that feed her soul.

Your Turn: What’s YOUR magic number? How will you use that number to streamline one area of your life? Declare it in the comments below!

Are you ready to take your intuition to the next level?

INTUITION-3

 Class starts April 27! 

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